 Ladies and gentlemen Tony Gaskins here and make sure I can was that a old chat on them new chat Let me know if y'all can hear me. I think I had the right date on there now Let me know if you can hear me on here. I think I got my Oh, I put five five on there. Okay, though. Well hopefully Y'all figure that out. I thought We're gonna go ahead and get started. I think I think my okay. Yeah, I'm a sign on my sign on. Okay. Thank you. I appreciate it Miracle a let me get miracle quest cuz she was in here ready to go He goes from relationship to relationship. What does that mean? He's 26 It means that he is lost in looking and that's what a man does, you know Men are not wired to be alone So a man is gonna go from woman to woman to woman until he feels he meets his wife And then when he meets her he's gonna try to change her to be a grown girl to match his grown boy And if she decides she's not gonna change Then he's either going to miss out on her and go to the next potential wife Who will compromise or he's gonna grow up and he's gonna change Depending on where his heart is and if he's ready to grow and change Miss L. God bless you dating six months. He's going through difficult situation that I know is real Ask me to wait on him to get through it calls and texts daily Takes care small things financially and keeps me informed. Do I wait? Well, you say you know, it's real you say you know, it's real He calls you and text you daily, so I'm not understanding what he's what what's what you waiting on Because if you call it in texting daily, that means you're in a relationship so Unless you're dealing with a married man who waiting on a divorce to be final then if He's gonna call you and text you daily and take care of small things financially Then essentially y'all together so if that means he just don't want to give you a title You know, but yet keep you stuck. Okay, I see what you mean. No title didn't know You can't do relationship things if you don't have a relationship title because at that point you plan yourself Ashley Beverly God bless you join my mentor dot life today The course was such a blessing and I'm excited to begin this journey as a coach. Hey, God bless you Now y'all heard what asked to say about the life coach certification course so make sure you um Sign up for the course and welcome to my mentor dot life. God bless you. I hope you get you some bookings here soon in these times Caramel kisses there you go Now now the moderators they don't work for me now they don't get paid now so sometimes they'll be here sometimes they won't They just volunteering. What should I do about my ex coming in and out my daughter's life? three-year-old Well You gonna have to just see how she responds to it see how she responds to it and then make a motherly decision If it's bothering her if it's tearing up, then okay now you got to protect her If it's not and she just happy to see him when she sees him and then when he's not there She's fine with you and ain't worrying about it. Then okay now you see that situation works Don't just do something. That's just a blanket action. Make sure you read the situation and doing what's best for for your family For your daughter Key, oh God bless you. Hi Tony. I use the mirroring technique the other night when my brother Wanted to engage in an argument. I walked away and doing so diffuse the situation. Thank you. Hey God bless I'm glad that worked out. God bless you her God bless my best friend says he's in love with me But in a toxic relationship what to do I Don't know if you in a toxic relationship or he's in a toxic relationship So it was sound like you saying he's in a toxic relationship if he in a toxic relationship and he tells you he's in love with you But he's staying in that relationship then he lying He lying He is lying, but see that's the problem when you got a male best friend Somebody gonna fall somebody gonna catch feelings and he he admitted it a lot of men are catch feelings and not admit it Question dooms do seems like a nice guy convo pretty good, but the attraction is not there am I being petty for falling back No, you're not being petty. You're not being petty It just depends on when you say the attraction is not there. It's like who are you comparing them to? You know who you comparing them to what you got in mind when you say Attraction and what you attracted to is what you attracted to attracted to you So now if you just being extra picky because it knows don't sit the way you want to sit or his eyes Centimeter too far apart, you know, I'm browsing how you want them to be then yes You could be being petty but now remember if he make your stomach turn when you look at them Then know you're not being petty you deserve somebody that you could you know at least stand to look at What birth your book be good for me if I'm interested in writing a children's book portions of it But not all of it, but yes you it definitely can Help you and being that it's only $47 you can't you can't lose it does teach you how to publish it Teach you how to do a writing schedule teach you how to choose your you know your genre. So it can help you But the one part about how you structure your chapters that wouldn't apply to you because you're not writing chapters Shanika God bless you. Why do men treat ambitious women badly or ignore them? Um, it's it's not across the board, you know, it just may be the man you're meeting and it may just be you It could be some of your energy some that you bring it out It could be you wearing your ambition on your forehead And but a man actually is very attracted to an ambitious woman So it's not really the ambition that's have a man treating you the way he's treating you because ambition is very very Attractive to a man. So it's something else in that equation But you probably need to speak with somebody on the outside looking in to help you identify what that is But it also could just be the state of man today, you know, it's a lot of sorry man today How can we show a man how to lead with love without doing too much? And our actions being taken the wrong way or being taken advantage of Well, queen, um drill you don't lead in love the man leads in love So you let the man lead in love meaning he's speaking your love languages and then you reciprocate You can't ever give a man something that he's not giving you so to lead in love The man leads and then you reciprocate his love But if you go in and you loving a man and he has not shown you love Then That's gonna mess you up That's gonna mess you up What books have you read that you can recommend that helped you besides your own? Ah, the holy bible the holy bible, that's the only book I really read You know, I've listened to a little stuff here and there, but it's the holy bible. That's when I read other books If they use them wisdom the wisdom come from the bible So it's like they just take jesus name out of it. So really when it comes to recommending a book The main book I recommend the only book I really recommend the holy bible a lot of people don't want to hear that But to be honest with you That's all I really study and give my time to miss lc. God bless you Hi, tony. How can I better cultivate a better relationship with myself so that I can show up better in my next relationship Doing what you're doing. You're doing the right thing. Keep getting knowledge. Keep showing up, you know study and learning you listening to videos you Working on yourself. You're building your dreams. You're addressing the pain like my video talked about you looking at those things You're evaluating it you seeing where were you operating from You look at the person that hurt you and you see where they were operating from you seek to understand Then be understood. All of that is going to help you Can an extremely selfish man change? Yes, he can change but probably not for you See once a man learns how to speak a language with you It's hard for him to speak a new language So you have to especially if he's been speaking that language for some time Because that's what he sees you and that's what he feels you're worth. So it's hard for us to You know have a nickel and spend a bunch of time with it and then see it worth a dime You just know it's a nickel. So if you have reinforced his selfishness and you didn't been there and you didn't put up with it It's going to be extremely extremely extremely hard for him to change and now start giving you You know treating you like a queen So sometimes you've got to understand that Relationship may have ran this course now if you stop reinforcing it You stop feeding into it you pull back You look like you're getting ready to move on with your life. Then guess what he may change it up switch it up and Keep it consistent So that's what you got to be ready for Aspiring soul god bless you Tony in today's video you mentioned that the most that most relationships end due to cheating As both a man and a coach. What are some of the most common reasons you see and hear Of as to why men cheat or do you think there is no reason? To be honest with you, it's no good reason It's no good reason A lot of men cheat just out of Immaturity, you know a lack of self control just doing it because The urge is there and they don't address the urge and the urge may be so strong They say am I supposed to address this urge for this to be this strong? This must be natural and what i'm supposed to do and a lot of men don't think beyond that and realize that Okay, just because you feel it don't mean you need to do it. So it's really no excuse for cheating because If it's you know Some men try to say oh, it's her fault. She didn't give me attention. She didn't sleep with me. She didn't do this was like If that was the case then you should have just left It's really no excuse for cheating and men don't really have excuses. Most men is like, I don't know what I was thinking I don't know what I was thinking, you know, I just was in a moment and I just didn't think and I don't I just I just oh my goodness. I just cannot understand How I could cheat on such a good woman and I want her so bad And like I love her so much and I just Oh man, like when I'm coaching guys, that's what they're saying. That's what they say They don't say like a real reason that I can like hold on to and I used to be a dog, you know, and I didn't have a reason it just was That's what men do, you know, that's how you raise. That's what you see. That's what everybody's doing So you just accept it as normal and then you see so many women put up with it. You're like Well, it must be normal, you know, so That's the thing these guys continue to ask about or say they are looking for their misses They are 40 plus 60 What took them so long what? Why are they coming out of the woodwork but have done none of the work women do? Well, um Men don't typically do the work until they made to do the work by a woman That's a part of a woman's influence to be honest with you. It's like It's kind of like if you're a single mom or not a single mom But if you're a mom any moms who have boys, you know, you'll notice that your boys might not brush their teeth They might not want to shower They might not want to do anything unless you make your boys You got to teach a boy hygiene how to brush your teeth how to shower You know he'll go three four days without shower if you let a boy do that That same boy grows up to be a man to where he really Men go to the doctor because their wife set the appointment a lot of times You know men do they checkups or you know grow and change because of a woman's influence in his life To whereas when you leave when you meet a man left to himself You're like wow Like when you watch the way he spends his money When you when you see certain things like that, it's like wow, what's going on? Um Miss till part of me wants my husband back and I believe He does too God bless you now but we are Two years on and off I was a grown girl and he had been a grown boy How can I get a better result to make us work? well You say part of you so you got to ask yourself if that's intentional or not when you say part of you Because in order for you to make it work and for you to start over and for it to work the way it should work It got to be all of you It's going to have to be all of you because if it's just part of you It's not going to work and then y'all two years on and off So That's not a good sign because in a relationship in a healthy relationship There is no on and off you in or you out you together or you not? So that's one thing you got to realize about a relationship is it ain't no breaks in relationships You come and when things get hard you buckle down and you work together and you make it work Okay, y'all two years married um The same applies both of y'all got to really want it and two years, you know, hey You got for one It's so early. It is tough in the first two years, but You should know without a shadow of a doubt beyond the shadow of a doubt that you want to make it work If you don't feel that It's going to be hard. It's going to be hard. You don't have to buy all the way in Then yeah, I just ended god bless you now. I just ended a toxic relationship after a year of dating got the RO restrained order and he's in jail Before that I was single for a year, but the relationship prior to were abusive. Can I break all the soul ties at once? um Yes, you you can break them at once, but when we say break I really mean minimize them because They may linger they may be there, but you can do the work and heal and grow And if you putting in the work you doing coaching when you got to get a strain oil and all that You probably gonna need some one-on-one time to talk and really vent and express yourself You know, I have some sessions where my client talks the whole hour You know, and I just listen and just be you know, just that sounding board where They could just talk and so you may need that so that you can process everything um therapy coaching what have you Chanel so lovely god bless you now how high tonic and a woman's intelligence be off putting to a man There are studies that say the smarter the woman the more likely she is single thoughts um I've never met a smart woman like that. I like was You know intimidated by her smarts now when you say smart like It's different between smart and like socially awkward You know, like you meet some people who may be a genius And they're socially awkward and it just kind of that could be off putting to wear just like kind of quirky jokes and just A sense of humor that's just kind of you know that you hear in science class But in the real world you kind of like uh, where does that fit here in on this dinner date? But I've never met a woman out of the thousands and thousands of women I met that was just like Smart to the point to where I'm like no this off putting so I think what it really means is the smarter a woman is Like the more sense you have the more educated you are maybe the less You are willing to put up with it. So you probably can your your critical thinking skills Your deductive reasoning your ability to kind of read between the lines and infer you may pick up on things That other women might not pick up on so it makes it harder for you to have a relationship Just because you you so help and your mind so strong. I think it's more so that Actually, god bless you now met a nice guy. He's in a higher money bracket than me I'm working towards that on my own. Will this matter to him? I'm independent and have never dated for money. Scared. He won't like me if I can't keep up with his lifestyle It just depends on if he's a mature man or not If he's a real man, it won't matter to him as long as you independent ambitious and hard working It don't matter if you make way less than him. It don't matter if you make 20k a year 12k a year if he can see your ambition and your hard working. You're not asking him for anything He's not gonna care. Only an immature man says, oh, she got to be where I am financially You know, and that's just because he doesn't see himself as the head as a leader as a provider So that's what that is. Dominique. God bless you. Hey, Tony My pops keeps telling me not to rush marriage because times have changed and because most guys want help Married 42 years. How do I apply his advice but yet not miss out on my husband? What he's saying is is don't settle He's he he means don't settle, you know, like if you meet a man And that man is not everything that you're looking for or at least the majority like 90% of your standards If that man is not that he's saying don't settle like don't rush it Don't just get with a man just to be with a man just so you can get married But you ignoring all these red flags That's that's what pops really really getting that Gayle God bless you now pull out an online law Long distance relationship, but he is currently at the end of his divorce I told him we should pick up after his divorce his final He said nothing wrong with communication. He is a preacher 11 months communication. We met once and he wanted To sleep with nothing happened Okay, you got a lot of red flags in there. So I thank you for putting that red message up there Bless you for that because you got a lot of red flags. Okay. So for one, he's a man of the cloth So he know the word of God So it's like if you a man of the cloth This is what you got to realize if you were a man of the cloth Why you didn't love your wife the way Christ loved the church? Because if you were a man of the cloth and you loving your wife the way Christ loved the church You shouldn't even be going through no divorce if you're a man of the cloth That means you should know God and hear God's voice and have godly discretion so that It can't say well, what if she was a bad woman because if you listen to God You ain't gonna marry no bad woman because God gonna give you wisdom knowledge understanding and discretion So the other part of that is if you a man of the cloth Then you know divorce for one is a sin unless your wife cheated on you Or or you cheated on her and then if he cheated on her then is Why are you already building and emotionally building with another woman and you're not even in divorce? So now you in double sin And then when you see the woman you supposed to be a preacher a man of the cloth and posted no god And you trying to get the woman on her back So sister essentially what you got to realize is You dealing with a doll And see that girl I see what you say his wife cheated that's a lie He lying to you he telling you that because He telling you she cheated Yeah He ain't telling you about how he cheated Because a man of integrity who got in cheated on who got cheated on and you a man of God One you ain't trying to date you ain't trying to communicate you ain't trying to build You're trying to get know the Lord in that season. You're gonna live like apostle paul Single and focus on your ministry and your calling you building with another woman Then you see what is what you see this woman and you trying to get in the form of case not even for indication You trying to get into adultery So your wife committed adultery then you trying to go commit adultery So if you would have got on your back he would be in adultery So what you dealing with is a liar a deceiver a manipulator and a devil You hear me? He operated with a demonic spirit And he is put behind the lines of the church To make the church look bad the devil got him behind enemy lines To make the church look bad so that the people who come in contact with him lose faith in God Ladies say so God bless you now poor out in our life my convo with God me I feel worthless God I may have in the earth creatures in Adam But when everything was in the right place then I created a woman eve Do you know who you are? I just wanted to share and be a blessing Lady God bless you ladies say so God bless you now poor out in your life Jenny God bless you just wanted to say my fiance has finally started watching your videos and he changed for the better He's listening to a woman's influence right now, and I'm doing the life coach certification course Hey y'all alone at night y'all alone at night y'all trying to be a power couple y'all doing the right thing I'm gonna tell you one more thing y'all need to do After he finished a woman's influence y'all need to get make it work And you can either listen to it on the audio or you could read it whichever y'all like to do I'm an audio person I read give me a headache, but I could listen good You listen to it a chapter at a time and you discuss the chapter at the end of each chapter It's about 10 questions you ask the questions to each other you answer your questions And you discuss each chapter like just like you're doing a Bible study or a course And that's gonna help you Gee a God bless you. I love the relationship video that you posted earlier today I'm in my single season, but but feel my next relationship will be my last. Thanks a God bless I'm glad you were able to watch that Beverly bless you Would anyone in their right mind be okay with her husband playing cards with his ex? Um, no nobody in their right mind would be okay with that. So she and her Reprobate mind. She and her self-hate mind. She and her lack of self love mind. She and her insecure mind She is not in her right mind La vie avec l'une Okay, hit it with a torn roll. God bless you God bless you poor little life A guy I'm dating told me you're too much work Is that a red flag should I put on my track shoes? It could be just conversation It just depends on how if he said it kind of jokingly, you know, and you felt he kind of joking Then it's just conversation if he said it's serious and condescending like it's it really in manglish was If you don't drop your standards, you're gonna be single the rest of your life You're ugly woman. If it really sounded like that in in manglish, then yes, that's a red flag Latoya god bless you poor and unliked Just wanted to drop a small blessing I took your certification and clients are coming from all over gotta leave the live for a session right now Thanks, Tony. Hey, Latoya. Now. I don't know if you lying now, but I don't think you lying I don't think you come on here and tell that lie for god bless you now You see how Latoya doing hey Poor and unliked Lord I've been praying over y'all coaches and just praying that for those of y'all that's taking the life coach certification That y'all gonna be able to Get on my mentor dot life post your link on your facebook put in your instagram by your post it on your twitter And your friends and family that's been watching you gonna start hiring you to be your first clients To give you some practice and bless you a cool god bless you now poor in life What does it mean when a man says I will only change if I want to he is 23 Also, I realize I have toxic traits. So thank you It means what it say he telling you he's not changing for you He's gonna change if he want to change so don't try to influence him Don't try to change him. Don't try to force nothing on him. He's gonna change if he want to change So he he basically telling you kiss my behind That's really what he telling you So bring a god bless you now Should pass Situationships be handled in the same context As dealing with excess Information from videos no feelings are involved. God bless you Yes, because a situation ship still can block your blessing See a situation ship still can be in the way and it's still got energy that you don't need in your life That could block your husband from coming into your life. So A situation ship can become a relationship of friends with benefits relationship If you're not careful Hi, Tony, can you do a video for women in their early 20s who have very limited dating experience and how to not fall for gain? Well, really all my videos are for you, you know, I got a video called how to date correctly That video is specifically for you, you know So y'all gotta you got to watch all the videos because I might not title it correctly I might not be able to title it correctly because of You know, you too could strike certain things depending on what the words in that title So just make it a habit to where you go into school The where you watching a video a day and that's your daily school and then every every video on there for you You know, I think a lot of y'all get so called up Just looking for a video that got your name in it and say hey Latanya this video today is for you And so and women keep asking me hey, Tony, can you do video for women in their 50s? Love is love relationship is relationship You know, all of this apply to you. Love is love character is character integrity is integrity So it's all for you. You just got to watch it listening for you Instead of thinking that is for her listening for you Question so basically I should put on my track shoes and run because he won't change Yes, you should I can't remember your question, but that's what I said and that's what you got from it then. Yep Hi, Tony. I am an LPN with 31 years of experience. I am on my mentor now Can I do career coaching for new nurses coach Sophie? Um I'm not sure how many new nurses going to be going on there So you can put career coaching because you built the career and the same principles that you did to build your career Could help other people in their career So I would select career coaching as one of your topics and then in your bio Make sure you put that you are a nurse of 31 years with a passion for helping new nurses And you know or people new in the medical field or something like that. So it could kind of specify, but You can coach if the principles probably will apply to other people As well. So I wouldn't try to be too too too narrow La vie god bless you now Start talking three weeks ago. He went absent for two And called yesterday asking to borrow three hundred dollars Gave him two hundred and said it's a gift and that I didn't want to entertain talk with him no more. Was I right? You were absolutely wrong For giving that man two hundred dollar You you waste your money How you gonna give a man you don't even know two hundred dollar Don't ever in your life Give a man money Never Get no man that supposed to be trying to date you some money That's the absolute worst thing you did now. Think about this now. You ask think about this 10 men 10 women he asked him women that he made two thousand dollars He made two thousand dollars For three thousand you see what I mean If a man come out his mouth like that that man ain't worth two nickels Because a real man is not even going to ask no woman for no money like that So you got to realize that now chocolate up That's a gift added to your ties and offerings is for giving to You know a homeless person or somebody in need counted the same as that but please don't ever do that again Because you're beginning to ask for money left and right by the amen Hey in the chat try to keep only questions in the chat So when I go in there I could get right to them questions xoxo god bless you Would you say your wife didn't vet you correctly since you guys split two months into marriage But got lucky since you are a good person. So it all worked out Uh, no, it's not that she didn't vet me. We split in marriage because I went back to hustling So I gave her my word that I wasn't going to be in the streets selling drugs So she was with me and I wasn't in the streets, you know for more than a year And then when we got married my son went to an intensive care unit He was three and a half two and a half months early and I went back to the streets And so she stood her ground and said I told you I wasn't going to be with a man Who was going to be in the streets living an illegal lifestyle? And so it wasn't that she didn't vet me It was that I lied to her I deceived her which happens All the time because what a man is trying to do a grown boy as I was a grown boy But I was hiding it What a grown boy'll do is he'll tell you what you want to hear and do what you want to do And then when he feels like he has you up the creek without a paddle Then he'll try to flip it and do what he want to do Hoping that you will be stuck My woman showed me i'm not stuck You ain't gonna drown me because I taught myself how to swim So although you got me up the creek and to broke my paddle I'm still finna get back to shore So that's really what it was and And it wasn't luck because I believe in God. So we don't have luck. Okay, everything ordained and destined My steps ordered by God. So God knew what type of woman I needed because see Me being bullheaded most women if all I'm doing is just serving a little bit of something that's about to become Um Legal legalized most women would have just stayed they would have been like, oh, you know what? All right He's trying to feed our family. I'ma just stay but my woman said no I don't want that kind of money that dirty money. I'm out of here But it only took us three days to get back together um extoll God bless you Long-distance relationship Engaged Told him I don't want To show my body Via message says i'm taking things Away from the relationship try telling him Getting right with God how to get him to understand my pov without viewing I'm removing things we used to do Well, you need to show him that Eric Snowden movie Show him that Eric Snowden movie and then also google And show him these celebrity body parts that they were sending to their man That's on that got put on the inner neck So, you know for that very reason me and my wife don't do that So he just gotta have to understand it ain't about just tell him listen, you know, I'm a woman I'm a classy woman. I used to do that. I'm educated now. I've grown now I don't want to be soliciting myself Over no phone because you could lose your phone My picture could end up on the internet anything could happen. So, you know, I see you when I see you in person And um and y'all engage so you just got to tell him what you want And what you got to realize about a man a man gonna try to talk you down He's gonna try to talk you out of what you say you trying to do So you got to be ready for that and you got to stick to it He understands it, but he's gonna pretend that he doesn't Jennifer god bless you. Thank you. Thank you for what you and your beautiful wife do the book Is starts my day as a reminder Of my worth. Thank god bless. I appreciate that Andrea god bless it now broke up with my ex 13 years my senior two years ago. He cheated I blocked him Every three to four months he emails me I called to see what he wants. He apologizes 100 times I stay firm and let him know he's not my husband. Should I not respond to his emails? Um 13 years your senior See when when a man that much older than you and it's just a man in general But especially a man that much older than you he feel like you his daughter He feel like you a young buck that is like taking candy from a baby He feel like that if he plays cards, right? He do the right thing Eventually he gonna catch you when you we So yes, you got to stop answering his emails. You got to stop calling him because that means you really want it That means you want to hear what he got to say that means you love him. You miss him You got a soul tied with him. That means you truly ain't over him That means you you broke up with him trying to send a message, but you really ain't bought that life See, that's what that means And so he knows that because he knows a woman that's done is not even going to entertain him He's not going to hear from her. He's not going to be able to reach her by phone by email So every time you respond it gives him hope and lets him know that you still got a weakness for him And that if he plays hand, right and he keep coming back these every three four months One of these times he's going to catch you in a bad place To where you're going to be just wide open ready to receive You're going to be the just loss of family member or you're going to be the just got your heart broke by another man And he's going to pop up right at the right time and catch you in a moment of weakness So that's all he's doing I've been back with my baby dad for three months He still has access to his ex house saying it is for his daughter Barely spends time with our son. Is that a sign that he's not over his ex and a grown boy? Not necessarily a grown boy, but you know, he got access over there. He says for his daughter You got kids with him. So now you another baby mama He don't really spend time with your son, but he's still popping up over there at her house So what that means is that means that he's not all the way in with your relationship That he just kind of have these roster fillers and he just built in this dream of You know play up front in him a layer with all these baby mamas and being able to be in everybody's life Because you don't know if he got access to her house She could still want to be with him So you don't know how often she getting on her back when he pop over that time when he going to see his daughter He could very well still be intimate with her which most likely he's still intimate with her If he has a key to her house Because when a woman moves on That means another man fin to be at his house on the couch with his feet kicked up watching espn So she's not going to let her X have a key to her house because he could walk in the house and the new man sitting on the couch While she cooking dinner You see what I mean? So that means if she giving him Refrigerator rights that she probably most likely is still sleeping with him trying to win him back from you So he keeping her in that place of weakness and he got you in a place of weakness And both of y'all stuck like a duck in a truck looking like chuck Broke busted and disgusted Looking like who shot john and forgot to kill him So that's what you got to realize Um wj dang god bless you ex's parents Didn't want me because we have different cultures and because he cheated Broke up and blocked him every two months. He reaches out through fake accounts and puts my name and Puts my name and I will always be here for you in his bio. Why? Oh, he crazy he crazy just understand that the understand that the he crazy Okay, go on here to buy your business and take on off. All right. Take on off because he crazy on charise Sister Oh now what this is what they say Teresa you in the usa Or you in your country that uh that uh that are Money ten times the value My goodness you reached by the hell me up here crying. God bless you now charise lord. I thank lord. Thank you lord Thank the i'm trying to tell you now. Good evening. Tony your ministry has changed my life and for that I am tithing into your life Thank you continue to be black Ah My goodness my goodness my goodness. You know what charise y'all hold on. I need a commercial break. Hold on My goodness. I had I had to wipe that tear out the corner of my eye because my god charise that blessed me Now I tell you, you know, you you get weary over here answer these questions and Just asking god why you called me to do this job? And then he's saying folks, you know that say listen Listen Sharise god bless you now lord. Lord bless a part in our life do something you ain't never done for a lord. Amen jesus Do players talk about the future together now? Hold on. I can't move on yet. I can't move on yet. What charise did Now I appreciate everybody blessing. I appreciate everybody blessing But y'all got to remember what we going through right now in this hill country So in this world so for for charise to do what she just did come on now Come on now That right there needy times right here Boy, when you think don't nobody Care about what you're doing God's got to show up and show you I got you keep on Do players talk about the future together? Absolutely Absolutely. Hey, you got to hold on now charise still got me shaking and move Absolutely. I ain't even notice youtube will let you give a blessing like that Five years no kids together But he helps with mine past year Not spending a lot of time Gives me money when he gets paid told him to stay away still sends cash out should I send it back and move on? God bless. I'm gonna have to end the chat tonight. She really shook me up so bad Now, let me tell you this when a man doing that and you told him to move on and he's sending money You know, I normally would say take it as a blessing the wealth of the wicked story for the righteous But in his case, this sounds like he's trying to keep that money sending you that money to keep a hook in you So accept that money. It means I got her I got her and the reason why I say you should send it back is because you and him don't have kids together You and him see you got yours It'd be different if you had his and he's sending for his But the way he using this he using this as a tool Hey, y'all when people ask questions, don't don't put no answer in there because people been telling me They don't want to hear nobody answering the chat and because it's confusing them because sometimes y'all say something in the chat And it's opposite of what I'm saying and they come into my channel So y'all understand don't put no answers in them And try to keep on the chat clear itself for questions So understand that he using that as a tool to keep your hooks in you Hi, Tony I currently work with a coach On my mentor To get through my divorce. I was thinking of adding coaches For image consulting and developing character thoughts You definitely should if it's affordable, you definitely should different coaches have different abilities So you actually could you actually could look at a coach. That's of your gender Who has a good image on there who dress nice present themselves? Well, that lets you know, they understand branding. They understand image And and book that coach based on the image they put forward so you and character building The coach you working with can help you with that But if you know another coach who Maybe has written a certain book or done certain things, you know in their bio and their bio speaks to Having the ability of building building their character and helping others build their character then absolutely I sometimes have four or five coaches because different people are strong in different areas So i'm strong in love and relationships, but i'm not strong in financial coaching You know, it's other people that be good budget coaches I'm not strong in that area, but i'm strong in love and relationships. You see what I mean health and wellness I'm not strong in that area So if you come to me for relationships, you're gonna need somebody else for health and wellness You're gonna need somebody else for for budgeting if that's a thing, but if it's life love or business I got you So just understand that right there I've been in a relationship where The guy was not supportive of me taking classes and trying to better myself But wanted me to support him. It broke my spirit any advice Well, you got to realize your greatness. What you got to realize is that a man who trying to break you That's because he saw your strength in you that you didn't see So you got to look at it differently Person only try to break somebody Who they feel is strong So you have strength an ambition That he doesn't have and he was jealous of that And so looking at you made him feel insecure about himself because he was jealous So therefore when he saw you you know He wanted to break you down to build himself up. So you got to change the way you looking at it Change the way you looking at it Hey, y'all try to keep the chat clear again The love when i'm going in there. I can't really get right there to the question Share and caramel kisses. I think I've seen y'all name. God bless you. God bless you for helping me moderate the chat cardel Turner toni I date interracially. How does this help me? Cardel, I don't know if you're a male or a female man or woman But dating interracially Does not help you It does not help you it actually Is harder on you just because of the mindset of the world so When you go outside your race, it's a lot of people in your race that despise that And the race that you're dating it's a lot of people in that race that despise that because humans are You know prejudice As we've seen in the history of our world every country you go to there's prejudice even in china Right now they got You know signs up telling black people you can't come in and we thought that was just america against blacks When I go to africa it's colorism And the dark skin don't like the light skin, you know the whites don't like the blacks So all around the world there is some racism and prejudice So actually interracial dating is more so of an uphill battle than smooth sailing It doesn't make things easier the other part of that too what I've noticed is The offspring of interracial relationships have their own set of issues because they struggle with feeling accepted I read a young man's um Essay and he said he felt like an Oreo He said i'm not black enough for the blacks and i'm not white enough for the whites And I don't know what your interracial mix is but that does you know Call some issues sometimes So you've got to be prayerful about it. You got to understand that it may not be easy at all times Wavy natural Easter. God bless you. God bless you It may not be easy at all times, but So it can help you by making you stronger At what the things that you may experience and go through and being able to articulate love And that love is blind Been with this man for almost four years I recently found he married another woman and has business reasons Married another woman and has business reasons. He's 100 involved in my life But goes home to her every week. Do I let go or move? Um, you definitely got to let go You definitely got to let go. He does not want you He wants you to be a roster filler He's using you for what you bring to the table, but he does not see you as a wife He did not marry the other woman for business reasons. He married her because that's who he wanted to marry And he's cheating with you because he is of low character and has no integrity So he is living a worthless life and being a worthless human being And he does not care whose hearts are damaged in the process because he does not have a heart So he has been raised so cold or treated so cold that he does not know how to be warm So therefore you will become a casualty of his spiritual warfare So you are in the way and if you stay in the way you will be hurt beyond repair So you need to let go you don't have to move whole cities Or states, but you need to let go and let go all the way completely so that you can learn What real love is what a real woman is what a real man is what a real relationship is Then you can heal And then you can go and you can grow and you can attract real love because right now you plan yourself like parker brothers game board and You will Not be able to pass go So understand that you got to let all the way go how To not be bitter with daddy issues and relationship issues Without running to a substance or self-harm. I'm giving it to god, but the enemy keeps fighting losing strength You're gonna have to immerse yourself in everything that you can positive So if you can afford therapy then get therapy If you can't afford therapy or coaching then get every free resource you can on the community page I just posted the free course 10 steps to self-love Go through that course 10 times if you need to If you want the help the help is there, but you got to want to be helped See a lot of time we just say we won't help so then we can feel like we did the work But you actually got to say you want help then you got to get the help And when you get the help you got to receive the help and if you are operating in that space You'll get the healing that you want You'll get the healing that you want Or even naturally so god bless you Somebody say they couldn't send a blessing on there, but I don't know what it is. What the system got going on there You know, you two could be hating on me after how Cherise did but they might say man, look here. What the world is man? What kind of favor this is on this hill live man shut shut it down They might have shut the system down I left my ex-grown boy. He's been consistently trying to get in contact with me Should I hear him out or let him keep trying? Well, if it was less than a year Then you could hear him out if it was more than a year And you left them for a good reason and you know that you don't then keep it going keep moving. I mean keep it moving To another I guess the system is up and running now god bless you pull out in a life Should you date someone who's been separated for years and now they are waiting for their divorce to be final Me personally, I just stay all out the way I stay all out the way because somebody want to be divorced. They're gonna get through that divorce They're gonna get through that divorce, you know And what they say to no fault divorce or no contest divorce if the other person won't sign A lot of time people don't want to be divorced They want to be separated and they want to keep that soul tight strong And they want to keep that spouse stuck and waiting right there And then they just want to be in that space so they could play on the mental of their ex spouse Of the spouse that they're strange from but then they want other people to be in their life to be a band-aid So I wouldn't even be on there Um Teresa hold your whole your answers on that now We don't want to confuse the sister when somebody asks a question y'all y'all hold your answers Because people been right me Upset by getting too many answers. Okay So y'all hold your answer and just send a prayer to the lord submit it to the lord and prayer I want to be a life coach, but i'm not active on social media with this with will this affect me getting clients Um, you won't get as many But that's why we created my mentor dot life So if you don't want to do social media, you can join my mentor dot life and we mark it The site for you and then people come to the site. They select the coaching category You pop up They like your picture if it's professional it's presented nice They read your bio. They read your blog posts. They see your calendar. See your availability They see your rate if it's reasonable Then they book you so that's what my mentor dot life is there for For people who don't want to do internet marketing and for people who don't want to build a website and manage a website My brandy jones god bless you I'm struggling breaking a two-year situation ship slash soul tie I want a relationship. He's not ready. I want real love and marriage. I'm not happy. He pulled away last time I brought up my feelings thoughts Thanks, tony Brandy, you know, you know, they got the saying like trying to What they say trying to draw blood from a turnip You know a turnip is like a green a vegetable a plant that grow outside Now can you imagine going outside and getting that green getting that spinach? And just twisting that spinach and twisting that spinach and twisting that spinach and you try and you waiting on to see blood come out of it That's what you're doing when you with a man like that He's trying to tell you I don't want you He's trying to tell you that you are a hold me down That i'ma hold you here Use you have you on your bike Use you drain you and then when I meet the woman I want to be with Who's gonna love herself respect herself and hold me accountable As a man i'm gonna leave you drop you like a bad habit That's what he's telling you and you can't stand for that because every day you spend with this man Who don't want you I think you said two years Every day you spend with this man that don't want you is a day that you block in your husband The sooner you get rid of him and get over him the faster you can attract your husband who ready to love you So once you realize somebody don't want you they don't want to love you They don't want what you want you got to drop it and you got to let it go whatever you got to tell yourself Whatever you got to tell yourself Hi Tony I have been trying to send you a blessing for days now. I try with all my cards Is money on it, but it's something wrong on here Um I don't know I couldn't even tell you I couldn't even tell you because Ain't no telling what you two got going on over there, but It could also be the browser that you own or something like that, but you know I a it's the thought that counts. So thank you. God bless. I count it all the same And um sharing um caramel kisses in there They put my cash up in there sometime and somebody sent me a cash out. So hey, thank you for that God bless you for that too for the person that sent me a cash out I left my son father because it was an unhealthy relationship But my bro told me that once a woman leave one man and go to another it becomes a train That man view single mom as second hand um Your brother gave it to your blood roll now That's your blood and he gave it to your blood roll He told he told he told you now. He told you brother told you now Brother told you Brain lying to you brain lying to you now. There's the thing. There's the thing Some men can get past that some men could get past that But that's what he's thinking That's what he's thinking. That's what he's thinking now Because men are very territorial, you know, so it's kind of like That's deep. That's deep But a man could get past it because there's plenty single moms Who don't got remarried or got into another relationship? So a man could get past it But he has to be mature enough to deal with that in his mind To be able to put that elsewhere and not be picturing you Land down with that other man And not be picturing your ex every time he look at your child Like he has to be mature enough to get past that But he's gonna struggle with it just like a lot of women struggle with it To be honest with you a lot of women struggle with that too a lot of women come to me and say Listen, I do not under no circumstance want to date a man with children And I'm like, why? Well, because they not mine and I want to have my own and I don't want to have to be trying to decide between How I'm gonna treat mine and how I'm gonna treat hers and I don't want to be dealing with baby mama drama. So a lot of women have that same stipulation, but it just take a person who They they understanding that people live life stuff happens You know and all of that there. Hey y'all I got about 32 more minutes on here now. I'm trying to I say I can never get through all these questions. So that's why I'm just trying to show up You know, I know that some people go live every day. I really Been that type of person, but I'm gonna try to do better Because y'all supporting me. So I'm gonna try to get on here and answer as many questions as I can If good morning tech slow down, what does that mean? What you think it means mean their relationship slowing down Okay, okay somebody else getting a good morning text. That's what it mean Best friend gave birth to third child six months ago. Her husband had decided to abandon her I'm praying about moving to her state to offer support. I have two kids going through divorce bad idea Janessa, I think that's a bad idea. You don't want to uproot Your family go to a whole another state with your two and you going through your situation Because you uproot unless you just want to be in that state Unless you want to be in that state being that city you don't google And the company you work for is in that city and maybe that city you're gonna get paid a little more But still can have the same type of live close to living expenses Unless you see another benefit for moving there You can't move for that because you could get all the way there and then her ex come back Knowing that you didn't her husband come back knowing that you didn't came there for her. She'll use that To get him back and say well my friend just picked up her too and her two kids and moved over here to help me out because I You know us breaking up and he's like what? What uh-uh She ain't coming to steal my family. Oh, so what you think to be carpet marching now Uh-uh, I want to be with you. I just needed a break. I just needed a break I go through a lot as a man. I want to be with you And then and you know what for her trying to do that you can't talk to her no more Because that's a devil That ain't what no real friend gonna do He'll be back You'll be the up to move your whole life And then she can't even talk to you She can't even talk to you So Janessa, hopefully you just heard me answer your question because I see you just popped it in there again Popped in there 50 million times. I see I Left my abusive husband Four months ago. I've noticed ever since I left He's been paying my phone bill. My phone I'm using was originally after The phone I'm using was originally after smashing mine. Should I ship it back to him? Oh, maybe it was his Yeah, yeah, and I don't know how high is he paying it You know when he paying and he logging in And to the to the online system and when he logging in to the online system Is he Reading your phone bill seeing who you texting who texting you how many calls you got going out of the end You know, so if you leave somebody that is a beautiful, okay If you leave somebody that is that type of person, you don't want nothing from them You can't let an abuser. Okay. Keep tabs on you. Y'all understand why I'm saying the word like that because old youtube YouTube be trying to strike me Say you ain't allowed to talk about that on here that a word that y'all be asking about of you Okay, but see being unfortunately. I'm Unfortunately, I'm country So being country is Siri or let's uh, they have issues understanding me and that's what you to you You to use a robot so they use the robot you trying to understand The robot build a scrug. Let the robot build a What is he saying So so fortunately with the way me with the way I've been rolling my tongue I've been able to not get my video struck as much as they used to when I was trying to talk proper for y'all Tony you said look open and inviting by smiling and walking everywhere with confidence when open to meeting men Sometimes that brings dirty looks from women example at the grocery store how to find You know what What you said and that made me laugh because I was just telling my wife that I say when I be looking around because I notice everything I watch everything I'll be looking around And I see a woman, you know shaped like this right here And she just eating good. She just eating good. She just living she living, you know, she just living her life. Okay And she you know, she got a thyroid issue and she living her life And then I see a woman shaped like this And I see this woman over here say I'll be like what and I'll be watching women And I just be watching women stare and I'll be watching women. I'll be seeing how they be looking at my wife And so the women they don't even look at me. They be looking at my wife and just calculate Okay Fendi shoes, Cartier bracelet And they just be calculated and just reach just ahead the toe so Appreciate those looks from the women. Just take it like a compliment If a woman looking at you just take it like a compliment and just go on by your bed Because if the women seeing you then you definitely know the men seeing you too So actually you really doing something right if if women noticing you Hey, Tony, I've completed the birth your book course And I'm currently enrolled in the life coaching course. What's your views on writing? Erotica novels, is it in the same realm as those movies? Will this hurt me as a coach? Now, let me see if I can see your picture on here mismanagement Now mismanagement you look like an english teacher On here nine You look like a church woman. I'm you trying to write erotica. I'm thinking you finna be on here looking like bumblebee triple x Now what's going on with your sister? You know, what's going on with your sister? Why your spirit? Is in that space where you want to have splack of valley and mandingo going over to the apartment Or bumblebee triple x with ky jelly and You know, like you got to sit down and address why your spirit wants to go there And yes, it is like the movies and it actually could be Even more serious than those movies just because of the fact that it the person is reading It and it's getting written across their brain And so yeah, you might need to do a coach session on that with I'm about to say zane But yeah, I says I I I would I wouldn't I wouldn't do that I wouldn't do that because if you were erotica novel and let's say them novels take off like zane books used to take off I never read one and um You'll have me hiring you for the wrong reason And a man will hire you and he'll be on that phone and uh, yeah, you know, so um Just a random question for you, you know, like I was reading a book and splack of valley You said that he was hung like a horse Like are you looking for that in real life? You see what I'm saying? So you're trying to coach and you want to help this man grow But because of your erotica novels He's distracted and he's hired you for the wrong reason And then with you writing that and you giving your spirit to that You could be susceptible to falling for Mandingo on accident And it just derailing your coaching business How do you know someone is tracking your phone? I'm gonna tell you like this I'm gonna track on my phone because I'll be hearing the speaker come on and I'll be telling my wife and she'll be like Lord, if you thinking like this at 36, I don't know what I'm gonna do with you at 70 But yep, people track your phone now, but I don't know how you could tell I tried to call apple See if they could help me figure it out, but they said they didn't know what I was talking about Janessa god bless you. Yes. I got the answer you said to repulse until you see it. Thank you god bless I did say repulse until I see it So I saw what I'm noticing with this here chat is It might not be live So I'm talking live and you them posted something and it's coming in later Because they actually on youtube being they actually filtering the chat You know, they filtering the chat Natasha Ravens god bless God bless a part in our lives Y'all blessing highly faithful You know, I call this the bless tribe, but I just was talking I ain't know y'all. We're gonna really actually be that bless God bless you Natasha. Just wanted to thank you for being a blessing to me I always get great insight from your videos be blessed my brother. God bless you. God bless you um Cherish God bless you. Hold on right quick cherish y'all hold the chat now hold the chat hold the chat Let me get the five dollar real quick because they're just a youtuber delete that one on me and then cherish I'm gonna get you should I be skeptical pressure. God bless you now Should I be skeptical to date a man with kids with two different women? And what about Men who have been married before Our tattoos are red flat. Okay. So you asked nine questions in hell So you're gonna shoot that blessing up there and say man. I'm afraid to get my Bane for this buck you hit b. Let me get nine questions in um You should be skeptical about a man with Two kids from two different women I mean with kids from two different women because it does mean that he does just you know He a plumber. Okay. He just put it where you want to put it at So it could have an infection that comes with it So you got to take your time because in order to have children with multiple women you that mean you Unprotected with multiple women. So that is a red flag does not mean he's not a good man Does not mean he has not changed does not mean he has not grown But time has to tell you that you have to see that What about men who have been married before that is also a red flag in the sense that he could be scarred He could be jaded and tainted or tattoos a red flag tattoos are not a red flag unless You still he's still getting them so if he's still getting them and And he like, you know, look at the clouds. I just got and look at the thunderbolt. I just got and you like um So you 35 and you just went and got a thunderbolt and some clouds So it's kind of like, you know, tanya god bless you. I see you right there So it's like if he already got him and it was he was young he he he loved art You know, he wanted most time me and get a tattoo to make a statement He's trying to look tough and cool or he trying to look sexy. That's typically why men get tattooed So I say after the age of 25 a man really should be slowing down on tattoos unless it really has a real Meaning somebody passed away. He want to get some, you know, uh, You know, my wife, you know, she had me we went and got our marriage date on on the real cage And I just probably something she's seen on instagram and I say, okay, but that was years ago. Okay, that was years ago chairs um You mentioned dating outside of your race comes with issues Just as you described the hatred from One woman to the next Usually our own Do you feel that's the struggle of black couples sometimes competing? uh, yeah, yeah, that that could be very well very well, so uh couples competing and working against each other and jealousy each other Very much so sometimes women who your same race and you dating inside your race And she won't take your man because you got a man and she ain't got no man So, yeah, that's real Um kaya league. God bless you. I'm talking to a guy who have a tattoo On his x of his x on his neck. Is that a red flag? Yeah, that's a red flag. Nah. That's a red flag. Nah God bless y'all y'all is y'all is just amazing, you know Y'all see that fire truck with them sirens on it and you say hey Is that a fire truck with sirens? And I say, yeah, that's a fire truck with sirens. You you you got it, right? That's a fire truck with sirens Oh, it's going to put out a fire. Yeah going to put out a fire And so I just really appreciate y'all for asking because I know you know the answer But you that confirmation sometimes could be greater than revelation And I get that I get that and so sometimes you could say am I tripping am I reading too far into this? But yeah, you know Actually, I had my ex name on me on my stomach when I met my wife And the reason why I had it is because I wanted to make my ex think that I loved her So that's why I got it. So I had to get it covered up with a um, I got a panther And I remember when the man did it. I said man make it big like two pop thud like he said no I ain't gonna make it that big because you're gonna be back in here getting this covered up I say what? No, no Sure enough met my wife. I was right in there. My wife was sitting right over there in the chair I was trying to eat starburst trying to take the pain away and got a big old Florida panther A black panther on my stomach. Can you imagine what that looked like? grown man with a big panther growling with claws and a tail curled up in the out across my stomach to cover up Stupidity of my younger days and then had to get my wife's name on my heart To make up for it to say okay. I was faking like I love her. I really love you But I was young in my 20s and a lot of time me and do that just to Get get get the hooks in a woman and make her relax and drop a guard Because we really men don't really value our bodies that way I remember my sister. She got an ex-boyfriend. He had her name tattooed on her in seven different places is making A triple x movie with your spouse the same as those movies Since you are watching one another This is youtube after dark Okay, now um I really ain't got no answer for you on that one. Okay, sister. I really ain't got no answer for you on that one. Okay What y'all do, you know Is what y'all do but I'll tell you, you know, it is something it That's you and him But at the same time though When you play with fire you get burned. So what I'm saying by that is If he go to watching you and him brilliant god bless you not real He go to watching you and him eventually he could get bored with watching you and him And then he still want to catch bumblebee triple x And then he will say well i'm watching bumblebee triple x to see what her And man didn't go doing so that we could do it. You see what I mean? So it still opens something up All that right there just need to be when you with your spouse now y'all ain't married I ain't talking to y'all cuz y'all living in sin. But when you with your spouse All that just need to be for your i-memory because when you go to putting stuff on cell phones This eia sitting there watching it with y'all See i ain't watching it with y'all. Oh Hey come here come here come here come here. Hey, watch this move. She just did watch this move. She just That's what see I ain't sitting there doing they watching your nasty movie that y'all made on your phone Somebody else the people at the at the apple store or the android store We don't know what technology do could be watching it with you now the people who work at the phone thing gonna tell them online but Somebody had these celebrities our cloud and got hold of that stuff and put it online. So A king god bless you now important life with a man lie about wanting a long-term relationship with you. Yes Yes Yes, and that's like, you know where the man chew bubblegum You know where the man put his socks on Yes, absolutely A man will lie to you about wanting a long-term relationship And the reason why he'll do that is get you to drop your guard Get you to drop your guard and you get excited and you when he say you getting a long-term relationship. You like yes Okay, here you go On my back because you said i'm getting a long-term relationship. That's why he does it Um, now y'all try to keep that chat clear now I'll send a lot of emojis in there because I can't get the questions Thank you to to my moderators now So y'all don't y'all get offended when the moderator remove a message out that they just trying to help me be able to see the question Easier you said that staying with a man reinforces his bad behavior and Should lead should you leave? Break the lease if he says he isn't ready for marriage after dating for one year Absolutely, absolutely get on up out of there, you know get on up out of there to be honest with you shouldn't have moved in there until y'all was married anyways And a lot of people think you got to live together before you get married, but that's not actually true That's not the case. It's like the first two years of marriage is Like supposed to be that fun period of where now you know each other you love each other you in love and now The first year of marriage you should be Living together and just getting used to that and just relishing in that When you move in with somebody before you marry it honestly derails the marriage because y'all not in love You haven't committed until death do us part. So now you in there Nine you go to sleep. You've been holding your gas all day You go to sleep heat up on his phone you passing gas He's smelling all your gas atcha and now he's sitting there and he just On his phone and he And then when it's time for your monthly He does not love you yet. He's not in love with you yet You're not his wife So when you slip up and you thought you disposed of your monthly correctly and he sees it Then he's like whoa So you see what I'm saying you you crying one day and he look up your nose and he see a spider well Of you know So this is the type of stuff that happens when you move in and you not in love But when you fall in love Then you move in Now all that little trivial stuff. It doesn't matter. It doesn't break down the relationship because we have real love You know, you real love you smell some gas and it's like Oh my god You see what I mean? It doesn't offend you But when you're not in love and you smell somebody passing gas, it's like oh who raised you Did you supposed to be pat you see what I mean people get offended and so you have to understand that When he tells you he's not ready for marriage. He's basically telling you I don't love you I'm not in love with you Being living with you have helped me realize we've not meant to be So yes, break that and move on Tony, how do you feel about interfaith marriages? um It's kind of it's kind of like A democratic republican You know in a lot of cases it's kind of like A vegan and a meat eater You know, your faith is your foundation So if one person says jesus is the way the truth in the life And the other person says look I respect jesus, but he's not the son of god Y'all can't come to terms because in your faith it said jesus is the way And they faith say look we respect jesus, but he ain't the son of god He ain't the way He's not the plug. Okay. He affiliated, but he's not the plug So now y'all on two different foundations and you can't build on two different foundations. So what happens is What happens is you have to then take in Somebody compromises. So somebody says hey, this is my faith And then the other person says this is my faith and this person say look, I'm really about this life So you want to be with me? You don't have to get that up like you have the back slide on yours So somebody ends up compromising their faith But if two people are strong in their faith and it's different faiths They're going to be believing different foundational things and they're going to be going different ways And then when you have children What do you tell the children? Do you say jesus was a good man or jesus is the way the truth and the life the son of god? You see what I mean because not a kid like hold on now hold on now Is he the son of god or is he just a good man that we know of you see what I mean? Now your kid's confused and now they got to go into the world and try to figure all this out on their own So that's some problems you're going to run into with inner faith. It's a personal choice It's a personal choice But that's some problems you're going to run into me personally I'm a christian. I needed a christian wife before my wife I was engaged to a muslim and it was a lot of issues. It was a lot of issues because you know Just a lot of issues you could imagine Because just a belief's different Boyfriend only sees me when I don't have my children wanted to come over the other day But had my kids Said he wants to see me another day because kids might tell kids father He was around them thoughts Um That I mean, that's good. That's a good thing. That's a good thing. That's respect That's respect and he might not know Your children father and if he crazy and so that's a that's a good thing and you should have that standard You shouldn't have to depend on him to have that standard for you you shouldn't want him to be around your kid because That's just your boyfriend, you know, you really don't know him all the way Should you stay at a man's house if he lives out of town? But in different rooms, he knows you're asking him um Y'all really be asking some questions now. I really love how detail y'all be getting You know, y'all be like toning now after you put the peanut butter on this bread. Do you put the gel on that bread? Okay, now do you put it together? Now i'ma tell you like this right here um You could it depends on how well you know him. So that's a personal choice But again, you play with fire you get burned So it's nothing wrong. It's nothing wrong with You staying at the hotel Ain't nothing wrong with you staying at the hotel or the street and y'all being at at the house and y'all cooking He cooking y'all eat and you say hey, oh man, this has been amazing. This has been so amazing This has been so fun. You can stay here. You can stay at the house We could just hang out. We can sleep on the couch. I'm not gonna touch you. No, no, no It's cool. I want you to be able to sleep. Well, I want to be able to sleep. Well, I'm gonna stay at the hotel You see what I mean because you stay in the other room 130 And then here go your leg he and uh I just couldn't sleep That's why I just figured I come help you sleep Next thing, you know Okay, don't play with fire Do men really fall in love with a woman who dressed with less clothing and post revealing pics on social media To get attention from men when she's Already in a relationship No, no, no, not pretty black. No, I'm a man falling in love with that Would fear stop a man from marrying a good woman because it's been three years since he got divorced And did little to no work Maybe it's a lack of knowledge. Did I answer my own question? Yep You answered your own question and guess what in every problem there's seeds to the solution So the same way you asked that question, that's a good way you asked it. But that's exactly why Yeah, that's exactly why it's just the fear not knowing Um, Andrea God bless and I see Andrea said Y'all deleting the messages is somebody's, you know, put a little emoji So I'm gonna send you a blessing tone to let you know I was Laughing I don't know at what response you was laughing at because I was Um, really serious on all these responses, but that means you got a good sense of humor If y'all laugh at anything I say that mean you got a good sense of humor because I'll be Like they used to say serious as a heart attack Um, Scott teacher God bless you. Why do men always see me for my outside? Not a skimpy dresser. Am I putting out a certain energy? Um, ain't no wrong with that, you know, they're gonna see that first because men are visual creatures So when they see that Thank god for that let that draw them in and then let them see what's in your mind Let them see your conversation, you know, a man sees everyone for her outside A man don't look at any woman and say wow, she has an amazing personality Whoa, that personality is amazing. I just could tell by the way her left foot hit the ground After her right foot that her personality Is amazing You know, that's not how a man looks at a woman every single Woman that a man looks at he's gonna see her outside So you just kind of got to understand like hey, you know, that's your blessing You know, it's a blessing because you could be getting You know just completely ignored, you know, and that could be a different feeling that you have to deal with so Just as long as you let him know you're not a piece of me and that he got to respect your mind I got about three more three more minutes now And I got to get going say I did this 830 because I told my wife I need a little more time with her after I finished this So I want to be able to finish this here by 10 instead of going 9 to 10 30 You know, we already had our dinner date earlier today But um, you know in this situation, I just be like lay up with my wife listening to her talk about these beauty bloggers And so I had to go on ahead and Bump this up a little early I have addressed how important communication is with a man. I have been dating I don't like texting. He prefers texting. I compromise this past week. He ghosted for for the weekend thoughts Uh tomorrow you wasting your time You wasting your time you wasting your time because anytime a man ghost you you got to move on with your life Anytime when a man want to communicate through text, that means he's juggling you with multiple women Because a lot of men can't even spell that good. So when a man say he want to text Knowing that he got to depend on autocorrect 90 of the time That lets you know that he's gonna do whatever it takes to juggle you with these other women So Not only is he juggling you with other women That's why he texting you so he could talk to three of y'all the five of y'all at the same time But then he ghosted you for the weekend. So that means he up in another woman. You got to go When should a man intro me to his kids? I don't have kids It's no real timeline. You know, it's when he feels like it's serious If it hasn't happened by the 12 month mark Um, and then between 12 and 18 months, he don't get on one knee to ask you to marry him then Y'all really not going anywhere. He blocked me on facebook, but not on the ground my ex Lover Well, instagram does not have a relationship status And instagram is not necessarily for your family So he blocked you on facebook because he may change their relationship status to interrelationship and he know it ain't with you Or he may post a new woman So his friends and family could see her or because they know of her and don't want you to see it So facebook and instagram are two different, you know type of environments But I wouldn't worry about it either way because you're moving on with your life Uh, tenacious god that's your dating 14 months living separate homes. He spends a lot of time with me and my daughter But then there are some days he is distant Is he taking time to tend to his life or is he just not into me? Um, it could be it could be just tending to his life, you know, he spent a lot of time with you Faith god bless him. It could be tending to his life. We don't always want to say everything on him negative We don't always want it to be a bad thing But when in a situation like that, you got to lean to your intuition because you know him better than me So you got to look at his track record. You got to look at, you know, his history His his habits is has he been a liar? Has he been trustworthy? You know what I mean, like What do you know about him and his character? Because it's been 14 months. So to be honest with you In another four months, he should be proposing Um, thank you boleh I see the time what the god bless you boleh boleh say it's 10 o'clock tone. Hey boleh. Let me know. I got to go Boleh, let me know. I got to go Let me see something real here Um My last question. What do you think about living separate while working on the marriage? Nope, you got to live together because you married you live separate when you boyfriend and girlfriend You can't work on no marriage Separate because marriage you won So you can't live as two if you're working on one Two can't be one if you live in Separate so marriage you got to live together y'all got married y'all already know each other y'all already understand each other Y'all already married. So that's totally different. Hey god bless y'all. I got to get going now I got to get going God bless you to everybody who sent a blessing up there. God bless you to everybody who sent a question God bless you. I appreciate you to my moderators. I think I seen sharing their blesses share and um caramel kisses I think I seen if I missed any of you any of the other moderators mama tissue um Any other one too bella? Oh god bless y'all. Okay. I see mama tissue in there I really appreciate y'all and I post every day by seven o'clock if i'ma go live Typically, I post it if i'ma go live. I posted on the community page I never know just depending on what what me and my wife got going on Because she wanted me to do a bike ride before I went here live But I had ate too much food and that's why I couldn't do it But sometimes she had me on a bike ride. I won't be able to do my life. I had to push it to nine Okay, so y'all try to set your notification bell And to all the new coaches god bless your congratulations and I will see you on my mentor dot life When you finish your certification We'll talk soon