 Hello, everyone and welcome to my live stream with Teal Elizabeth on how to unlock a man's heart So he really falls for you and how to bring that man closer than ever for those of you who aren't familiar with Teal She's amazing. She's my friend and fellow love and relationship coach who helps women Connect with their femininity So they can create the love and relationship they want in their life So I'm just checking to make sure everything's working looks like everything's good Teal welcome and thank you so much for being here with me today Hello, welcome. Good to be here This is such an important topic. It's you know one of the number one questions I get from women is how to really reach a man's heart Something I always say is the way to connect to a man's heart is always through your own heart first So I would love to hear your take on all of this But before we get into exactly how to do this I wanted to ask you what are some of the like most common struggles or challenges you see women facing when it comes to this topic of really You know unlocking a man's heart and bringing him closer Yes, yes, thank you, and I am so glad we're talking about this topic and to all of you ladies I just want to let you know that you are not alone if this is something you're struggling with or you're feeling right now It's okay. It's okay I'm just know that this is completely fixable and completely shiftable But it a lot of times we're just not really taught the tools and techniques of how to do this and especially a lot of us Myself included in many ways I just wasn't really conditioned in the right way to really know how to express my heart in a way that I could feel safe And not come off as weak. So if this is something that you're struggling with it's okay But yeah, the biggest thing I see that women really struggle with when we're really trying to connect to a man's heart Is the fact that we are like you said Helena We're we're struggling with having a connection to really our own heart And it's it's something I've been really noticing specifically and why I'm so passionate about doing this work Is it especially in this day and age? We as women especially us driven ambitious just hustler boss babe women We are taught and we've been trained from a young age to lean in and Be like men and show up and prove to the world. We don't need a man We don't we're not weak, you know, we can play like the boys. We can be tough and So it naturally just when we apply that to relationships It shows up in a way of we're strong. We don't need to show our hearts We can take care of ourselves and it's like a block to block to men and they can't feel your heart That's really what the main struggle is at this point Absolutely. Yeah, I mean something I was kind of taught maybe even just like on a subconscious level growing up is like don't depend on a man Like be independent. I mean those are all fantastic things But yeah, I had a really hard time with this too like like connecting to my own feminine energy my own emotions I was always kind of up in my head trying to create some connection like if I say this thing I'm trying to stir something in career into creation coming from like a masculine energy Results oriented place which like we like we always say it works great in other areas of your life Not so great in your love life, right? He'll is this something that you hear from clients as well? Yes, totally It's like we almost don't know how to turn it off, right? And it makes sense if we've never really tapped into this whole other essence of who we are We only know how to show up in one way, but the way men are seeing it It's a very masculine energy. It's this energy of Let me prove to you how great I am versus just embodying that essence of I am a beautiful goddess And you would just be so so lucky to have me in your presence. It's a very different shift in absolutely Yeah, definitely. So okay, so I'm already feeling a theme emerging here So it kind of all starts with yourself, right connecting with yourself your own feminine Femininity, which I know you're a total expert at do you have any tips for women who are, you know Have struggles or challenges in this area because they are kind of stuck in their head They they don't know how to connect with their emotions or their own heart like what are some things they can do to start Connecting with themselves so they can then connect with the man Yeah, yeah, this is really really good Well, the first thing ladies if you're noticing that you are in your head It first comes with just noticing that you're in your head, right? So you may not even realize that you're doing this that some of these things that would be showing that you are in your masculinity would be First not taking any time between Activities if you're if you're going to meet up with a man for a date or you're coming home to your man after work Just really like taking a second to pause before you move into that space with him Because a lot of times we just go from one activity to the other and you know We have a million things in our mind and we just bring all that right into the presence of the man So if you're bringing all of your life and day-to-day interactions right into the next phase with the presence of him That's that's a sign you're in your masculinity if you're feeling just kind of nervous or anxious or not feeling like you can Just relax That's a sense that you're really still staying in your masculinity If you're trying to really push this relationship forward or you're trying to think through the next five steps of how this Relationship could work and how it's going to look and daydreaming about what how he's going to respond in the near future These were all signs that you're really being in your masculinity So ways to just take a second to pause is really number one is about just being aware Just starting to really notice and I know Halena you have a ton of great videos about you're really recognizing What are you being in your masculinity and when are you not? Um number two is take a second to just breathe right there's something really beautiful and magnetic and magical about Taking a second to breathe it helps you to connect into your body Absolutely, and I'm kind of laughing over here because we did this like right before we started I'm like I'm so back to back today I haven't even had five seconds to get a glass of water and you're like let's just take a moment and breathe So it's important and I forget to do that sometimes like it can be so easy to do that So yeah for everyone watching we have 140 or so people watching live already So I feel like this is a topic that people really like need like you know Need guidance with and help with like I know I certainly did and and we can all still get into this place where I feel it a lot of times when I'm like, I don't want to be vulnerable right now I don't want to connect right now. I just want to kind of shut down Right and we think that we're protecting ourselves by shutting down But what I've really found is the way to like protect yourself most seriously is to be connected with your feminine energy Is to be open like keeping your energy open because as a woman when you do that It's like your intuition kicks it right and you can really feel like okay Is this a good situation for me or does something about this not feel good? And maybe do I need to take a step back here? Right? Have you found that as well? 100 it's like I love what you're saying It's like creating spaciousness for yourself to just observe what's happening versus being very reactive in the moment of what you're doing And I remember specifically when I was first really learning about this principle of femininity Well for a while I didn't even know that this existed Like I can't believe it and now I teach on it But when I really started to practice it it felt really uncomfortable But I had to make an actual intention to before my man came over to just Breathe take a second and recognize okay I'm going to connect into my heart and I'm going to allow myself to be open no matter how scary that feels I know that this is what I need to do And it completely shifts the way that he shows up the way he actually responds to you The way that your man responds is a direct reflection of the way that you are showing up And that's really really powerful and I want you to think about this ladies as you're As you're imagining how we want to connect to your man if you are seeing your man is not opening up He's not feeling safe to open up his heart It really is a reflection on how he's feeling from you and men really want and need to feel safe I mean just imagine just think about it. They're with their buddies. They're with their men all day long They spend time in this masculine energy all day long And that has been an an energy in it and a place where they know how to behave And that's not similar that they feel safe to just share all their intimate feelings And they've been conditioned to say that that's not a place where they do that So when they come to you as a woman as this beautiful nurturing goddess Sweetheart right not from a place of weakness but from a place of strength You are able to hold that space for him to just relax Relax into his feelings and relax into his heart And that's what they crave and that's what they're really looking for But you have to feel comfortable to do that first That is beautiful. Teal. Oh my gosh. Yes. Something I always say is is you have to feel safe within yourself In order for a man to ever feel safe to open up to you Emotionally and confide in you men are kind of notorious for not wanting to be vulnerable and open up So you can be that one safe space that he wants to come towards when he's feeling Inadequate or stressed out or just kind of like, you know burnt out from the outside world It naturally like pushes. I don't want to say pushes him into relationship And he'll naturally and instinctively feel compelled to come towards you, right? So so how would a woman feel safe within herself and create this environment where a man feels safe to come close? Um, what whether they're just dating or organ a relationship Um, yeah, I really what I really encourage with my clients is to really tap into what that vision of that woman looks like for yourself Who is that woman that you get to tap into and become when he comes over when you're in his presence So when you're about to go and see him, who do you click into becoming or who do you what kind of hat do you put on to really embody this essence and it can be different for everyone But the what are the qualities and those qualities are often. Yeah, like Having a strength within yourself Knowing who you are standing in your worthiness standing in your value and knowing that this is about really just Vulnerability is about strength and not about weakness And so when you can really Understand that and accept that within yourself that Vulnerability even though we're taught that it can be seen as a weakness It is actually our biggest strength and I think that's That's the essence to connect into is feeling comfortable to be vulnerable with yourself And if you're not comfortable doing that right away Jumping into that with a man right away Practice it with little things, you know start with some of your girlfriends that you're close with And just being a little bit more vulnerable with them with some family members or even with your dog, you know Oh, wow I want to share some of my feelings with you dog. You know and just help practice It's it's a heart muscle and it needs to be practiced But as you do it more and more you'll notice that it's actually a really beautiful thing And it's the it's the key to unlocking his heart I love that you mentioned vulnerability Something I talk about all the time right and that can be really difficult I know but once you try it and start to get some great results You'll you'll just feel that man starting to come closer It's you have to often go first as a woman, right? You have to kind of drop into your heart and express some of your feelings first That's how a man kind of knows on a on a subconscious level like oh she feels safe with herself She accepts her own feelings. She doesn't judge herself even for some of these unpleasant things We might not want to share with others, right? That's how I mean you can tell a man all day long like oh, I accept you I love you just how you are but until a man sees that you accept yourself, right? That you love and and embrace and accept all the parts of yourself He's never going to truly believe that you're going to accept him That's what I have certainly found Teal. I mean, have you found that as well? What are your thoughts on that? Oh beautiful. I love that. Yes a hundred percent Helena and I want to add on something to this too because I think this is really important to to recognize and it's a big distinction because I I think about I talk about this with my clients a lot that um There's a difference between expressing your feelings and being emotional And I think a lot of times this idea of vulnerability and expressing your emotions Gets really tied and lost into the confusion of well. I don't want to just dump all my emotions on him, right? And this is you're right. We do not want to dump all of our emotions on him This is about communicating your feelings from a place of Objectiveness from a place of already processing them within yourself And I think this goes back to your original question, too Helena that it's when you're figuring out how do you actually get comfortable and safe with yourself It's about really allowing yourself to process your emotions first before you communicate them to a man Because that's the way when you let go of the charge of the emotion Emotion really means the energy in motion. And so we don't want to be communicating emotions We want to be expressing feelings If you understand that difference Actually, I love that. I've never heard anyone really put it that way before. Yeah, it's so funny right before we started this I was being interviewed Like like five minutes before we started and and the interviewer was not a relationship expert So it wasn't like well versed in some of those things and she was like, oh, I thought men hated emotions I thought they um, and I'm like, yeah, that's a common misconception Men don't like drama, right? That's for sure They don't like this knee-jerk reaction or I'm sharing my feelings because I'm trying to get you to do something Right having this expectation tied to it or making him wrong Like you made me feel this way and that's not okay, right? It's um, so it's the way you do it Which is so important. Um, I love the way you put that Do you want if I just kind of say hi to everyone real quick and check the question? Yes, we have let's see. Yeah, we have a lot of people watching live today. So hi, adrie Katharina if you guys have questions about this, please type them into the chat Julia Carmela Teresa Dome there's so many There's so many great comments in here too. I can't wait for you to see these Katharina says what does it mean when your boyfriend tells you you are the one? How are we supposed to react to that and what does he mean by that teal any thoughts on that? I would say that's a really positive thing. I mean teal, what do you think? It is a beautiful positive thing. Congratulations. That's so exciting. Um, I would also just just recognize that Make sure that his actions are following his words because sometimes men can get really excited and they can get into their emotions Right and they'll say things off the top of their head because they're feeling it and it is genuine But then sometimes they can freak out and go, oh god, wait, did I really say that? Am I really ready for that? Like, I don't know and then they may pull back and they may have other things going on You know with their actions So just make sure that their actions are aligned with their words and if that's the case then This is really a beautiful moment for you bask in that soak in that So remember that even though he is is wanting to claim you as the one he has not Claimed you 100% until he's made that official commitment. So Yeah, oh, yeah, we teal and I have done videos together on this like kind of what to do if your relationship isn't moving forward Towards commitment that those are all in my channel if you guys want to check them out But yeah, teal is a total expert in in all of that stuff. So I loved hearing your perspective on that AJ says always in my head. I'm worried. He'll ditch me or ghost. Oh, yeah, what a great Such a common situation teal any tips for someone who's always in their head. They're worried. They're gonna the guy might just be You know out the door if they make the wrong move Yeah, yeah Well, I think a janet this goes exactly into what we're talking about about all the feelings all the emotions that are Get bottled up and and when we suppress those and we hold them down and not let them be processed out Then it can just bottle up and it can get us in our head to over analyze and get anxious So I would really recommend for you to take some time to journal and just write out Some of these feelings and some of these worries and that some of these concerns and then just recognize like are these really true Is this really what I mean? Are these fears any sort of reality based on what he's showing me or is this all just in my head? But there's when you can journal or talk it out with a friend I really like journaling because it just keeps you in your own heart space That will really help you to just be able to get it out of your head and onto paper and you can see it objectively for what it is Okay. Yeah, great great question. I mean great answer till that was phenomenal Um tana who says I love that connecting through our own hearts first Canada Canada gold says as a man trying to figure out how to apply his masculine energy properly You've taught me so much. Oh wow, you're welcome. That is um, that is great to hear We have another comment from a man who says he wants to reach her heart So, you know a lot of this like kind of goes both ways Um teal any thoughts you have for I think sounds like there's a lot of really smart men watching too Who are wanting to connect with their partners? How much would you say this kind of goes both ways? And do you have any tips for any men watching out there? Oh, so all my men. Thank you for being here. I'm so glad you're here And yes, your ladies are going to love you for this Um, wow. Yeah, I don't really usually think about it from the man's perspective very often So used to supporting women, but for the men Vulnerability is it's the same message vulnerability is your biggest source of strength And if you can really show up in a place of being vulnerable for your woman From a place of processing your emotions first, but then communicating how you're feeling It is naturally going to help her to open up her heart And if she's struggling with that she sees you being so secure and being able to do that for yourself It will naturally help her to do the same. So it really does it works both ways Yeah as a masculine energy partner for all the ladies watching, you know something to look out for if you're single and dating, right? It's like creating that safe space or that that kind of safe container For her to be in her feelings like almost like facilitating her feelings, right? For all the men asking start asking your woman. How are you feeling? You know, how does it feel? How how did work feel today just switching it a little bit it kind of facilitates that connection These are great. Tanu says wow. This is so amazing valuable information. Thank you for helping women learn more about this Julia says I started practicing when I entered the dating world. I couldn't believe the reaction I would get from those masculine men The ones were that were not welcoming to my feminine side were the bad eggs I was shamed for it, but that was with the wrong man Now I know what I want and I'm getting such amazing results. Wow. Oh my gosh. I'm so happy to hear that Julia Thank you so much for sharing if you feel comfortable What exactly did you do that that helped you get the result for that? Someone else asking does this work on an emotionally unavailable man? One of the top questions I get from videos like this Um teal, do you have anything to say on emotionally unavailable men and how much would this work on somebody like that? Oh, that's powerful. Yes My heart goes out to emotionally unavailable men and women right and usually for the most part It's because they've never been taught to connect to their heart and that's why they are emotionally unavailable So they may just be just attracting these types of people that also Keep them in that place where they don't have to touch their emotions Um, and if you can be that guiding light that that lighthouse that shines this idea in this new vision This new perspective of a way of being in relationships It can it can help them to open up But I would recognize that if you already know that this is how they are that it can be challenging for them to change They have to be willing and wanting to change So it's just going to be about you showing up in this space always regardless of who you're there with And if they want to make that change they'll they'll naturally feel inspired to do it by being in your presence And you'll know within a few times or a few months of being with them Whether or not they're they're making that shift to change or not That was so beautiful. I love getting a different perspective. I've done so many videos on you know emotionally unavailable men and What's it how to interact with them what to do? So yeah, the point of all this is not to like make a guy who's emotionally unavailable Magically transform into someone who's like can really do relationship and would be a good partner The point of being vulnerable and expressing yourself is to see what he does with that information right? See what he's capable of does he um step up if you express a need or a boundary? Does he seem to want to honor your feelings and want to meet your needs and be there for you? Or not right and that is really good information for you to have and it's good information for you to have quickly Right, so you want to start off doing this like right on the right foot You don't want to hold yourself back for six months to a year Then finally open up, you know and then only to find out that he's not someone who's really interested in connecting With you on that deeper level right teal Yes, yes, and I want to add on something too about vulnerability because it is it's so sacred right? It's such a sacred space and it's so beautiful to practice like I really encourage you guys to try it. It's really fun um But you have to make sure that you are holding that safe space and that you're really ready to receive their feelings If they do open up I want you to really make sure that you are in a good heart space where you're not going to then come Across and judge them for what they say or roll your eyes or get defensive or any of these other things If you're really ready to to open up and be vulnerable You have to make sure that you're continuing to hold that space because If you react in a way that doesn't make them feel safe after they share they're not going to want to open up again So it's it's a very safe like space that you need to create for them Yeah, this is I can you see these um comments teal. They're so amazing. Oh my gosh I can't wait for you to watch this and see and that yeah, you guys so your questions and comments are so amazing I think this might be the most live viewers we've ever had um at this time. So thank you guys so much. Um, let's see Julia says I started listening to positive uplifting videos coming in touch with my feminine energy Never knew this side of myself. Um, such a happier more peaceful place. Oh my gosh. Yeah, I'm so happy to hear that Sina says hi Helena and teal. I just started dating someone that just got out of the long-term relationship How do I know if he's over her and not just with me as a rebound? That's a great question teal. I'd love to hear your thoughts on that and then I'll share everything I have to say Oh, that's really really good for you to recognize lina. I'm really glad that you are even being aware enough to notice like Okay, I gotta I gotta be careful about this. Um at this point I would really continue to just keep your options open This is gonna be something for you to just just observe just observe and watch You'll know really really easily and quickly if he's just treating you as a rebounder If this is really something that he's wanting to pursue But um, and you'll know that by the way that he shows up around you If he's really being present with you if he's showing committed steps to wanting to be with you regularly And and express himself with you or if he's kind of being hot and cold and giving a little bit and then running away Um, so in this time just allow him this spaciousness. Don't even try and put anything on him That's why I'm saying continue to keep your options open in this time so that you can just feel really free flowing with it Allow a really genuine friendship to develop because put yourself in his shoes if you had just gotten out of relationship You're probably just gonna need some time Even if you met the most beautiful amazing person and you're ready to go into it It's good to give yourself some time and some spaciousness So allow him to have that spaciousness while being completely warm and inviting and he'll naturally gravitate towards you And decide when he's ready Yeah, so such um valuable advice teal. I love that. Yeah sometimes men on the rebound Just like we can do this too if we get into a rebound relationship. They seem so open They seem but what it is is they're just kind of transferring that it's almost like a silhouette of another person And you're able to just kind of slide right in and they seem super open emotionally But it's because they haven't healed from that past breakup yet and not to say that's your situation We don't know anything about the details of your situation. But just like teal said take your time It's like the slow burn process, right? Don't just jump right in because the last thing we'd want is for you to over invest yourself only to find out that He's not ready. He's not ready for something serious yet. Um, yeah, so you guys your comments are amazing. Let's see Let's see. There's so many good ones If you guys have more questions about this, let me know this is great Oh, so i'm going to send her this video. So hopefully she'll open her heart. I love that There was another one about there was another one from a man. That was really great. Yeah, you guys Look, there are so many great men out there who are one question I get from women all the time is like, well Well, you know Are men doing this too? Are they trying to improve themselves and like there's so many great men out there that are watching videos Trying to be good partners to their women. So hopefully you guys are like getting that sense to watching this I love that someone's asking about a man who's hot and cold and How to apply these tools in that situation teal anything you have to say about the hot and cold man It's going to be the same thing ladies It's going to be about connecting to that vision of the woman that you get to be that that I think about it As a goddess right this goddess essence of just open-hearted vulnerability Just sweet nurturing magnetic energy And really not caring really knowing in yourself that the right man is going to come toward you And he's going to want to commit to you and so if you this hot and cold man is coming back and forth Continue to be warm and inviting continue to be open and vulnerable While still allowing yourself to know that I can express my heart I can express my feelings and my needs, but I don't need it from him This is just what I need in general And so if you want to be that man for me beautiful, but if you're not that's okay I'm really connecting with yourself and letting that be okay And that's the energy that's going to actually make those hot and cold men stop being so hot and cold if they're really ready Yeah, absolutely. We can tend to like almost place our Our worth and our self esteem and our our mood on what a man's doing and not doing So a man comes on strong and it feels incredible Then he ignores us and then we feel terrible So you want to really anchor yourself right where you are right and not like let yourself get so swept up In this in this rubber band man or this hot and cold man Let's see. What about trust issues from both sides? How do we turn that around? He says he has a problem trusting me and therefore has he has a problem opening up and I feel the same Wow, what a powerful question teal anything you have to say about trust issues and and how this relates to unlocking a man's heart Yes, yes, well If he's saying he's not trusting you once again everything that a man is showing up for you is a reflection of yourself And I know that can be hard to hear sometimes But it's just a really good way for you to look inward and it sounds like you've already recognized that you also have some trust issues So if he's telling you he's not trusting you it's because there's an essence that You don't trust yourself and so I really really think about that and and do some reflection for yourself about What is it? Why do I have trust issues? Where does that stem from? Why am I still allowing those fears to be projected into this relationship? and am I really really ready to let go because at a point in time when you really want to fall in love It is a little bit of a risk and it is a little bit of a jump and Even though you may have had past experiences that made you feel like you can't trust At a point you have to let that go so that you can open up space for something else to happen And it doesn't mean to just open up your heart and give him your heart and be like I hope You know, I trust you to hold on to this just letting that unfold small and slowly but It is going to be about really connecting and building back up that trust within yourself That was beautiful. Yeah, something I always say is like you don't have to really worry about trusting a man as long as you trust yourself And just trust life and just kind of like know that things are always working out for you You're the right man for you is right around the corner if it's not this one There's better man for you on the way. It's like what what's your philosophy on life once you start to trust yourself That's what really allows you to attract a man that you trust and who trusts you too, right? You can't really trust a man any more than you trust yourself and your own feelings and boundaries And intuition i'm getting distracted by all these great comments I would have jumped on that for a second million because what you said is beautiful and I don't want to get lost like I I know that's so easy sometimes when we're watching videos to just like listen to it And it washes over and it feels good and then you go back to your old self and you're like, ah, I'm still stuck I want you to really hear what malena said here and I say it as well that the right man really is right around the corner And there really is such an abundance an abundance of men out there Wanting to give to you like like we were talking about there are men watching these youtube videos Want to learn how to please women in the right way So I want you to really recognize that this is a belief that you can have And if you don't have that belief that's where it starts you got to shift the belief and know that there is not a Scarcity of men out there. There is an abundance of men out there waiting for you So are you ready to believe that for yourself? Yeah, absolutely And and hopefully some of these amazing like success stories in the chat like deal I can't wait for you to see that julia says I've attracted the masculine man that caters to my feminine side I love it watching all your videos on feminine energy and enchantment have helped me get to this place Oh my gosh That makes them that get a cry of reading some of these you guys purple fantasy says Feminine energy is not about initiating but receiving it's a question And do you think we should wish him good morning every day to have them come to us? Oh great question So yes feminine energy is about receiving masculine energy is about initiating So if for everyone watching if you can just think of yourself is like constantly Responding to a man. He texts you you text him back, right? He calls you answer You know, he leaves a message you call him back So of course you can initiate sometimes but when you're coming from a place of lack or coming from a place of I'm going to do this to try to get him to open his heart and come towards me I would say no, you're not at the place where you can initiate I would just practice leaning back and receiving his energy receiving his love and attention and time and affection Then once you kind of get that feeling down into every cell of your body What it feels like receiving from a man Then of course if you're feeling super confident and you know a man's crazy about you sure go ahead and text him Good morning. You can do anything coming from that place But if you're coming from a place of trying to get this man to open up or get him to do something I would say no, just don't lean forward in that moment. Keep leaning back. Teal. What would you say? Oh, beautifully said lana. I love that. It's like think about it like having your cup Having a cup being empty or overflowing So if you're in a place of feeling empty or feeling like you need to get something to fill you up Then you're not in a place to be initiating But if you're already just overflowing with love, you've been just pouring love on yourself You're just giving it out to everyone then naturally. Absolutely. You can give that out to him and he's gonna love it Yeah, something I always say is like, what are you hoping will happen for everyone watching before reaching out to a man You can ask yourself. What am I hoping will happen? And if you can answer that strongly like well I'm going to send in this text because I'm hoping he'll respond and we'll have a conversation and reconnect things Then you know, you have an agenda. You're trying to make something happen. That's not really being vulnerable But if you can answer it like what am I hoping will happen and it's like well nothing I'm just hoping and I'm just bored and I'm just feeling like teal said I'm so full of love And I just want to share that then go for it You can really do whatever you want when you're coming from this place of abundance and feeling confident A lot of times women who are coming to us aren't at that place They're at a place where they're feeling insecure And they're wanting some to make something happen with a man who's not freely doing it on his own That's when we always recommend leading back, right? Yeah, so these are such great questions Renault says when you're not emotionally charged, he stays and opens up. He honors my vulnerability He spends time with me. He shares things with me that are emotionally taxing to him Would love to go deeper. Yeah, it sounds like you're on the right track, renola. It sounds like you're doing everything Right. I mean Teal, what would you say in terms of like going deeper and getting to those deeper levels of intimacy and emotional connection with a man? well, something that just came up for me is that I want to make sure that when we're talking about vulnerability and we're talking about being this nurturing sweet goddess that this doesn't get Um confused with being mothering or like overly like overly caring and overly overbearing because A lot of times when we start to try and be intimate and build up that intimacy and that vulnerability I've seen this with clients where they try and almost force it. They try and force the intimacy They say, how are you feeling? Tell me how you're feeling? What's going on? You know, like like open up to me and it has to feel natural and it has to feel very much like they are wanting to do it And so just recognize that if you're wanting to take it deeper into the in more intimacy You don't want to push it on to them. It really has to come from them And it's just going to continue to be from sharing how you're feeling and allowing that to to to receive receive their intimacy As they're ready for it, but not not pushing it on to them because that's the mothering thing How are you doing? Are you doing okay? How can I how can I help you? You know? It's still about just receiving their intimacy by being intimate being vulnerable yourself Yeah, oh my gosh. You said that so beautifully and it can be and trust me like I can still get into this Oh, you like that almost like nurturing kind of mode mothering mode Which is actually masculine energy in a lot of ways if you're doing if it's coming from a place of doing and giving So actually masculine energy qualities most people aren't familiar They think of it as like feminine But it's actually if you're trying to make something happen or get some connection happening between you and a man You're coming from a results oriented masculine energy place So yeah, I would encourage you to do just what teal said lean back get into that receiving mode Then share yourself coming from this vulnerable place where you're not attached to the outcome or the result Or trying to like force the guy to open up for everyone watching If you ever tried to get a man to talk when he's not at a place where he wants to talk I know I certainly have and that never works. It always just pushes it further away I know I'm right about that, right? So good, okay. Let's see. Kalen says I really enjoy learning from you I'm putting my new knowledge in play with the new guy that I've been talking to and he's eating it up Oh, I'm so happy to hear that someone's saying what's the link to teal site. Um, oh great question Yeah, it's in the description right now. You guys can go check that out Teal has a free gift that she's going to we'll talk a little bit more about that at the end Also, I believe there's a link to your schedule or where people can sign up for a free session with you too, right teal Absolutely. Absolutely. This is something I absolutely love doing with women Actually connecting with you one-on-one Over a video call and just giving you 30 minutes to hold space for a free love breakthrough session And on those calls I help women to really have a breakthrough So if that's something that you're feeling like you want to connect one-on-one Definitely take advantage of this gift And schedule time with me. Yeah, that is so generous. Yeah, that's right now You might have to close the chat if you're on the phone, but it's in the description It's the first two links in the description first one is teal's free gift The second one is a link to to apply for a free session with her, which is amazing Let's see So many great questions. What what's what are some good signs? You're being mentally abused and also please explain further Leaning back. I'm loving it. Okay, so that's for Miss chronic chronicles teal. Do you have anything to say on that? I would say, you know Pay attention to how you're feeling your your feelings are like your best friends here They're um, they're indicators that things are going well or that something is amiss So rather than being up in your head searching for red flags or signs How are you feeling about yourself when you're with this man? Both when he's right in front of you and when he's not right in front of you Do you feel comfortable being yourself and opening up or do you feel like you're not quite good enough? You have to prove yourself to him. Do you feel anxious insecure? Those are some signs that something's off in the dynamic Teal, what do you have to say on that? I love this. Oh my gosh, Elena. We were just on the same brain wave That was really beautifully said I would just add too to that that I would really check in with your own boundaries And you'll know really easily when you know what your boundaries are and what your needs are Whether or not they're being crossed and whether he's being emotionally abusive And so as you start to recognize these are my boundaries. I don't want to be yelled at I don't want to be taken advantage of I don't want to be disrespected if you see him starting to do that Then yes, you know that's an indicator that he is being emotionally abusive And that's time for you to pull back and give some space and put the focus back on you again and build up your own confidence in your self-worth again Absolutely. Yes. Um, she also asked uh to explain leaning back further. Yeah, I'd love to talk I mean I talked so much about leaning back in my in my programs and some of my other videos I would love to talk about it as it relates to this topic in particular tl So from my perspective and then I'd love to hear um everything you have to say Sorry, my hair keeps getting tangled in this microphone. It's driving me crazy Been having microphone issues all day today. Um So yeah leaning back physically Mentally and emotionally leaning back that's getting into your feminine energy everything we've been talking about here So next time you're with a man for everybody watching try physically leaning back In your chair or on the couch wherever you are if he is a masculine energy man if he's into you He will instinctively start to come towards you. That is a physical demonstration of how this energy exchange works, right? Also mentally leaning back and emotionally a lot of women think they're leaning back They think they're being feminine But they're actually very much leaning forward mentally or emotionally by obsessing about a guy or constantly thinking about him Even if he's not right in front of her So leaning back is like one of the simplest quickest things you can do to get you that result of a man coming back towards you because I know we also Wanted to talk about bringing a man close in this video So tl let's talk a little bit about leaning back or any other ways to bring a man close as it relates to this topic of Unlocking his heart. That would be amazing Yeah, well leaning back. I love it. You said physically it is so fun It's it's not we talk about it's not games. It's just it's just fun like energy dynamics And so it's really fun to practice that so definitely practice that physically Emotionally leaning back and mentally leaning back really does mean about actually imagining your thoughts as little like protruding energy forces And so every time you are sending out thoughts about a man you are thinking about them you're strategizing you are planning you are Um just hoping and wishing that things are going to move in a direction That's almost like literally sending out energetic protruding messages forward And so that is energetically and and mentally leaning forward It sounds kind of weird because you can't really see it But that's what's happening and so mentally leaning back really does mean about training your mind To actually shift those thoughts inward and shift those thoughts back to you So when you're thinking about oh gosh, I wonder what he's doing. Oh gosh, I wonder what he's thinking Oh gosh, I wish he would text me that's sending energy leaning forward. So catching yourself in that moment and saying Okay, I'm thinking about him. How can I really turn that back on to myself? How can I really do something that makes me feel good in this moment knowing that wow when I'm feeling good He's probably thinking about me So that's the energetic of shifting and leaning back and when you do that physically mentally and emotionally It naturally brings him closer like Helena says it's literally an instinctual thing Men are so good at being able to just feel our energy Whether it's uh pushing forward or a leaning back And so if you can really put that energy and focus back on you finding new hobbies Just really putting the focus on what makes me happy. What do I want to do today? That energy is almost pulling him in without even having to do or say anything It was literally energetically sending out vibrations of come here. Come here. Come here. I'm happy. I'm joyful. I am whole I am complete. I am ready to receive you And then they have space to come forward Beautiful that you explained that so just amazingly. I love that Julia says true story I have to remind myself to do that every time I lean back. He's right there to pick up the slack We get extremely relaxed and men love seeing us relaxed Someone else is so real so true makes sense leaning forward versus leaning back. Yeah, great great question Catherina has another interesting question. This one's really good She says normally my boyfriend is always ready to talk and I shut down How do I change that because I want to take a nap and process my feelings before we talk But he wants to talk in the moment Oh, that is great. Um cap and teal. I would love to hear what you have to say on this Um, I would say what what's the most vulnerable thing you could say in that moment Could you say something like wow? Um, I'm feeling a lot of things right now I'm I'm processing all my emotions and I would love to continue this conversation Um, you know, maybe if I took a nap or went for a walk really quick I could I could process some of these emotions and come back and talk it out then Right rather than just shutting down and pulling away staying open means staying open to what's going on with you So even saying something like oh, I'm feeling really triggered right now I think I need to take a break and a step back and can we Continue this conversation later and when would be a good time to do that? Teal, what would you have to say for a woman a woman who tends to shut down when some of these things come up? Yeah, great great question, and that's really natural. It's okay. It's okay that you are the one Maybe a little bit more closed off Um, and I I really love what you said helena about letting it be okay to take the space That's really the most important thing it goes back to what I was saying earlier about Being in your in your emotions versus versus processing them and then communicating your feelings So let it be okay that you are not able to have that conversation right now and recognize It's because you just have a lot of emotions swirling around and you don't want to be reactive And you can share that with him say exactly what helena was saying with the scripting Um, I'm feeling a lot of emotions right now. I I don't really know how to process them Is it okay if I take some time? And come back to you and that is going to have so much more of a deep conversation when you can just take a little space Not closed down, but just recognize what it is and process it Even write it out what you what you're feeling what you want to say and then come back to it from an objective place When you're not feeling emotional And have that intimate conversation That's going to just deepen that bond so much and who's going to love you for that He's going to respect you for that so true. It's so true. Yeah You can't when you are triggered when you're feeling strong emotions. You can't really Communicate consciously in that moment like you're going to fight or flight mode When you say you shut down you might be going into fight or flight mode And you you actually lose oxygen in your brain your blood is getting redirected to your limbs It goes back to like caveman days and we'd have to actually fight or or flee or freeze And you can't you might have a hard time. That's kind of a lot of men It happens to them they get flooded with strong emotions and they're like a circuit board that just shuts down And and it doesn't mean they don't care about you. It doesn't mean that they're just like Punishing you it's just that's like the way their brains are hardwired. So important to like become aware of some of these things Let's see purple fantasy says that's true. Every time I feel good. He starts to think about me and contacts me I wonder how guys pick up our energy. Yeah, it is so true. They are so Sensitive to our energy right to we can tend to think men are clueless, but they're actually not they're actually very sensitive and they can tell when We're trying to get him to do something they can tell when we're playing games. They can tell when we're not being authentic right to y'all Yes, and it is the sweetest most Yummy juicy feeling when you get to that place where you're just like I'm okay in my my emotions and my feelings and I want hold space for you and your feelings And we can just have this safe space they they love you for it so much and that's what allows that heart to heart connection That's what men are craving and that's the way that they fall in love They can't fall in love through your head. They can't fall in love through your body They have to fall in love through your heart. So this is really a huge priority if you're struggling with this Absolutely. Yeah, I totally agree. Um, someone's asking Oh I want a session with teal, but I can't see the link Yeah, you might if you're on you have to close the live chat And then it's just in the description and I can if it's not working for some reason post it in the comment section after the replay And we'll we'll include a link to that But it should be there now someone else says what if the guy's very interested in your life? But he doesn't talk much about himself. He loves my company It sounds like he's not opening up about himself, right? So teal any tips on how to get a guy to open up and confide in in you a little more Hmm. Hmm. That is a really really good question I gotta connect into my heart for that one because that's not one I hear all the time Yeah, what I'm what I'm sensing is that this man is still just not feeling safe to open up to you yet He's he's not Sensing that it feels safe to share about his life and that may be based on The direct way that you're showing up or it may be just from his own experiences in his past that it wasn't safe to show Up in front of women And so just really honor that and allow him to have that space Don't try and force it out of him But just continue to show up like we're talking about about being that open Safe space for him to confide in when he's ready and he'll sense that and over time he'll start to feel more safe and more comfortable Um to open up with you Yeah, absolutely. Yeah, and and it sometimes it takes men a little While to like get in the habit of doing something new especially when it comes to be vulnerable and confiding in you So anytime he says anything about himself really go Oh, it feels so good like let him know the impact that had on you and how you really enjoy connecting and how good that makes you feel Um, katherina said you're you're amazing ladies. Oh, oh, yeah, go ahead till do you have anything to add there? Yeah, one of the things I was thinking too is just continue to share the vision of The man that you want to continue to be around as well Like oh, it would feel so nice to to know more about you It feels so nice with the man that I'm with that we can really share a lot about our lives Really know deep about each other's past and just see how he feels about that So he knows where you're at because he just may not know too about what it is that you need Maybe he doesn't think you want to know much about this past Yeah, absolutely. Um the woman who asked the question about when she shuts down She says, uh, thank you because normally when I shut down he wants to talk about it right then and there And I'm not ready. It makes me feel like he doesn't give me enough space Makes me feel overwhelmed I don't feel like feeling that but thankfully he cares in his patient Yeah, I would look for if he's generally a good guy and he wants to work on things I would see the good and I mean so many men are the opposite they shut down and withdraw It's kind of a rare man who wants to stick in there and have that conversation So appreciate that for that, right? Um, you know say like I would love to keep talking about this with you I don't want to say something. I don't mean right now. I'm feeling a little triggered or just what you said you're so beautifully Um, katharina, I'm feeling overwhelmed Would feel a lot better just to kind of take a break from this and then and then continue later So, yeah, fantastic fantastic tiffany says that's my new mantra happy whole and complete. I love that So good donny says wow so many good points. Um, how will he know if you're thinking about him? Is it possible? I get that question all the time teal. I'd love to hear what you have to say like The fact that men can feel our vibe, right? Do you how how does this work and can men actually tell when you're up in your head trying to make something happen with him? Yes, yes. Well, yes, absolutely. They can tell when you're up in your head Just as you can tell when you're up in your head. You're not as relaxed You're not as free-flowing it can be a little bit more tight and tense sometimes Even the the energy and the the tone of your voice can be different versus when you're really in a relaxed place So they can definitely sense it when you're around them But when they're not around if you want to know how they're thinking about you I would just imagine that they're always thinking about you Oh, I feel so good to know that my man is always thinking about me a lot put that out there Put that out there as an energy that's a receiving energy too. Wow It feels so good to just be backing in the love that this man is pouring on me Um, and at the end of the day the bigger question is is why do you feel the need to know that he's thinking about you? I mean, obviously it always feels good to know that I'm thinking about you But it shouldn't be the determiner and the validation for yourself That's something that should already be within you and that if he's thinking about you That's just icing on the cake if you're already incredible life Amazing. Yeah, that was beautiful. Teal. Thank you so much and thank you to everyone If we didn't get to your questions, um, maybe post them in the in the comment section after this video publishes I think we got to all of them But in case we missed them teal, maybe you can go through and answer questions if you have any time And this was so amazing. This is the most live viewers I think we've ever had at this time and I think my favorite live chat of all time because this it was just you guys are amazing Your success stories and the wonderful men who came and contributed to the conversation and all your takeaway points And your amazing questions and comments. So thank you guys so much Teal, what are your last words of wisdom or any other last like tips or tools on how to unlock a man's heart and bring him close Hmm I'm actually going to what comes to my mind immediately when you say that is actually a specific testimonial from a woman That I was working with where she said Ladies the biggest thing I realized is that you don't have to go get the guy And this is from a woman that after working with me She became engaged and is happily just so much in her femininity now And she was such a masculine woman for so long. She said I really realize that you don't have to go get the guy You don't have to go get the ring that you really can just relax into the yumminess of life and of joy within yourself And the rest just unfolds naturally So that's really what I want to leave with you with and that's really why I made my whole business Relax and to love because that's really what it's all about. It's about really relaxing Into this essence and into this presence and the rest will just follow naturally That is so beautiful. I'm just like that affected me very deeply as you said that I'm like Oh, I really felt that like you don't have to not a single thing needs to happen right now You know, if you can get into this whole I love the idea of relax into love It's very attractive, right? And you'll when you kind of adopt this mindset and this attitude that things are always working out for you And and if he's the right man for you, he's gonna want to come towards you all on his own without any like pressure or Prompting on your end, right? So that was amazing. Thank you so much teal and let's talk about your free gift for a second It's so funny. I know we wanted to keep this to 30 minutes But this is like this was so fun and you guys were I love your comments and questions This was amazing. So yeah, what free gift do you have for everyone? It's available now for everyone watching in the description Yes, yes So I have two free gifts for all you ladies The first one is just a really fun free guide called the eight principles to becoming Magnetic to men really fun guide has got a lot of juicy nuggets in there So definitely go and check that out and download that for free. It's my gift to you And the second gift is like I was mentioning earlier on the call I am opening up my schedule for a free 30 minute love breakthrough session where I actually get on the call with you And we talk about exactly where you're at what you're struggling with and I'm going to help you Have a breakthrough on that call. So if that's something that you're really ready for and you're you're wanting to to take advantage of Please do that. Um, it's so much fun. It's the it's my my highlight of my day getting to actually connect with you women in person I love that. Yeah, I'm just reading these last comments you guys you're welcome And thank you so much and we learned like I just speak to you personally I learned as much from you guys watching and commenting that As much as you learned from me, I learned from you to letting us know what works what's challenging for you This is amazing. Tiffany said I love this relax into the yumminess Um, Nathan says communication is the key to all relationships totally agree. Nathan relax into love awesome advice Thank you so much ladies. You're amazing. Thank you. Um, this just is like overwhelmingly positive and amazing So I would love to do this again with you teal. Um, maybe over on my channel sometime soon That would be awesome and this was so great for everyone watching Thank you so much feel free to give this video a comment Let us know your experiences with this and share it with a girlfriend who could maybe use this information We love hearing from you. Have a great weekend and teal. Thank you so much again. I hope to talk with you soon Thank you. Helena such a joy as always. Bye ladies. Great to see you