 The only way to get respect from the narcissist, there is only one sure way to get respect from the narcissist. There is only one way to get them to value your abilities, qualities and achievements. When they first met you, they didn't respect you, they exploited you, they took advantage of you, they deceived you, and they didn't feel any remorse for doing that, because they didn't have any respect for you, which is why they didn't feel like they had done anything wrong, they held you to their unrealistic expectations, and when you inevitably failed to meet those expectations, they began to devalue you, they devalued the very things that attracted them to you, your abilities, qualities and achievements, because they didn't appreciate everything that you had to offer, they took it for granted, they have these insatiable desires that can never be fulfilled, which is why they're dissatisfied, because they never respected you, they just used you like an object for their own needs, the narcissist never respected or admired you, they never valued or appreciated you, which is why they could never feel satisfied with you, because they took you for granted, they were consuming everything you had to offer, but they never took the time to appreciate you, which is how it was so easy for them to devalue you, they made you feel small, they made you feel inadequate, because at that point it was either you or them, and they cannot accept that they are at fault, they cannot accept that they are the problem, they have to disrespect you, so that they can establish a false sense of superiority over you, for them to maintain their authority and control over you, they have to see it as though there is something wrong with you, there is only one sure way to make the narcissist respect you, there is only one way to get them to value your abilities, qualities and achievements, people will treat you the way you allow them to, people will treat you the exact way you treat yourself, so if you respect yourself, the narcissist will be forced to respect you, if you value yourself, the narcissist will be forced to value you, you may think that you do already value and respect yourself, but if that's true, why were you involved with the narcissist, why were you involved with someone who did not value or respect you, a person who truly values and respects themselves would not be able to coexist with the narcissist, they wouldn't be able to remain around them, and the narcissist wouldn't want to be involved with that type of person, because they can't manipulate someone like that, so learn to respect yourself, strengthen your boundaries and develop pride and confidence in yourself, because the only way that the narcissist will value and respect you is if you no longer tolerate their disrespect, if you lack self-respect, you are susceptible to being used, abused and mistreated by the narcissist, because you believe that you deserve to be treated that way, you believe you're not deserving of anything better, so you will tolerate their behaviour, you will put up with it, everything we are experiencing in our lives is a direct reflection of what we think we deserve, the narcissist will never respect you as a person, because they do not respect themselves, how a person treats you is a direct reflection of how they feel about themselves, but if you respect yourself and move on, they will be forced to respect the decision that you have made, they will realise that you are no longer willing to put up with the abuse, which is the only thing that they will ever respect, they may not accept your reasons or justifications for doing that, but they will be forced to accept that you believe you deserve better and you do deserve better, no one deserves to be abused, everyone deserves to be treated with respect and people who respect themselves will always respect the people around them, the only way to get respect from the narcissist, the only way to get the narcissist to value your abilities, qualities and achievements is to no longer accept how they are treating you, to no longer stick around after they have disrespected you, because the only way that you can respect yourself when someone is disrespected you is by moving on, that is the only way the narcissist will ever respect you. Thank you for watching, I hope this will resonate with you, please like, comment, share and subscribe, if you would like to donate, my paypal link is in the video description, coaching inquiries, you can email me at coachingantnarcsurvivor.uk, thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon.