 Well, hello and welcome to Understand Men Now. I'm Johnathan Asley of JohnathanAsley.com, and I'm so excited to be shooting this short video for you today. Our topic, make a man see you as his number one priority, his number one priority. All right, obviously I get a kick out of saying the title, and it's how we shoot my thumbnails as well. Number one priority. Really quickly, if after this video, the content resonates with you and you go, God, I'd like to talk to this guy and get some dating advice, please check out the link for a free discovery call to see if working with a coach is right for you. It's a call with me. All right, our topic, make him see you as your number one priority. All right, so we're gonna play out a couple different scenarios. You're in a two month relationship, you're in a six month relationship, and you're in a two year relationship, with a man. And I want you to think about this for a second, whether it's two months, six months, or two years. Most likely if you're following my work, you're in midlife, which is after baby making years and before retirement, my specialty is midlife. Although I do get a lot of women in their 20s and 30s seeking my advice, but most of the women who seek my advice are dating men in their 40s, 50s, or 60s, or even 70s. Okay, so once you think about this, let's use 51 year old man, 51 year old man. You're dating him, you've gone on 10 dates, you've become intimate with each other, you're now moving into the second month of your relationship. I want you to think about this. Many of you have an expectation that all of a sudden you become his priority. You're on the top of the list of everything that happens because many of you put men as a priority. But here's the deal, he's had 51, 51 years, less two months of a life that you didn't exist in his life. He has his work, he has his children, he has his parents if they're still alive, he has his exercise routine, he's got his friends, he's got his video games, he occasionally has his porn. All of these things were in his life before he ever met you. So one of the issues that I see with a lot of women is that they create this expectation that all of a sudden since the relationship has begun that they have to be the priority. In other words, the man always has to follow up with a text all the time to let her know that it's safe and that sort of thing. It's safe, it's safe. Why does it have to feel safe? Why can't, and what I mean to say is constant validation. So God forbid a guy or a girl is doing something that day and they don't reach out. This isn't the end of the world. It doesn't mean you're not a priority in his life. I would like to shift the narrative from a priority to important, important. Because we have a list of priorities. How many of you have a to-do list that you have to start your day professionally? What's the same in our life? We have our to-do list. And if your relationship isn't that two months, six months, or even two-year range, two years is a significant relationship. But for those two months, six months relationships, it's still a building phase of building trust, of building trust with one another. So that's the real question. How do you build trust with one another, the roots to trust to actually become a priority? Because many of you have created an expectation being a priority without building the roots to get there. This is one of the reasons why I'm a big proponent of many of you reading the book by Barbara D'Angelo is called How to Make Love All the Time. How to Make Love All the Time. She has written, by the way, look at how thick that book is. This is a thick-ass paperback book. She has created a series of understanding of how a relationship can shift to the deeper roots of trust. And I know many of you have bought into the rhetoric that men are the leaders of the relationship and you should just be in your feminine, allow men to lead, just allow them to lead. And ladies, men are bad at this. Women buy relationships book 10-fold greater than men. You are the leaders of the emotional relationship. So my invitation for many of you, if not all of you, and I say many because some of you are doing the work I recommend, and by the way, all the books I suggest there's a link to Jonathan recommended books along with my book, What the Heck Is Self Love Anyway, because that's the empowered book. But you are the leader of the relationship, of the emotional relationship. So how do you become his priority? You have to establish the roots of trust and men have no fucking clue how to make this happen. They have no awareness around this. They know how to go to work, pay bills and be the leaders from the provider protector perspective. And even most men in their fifties don't wanna do that anymore. We've been conditioned from our caveman to do it, but psychologically speaking, a lot of guys are jaded, especially if they went through a bad divorce. So even that's not as prevalent for a 50-year-old man as maybe a 20-year-old guy. And this is why if you're gonna allow the penis into the vagina, this is allowing now, then start reading these amazing books to understand how to make love all the time, how to shift your relationship. And let me tell you this. If a guy is into you and you introduce this to him, he's gonna wanna do it. He's gonna wanna do it if he's genuinely into you. Only the men who are not into you don't wanna do the work. And certainly men who are resistant to any type of co-creative relationship. A relationship is a two-lane street. It's co-creative. Any man who's resistant to it, especially men who resist doing therapy with their partner, is basically telling you, their partner, that you're not important. It's basically saying I don't respect you. And I shot a video about respect recently. So if it's important to you, then you have to be firm about this. Because firmness is how we respect you and how we make you a priority is when we respect you. And there's only way to develop respect in a relationship is develop the roots of trust. And most guys need a helping hand. Let me tell you, it took a woman to help break me open and I'm telling you ladies, you're gonna have to break the guy open, but here's the benefit. Fees into you and you develop those roots to trust. You've got a solid relationship and a solid relationship is the one that goes the distance. How do you make them see you as a number one priority? You already got the answer to that. If you do have some questions, please post a comment below. I'd like to hear your thoughts. I do my best to read every single one of them. In addition, if private coaching is out of your budget then check out my VIP group. It's only $20 a month to have access to me on a regular basis through a private Facebook page and three videos I shoot through a private group based on your questions. All right, I'm gonna wrap up this video as I always do first off, giving myself a big gigantic shot the better hug of self love. I'm gonna reach into the camera and give you a hug of love if that's okay. I'm gonna ask you to turn to someone and give them a hug of love because hugs are a great source of love and we can all use more love in our lives. Thanks so much, bye-bye now.