 gael i chi wedi siwr cerddus ar nasysys. Rydyn ni'n gwneud am yr wych yn gyfyddo cyfnod rhai rwy'n gwneud y partyb ofy sy'n gallu ei wneud ymlaen i gael i chi'n gwybod. Na ddim yn ymes bod du'n tyfn Ychydig yn ei sèw am gwasanaeth Rhyn ni'n defnyddio Roeddwn yn ddod yn ei chael Nid i ydym amlaen nhw Nid, nhw'n emig Gwaeth eich sèw i'w gwneud Ac nid yw eich ymlaen i'r lle Yn ychyn ni'n lle o'r lle o'r lle A'r lle i'r lle o'r lle i'r lle? Two Ychyn wedi'u ar gyfer mae'n gwrth oed o'r oeddiad, ac yn cyd-rhyw ar gyfledd ac oeddwn yn cael ei ddweud o ddwynguol, ac mae'n cael ei ddullus o'ch cyd-rhyw o'r oeddiad, ac mae'n cael ei ddweud o'r oeddiad, oherwydd, mae'n gwych ar gwell, ac mae'n cael ei ddweud o'r oeddiad. Mae'r cymddiadau y ffordd yn hyn oedd ymddiadau ymddangos. Mae'n bach yma mewn ein gweithio a'r amser yn ymddiadau. Mae'n ddwyf yn cael bod ddrago'r cyfreithio a'r ysgrifennidol i ymddiadau. Mae hynny'n gwaith yma yma, dwi'n cael ei bod yn cael ei gweithio i'r ffordd fel wasysol. a'r ddweud hynny yn gallu dwi'n mynd i'w gweithio am y dyfodol yma. A dyma'r ffordd o'r cymryd rydyn ni wedi'i gwybod yma, yma'r cymryd ar y llyfr yw ddweud hynny, maen nhw'n mynd. Yn oed yn ddwy i chi'n gwybod i'ch gweithio. Ac rwyf wedi bod nhw'n mynd i'r llaw o ymddi. A rwyf wedi bod nhw'n mynd i'r llaw o ymddi a oedd yw'r llaw. Ac rwyf wedi gwych arni nhw'n mynd ymddi, rwyf wedi gwych arni nifer a'r llaw o'r hyn o'r sysymau yw'r llaw i ddoffan a'r hyffaith. Rwyf wedi bod oedd yn ddifenio chi'n mynd i gydigoloddiol. Ac rwyf wedi bod nhw'n mynd i gydigoloddiol roedd y ffordd o'r hyffaith sy'n gyfaint o'r hyffaith Dwi'n cael ei fyw peth. Dwi'n cael ei fyw peth yn sechwedd? Dwi'n cael ei wneud? Dwi'n cael ei wneud? Nod, Ffynir yn ei wneud o'r gwrth o'r rhai. A ti'n cael ei fod yn hyn oedd, ti'n gweithio, ti'n gweithio, As they use you, as they exploit you for their own gain and you're just laying there like an object you assume you're expected to be an emotional and responsive to shut yourself off and in your mind something is telling you this is bad, this is wrong. And it's like you're having the life sucked out of you. You don't feel good about it at all. Because you know you understand that this person is not connecting to you and his empaths yes we do know that that is wrong. Because when you are intimately involved with someone there should be a connection. I'm not going to go into it too much about religion and sex before marriage and all of these things. I mean I understand a lot of us here we are older and yeah the main thing that I want to drive home in this one is it's about what you want. What you're looking for when you decide to have sex with someone. I mean I'm sure none of you really want to have sex with someone who is self-absorbed. They can't even see you. They don't even know who you are. They don't even connect to you on a deeper level. And some of you may think oh that's okay as long as it's pleasurable. But is it really pleasurable at the end of it? Do you really feel good about yourself? It feels good for them to know that they got one over on you. They tricked you. Maybe they made you do things you didn't really want to do. They got you caught up in something. Of course that feels good for them. But what about you? You got exploited. You got taken advantage of. Maybe it ruins your life. So how can it feel good for you? Because no one really wants to be used and exploited. No one wants to be taken advantage of but not for real. Of course yes. Some of us we may like to role play. There's nothing wrong with that as I said in a previous video. But when it's happening for real that is a different story. If someone is just literally getting off at your expense. You feel humiliated. You feel like something just got robbed from you. And this is why I say do not have sex with narcissists. As I said there's nothing wrong with having sex of course. There's nothing wrong with that at all. That's a good thing. And it's something that we should all desire to experience. It's not something you should repress or shut off. It's not something you should be shamed for wanting to do. It's perfectly okay. It just depends on who you're doing it with. And I should just think back and remember what is the purpose of having sex with someone. It's about connection. It's about developing some form of intimacy with someone. It's not about just being treated like an object used and exploited. It's not about that at all. It's very painful. When you have been sex with someone and you just see it in their eyes it's like they're not even there. They're in some other world of their own. They're not connecting to you. I don't want to get into too much detail about it but I think we all know what I mean when I say that. They're not affectionate. You don't feel like your body is being loved. Cherished. Respected. You just feel like some useless object whose only use is just to be taking advantage of exploited by the other person. Who's just using you for their own satisfaction but as we know as well. They seem to have these insatiable desires that can never be fulfilled. So they use you like an object and then they've got someone else on the side probably. Because it's never enough for them. They always need more. And there's just no connection whatsoever. You're having sex but you don't feel anything. And that is a problem. That is a serious issue. Because when you have sex with someone you should want and desire to feel something. Especially with us because we do have the tools to experience a genuine connection. Narcissus. No. They cannot do that. They cannot experience these things in the way that we do. So in some ways they don't really have a choice. They have to settle for just objectifying people. I mean it's all about your body. You're just like the sexual object. You don't feel like they're looking into your eyes. They're connecting with you. You don't feel like they're seeing you. It's like you're not even there. And this. Well this is very damaging to your mind. When you're being objectified like that when someone is having sex with you. And you feel like they're not even connecting with you as a person. It just makes you feel invisible. It makes you feel like you don't matter. It affects your self-esteem. And when that happens if you continue with this type of behaviour. You're saying that it's okay not only to the narcissist that you're dealing with but also to yourself. Which means that yes you may go on and continue with this type of behaviour as it continues to affect your self-esteem. And causes you to feel shame about yourself as though you are unworthy. Because everyone thinks like this underneath. That if I'm worth anything. If I am lovable. Then why can this person not connect to me. That's how it's going to make you think even if it's just subconsciously. You are going to have this belief inside your mind. And the more that you have sex with a narcissist person the more that it's going to fuel that belief. And then it's going to keep you stuck in this trauma bond with them. Where you may even become delusional to the point where you're having sex with them for validation. It's not even validation at all about you as a person. They're just objectifying you. They're not connecting to you as you actually are. They're not connecting to your soul. And yes I know that is what you really want. So yes this is something to be aware of. Something that you must understand. Because you are training yourself into thinking that this is normal. That sex is just this act where there's no real exchange back to you. Where you're giving them your validation. Which as we all know yes narcissists they do want that. It affects how they feel about themselves. But what about you? What are you getting out of it? Do you feel loved? Do you feel appreciated? And if not then you need to cut it off. I know we all like to have fun sometimes and there's nothing wrong with that. We all like to have sex. Yes I enjoy doing that myself as well. But at some point we need to wake up and realise and ask ourselves does this feel good? And if it doesn't feel good then why am I doing it? Why am I doing it if it doesn't feel good? And what you need to do is move more in the direction of things that do make you feel good. Things that make you feel better about yourself. Where you have the ability, the option to share an intimate connection with someone. Because otherwise you're just going to be left feeling unfulfilled. Used like this toy, this object. Feeling unworthy, unlovable. And that's not going to be good for you, it's not going to be good for anyone around you. Because when that happens to us we're just going to go and take that energy out into the world and it will affect everyone else around us. When you have sex with someone that you love and with someone that you know who loves you as well. You will feel good about yourself. You will feel satisfied. And you will want to go out into the world and share your love and happiness with everyone else. Yes you will want to go out and do that. Because when we feel good about ourselves on the inside it affects how we treat other people on the outside as well. As within, so without. And that is why I encourage you. Those of you who are watching this video right now. Those of you who are able to receive this information. Yes. Do not have sex with narcissists. People who are self-absorbed and lack empathy. People who cannot connect to you on a deeper level. And you will recognise it following the intimate or sexual act that you were engaged in. You will feel like you've lost a part of your soul. You may feel guilt, you may feel shame. You may experience low self-esteem. And if you don't know yet none of these things are normal. None of these things are normal. When you have sex with someone that you love, someone that you are intimately involved with and they are intimately involved with you. You will feel incredible. You will feel amazing. It will boost your self-esteem. It will make you feel like you can go out and take on the world. It will make you feel amazing. And that's what we want. We want people to enjoy these intimate acts. We don't want people to leave unfulfilled to where they've been drained of their energy or they've taken some energy out into the world. No, we don't want that to happen. The whole point of this video, it's designed to educate and inform you to make the right decisions for yourself. And also for the people around you as well. Those of you who you desire to get married, to have children, you desire to do all of these things. But you can't just go out and do those things. You have to bring the right energy to them. And that's why I want to speak about this with Narcissus. Because when you have sex with them, they are not bringing the right energy to you. It's like they're not bringing anything to you at all, they're taking away from you. And you literally feel like there's a part of you missing after you've had sex with them. And I can tell you, from my experience, it is not supposed to be like that at all. When I have sex with someone, it feels very good afterwards. If it was with the right person. I don't feel any guilt, I don't feel any shame. In fact, I feel very proud of myself, I feel like I've accomplished something. I feel like I've done the right thing. And that's what you really have to pay attention to is that energy. The energy, how does it feel following the act, following the engagement with the person that you are intimately involved with. You should not feel sad, you should not feel unhappy, you should not feel completely drained of your life and energy. I mean, you might feel a bit tired shortly afterwards, yes, I can understand that. But with time you should regain your energy and you should feel more stronger and more powerful than before. Because this is an exchange. It is an exchange of energy on a spiritual level. Unless, of course, you are dealing with a narcissist. Because if you are dealing with someone like that, there's going to be a problem. You're going to be giving your energy out, but you're not going to be getting any energy back in exchange. So you're going to be the one getting the short end of the stick. You're going to feel depleted. And, yeah, I mean, that's all there is to say. It's not going to feel any good for you. So, yeah, as I said, I mean, I don't really want to divert anyone away from having sex. Of course, that's not what this video is intended to do. On this channel, yes, we do promote love, connection, intimacy, relationships. We promote all of these things with the right people, of course. People who are not self-absorbed, people who do have empathy, people who can share your feelings and experience, people who can connect to you on an intimate level, people who can do all of those things. If they can do those things, then, yes, you shouldn't have any problem having sex with them. There will be an exchange of energy and it will boost your self-esteem. It will make you feel much better about yourself, more confident. And you will feel like you can take on the world like you've just done the impossible. Yes, that will give you an incredible feeling. But with narcissists, no, you will not get that feeling from them. So, yeah, this video is about taking accountability, self-reflection, going within ourselves and recognizing how we feel after certain engagements and situations, especially following sexual acts. Yes, pay attention to how you feel. Ask yourself, does this feel good? Does this feel bad? Does this feel right? Does this feel wrong? A nine out of ten times the reason why it feels wrong is because the person that you're dealing with lacks empathy. They have an inability to connect to you. That is why it feels wrong. That is why you feel guilty. That is why you feel shame. That is why it's harming you, it's affecting your self-esteem. That's pretty much always the reason why, because they have an inability to connect. They lack empathy. And that is the whole point of it. So, yeah, that's all I've got to say for this video. I hope you enjoyed it. I hope it was helpful for you. And if it was, as always, you can show your support by giving this video a thumbs up down below. 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