 why are narcissists always so mad they're always mad they're always angry they will turn molehills into mountains they will fight and scream they will blame you and you will wonder what you did to make them so mad because it seems like such an irrational response it seems like it's not based on logical reasons or clear thinking if you do anything for yourself if you try to make your life better in any way or you achieve something they will cut you down they will minimize it they will act like something is wrong with what you're doing they will have a problem with everything you will feel like you can't do anything right but it really has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them they feel like they're losing control because you're making your own choices and decisions which they see as a threat to their authority because they want to make choices and decisions for you but when you do that for yourself it makes them mad because it's outside of their control which is why they will act like there is something wrong with the choices you make there is something wrong with your decision-making because then it strips you of your power to act and it puts them in control of you which is what they want they want to be your only source of influence which is why they will try to isolate you they won't want you around other people they won't want you to have friends or to spend time with family if you do that it will make them mad and then they will start telling you what to do they will try to regain their control over you because when you're away from them you have time to think about yourself you have time to think about what you want you have time to feel peace you have time to feel safe which is something that they will never get to feel they don't experience true love and happiness they're never at rest which is why they're always seeking supply which is why they can't stand to see you feeling relaxed and safe it triggers them it makes them angry it makes them envious and jealous it makes them feel like they're losing control of themselves and their own lives which is why they don't want you to make your own choices and decisions they want you to be their slave so that you can provide them with a sense of security and stability they want you to surrender to them and be whatever they want you to be because that's the only way they can feel like they're in control and if you don't do that they will be mad which is another way for them to control you because then you don't feel safe and they cannot feel safe unless you feel unsafe so they have to keep you walking on eggshells so that they can feel like they're in control thank you for watching I hope this video resonates with you please like comment share and subscribe if you would like to donate my PayPal link is in the video description coaching inquiries you can email me at coaching at naksa5er.co.uk thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon