 many of us battle relationally because often we are doing life with people and they're relating to who you were five years ago and you love them and they love you but it's increasingly hard to be around them to the degree that you were before because they're still talking to you as if you're still interested in the same things you were five years ago and they're still mentioning names and situations and you're like I'm so fed up with that conversation and you don't know how to say it because they're not picking up the idea that you have no interest anymore and you've changed and your interests are changing and your world's changing and they're not seeing it and so they're they're fastening it into an old version of you imagine how difficult it is then for you to do life with a community of people who love you as you are and one day you show up and you're not as you were because you read a book you heard a podcast and to change and grow and think I'm going to fix this I'm going to change I'm going to reinvent and not knowing that if you did that the people that only know you as you were are going to feel threatened because they're not going to have the same space in your life anymore