 It's sound working. Let me see here. Awesome awesome Getting this hip thing set up now if y'all seen I wanted to pop on here because I was doing a Q&A but let me Hold on right quick. Let me get this here. Anybody came on here from Instagram. I just was on Instagram Doing my Q&A and they're live over there, but I know sometimes people have their own little Networks that they like and not everybody has YouTube and Instagram Okay, leticia. I appreciate that now you go all over the place appreciate that Now my wife told me she bring me some sushi joy. I said no Jews on there not joy Okay, Brittany, I see you God bless you my wife told me she bring me some sushi now So I don't have I don't know how long I'm gonna have on here But you know It was depressing the day if you don't if you don't follow my Instagram make sure you follow my Instagram make your Instagram if you don't have an Instagram and Just don't follow nobody can be a fake count But watch them Q&A's that I do when I do them Q&A's they completely random because I can't set a time because I never know Where I'm gonna be or what I'm gonna be doing But when I do those Instagram Q&A's in the store, it's in my store You got to click on my store and you'll see them Q&A's It's a lot you're gonna learn in there because you're gonna see the questions that people ask And if I get some more time tonight, I'm gonna answer some more questions on My Q&A but I've been doing that and so you have to God bless you now now y'all could hold on I'm just talking tonight. Okay, so y'all I appreciate you and You'll see on there the questions and you'll start to you know realize they go caramel kisses. God bless you to the moderator Now see for y'all don't know Caramel kisses is the one who gave out my cash out. I ain't do that but she did that and She blessed me and she wanted a moderators And I always have to shout her out for that and the other moderators that be you know Deleting and keeping people in check now see listen So that what I was saying when you look at them questions on Instagram what I want you to do is sit there and pretend that you me and Pretend that you answering these questions every day When you read them questions on Instagram and pretend that you trying to come up with these answers and Every question you read try to answer that question in your head and Then you'll start to see after a little while you'll start to feel that that tug on your spirit You'll start to feel that drain and then you'll start to see some of the questions You like wow was this a question and That's what I had asked myself and I and I come to realize like yeah these are real relationship questions that we having these real relationship questions and I'm gonna tell you it's only going to get worse Unless it's more men that start to wake up Unless it's more men that start to wake up and speak up for the right reasons And what I mean by for the right reasons is I mean male relationship coaches Who are going to hold men accountable and set a standard for men and Not just be doing it for the money But really be living it So if you a coach, yes, you're gonna get paid if you on YouTube Yes, you're gonna get paid But if you're getting paid for coaching or for doing a speaking engagement or for writing a book and You are a part of the problem Meaning if you got a partner and you cheating or you got a partner that you dragging them out and you won't marry them or you single as a dollar bill and You won't deal with nobody you but you'll sleep with people But you won't marry nobody then you part of the problem And so what I mean is we need more men that's gonna be raised up and that's gonna speak up and Not fear Breaking the quote-unquote man-law man code that people don't really look at and break down And so I remember when I wrote my first book I was 22 years old and I remember my best friend at the time He said man ain't gonna read your book because I know what you're doing. You selling us out Man, you're a sellout man in my other home, but man, you're a sellout man and and that was the the the mind set that was the mindset of a man and You know what I found out a couple a couple years ago, which blew me away is that I'm born on International Women's Day and My message in my ministry is to level the playing field and to hold me accountable while also Explaining the games that dogs like I was play And I cannot believe that I'm born on International Women's Day March 8th That thing really spooked me out and I talked to my wife about that a couple weeks. I say this is crazy This is crazy because that's 95% of my audience, which I'm not happy about I'm not happy that 95% of my audience is women and You know Because that is as a man. That's hard on me because it's hard to understand the opposite sex but I realized that This is not my doing this how it happened and I also understand that You know, now ain't no posse. I'm a child of God. I don't know what a Pisces is. I'm a child of God I'm letting nobody right know who our scope on me right knows zodiac. Oh, I'm a child of God so they I'm a child of God. All right. And so I look and I say man And I'm gonna tell you right now what I see and I'll be honest with you You have to be willing You got to be willing to become a one percenter You've got to be willing to come become a one percenter and what I mean by this. That's not a religion I mean, you got to be in the top one percent You got to get your body in the top one percent. You got to get your mind in the top one percent You got to get your career in the top one percent You got to get on your three bees brain brand body and you got to get into the top one percent The reason being is because the good man will become in the top one percent. Okay, so listen to me Listen to me now Let me pull up my computer. I need to pull up Google Hill According to Google there is a hundred and sixty one point six million men in 2019 we in twenty twenty one Hundred and sixty million men. Oh, no, I just answer the question y'all y'all do the uh, I Just answer the I ask a simple question. I just answer the question thing What is one percent of 160 I don't know if I got a calculate on here 160 million somebody doing a mouth mouth anybody do the mouth 160 million is 1.6 million So we going into a world in America. It's a hundred and sixty men 60 million men. Guess what? 1.6 million of them 1.6 million of them gonna be outstanding amazing men and guess what and In that some of them gonna be married for now and then The next thing you know if half of them is Single then you gonna be looking at 800,000 the numbers gonna look daunting It's gonna look daunting, but that got to be your goal That got to be your goal because I was talking to a guy the other day And he was like man as I'm as I'm in the gym and I'm meeting men and I'm in and I'm in this here circle He was like, I'm realizing how rare I am He's like, I'm realizing this what the guy said to me who was a great guy. He said I'm realizing how rare I am He said I'm realizing how Different I am and what he was saying is I'm not like majority of the men that I meet That's what the guy was telling me and I say, you know what? I understand where you coming from and I see that because one thing I see is that a lot of men today Have given themselves to pornography nasty movies a lot of men today has given themselves to a vice that has created an addiction and now we have the revenge of a lot of these men and What's happening is the guy That was mistreated and overlooked The guy that was Disrespected the guy that was cheated on Because his woman wanted the job wanted the man with money that guy's angry now and When the man messed around to get some money or he messed around to get a platform He out for vengeance. He coming with it He mad with women and then he gonna call all these other men And he gonna get these other men up to follow him and support him and now it's been to be all like revenge And it's gonna be the man who was overlooked by women who was dogged out by women Who would laugh that by women who will bullet by men? Those gonna be the man. That's angry and upset with Women but here's the thing These men the way they get a platform the way they get money the way they get power or Platform of power is through money They either make money in business and sports in music or in the media but if in their heart There is a disdain and a hate toward women because of what they have gone through at the hands of a mama or At the hands of a ex-wife the ex-girlfriend a baby mama These men is angry They angry and they want to push a movement and they want a movement to be where men are seen as above women and men looking down on women men using women for what they worth and They getting all the perks and the benefits and that's the world we going into just like you see What the good book talk about men becoming lovers of themselves and The thing about it is when a man start to tap into other type of energy. That's not masculine energy You see the agenda you see the movement with the clothes You see the clothes today these men Area down there can't even breathe the clothes is so tight The clothes is so tight. You got to cover your eyes cuz the man area showing everywhere pants so tight now Fanny packs is in style a lot of times a fanny pack that he men is wearing it looked like a cross-body purse Now you got more and more men painting their nails So with men tapping into these other type of energy energy that don't come from a man Meaning that it's not a man But yet still trying to date women So if a man want to dress like a woman then he need to be dating him a woman He he gonna he need to be a woman. He need to feel like a woman But if he want to be masculine with the tight booty pants on it's gonna upset him and anger him And he gonna be displaced spiritually and he gonna be looking at women differently He can be angry with women because now he in competition who got on the nicest fanny pack Who got on the tightest jeans? Who got on the lowest-cut shirt? Who got they back out the most and so now these men today becoming more and more feminine and they becoming more and more lovers of men That they love They love bromance These men that they love being up under them a man Sniffing on them a man on the video game Playing on the domino table playing cars and still the one to be up under a woman building life Building a family raising kids in a healthy way. They won't just be with the boys And whenever you get a group of men together, we gonna talk bad about women Because that's the opposition. That's what we see is the opposition everybody and so we're gonna do that And that right there, that's what's breaking us down And men want to be the head men want to be the leaders men want to be the head of the household But don't want to be men Don't want to be men men want to operate from hate And a man can't be a man and this what as men we got to understand a man can't be a man If you can't have love for a woman If you see a woman as your opponent and you feel like a woman as your enemy and a woman is here to hold you down Then you can't really be a man Because now as a man if you're supposed to protect and provide you're not going to protect and provide for something that you despise Instead you're going to manipulate and deceive And that's what we have to realize as men and that's what I came into the knowledge of When I bumped into jesus in the road on the road to Damascus And I had to see like man. I've been persecuting women I've been dogging women out. I've been abusing women. I've been controlling women. I've been lying to women I've been mistreating women and I had to ask myself for what Why What did the women that I hurt do to me? And I had to realize that she knew nothing to me the world did something to me The world made me feel ugly the world made me feel black And and unworthy and unlove and less than the world discriminated against me The world cheated me out. The world put me behind the starting line And broke my legs and told me to win the race And then the woman Got the brunt of my pain I had to realize that as a man What did she do to me? And if a woman ever played me It really played myself because I wanted her for the wrong reason I wanted her for because of what was between her legs And guess what if I wanted her for what was between her leg and whatever other man wanted her for the same thing So from the age of three years old, she's been wanted for the wrong reasons by grown Mustache thinking men so she adapted to the game and she became a savage So when I went to go ahead and try to be with her and she then became a savage She of course she's gonna play me Because of what everything that happened to her So now everything that happened to me everything that happened to her that we come together how we feel to build love We're not building love. We're building war And so this what you have to realize And a lot of people don't want to look themselves in the mirror and see the error in their ways Instead we want to look for somebody to blame Women want to look to blame men and women want men to get the message Talk to the men talk to the men talk to the men And men want to look to blame women and and men want women to get to the matter Talk to the women you need to be telling the women women ain't perfect And so now all we're doing is just Button heads just button head button heads and nobody want to look in the mirror And men don't want to see That nine out of ten time when we get played by a woman It's because we went to a savage woman who got a Jezebel spirit And we wanted her for the wrong reasons and that's why we get played Because we barked up the wrong tree and we overlooked the classy woman respectable woman who still had herself worked intact And we went to a woman that had been turned over to a reprobate mind Why because her booty was bigger her breasts was bigger her smile was brighter And we won't was between her legs and then we get played now She got a baby and now she in the courthouse She won all type of child support she won above and beyond when when We went to her for the wrong thing And for the wrong reasons and she was always that woman But she has men we don't want to admit that And then women don't want to admit that the man a lot of times the man that dog you are Is the man that you wanted for the wrong reasons you wanted him to look good to your girlfriends You wanted him to look good to your family because of his height because of his looks or because of his money And the good man that was loving you and sniffing your booty trying to get with you you overlook him But the bad boy you wanted him and now you up the creep without a powder and you cry What was me and it's like that's what you get because you chose the man for the wrong reasons You didn't choose them based on his character. You choose them based on his currency You choose them based on his name in the city You choose them because he was the biggest dope boy in the city You chose him because he was the pastor. He was the the bishop He was the police officer. He was the principal He you chose him because he was six foot three six foot four You chose him because he looked like your favorite actor or your favorite Movist music artist you chose him for the wrong reason and then he gave you what you were looking for And now you're looking sick Well, why he hurt me? Because he always was a doll But you ignore the good man and see this men and women problem, but nobody want to look in the mirror Nobody want to look in the mirror And so what I had to do as a man, I had to look in the mirror and I had to say these women ain't done nothing to me These women ain't done nothing to me. Why should I hate a woman? Why should I deceive a woman? Why should I manipulate a woman? These women ain't did nothing to me. So why am I going to war with a woman? Instead of going to war against racism instead of going to war against discrimination Why am I mad with a woman? Why am I taking out my pain that the world put on me on this hill woman who's trying to love and support me? See, I had to realize that as a man I say wow, I could team up with her and then we could fight The the battles of the world Instead of being at war in my own home And so guess what when I shift my mindset, that's what changed my life When I made my wife my teammate instead of my opponent That's what changed my life and that's what men today don't understand But see this the other thing that women don't understand What women don't understand is is that ain't no man in the world Going to come to you ready made and perfect That is going to be an area or two or three that you have to look in the eye and address in that man In order for him to become the man that you can have longevity with And it is a lie from the pit of Satan house to believe that God has made a perfect husband It does not exist That's why he got the final wife and then he received favor from the Lord But to get to that point you're going to have to call out some of his Blind spots You're going to have to speak to some of his weaknesses and tell him those weaknesses got to become strong He's not going to come ready and see the problem with a lot of Christian women Is a lot of Christian women is praying and you crying out to God you on your face flat before God And you praying for a man that is better than Jesus Christ You praying for a man and you expecting God to deliver you a perfect man And then any man you get that got any little thing wrong with him you up and running because you want him to be perfect When all you had to do was speak to that last little thing in his life and it would have flea All you had to do would call that thing out and it would have flea if it's meant to go Now if it's something that It's an addiction. It's there. It's with him. You can't beat nobody else addiction But if it's something that he just need to learn It's something he need to know and this the thing a lot of time. We don't want to do that So a man Looking for a woman based on her booty And a woman looking for a man based on his bank account And so this where we go wrong at is we not We sitting and we claiming that we asking God to send us our person to send us our Mate But what we're not doing is we're not looking at people the way God look at them So we looking at people the way humans look at them Instead of looking at them the way God look at them and so God has no respect the persons meaning that he don't pick favorites Meaning that he's not judging this person He's not judging this person based on worldly standards. He's judging the person based on their heart but see we judge A woman by her booty and her beauty and a woman judge a man by his height His weight and his bank account And in the same for a man judging a woman But see when has God ever looked at a person and qualified them based on their height their weight and their bank account But yet we out here crying out for a partner, but we asking The holy to do something that is based on our worldly desires And here's the thing Is that God ain't gonna give you no gift and add sorrow so he's gonna bless you But just like you not perfect The person you get with ain't gonna be perfect Just like you ain't perfect the person you with is not gonna be all of that They're gonna have a couple areas that need to be refined and need to be fine tuned and need to be worked on Just like you do guess what over the years I look better My wife over the years she looked better In my life Me and my wife we joke about how I used to look I used to look a mess I wear a nine and a half shoe I used to wear size 11. I have well a nine and a half my foot is a nine and a half I used to wear size 11 You know why because I was so worried about a woman judge me by my shoe size And then I look Google one time and saw that the man Out of a study of 2000 men the man with the largest thing Was five foot seven And so I was flopping around I was flopping around in that size 11 Then I used to wear a dicky shorts some brown dicky shorts with A blank g-unit tank top you remember the tank top that 50 cent used to well with the look with the little thick scrap right here And I used to have the the g-unit tank top tucked in to my dicky shorts with a cowboy belt on With a size 11 shoe and I wear nine and a half Then I used to have on the headbands like Nelly crossed over each other Or I used to have on the head and it's turned to the side I had six gold teeth I had a fake diamond chain That was all the way fake. I had the fake bracelet to match it And I had my daddy elgin watch that come out of wal-mark the elgin. They used to make the elgin ELGIN With fake diamonds in it I used to sell drugs And I would get up to go sell a dime bag at 2 a.m in the morning To a gang of 10 robbers and risk my life Then I would take all my money and I'll spend it in the mall all my re-up money and spend it in the mall Then I would get credit cards and max them out And not pay them off Let them go to collections. I had car repossession notice. I had uh Parkment eviction notice. I was a hot mess You see what I'm saying? And so I say that to say That's when my wife met me Lord knows some work had to be done Lord knows had some work had to be done You see what I'm saying And so listen to me I'm here to tell you And and when I look at my wife, you know back in the day She used to wear a skirt With a with a t-shirt With the rhinestones on it With a pair of Jordans some some Jordan foals She used to wet a lot of foals Or some alphos ones with a jean skirt that come to mid-dye And the t-shirt with the words on there like hotty or You know summertime and it had rhinestones on it And her eyebrows used to be Like a pencil draw them on just a little Just a little Real thin and she used to wear a real tight ponytail A real tight ponytail where if they had one to the side you would think she was bald head and Why that was in style That was in style She was hood. I was hood Today we look totally different So it's like if you go if you go Back This person you meet right now gonna need some work And 10 years from now they're gonna look totally different now. I eat sushi. My sushi just got here. I got to go I ain't know what a sushi was Now I eat my a charcuterie board I ain't know what no charcuterie was. I thought that was a woman body part Had me a charcuterie last night In my suite so here it was I went from max and out credit cards and running off on the plug To being where I'm at today Because my wife saw my blind spots She spoke to them. She called them out and she said this right here got to change I saw her blind spots. I spoke to them. I called them out. I said this right here got to change Both of us agreed to change and to work together and we done built something And see that's what couples don't want to do today Today people want the person to come ready made Y'all might need to lose 20 pounds together My wife best body Came after our first son in her opinion in her opinion Now her best body in my opinion Is right now after two sons We're a little bit more of that baby wet and baby waiting and got on there and then sat down See I like this. I like that thing You hear me see she come from The type of you know, they like stick skin in her family On her daddy side they and her mom they like stick skinning me. I like meat On the bone I like now. I don't want no bone. They ain't got no meat on it So this right here is the body that I've been praying for This the body I wanted When I met my wife And she walked away And ain't see no bully I almost left But I remember her character And I say lord I've seen what you have done for others And I know after I put a couple kids in her that boot is gonna come I know some of that baby weight gonna get on there and it's gonna stick So what I start doing I start bringing home my wife piece of red velvet cake Anytime she went on the diet. I know she got a thing for sweet and I put my piece of red velvet there Baby, hey, you don't eat the red velvet together. I had to keep me a little bit of weight on them Now, of course, I'm joking and of course, I'm serious But I say that to say had I been superficial I wouldn't be with my wife I wouldn't be with my wife had I been superficial because I'm from florida Everything about the booty in florida My wife she have indian From india not Cherokee And what's what in that there? She have indian And then her mama is black But her mama is not built like The part of africa That I was attracted to so both of her parents together still did not produce her no booty And so if I was superficial I'd have been gone You see what I'm saying? Because the same thing with her I'm five nine and a half I always call myself five ten Five eleven with shoes on Today I'm six four because I could stand on a couple dollars Now I had my wife said I don't want no man. That's under six foot She wouldn't marry me. We wouldn't be together today So this why I try to tell people today is stop looking at the outside And look at the inside Like now. Yeah, they need to have something to work with I didn't look like somebody to chew me up and spit me out And she didn't look like somebody hit her in the face With a mic truck So we had something to work with like you don't want to be with somebody that's going to turn your stomach Not based on your looks because the person that'll turn your stomach That same face or make somebody else smile They meant to be together if they turn your stomach. Yeah, y'all ain't meant to be together, but If they Are look at a boy if you could look at them And they got a good heart And they got ambition They willing to work they willing to work on themselves. They going somewhere Then you could do the work with them But see we try to take and we try to look and we want somebody when They was we want somebody to be perfect And that's what we look at Somebody say you married her when she was skinny though. I married her with no booty But she wasn't necessarily skinny See that's the difference You could you could not be skinny And not have no booty You see what I'm saying? So I married my wife because she was pretty to me But I still had preferences And the same thing like her because God she had talked to before was taller than me Women I had talked to before had a different shape But none of them women was right for me and none of those men was right for her But we was dating based on We were dating based on our preferences But by the time we got together we were fed up with dating on preferences and we say, oh, you know what? Let's take somebody that don't fit all our preferences but We got the same heart We want the same things out of life Now let's grow together Because see a lot of time you ain't ugly. You just broke see A lot of time you ain't ugly. You just broke And so that's what you have to realize It's like when you could get your hair done on the regular When you could get your nails done on the regular when a man can afford a gym Or or a trainer when you could afford to eat better When you could take in you could for nicer clothes When when you could afford, you know skincare routine You're going to start to look better When it come time if you want you a little filler A little bow top you want you a little something and you can afford that you can look better You see what I mean? Sometimes we just broke But see when you get with somebody and they look Good enough to where you could look at them and say, um, they cute Or or they got natural beauty And y'all could get along spiritually emotionally And your conversation good your goals are similar your heart is the same You you you want the same thing out of life to be happy to be healthy to be whole To to be responsible You want that So guess what? Now y'all could be ill But we live in a society that's so superficial There were men picking women based on their booty and their beauty and then getting dogged out and now they hate all Now they hate all women Women picking men based on their money and they height and get dogged out and now they hate all men And that's holding us down And and now today it's becoming a war men versus women That's what it's becoming And everybody angry everybody mad And everybody is is you need to be perfect and and accept me me as I accept me as I am But you need to be everything I want. That's how we are today Instead of saying let me become the absolute best I can be and I hear people always say Oh, if somebody can't accept me At my words they don't deserve me at my best Why is that selfish because you're only thinking about yourself? What about that person prayers? Why do they have to accept you at your worst? But you don't want them at their worst You don't want nobody snag a tool sleeping on a no bridge You want you somebody that then got up Then said them a prayer then when it did whatever kind of work they could do to build themselves up To get them some help the go to that therapy to go to that coaching to get them a job To say they money you want them to build a self up and you want them to be in a place that is attractive to you But then we want to be here And be whatever we want to be and then want somebody To accept us. No, you got to get better They deserve you at your best and you deserve them at their best meaning The product where you at if you making consistent progress and you trying that's the best way you at but see If you complacent In your mind body and spirit Then you not at your best, but if you working on yourself right now wherever you are That's your best and then tomorrow you're going to be better and the next day you're going to be better And see this the thing And you got to be careful you got to be careful and you got to evaluate You got to evaluate Yourself you got to look yourself in the mirror You got to look yourself in the mirror. You got to see what you need to work on because what I see Is I see a lot of broken women And a lot of broken men coming together trying to have a whole relationship And it's not going to work. It's not going to work I see women with ridiculous preferences ridiculous preferences Oh 50,000 That's all he made. I was making 50,000 at 25 What I'm gonna do with 50,000 all Tony, what am I gonna do with 50,000 all Tony? Tony My toilet roll of paper cost 50,000 all I spent 50,000 all on toilet paper That's all I'm here. That's all And then here go to me Hey, man, I'm gonna tell you what man my woman got to be The next one I get with she got to be like lorry harvey She's got to look like lorry harvey I'm like Boy, you look like this microphone And you want the woman to look like lorry harvey And you look like somebody Choose you up spit you out pick you bike up Spit you out again and stepped on you and you want her to look and you want your woman to look like Her stepdad to make a hundred million dollars a year Or harvey got the monty To look like that that ain't natural That is the world's greatest makeup. That is the world's greatest body sculpting That is the world's greatest trainer. That is the world's greatest outfits That is the world's greatest perfume. That's the world's greatest healthcare. That's the world's greatest skincare That's the world's greatest everything That is that is not just Oh, just just popped out the womb looking like that Step daddy make a hundred million a year It's like come on But this we have unrealistic expectation a woman will fall in love With Michael B. Jordan and then won't demand up the street in her city to look like Michael B. Jordan Michael B. Jordan make 20 million dollars a movie He got all kind of trainers. He got a shelf dietician nutritionist. He that's how he got that 1416 pack of alps He can afford a body like that Your average everyday man not finna have nobody like that not not your average everyday man don't get facials Don't get massages every week. Don't have no face routine Don't have no personal trainer. Don't have no shelf. So he's not gonna look like your dream And it's the thing You have to think about that and you've got to be realistic and you got to stop you got to stop looking at what you see online And just desiring that because that's what you see online because you see somebody They could go on this trip go on that trip like listen people see my wife in the Maldives And there will be women who see my wife in the Maldives And they will want them a man who could take them to the Maldives, but guess what? My wife was in a apartment With no lights sometimes My wife was with me in an apartment and we didn't have living room furniture I could walk right through the living room do cartwheels and summer salts because there wasn't no furniture In our living room when my first son was born We was on food stamps. We was on wick We were down there Getting them wick You got to go get them dry cereal that ain't got no sugar on You got to get that that block of cheese You got to get them little can thing or semi like a baby food Then you get them food stamps They fluctuate one month. They want to give you 1200 the next month. They want to give you 56 dollars And then they want to come talk talk about we gave you too much we need to You need to pay us back Y'all work for the government How in the world I got to pay you back when you did the math So now we paying we were paying food stamp back for years I'm like my goodness So you see I'm saying so people will see Sherry Gaskin in Louis Vuitton And Gucci and D or and don't realize that my wife used to wear fake Coach purses from the swap meet in Webster, Florida That used to have a swap meet on Mondays Until the police come out there and everybody got to scramble and put all their fake coach Into the back of they trump and skid out of them And people see me as a successful author and life coaching speaker And is women who will say I want a man who is successful And don't realize my wife was with me when I was selling them fake purses At the trunk and didn't even know what I was selling I'm up there at university of south florida in temple florida In the parking lot walking through the parking lot parking lot. Hey I got cold person for sale. I got cold person for sale Straight out of china straight out of china Louis Vuitton Gucci coach straight out of china I remember a young lady said to me It was a sister. She said not from italy I said no girl from china I did not know that Louis Vuitton and all that stuff was made in Italy I was selling fake purses For 30 dollars Then I was at the multi-level marketing pyramid scheme meetings Signing up at everyone I went to and my wife had to look at me with a side eye Because I wanted to make it so bad And then I was going And I traded in my wife paid off Honda Civic That is worth good money Hust Honda Civic was paid off. It was only a few years old I traded it in for a raggedy C class Benz Because I went to the multi-level marketing pyramid scheme meeting And everybody showed all their riches and all their wealth And I signed up for prepaid legal And then nobody I know need that prepaid legal And I'm out here trying to sign people up for 16 dollars a month To have a lawyer that you could email and get a letter from and then nobody needed And I took and got a Mercedes Benz to look like I had money so I could fit in At the pyramid scheme meeting But women will look at me today And and and want a man that's at the same place And don't realize what my wife had to put up with But the thing about it is She didn't I was treating her right So I wasn't cheating on her I wasn't cursing her out I wasn't getting high As long as I left them streets selling drugs my wife was okay with me As long as I was going to be faithful and I was going to be honest and I wasn't going to be in the streets hustling Like I was she was willing to build with me So we and and that was her thing She was willing to build with me. So we went with no living room furniture We had a bed think about this if you are an adult and you have bought a mattress How much your mattress cost we had a bed the whole bed was 99 dollars Me and my wife was wrestling one day And I picked her up and throw her on the bed And the bed sunk all the way down through The mattress through the springs in between the mattress All the way down and hit her bike on the middle bed frame And bruised her spine That's how raggedy the bed was It was no cushion and we was playing That's how raggedy bed was that's that's where my wife come from So now she have a three thousand dollar mattress And it's the second one because the first one we thought we had a california king bed And we just got a king bed. So I paid $3,000 for a mattress and it did not fit because my wife thought we had a california king So I had to give that to my home boy My home boy sleeping on a 22 $2,300 mattress free of charge that he would have never bought or been able to afford because We ordered the wrong size And then we ordered us another one. So we went from a 99 dollar bed To being able to order two three thousand dollar mattresses. See here. This is why I try to tell y'all You're gonna have to start somewhere And you got to look at the person heart You got to look at the person heart and you got to be able to see Okay Do you have character? And your character is your currency Because I'm gonna tell you this And this is the other thing The men who leading the movements Of hating women are men who was overlooked and dogged out So a woman play a part in this and this was good women who overlooked them and dog them out So a woman play a part in this too So if you're raising a son if you're raising a daughter You got to be teaching your daughter when when it's time to date that character is currency Don't worry about the fact that the boy is on the He the star quarterback that don't make him boyfriend material Don't be desiring going to the prom with the boy just because he on the football team Go to prom with the boy who on the robotics team Who don't nobody know his name and he's sitting in the back of the class with them glasses on mind his business They throwing spitballs at him Tell your daughter who is a cheerleader Who is that That woman on the campus to go to prom with that boy Instead of reinforcing going to prom with the dog of an athlete that I was Because all he want to do is sleep with her and dog out because he got all the women chasing them And then we'll have mommas and dad is promoting their daughter Getting the star athlete and overlooking the boy who in the engineering club The boy who in the coding club the boy who in the robotics club because he too nerdy He too quiet. He too lame He was the same shoes all year He don't sag. He don't do this. He don't do that mom. He nerdy Yeah, I know I understand Yeah, now that boy over there girl, you know, he's gonna pro Uh-huh. I know his mama that boy come on pro girl. If you knew like I knew You wouldn't be doing like I did girl. I'm with your daddy. Your daddy broke Girl, you better start catching you some balls He play quarterback. All right. Let's start catching balls Girl if you knew like I knew it's mommas. That's doing that. So guess what? It's it's the little boy in the bike Who raised by with a single mama? All his mama could afford was the shacks from walmart He got them on But he being overlooked He being overlooked. Guess what? He being dolled out. He being mistreated So he grow up. He become a man. He go to work on wall street. He started to make him some money He started to make him some money. He started to learn how to dress Now Next thing, you know, he an image consultant Next thing, you know, he know how to dress next thing, you know, not grown women want them They didn't want them in the eighth grade. Now they want them at 30 and 40 35 40 But see he's still mad for how y'all treated them in middle school So first wife, she getting dolled out second wife She getting dolled out third wife. She getting dolled out the women still want them Because they don't know they don't check his relationship resume and that he's dogging women out because of his childhood pain Next thing, you know, this man end up on a youtube channel or with a podcast and he still hate women And the thing about it is because somebody raised their daughters to overlook the little the little scrawny Introverted nerdy looking boy that he was in the eighth grade So now as a grown man Instead of joining up with spider man He continued up with the green man with them long metal arms and they finna take over new york city Because now they the villains because they done been Down-trodden they done been overlooked. They done been mistreated They done been dogged out. So it's the same thing is Women y'all got to take responsibility in what you're doing in the culture because it's men Who will drink your dirty bath water out of a straw with a hole in it But you will treat him like the bubblegum on the bottom of your shoe Because you won't demand that's going to call you Monday Wednesday and Friday And you've got to chase and seek his approval And this what we're not realizing This what we're not realizing And so you have to pay attention to this And and it's a cycle everything feeding everything But everybody want their ego to be stroked everybody want their story to be told everybody want Everybody want to be the victim and everybody want to be able to blame somebody else And we got to look at each other in the mirror And the same thing with the men the men is getting on here at 11 years old 12 years old And they's watching nasty movies and they falling in love with this woman And now They get a good woman And and because this woman won't Drink everything that come out of his body And do all everything he want her to do like the woman on this video that he watched Now She's not good enough Now he won't her to turn tricks and do everything That the woman on the nasty movie be doing since he was 11 years old So now he take a good woman And she's not good enough And then so he go and get the woman who will perform the bedroom tricks that he won't perform Not realizing what that woman who will perform those tricks had to go through to learn those tricks And then when he get up pregnant and he cheat on him And she leave and she put him on child support Now he hate her Now he hate any man with her, but he chose her Because she was willing to do some strange for a piece of change Now Every good woman he get after that they got to pay the price because he was with a savage You see what I'm saying and this the cycle that we in So listen Say this help video watch this help video back and forth and look yourself in the mirror and evaluate yourself Because see a lot of people want the prize But don't want to run the race A lot of people want want to be the product But don't want the process And so that's why I tell people look it's it's unfair. I tell women it is unfair to compare your boyfriend to me Just because I'm online talking And I done built my brand and not realized that me and my me and my wife come from $20,000 a year When our bills was 2,500 a month our income was 1800. We lived in the negative We had the straddle bills We had the raw Peter to pay Paul We had the straddle bills to well, okay We're gonna pay this one this month and then next month We'll pay the next one right when we get the final notice and then the next month. That's the life. We had to live I remember being a grown man wearing fake Louis Vuitton shoes trying to look special I was I when I became a speaker I was doing speaking engagements and I was musky Because I had to wore that shirt so many times I couldn't afford to wash the shirt because I needed to wear it again Before it could get washed. That's how broke I was And somebody'll look at where you at today and they all of a sudden want that No No Can't can't can't have that like you got you gonna have to go through your own process I literally was speaking for the NBA And was musky The one who booked me she said i'm telling would you like a different shirt? I knew it because she smelled that must come from under my arms Because I hadn't wore that shirt so many times without washing the shirt was gray and up under my arm had turned gold So my shirt looked as silver and gold Have I none? And then I was on the stage talking to millionaires 60 draft picks and I told them I got more money than anybody in this room got And I ain't have enough money to get back home You see you know I'm saying so you can't look at the the product and and forget the process And that's what I try to tell people you you have to Be in your in your story in your life. You got to look at where you at You got to see what's for you because I'm gonna tell you one thing. I'm gonna tell you one thing Who you end up with That's a reflection of you And that's one thing we don't we don't realize The market gonna give you what you deserve You're gonna get what you deserve You will be paid based on the value that you bring If you bring three hundred thousand dollars worth of value to a company They're gonna have to pay you at least half of that or they got to make some profit They're not gonna pay you twenty thousand if you bring a three hundred thousand worth of value But guess what? And start looking at these contracts when you'll see like like the point guard then astro He said he won a hundred million the people off of him 84 million. He turned it down because he won a hundred What is 16 million dollars when you got 84? The boy turned it down thought he was better than he was and I don't nobody want That's the same thing we doing in relationships. You get somebody who on your level And y'all could build together But you're smelling yourself You're smelling yourself And you think you're better than that person So you kicked them to the curb and they wanted you They wanted you and wanted to do right by you But you thought you were better than them so you kicked them to the curb and now You got to deal with everything else that's left out here and that person who was a good person then gone about their life and got married Don't let it happen again Don't let it happen again You better recognize where you at and what level you on and what you attract them And you got to see where you at You got to see what you got And and realize because a lot of time we think we're better than we are And I will have and I remember having Men and women that I was coaching And I'd be coaching women And they'll be saying, you know, I just know I'm a good catch. I know I'm a great catch I'm like, oh really? Okay Um, well, you know how many You know, as far as dating and like being in a sexual relationship, like how many men have you been with? Well, honestly, Tony, I stopped counting in between like 50 to 60 Oh Okay, uh, and uh half old are you? 30 Oh And you're gonna slept with 60 men Uh, okay. Okay You know, we live in a no judgment zone. No judgment society, but um You know, that's subjective if you meet a man who has only been with five women and you've been with 60 men He might not see you as a catch as a great catch But sometimes we'll think that we more or that we better than And really the underlying thing was the one who won a man with money and It's like if you want a man with money, just say you want a man with money Start hollering about you a good catch And start hollering by, you know, you can't find a man and just say you can't find a man with the amount of money that you want Because it's me and I down So just say you can't find a man with the amount of money that you want Or you can't find a man as tall as you want him to be or that is As handsome as you want him to be but the man I don't know You're gonna meet him But do you want him? Question is do you want him? See what I'm saying and vice versa Our and I said I was telling about this on the video. I remember talking to a guy and this guy was He's shorter than me And he weighed twice what I weigh And I remember telling him um I said well, bro, you know Why don't you Be okay with a woman that You know a look closer to your size like got a little meat on her bones, you know, because typically people understand What they have so if a woman got a little meat on her bones, she's gonna understand how you got meat on your bones But all you want is slim and petite women What what what you trying to say So you want me to be with you want to be with a big woman So what you want us to start a grease fire I'm like, what do you mean? I'm like so So so you discriminate on her because of her body And you don't want her to discriminate on you because of your body I'm not understanding. I'm this is this is not making sense to me. I'm not understanding how you don't want your equal He literally said a grease fire I'm like, wow And then I talked to a woman I remember talking to a woman Who also was twice my weight And she wanted a man that was half her weight And I said, well, how is that fair to the man? Like if you're not attracted to you somebody with your body How you expect him to be attracted to your body if you're not attracted to your body So if you say your body is not nice Then why you expecting a man To want to be with you if you don't want you And so this what happens we come in with these false narrative the preconceived preferences these industry standard preferences And so this is what happened. This is what happened The big guy End up with a woman Who was slim She's an absolute savage And she knows that he a big guy And that a lot of women don't necessarily want a big guy that is also broke But The little bit of money he got will do for her And so she all in Because she just got done sleeping on a towel in her auntie extra room And so this man got apartment She had her somewhere to stay So he but because she's slim He'll get an absolute savage because that's all he won't then The woman who didn't like her body and she want a man that's half her weight She will end up with a man Who want her for her money? Because the same way she not attracted to her body He not attracted to her body either but he attracted to her stability and her income And so now Both of them got what they wanted But Don't even realize that it was for the wrong reasons And see this the thing when we come in With these preferences without tapping into real standards and checking ourselves Hey, so this the thing You got to look at your preferences You got to look at yourself. You got to look at what you're working what you're working with And you got to understand where you are And we're going to attract what we are And what I mean by that is not everybody who approached you because Even a state going to attract a fly So it ain't just booboo that attract flies stake attract flies too for let me know attract flies lobster Lobster tail attract flies. So it ain't just who approach you It's who you willing To settle down with that's going to be a reflection of you And so you got to know who you are and where you are And then you got to realize if You get your preferences But you are not their preferences and you know the standard preference of this type of person Then you got to understand you got to really look into okay. Why do they why does this person want me? Because normally this person right this type of person here don't like this type of person here Hmm Do I got a bag on me? Do I got some stability that this person need? A lot of times i'm gonna tell you when I see I evaluate people and I look at relationships see This is a thing a lot of times what I see is I see a woman who is She got a full body Meaning that She may not Be healthy or she may not be all the way comfortable And a lot of times I would see that woman with a man who built like this See men loved a man want to be In a position of power So a man want to be able to lift that woman up Put her on his shoulders a man want to be able to lift that woman up carry her down the aisle So this woman typically gonna attract naturally a man that's bigger and stronger than her When you see this woman and she got a and she full size and this man is like this right here A lot of time this man don't have a pot to pee in or a window to throw it out of But this woman got a nice apartment or a nice house She got she got her nice car with her 20s on them. She got a good paying job and she getting a raise every year This man is making music in her closet while she at work Because he got a record and he can't get no job other than The warehouse but he can't get to the warehouse because she got to be the work And don't have the time to get him to the warehouse. So he end up living off of her He living off of her or he go get on a job and he cheat on her with somebody his size So when you look when you start to really evaluate how these things come together You start to look at it. Then you will see this man Who looked like the The bottom of a remote And he will be with a woman who looked like god hand chiseled her And when you look at it that woman is all beauty and look very little brains And this man got a bag on him that could take care of her her mama her sister's And everything and he think he looked good because his money then got to his head Really this lady was looking for a man who she know Body is not desirable by most women but he got bread And she needs some bread To eat and to spend And now so you will see these mismatch these mismatch relationships And then a lot of times when you see the relationships that actually end up working The husband and the wife look like siblings They look similar to each other And which y'all need to stop saying that about me and my wife Because we're not the same complexion. So stop trying me but see when you naturally Go for where your level That person gonna look like you Me and my wife we built by the same and we look by the same our nose our cheeks This is looks compatible So you have to pay attention to when some when a couple not looks compatible What else is in the water? And see a lot of people don't realize that what else is in the water Me and my wife we got the same body Neither one of us got abs Both of us got a little flat that we want to get rid of And we could hide it under a shirt We got the same kind of body We got the same kind of looks You see what I'm saying? And so we It fit and I had to realize that because I could have looked at a woman who was Coke bottle But if if I'm not over six foot That woman that got that absolute perfectly chiseled Greek Greek sculpture shape She won't her six foot two six foot four man She don't want no five two man So I had to realize that And so now if she all of a sudden want me when I got money because guess what? The women that had everything perfect from head to toe. They never wanted me They never wanted me because I was too short But see now That I'm earning money if I was single Them type of women They'll be open to it now that I got my bag up but see my wife who According to society standards. She was beautiful, but she didn't have that coat bottle shape That the world prays So guess what the superficial men they overlook her The pro athletes and stuff that was getting ready to go pro. We was d1 The ones that look decent and they get ready to go pro they overlook her The the women that people say, you know was perfect. They overlooked me We looked at each other And realized we're on the same level We could build together certain people in the world going to overlook us And we don't want them they don't want us or we shouldn't want them Let's build together And that's what couples not doing women looking for men with money And men looking for a woman with a booty And so that's the thing somebody said your wife gorgeous. Yeah, she gorgeous But the person you see is not the same person that I met The person that you see in me today is not the same person. She met we grew together So you got to understand that you you're gonna look better When you build together and you build and you get money And now you can go get a facial that costs 300 dollars every four weeks When you could go get a hair get your hair done and it costs Whatever it need to cost when you could go get your nails done every week when you could Have a face routine a face care routine that costs three four thousand dollars That's gonna have your skin popping that without that Without that right there you're gonna look different. So we both had to choose each other And that's why I try to get people to understand like be realistic in your expectations and know where you are When you when you get with somebody and stop seeking approval The reason why so many people can't find a relationship is because we're seeking approval We want somebody who looks better than us Instead of somebody that's on our level We want somebody who is better than us Because if we can get them it'll make us feel good about ourselves So a lot of times Everybody in the school From the quiet woman the quiet girl who sit in the back of the class To the star cheerleader all of them want the quarterback From the guy who sit in the back of the class who was quiet and get bullied To the star quarterback want the star cheerleader Everybody want the same person And everybody can't have the same person and the person that everybody want Got a line of people that want them And that person is only that person Because of societal constructs and the media has said this look is the look that's in style And so we allow society to tell us what look good and what is what is unattractive And then that's what we want And then we will ignore completely a person's heart their integrity and their character if they don't fit the societal norms of what we call attractive And that's what is got so many people single and unhappy because they don't want their level They want a level up And they don't want to do what it takes to get to that level And the other people who are realistic and single is simply because of timing It's just life happening in seasons. So you got to know if you single and you ready It's just a matter of time. You got to stay consistent. You got to keep your accountants pure happy whole You got to keep pressing forward because God ain't gonna put more on you than you should bear So if you single and you ready and you realistic about who you want to be with and you okay with being somebody On your level and you're not seeking somebody on another level. Then guess what? You are not meeting that person right now because it's other work that you need to be focusing on Your books need to be produced Your your company need to be produced your next company need to be produced. You still could work while you wait Don't sit idle and get mad with God keep working on you Because it's always something better something else you could be doing keep working on you and know that it's coming when it's supposed to come And that's what you got to realize. That's what you got to understand So hey, thank you all to my moderators helping me out in here um grabbing, you know Stuff and posting stuff in here. I appreciate you and hopefully y'all could listen Back to the video. Um, I know you can't do two things at once So for those of y'all typing you miss something and and if you read and you miss something So make sure you could go back and get the hill mess and get this in your spirit My sushi done got cold. Y'all don't let my sushi get cold now. Come on now. Let's see here. This is the thing I'm gonna feel sacrificing The shadows here were on this good sundae now my sushi cold and for a country boy like me I need that thing to be hot because I don't eat the raw I eat the cooked sushi So I need a thing to be hot because I barely could get through it now I eat it trying to be bougie now. I'm trying to feel bougie Trying to get to a place the way I could be bougie And not be a country bumpkin And so now y'all don't let my sushi get cold and now I got to go ahead and try to fight through it So make sure you listen back to this hill message get this in your spirit At its own gas and god bless you. We'll talk soon