 So I have a great question today, and it's about the feeling of being lazy and where that comes from kind of a personal history for for one of the people that contacted me and Of course this ties in greatly with procrastination a topic I talk about a lot here on this little channel and Of course, I think procrastination has nothing to do with laziness if you've seen of any of my other videos before I get into this question If you do want to follow up on procrastination and learn how to not procrastinate anymore it is so simple to do and One of the best investments you'll ever take will be to just solve this issue and it can be solved for you within a day or two So follow that link below in this video if you're interested in that it will be one of the best investments You'll ever make in your life Everything will change for you in terms of your goals and your well There are other things to achieve after your goals to after your miss Maybe your personal productivity goals and getting that area sorted. It can be a huge help So that's there, but I'm going to answer this question today because You know the course isn't for everyone and I want to answer some questions for people who maybe don't take the course So this question starts. I can't shake the feeling that I'm just lazy It's just an inner feeling that seems so real to me Yeah Yeah, it's a belief believes feel real. That's what makes the beliefs for sure So my dad who is no longer I no longer have a good relationship with used to accuse me of this of being lazy When I was growing up It bothered me then and even now in the face of abundant evidence to the contrary. I still feel lazy So In the course I talk about the formation of beliefs where these beliefs come from and this is exactly what it is It's an early Routed a seed takes hold at an early stage and it gets rehearsed And it finds all sorts of evidence and later on even if there's contrary evidence to it It sticks and without questioning and examining and uprooting that belief and getting rid of it It'll always be there. You know, it'll stay there even if you do amazing things in your life, which it sounds like this person has done Okay, so So I still feel lazy. I Work all the time. In fact, I feel uneasy When I'm not working So the fact that you now feel uneasy when you're when you're when you're not working It's it's it's pointing to perhaps What they call a subpersonality you've developed In other words when you felt uncomfortable when you were younger With being labeled with that lazy tag, right? Well, that was very difficult and you then go on to a subpersonality, which is the exact opposite of that and When you can't rely on that which is when you're relaxing in things with something that doesn't fit into that mold of that subpersonality of the maybe the hard worker Well, those feelings of anxiety or insecurity start to maybe resurface. So that's maybe one way of thinking about this to begin with So I feel uneasy when I'm not working. It's very difficult for me to switch off work mode I'm relatively successful and I wish I could enjoy my success more. Absolutely But there's there's this constant impulse to keep going to do more all the time It feels like I've never done enough It's a feeling like if I take my foot off the gas something bad will happen And I'll lose what I've managed to achieve This is this is where work all ism comes from it's driven by insecurity and This is also for many people where procrastination comes from it's that label of not being good enough or insecurity about being called lazy or any other label when you you've been Accused of or labeled with when you were younger Leads all sorts of self-esteem issues and self-confidence issues and that is what especially self-esteem issues and It drives this thing of procrastination either it drives you into working yourself to the point where you you can't switch off or Become so overwhelming you actually start to use procrastination as a weapon to belittle yourself unconsciously because the belief is unconscious So I know it makes no sense, but why can't I get rid of the feeling? Okay So I want you to think about something here. What was was thrown at you when you were younger? It was a concept Okay, so If you sit with that for a while, you will begin to notice something very interesting Your belief is not that Your behavior is lazy Notice that it's never that you're saying to yourself my behavior is lazy Even in those moments when you're relaxing or something the belief will always say something like You are lazy So from your point of view will sound like well, I'm lazy. I Am lazy So really it's it's basically pointing to there's a core Fundamental existential belief that you at your core as a person forget your behavior are lazy Right, and there's nothing you can do Behaviorally that will shake that because it's not attached to your behavior. It's attached to your identity Okay, that's who we if we're told that often in office as children or a young person That's who we think we are Fundamentally you understand, okay And that's then where we go into this thing of the subpersonality or the false image, right? or another word for it might be your persona and That persona is all a reaction against that initial Pain or emotional insecurity and it is the exact opposite of that. Okay. Now. What'll happen is you either fully in You actually embrace it and it starts to take over which it has for you Or for many people who procrastinate and don't actually follow through on become more colleagues They find themselves chasing a persona like that Okay Now whether or not you're chasing it or you're living it in any case It's it's not really who you are as a person. It's it's a it's a response to a Situation you shouldn't have faced when you're younger ideally, okay? I'm not saying that you're a victim necessarily of this or anything like that, right? That's that's not what I'm saying But in an ideal world you wouldn't have been treated like that Okay, and in a healthy society young people wouldn't be talked to in those ways so What I want you to start to do is Realize who who is it that's saying this? It's the it's not even you that believes the the belief that I'm lazy. It's the subpersonality It's the false image of yourself that actually says it. I know that's weird, right? But you Existentially as a as a human being It makes no sense that you could be lazy. It's a false image or a persona a defense mechanism, right? coping strategy That believes it's a lazy Or it's it's not doing enough So you can start to just watch that well and ask yourself a question Who is saying this? Like if it's not my behavior that's lazy then what's lazy me How could I have my core be lazy? That just doesn't make any sense Now logically it doesn't make any sense that you at your core as a human being could be just lazy, right? inherently But that's what the belief is saying and You begin to realize if you just sit with that and start to notice it how How crazy it is You know the person I bet when you were younger your father maybe and it's sorry to hear that you don't have a good relationship with him, but He he probably never said, you know, your behavior is lazy. You're demonstrating a lazy behavior It was no you're lazy. You are a lazy person So this is where the belief comes from now That doesn't make any sense because clearly you've demonstrated now anyway that you're not but the belief is still there so That's kind of too abstract what I've said so far what I will say is this what you need to start doing is Okay, the subpersonality is this this guy who never stops working and you feel very insecure when you come out of that, right? So that's what you're attracted to because you believe that gives you safety now That's you what you could call your persona, right? The now the the the The tricky part with that is every persona has a shadow, right? And the shadow part of that is while you're lazy and we don't want to look at that because it's painful and it's rooted in trauma So we just deny that and we repress it and we keep it out of our awareness and we seek to be this person this persona, right? Two parts to the solution in this is to really start to Challenge that that thought that we don't want to look at which is I'm lazy And lots of things you can do without just really start to question that belief. That's that's one of the essential parts to this Because it'll never get questioned if we don't look at it. That's how it it sustains itself because we never we don't want to look at it, right? Start to look at that and really start to question that Is it true and do that habitually and then also look at start to question what you believe this persona is and Why you're attracted so much to being this hard-working person, okay? And it's not that you necessarily have to drop the idea of I'm a hard worker because that seems like it's helpful to you All you need to do with that part of it is reinterpret what it means to be a hard worker So right now really secretly what's going on is hard work really means Sacrifice yourself drive yourself into I hope what isn't an early grave, but this is what happens to a lot of people, right? Push yourself never relax. Don't give yourself a day off. Don't have any self-care or downtime. That's really what that persona demands a Reinterpretation of so you can still say look, I'm a very hard-working person But to start to reinterpret what it means to be a hard-working person Hard-working person is yep. I'm responsible. I get things done and I take time off Proactively because it's important and it keeps me and it's one of the keeps me productive and it's one of the reasons why I'm so productive and successful, okay? So you don't have to drop it necessarily you do have to drop the belief in laziness though and that'll have to be questioned over time So You know in the procrastination course I talk a lot about the formation of beliefs and I talk about how you can start to challenge those beliefs now It's not that hard Anybody can understand it and anybody can do it and it sounds like maybe you're getting to the point where you're thinking to yourself I'm fed up with this I want to start enjoying my success a little bit more and that's exactly where you want to be with this Then you're ready to say look this so personality or is persona that I used for for many years Maybe it did help me. Okay. There's nothing wrong with that. It did help me but now I need to start to Reinterpret it and let it go and let it take a day off every now and then okay because it's going to bring you back into Your genuine personality because there's nothing authentic really about that It'll just drive and drive and drive and never give you any time to yourself What we're looking for is who you are and a part of that is of course I'm a hard-working person Dropping that idea of laziness because that's not who you are, right? It's it's a very childish Label that came from someone else's insecurity and not your own so Definitely There's some work to maybe start doing on that and it's work for all of us to do You know, we all have these person so personalities these personas and we all have the shadow part of it This is just this is just how it looks for you, but we all have different ones and So much liberation when you start to question them So I really hope that was helpful and really good question and again, if you have a question Just send me an email and if I can answer it if I think I have anything helpful to say on it, I'll See what we can do Take care and talk with you in the next video. Bye for now