 I wish we had both been curious throughout our marriage, you know, um, the last whatever nine months when I found out we were a neurodiverse couple, Thomas, I couldn't get my hands on enough books and you know, YouTube videos and everything I could find because I wanted to know. I wanted to understand what did I do wrong? What did he do wrong? What could we do better? How could we transform things? So if you don't have, if you don't have a curious mindset, you're going to judge.