 So I received an email from this guy a little bit a time ago But he's basically saying that he has a problem. So I asked him what his problem was and it's basically when he brings girls home at night He has no problem during the make-out when they're getting close But as soon as he brings them back home and the pants are coming off He can't get hard and this has happened a number of times and he's actually done the no-fab thing He's done that for months. Okay, so, you know, why is this happening? I've actually talked to a lot of guys with this problem where they have done the no-fab and they feel like this is the number one thing That should be curing my erectile dysfunction and it doesn't so this is kind of a frustrating thing because that's for a lot of Guys, that's the reason why they get into no-fab in the first place So why isn't it working? Well, the simple answer is is that no-fab doesn't solve all your problems Okay, it solves a lot of them I think the no-fab movement is a really really good movement something that's come out of you know all this Over stimulation we get from the modern-day lifestyle But I think it tends to over promise and under deliver for certain areas now If you're having problem getting hard bringing chicks home There's a reason for this. There's a mental insecurity. There's a confidence issue going on that you need to solve And it may or may not be related to your masturbation habits Okay, so obviously I'm not saying that pornography doesn't change your mind I'm not saying that jerking off a lot affects your stimulation It does but it's not the whole picture the whole picture encompasses everything So for this type of guy, it was kind of interesting to hear the way he described it He described it. He was having it was totally fine with the make-out He was getting hard when they were making out when they were kind of getting cozy in the club They were you know, his dick was doing fine. It was upright. It was ready to go But as soon as he brought her home and the pants started coming off That's when things started to happen now Obviously when he's taking off when he's taking off his pants and he's naked and he's showing his dick There's a little bit of insecurity there Maybe there's a little bit of nerves happening and I know he's not the only guy out there where this is happening too So there's a saying in the pick-up community and there's a saying in like, you know The dating seduction or whatever you want to call it and that's that the first time you bring a really hot girl Or a girl that you think is really hot home a lot for a lot of guys They can't get hard and the reason why is because they're nervous. They're scared They're they've never done this before and so they don't really feel confident doing it So how do you get confident doing something that you've never done? If you've never done it, you know It's a really tough place to be because you're nervous that you've never done it and because of that You keep getting nervous and the more you get in your head the more it feeds into the anxiety The more it feeds into the stress and the worst the problem gets My advice stop all this relax. This is totally normal Well, you need to start focusing on is you need to start focusing on the things that actually start turning you on What actually makes you hard when you think about that sort of stuff where you do you feel some blood flowing? Do you feel something happening down there? What sorts of things do you think about where that actually happens now? It might surprise you the types of things that Actually turn you on as opposed to what you think would turn you on because we were all raised to believe That we want a certain thing and I think for a lot of guys out there We're taught to believe that oh we want this kind of sex and that's enough for us But it turns out if you look at actually what this guy was telling me He said he had no problem getting hard when they were making out When they were close to each other he likes intimacy he likes feeling comfort But he doesn't like to feel shame and there's a lot of shame that guys have around their dick There's a lot of shame that guys have around sex They don't want to approach and they don't want to tackle we kind of shove that stuff underneath the carpet We don't really want to talk about it We don't really ask ourselves these questions. We don't really ask ourselves what turns us on We just assume it's the same thing that you know, we've been watching in the pornos or we've been We've been brought up to believe like You know the natural stuff so Ask yourself these questions and then once you know the stuff that actually makes you Horny the stuff that actually turns you on and gives you that rush and you feel blood flowing to that area Then start with those things. Okay, I guarantee you for a lot of guys out there You might be in the same position as this dude where you feel like oh I have no problem when we're making out at the club But when I bring them home and the pants come off nothing's happening. We'll start with that When you bring the girl home when you're in that situation try and make out with them a little bit more Spend more time doing the sorts of stuff. That's actually turning you on Wait until you finally get hard and then move on to the other stuff So a lot of times guys they automatically assume that you know They're just gonna be ready to go as soon as they see tits in an ass Soon as the girl's naked it's gonna happen. There's a lot of psychology going on There's a lot of moods and women are much more attuned to this than men are but just because they're more attuned to it Doesn't mean that it doesn't happen for men as well. So start asking yourselves these questions And start trying to figure out the sorts of sorts of things that you can start doing in the bedroom That's gonna make you more comfortable That's gonna make you actually get hard and then you can move on to the stuff that you're nervous about the stuff They have a little bit of anxiety over and that you're stressed out Move on to that sort of stuff once you're comfortable now This is gonna take some time You might need to be seeing someone for a little bit of time for this to happen The good news is is that women are very understanding. Okay, most of them unless they're like huge bitches They're gonna be pretty understanding about this and they're gonna probably be down to work with you through it They probably have some anxiety about sex as well that they're you know that they're dealing with and stuff like that Women like to feel comfortable as well. So the more comfortable they feel with you the more The more they feel like they can relax the better the sex is gonna be the same thing for you Once you start feeling comfortable with the girl once you start moving on to those other things that stress you out You're gonna be a lot more confident and you're gonna be a lot better in bed So my recommendation is find those things that turn you on think actually think about it Let's start doing those things and move on to the stuff that stress you out That's that actually, you know, you're worried about the stuff that you don't get hard for Move on to there after that and I would recommend that you stick with a girl for a long period of time And when I mean long, I mean you're having sex with her multiple times You're seeing her again and again To try and figure this problem out once you start getting more confident with your sexuality once you start getting more confident with You know With your dick then you're gonna start having a lot more sex You're gonna start having a lot more fun when you have sex and this won't be an issue for you I remember in my life. This is something that used to happen to me Now I know when you bring a girl home and that sort of thing happens you start to kind of worry You start to get in your own head you start to think oh, you know Does she gonna think my dick is small is she gonna laugh about it? You know when she tells her friends or whatever is she gonna think I'm bad Is she gonna think I'm doing this that or the other thing wrong? Try and push all that out of your mind And I know it's really tough at the beginning and I had trouble with this too not with one girl But I actually had mine was kind of a interesting situation I started bringing I started getting a lot of threesomes So I would bring two girls home and with one girl I was totally fine with but with the second girl being in there I just started to get like a little nervous and Like I just I wouldn't happen for me like I wouldn't get hard and if you think you If you think it's bad when you disappoint one girl because you can't get hard try disappointing two girls. Oh my god It's humiliating So what I started to do is I started to focus on the things that actually turn me on which was you know With one girl I've that felt more comfortable and more natural for me So what I did was I would focus on a one girl for a longer period of time Wait for me to start getting hard and then I would move on to that both girls at the same time Or the next girl But I would wait till I was a little bit more comfortable with one of the girls till I moved on to the next one And with that I was able to build up my confidence and now I have zero problems With three some zero problems getting hard during those types of situations and I actually just proved that this weekend So there's a happy ending to these stories Hopefully it's helped if you made to the end consider subscribing and come out videos like this every single week guys If you still have questions about this feel free to email me. I don't mind talking about this sort of stuff It's totally natural. I think when you are comfortable with your sexuality when you are confident sexually That's when you can really attract and get the girls that you want in life Begin with the end in mind if you don't if you aren't confident With the ending if you don't have that in mind then it's gonna be very difficult for you to get to it And hopefully your goal is to have sex with an awesome attractive hot girl So thanks a lot you guys and good luck out there