 Hello everyone, welcome to another Narc Survivor live video here on YouTube. As you can see I'm just at the top of this hill here looking down at this view. It's got a really nice view of the city. I was trying to see if I Could find where I'm staying from here But this view is from quite far away, so it's difficult to tell But anyway into the video So the narcissist will never see this coming. This is a very important video and Definitely something for you to take note of What happens is When the narcissist is done with you when they're bored of you That's when they Start looking around They're looking on social media Comparing their lives to other people's To other people's relationships they're seeing what other people have going on and Yeah When they do that they decide It's time for them to jump ship It's time for them to move on onto something else and Many of you may be hurt by this When you see that they think the grass is greener on the other side they're looking for the bigger better deal That may bother you It may upset you Especially after all of the time you spend together You may be wondering how could they just forget about that How could they just treat you like you're nothing after everything that you invested in them? All of that time energy and money And they just threw you away like you were garbage You may wonder how could they do that to you and that's understandable I've been there. I know what it's like but actually This is a blessing in disguise Many people have difficulty getting rid of them They store can harass you they won't leave you alone And that can be a real problem Because then they'll try to sabotage whatever you're trying to do When they know that you're trying to leave they will catch on and they will try to destroy you so Yeah, when the narcissist finds this new person That is actually a really good thing Because when that happens It's really just a distraction They distract it Someone else has their attention Someone else is occupying their time. It's almost like Maybe one of those movies you've seen as a child where The big bear or the monster is sleeping And then that's the time where you escape You run off the representation When they least expect it so Yeah, it's exactly the same in this situation That's really what you've got to do When the narcissist is distracted With this new person That is the perfect time for you to get out of there It's the perfect time for you to walk away and focus on your life and building yourself up Because that's when they're gonna least expect it They're not gonna be paying any attention to you They're not gonna be worried about you Their focus and attention Is going to be on the new person they're with So you didn't even have to worry about them Yes, I know you may be hurt I understand that But trust me Even if they did stay with you You've just got to look back at the last few months or years to see how much damage they have caused And then you should know just how much damage they're gonna cause in another few months or years So be thankful Be grateful that they found someone else that is honestly the best thing that can happen It is a blessing in disguise And it is it is the perfect time for you to get yourself out of there because their time and attention Is going to be focused on the new person Which creates the perfect situation for you It's perfect for you to finally get out of there and to move on with your life While they're focusing all of their time and attention on the new person It gives you time to focus on yourself Without having to worry about them So they've actually unknowingly created the perfect situation for you. I just like to show this for you again The Sun is really strong out here. So I'm gonna head back to the car now as I'm finishing this video But yeah, it's true you shouldn't worry about that That is really the perfect situation and they've unknowingly created that for you because in their minds They thought that was it for you They thought you would be all washed up with down and out They didn't expect you to come back They're not expecting that And that's why it's the perfect time for you. Got the new car here. It's the perfect situation for you To get out That's how you've got to see it You've got to look at it that way and yeah, they're expecting it to hurt you but You know, that is literally it When you see that they are Posting these pictures and videos on social media That's That is a signal to you That is your cue That's telling you that it's time to make your move. So make your move move on focus on yourself your life and Yeah, at some point they will come back Of course, they get bored with everyone. They're gonna get bored the new person too and They will hoove you they will come back, but it gives you time to prepare for that By that time you should be All done with them. You should be back in your feet. You should know how to deal with them if you've watched my videos But yeah, I mean the one thing people need when they're trying to leave these people When they're trying to build themselves back up and move on with their lives The one thing they need is time And when they find this new person They are giving you time although they may not realize it although it's intended to hurt you it is actually The number one thing you need To recover and succeed So yeah, it's it's a blessing in disguise And they will never see it coming They never expect it like I said it's like in like some movie you might have watched as a child where it's like the monster is sleeping And then you've got time to escape You've got time to save yourself So Yeah, it's funny. It's um, you know there if they're ignoring you it's meant to hurt you But it's actually very good for you It gives you the advantage So make the most of the time that you have When they are away from you you can do a lot with that time to build yourself up To get stronger and healthier To build a better life for yourself and to put yourself in a position where it's gonna be so easy for you to reject them When they do finally return Because they're never gonna have a successful relationship with anyone. That's never gonna happen Doesn't matter what they tell you just as they treated you they're gonna do the same thing to everyone else Time is your teacher With time It unveils the truth about people You may not see it in the beginning Of course, they were really nice and friendly to you when you first met them, but as time went by Their true colors began to show And it's the same thing In this situation they're having with this new person time is your teacher Time will reveal the truth to you Just as it did in your relationship But of course they want to rush things and get you all worked up Because they know that they can only get you in the moment As time unravels It's not gonna make any logical sense for you to be worried about it And you got a look at it like after everything they've done to you how they treated you Why would you want someone like that in your life all they've done is cause problems for you They've made your life miserable It really is a blessing when they leave Because I've been on both sides of it I've been on the side where I was a one who left and trust me That narcissist made my life hell She did everything she could to destroy me So it's really better for you if you are the one who is Discarded by them. I know it's strange to think of it that way, but It does put you in a better position Because then they will just leave you alone at least for some time and Then you're in a better position when they try to come back so yeah, I hope this message helps you and Please give this video a thumbs up share it with anyone who you believe it may help and Check out my Instagram as well knock survivor YouTube I'm putting up new pictures and videos of my travels every day So if you'd like to see that definitely check out the Instagram and other than that, that's all for today Thank you all for joining me and I will talk to you in another one very soon