 emergency surgery that I ended up having when I was in Massachusetts on October 13th. Yeah, it's been six weeks. So I'm feeling better. Working to balance the medication piece because it makes you feel a little wonky and I have a doctor appointment on Monday. So looking forward to seeing the cardiologist here in in Minnesota. So let me just click check my audio to make sure everything is in balance here. As I go live and notice goes out to the people on my subscription list here. Let's just check. Oops. I was listening to a book on audible. So let's make sure we're good here. It says upcoming. Let's see if I'm on my welcome. Actually recording this the weekend of what would be Thanksgiving in the United States that Black Friday weekend. Friday weekend. Today is Saturday. So it's Small Business Saturday. So I encourage you to support your small business owners like me. I'm a small business owner. I would be I guess considered that right and make your purchases on Etsy that kind of a thing. If you can do that for the holidays. Today I actually I just made some tea. This was sent to me by a friend of mine Carmel vanilla. It's very very good. It's a little holiday little sweet. I need that because I have to dial back on the caffeine. But you know, I'm not going to give up my coffee. So I'm going to have to do the decaf version. All right. So the focus is I decided to focus this one on empaths this video. I will do some psychic will do some psychic connection here to some some guidance psychic guidance we'll call it that. I think when I say connection people think I'm going to channel I'm not going to channel on this video not intentionally anyway it might happen. But like I mentioned before six weeks post very intensive heart surgery I need to honor the energy of my grid systems as they're recalibrating in the very sacredness of my heart space which is why I thought empath would be a good topic today and the support that we all need as empathic people which you are if you're affected by world events if you're affected by your family if you're like stressed out at the holidays if you're a worrywart if you are somebody that has anxiety or depression if you are somebody that just feels very emotional at times and even if you think it might be hormonal for my friends who are also like me in the menopausal era of your life. Just know that empathic energy is something that is just real and it's something that is not meant to hinder us it's meant to empower us and so empathic people we're going to be empowered here and it's for it's all across all genders and all identifications as far as gender goes it's not like traditional masculine or feminine energy is just everyone applies to all of us whether or not you tap into it or you flow with it or you constantly spend your life avoiding it which I have done a lot let me just say because I am so hypersensitive now post surgery I've been told that I'm very sensitive like even more so in fact I got a story about that for you and then we're going to do some cards to help shore up the energy of you so for support I'm going to give you one of my tools which I call four pillars which if I when I've done psychic mentoring in the past because I do psychic coaching work and so I've mentored people as they've been working with their own intuition understanding their own energy people who are who are actual healers that work as healers that do hands on healing work maybe acupuncturists maybe massage therapists maybe people who call themselves healers and work as healers in the world and also other psychics and coaches as well so this four pillars super simple really easy something that you can do on your own that you should do that I'm encouraging you to do and so I'm going to share that with you we're going to do that to create a support energy for us as we have our conversation today but I'm going to start with telling you a story about this about the empathic energies and how I didn't think I could get any more sensitive but since I had since I obviously had surgery on my heart space even more so it's like I'm contemplating this deep deep deep physical connection because you know I'm all about the embodiment energy and I've been teaching that are talking about it a lot and in our private work if you've worked with me privately I've been talking about the embodiment and how none of this psychic stuff makes any difference in the world that's just distraction unless you can embody it unless you can bring it in and use it unless it's practical or applicable to your human life it's not helping you at all and I know because when I was in the edge of the in between worlds of being a spirit or being a person and having to make that decision that energy is so very clear to me that there's such a segregation and I use the word segregated on purpose because it's harsh and it's forcibly implemented and it's implemented by external kind of energy and this collective external energy which is not the truth the truth is this harmonious collective vibration that comes from the grid of earth which is what the empathic energy is it's the vibration of the earth now you don't have to be a tree hugger you don't have to like the camp or go on hikes okay that's not what I mean by earth I mean being present being a human being a person showing up and not avoiding not using tons of vices like food or over exercise or over shopping or or drama with friends or projecting into trauma drama at work or or addictions or whatever right so these are all things that are symbols of or signs of the amplification of empaths and how we've gotten to a point as a society of empaths to need to structure ourselves in a supportive fashion with intention so I'm hoping that I can maybe help you start to do that a little bit as I have had you're going to hear my dogs they're scooting across the hardwood floor with their clickety claws hi hello they're coming through here hi guys hi the two boys Toby and Louie Toby's the miniature schnauzer he's what 1314 and Louie just turned 16 he's a long haired um well he's not long haired he's a wire haired um miniature docks and he's 16 so yeah just got the two boys left now yeah the girls were like over out of here this last year lost the two girls but anyway so empathic energy vibes we're coming back to that support so we're gonna do four pillars I'm gonna teach you about that but the story is so I was talking to a friend of mine who's very psychic and um who was one of the main calls that I made when I was heading into surgery I called there and I said I'm scared and uh then I asked her to call a couple of people for me and I asked her to handle communication to the priestess group that I was in and I asked I think I don't know if she asked me if I wanted help or prayers or support from them or not or if I asked for it but either way it came to be that yeah I wanted that to be supported by other divine feminine women and in a powerful amplifying my personal energy way not projecting energy onto me but amplifying from my core up because that's what the the energy of the divine feminine groups that I'm in it's from acknowledging the energy in you and amplifying that not oh you're so oh you're so weak let me give you my energy it's not that and that's I think the mistake that lots of empaths make right is oh let me give you my energy because you just can't handle it oh you're so weak or you're so vulnerable so let me fix you no that's a mistake and those are mistaken practices and those are what derails us because then we aren't coming from a source of love and empowerment and belief in each other and lifting each other up we're we're trying to fill in gaps that we perceive which creates more lack which creates less than which creates more problems with self-worth and value and the hierarchy which is what we criticize the whole society as a whole and the patriarchal energy about anyway and so we're just we're just feeding into it do you see what I'm saying so as empaths we got a support we had a set of supportive structure for ourselves so that we can connect with each other in a very uh strong amplified uplifting way instead of a series of valuing or using some old paradigm to judge and evaluate even though we're not trying to we're doing it in a nice way but we're still saying oh you don't have you're not as good as I am so let me help you everybody has something to contribute and offer and if somebody's not participating up to the standards of of their spirit like if their spirit is trying to uplift them and they're not choosing to partake in that then you just don't engage with that person you can't there's nothing you can do you can just talk to their higher self you can talk to their spirit guides and that's it you can't do anything for anybody else that's what creates dependency codependency that's what creates um this constant system of haves and have nots and better than and that whole economy of value as far as humans go I mean it's just it's so messed up do you see what I'm saying so empathic energy so I was talking to my friend and I said oh my god you know I'm scared I'm scared and I said please contact these two people and let them know what's going on because they aren't gonna know they won't I mean you know they need to know because I don't have time to call everybody I have like 30 minutes I don't know how I was they came in to get me to surgery when I was talking to my son on the phone and so I was like trying to make all these calls right and so subsequently thereafter like about this last week it was a beginning of this last week this week of halloween of the arm sorry of Thanksgiving in the US and I had a friend that I was talking to and she was telling me about this experience with her when with her love one of her lovers I think and um she was talking about this feeling of one more night like one more chance to be with this person because their lives were changing and they weren't going to be able to see each other and it was this whole thing and it's kind of like it all sounds very romantic but it's not right because there's pain there's loss there there's grief and there's also love and respect and honoring of the experience that they had together and so she was telling me about it and I was listening and I I didn't realize it at the time I was just being a friend and after I was deeply impacted and it started to to affect me as an empath I was deeply impacted by the story that she shared and that's not her fault I mean we're friends and and I deeply care about this person and she didn't ask me to hold space for her we were just friends we have to clarify with each other when we're talking like okay don't be psychic just be my friend we have to say that to each other and we do often but I was I was deeply impacted like I was just I was so affected and I didn't realize it like I mistook like that experience like created something in me that was kind of this like a domino or a spiral I'm going to say a spiral because it started in my heart like I was listening and my throat chakra was active because the communication piece for me I was listening and my throat chakra was active and then the top of my heart was active and as far as chakras go and processing the information that she was sharing and as I was processing and I was thinking about this one more night concept and like what if you had one more night what if you had one more day and what if you knew it what if you could you know whether that be like with a loved one that transitioned or on that magical vacation that you had that one time and you could go stand on the edge of that that volcano again or something do you know what I mean whatever that might be for you this one more time and I didn't realize how much that affected me and so I was kind of in the a place emotionally where I was feeling some things and from our conversation my conversation with her the talk that she had shared with me because it was kind of we do this on it we do it on an app so we record back and forth to each other because we're really busy and on totally different time zones and so we share back and forth like that it's just way easier and so like four days later I sent her this message and I was just distraught and I was like or three days later three or four days later I was like just distraught I was like think it was three days I was like oh my god I'm having all these feelings about and it felt like so much past stuff for me coming up and that would make sense right because as she was contemplating this one more time or one more opportunity with this person to say this person all my past stuff was coming up for me and I was so just reeling like spiraling from it like and I didn't identify it as I took it very personally her conversation with me very very personally her story I took it very personally and that's what we do as empaths and I was really messed up energetically I was so messed up I was like oh my god I could not function I was like crying off and on and I was like what's wrong with me why can't I let this go why is this coming up again I thought I cleared all this stuff I am healed I went through freaking heart surgery you would think I would be totally fresh and clean why is this coming up you know and she said she's like it's not yours she said it's not yours it's not yours this has nothing to do with you it's not yours it's not yours she said you are so empathically sensitive right now you are so hypersensitive that when that came in you found something of yours that that you could attach it to and then it became this big thing she said it's not yours so I'm going to share that with you as a phrase I want you to say over and over and over again it's not yours it's not yours or it's not personal it's not personal it's true it's not personal it's just energetics it's not personal it's not personal it's not personal it's energetic so if most of our stuff that we're feeling and we're processing whether it be in our brain or in our bodies physically somatically or in our hearts emotionally stress wise anxiety if at least half of that stuff isn't ours can you imagine how much room that will that will open up for us to feel happier to feel positive to feel lighter to just have more energy to show up for life to just do the errands you need to do to do make the plans you need to do the pay the bills you need to do to get that project on at work you need to get done to get the leaves taken care of in the backyard do you know what I mean just think about how much room that opens up in your life if half of that crap isn't even yours and so I was like oh my god are you kidding me right now I've been like just having so much angst and so much depression hard on myself why am I reliving this why is this happening you know I the one more night thing doesn't even apply I don't have that opportunity it's not it doesn't exist for me it was her story not mine it doesn't exist for me it doesn't now granted that whole concept could be used for a sunday morning coffee and we could go deep into that and how that could apply obviously because like my life like every day of my life now is frosting on the cake you know you could think of it that way doesn't feel like that though let me just tell you it doesn't feel like that you know it's sometimes it's hard right now you know sometimes I do get caught off guard by emotion and I feel sad and I'm human and that's normal you know and that's I guess a good thing is that I'm human oh here comes the sun oh yay it's peeking out the clouds it's been so cloudy today you guys I usually post on tiktok the the sky colors but it was so cloudy this morning there wasn't any opportunity for that so now sun's coming out yay a little bit so let's do so that's my empathic story so it's not yours what if it's not yours okay I'm not talking about not taking responsibility like if you caused problems or something yeah okay you need to take accountability for that crap you need to apologize and none of this oh but oh but my life is so hard and all these things have happened and so and then there's no apology like that no it's not no no no you need that that's a whole different conversation you need to take accountability if you cause pain or problems or hurt you need to take accountability you don't need to suffer but you need to freaking own that shit okay I'm so tired of people not owning that shit or empathic we step in and we own it and it's not ours okay right it's not yours right right so we gotta release we gotta breathe let's breathe in all of the apologies and all of the crap that we know is not ours that upsets us so much let's just breathe in and try to soften some of that maybe we'll let a little bit of it out or loosen it up let's breathe in let it come into that heart in the lungs and let's exhale out it's not mine it's not mine baby it's not mine somebody else who's you taking responsibility for it isn't gonna fix it it's not gonna fix it okay no I wasted like three days feeling shitty about old past stuff that there's nothing I can do about it's done it's over it's done it's done all the pain has happened all the crap's been done nobody's gonna fly in on a white horse and save me and make everything better and apologize and whisk me away into a fantasy it's not gonna happen it's not gonna happen okay so nice breath in well let's actually exhale first I have to exhale because that's the part of my body right now six weeks post open heart surgery that I really feel good about is my tummy like it's soft and squishy you guys like like I have lost so much muscle mass which is just the way it is but it's soft and squishy and I'm so happy that it's not firm and stressed and tight because it's been so tight I've been so like Buzz Lightyear my chest and my belly and I my belly feel oh diaphragm oh feels good to be squishy it feels so good oh that solar plexus yeah okay so squishy is good means soft energy okay squishy bellies yes yellow squishy bellies yes empathic empaths are so hard on ourselves we are so hard did you feel all that judgment you felt me right and did you feel in your body just get really tight in your shoulders or in your back did you back it tight did you back it tight yeah or did you suck in your tummy did you hold your breath a little bit come on come on probably right just a little okay so these are things that you'll notice that when you're being an empath when you're soaking up other energy that's not yours that's not yours that's what your body does it gets tight it gets tense it gets restricted and the thoughts in your mind are very negative about yourself I should have done better I should have x y and z that person or you direct your judgment outwards like that person did me wrong they did me dirty they're a bad person I wish them I wish that they would understand how bad they hurt me all that stuff right that's that's the empath trying to get rid of the excess energy that is yours that's just not yours because that's not who you are you're not that way that's not the kind of thinking that's your thinking that's that's not you that's not you in your pure form that's not you in your spirit that's not you in your heart that's not you that just isn't you but we all have it right because that's like a coping mechanism for us it's like the way that we deal with all this excess energy and emotion and feeling and sensing and we just try to deal with it so we're trying to get it out of ourselves or punishing ourselves you know like beating ourselves into submission this is crazy but it's what we do so let me say good morning to 18 muses good morning to Natalia hello dobby nice to see you hello Ron let's see here hello Lisa Lisa Lisa Lisa Lisa hey Mike nice to see you good morning all right my friends okay so we're gonna talk about um oh my nose is so stuffy or sniffly right now so we're gonna talk about that we're gonna do the first thing we'll do a card to help us with that because cards are tools i want you guys to start using that kind of stuff and not be so scared about it i don't think anybody's scared about it anymore i think it's getting saturated i think everybody and their mother's brothers cousin sisters friends neighbors and aunts are using card decks which is good use them for yourself though don't buy i want to be like i'm gonna be a psychic and you know i don't know that's too much effort okay so let's use which one should i use i'm gonna use the purple ones denise lin these will be linked in the the description below i love these ones these purple ones these purple i like how they feel that's an empathic thing it's a sensory thing i like how they feel okay we're gonna use one of these for a pillar whoa just fell right out there's two actually we'll have two all right passion and pleasure savor your life this is our first pillar and passion and pleasure savor your life okay so what i'm gonna do is i'm gonna choose the energy of something in this it could be an image could be a symbol it could be a color and that's what's gonna focus our first pillar okay i'm gonna use kind of in between here i'm actually gonna use the moon i could use yellow because there's a lot of yellow here i'm gonna use the moon because for our first pillar we're gonna use the moon let's do it over here first pillar we're gonna use the moon because there is a full moon on monday the 27th i think it is there's a full moon coming up and that gives us so much clarity and so that's what we want is empaths for our support we want clarity we want to be clear so we're gonna use that energy of the full moon to clear what doesn't fit anymore now clearing doesn't have to be this hard oh heavy thing and oh my gosh i need to stage myself i need to dip myself in the how cold bath water and run around the backyard naked that's not you don't have to it's just not please that's too much effort we are going to use the moon energy in the gentle way that she is created to just shine her light and yeah she's very feminine the moon is just she's a beautiful woman i mean look at her she's gorgeous oh look at all those curves and so we're gonna use the moon as our first pillar as a spirit guide and the power word or the word we're gonna associate with the support is clarity so if you have a journal and you want to just put hash marks in the corner of each on a page um for the four pillars that's usually what i do if i'm doing four pillars i'll just go i'll go and then i'll write what they are that's how i do it when i do like i do energy readings for people for like the month ahead and i use that that's the process i use so the moon and clarity is the first pillar okay and this is the beautiful card you might like the fire might be something that would stand out to you you might use that instead because you can use for pillars you can use colors you can use chakras you can use elements so you could use solar plexus you could use the moon you can use fire whatever you choose okay all right the next one for our next pillar which is going to be over here i literally do like a box like a square okay this one's interesting um go slow and take time you might be feeling a little foggy right now so fog is mysterious it makes it so we can't always see clearly but what we can see like uh it's like this this card feels like don't worry about what you can't do focus on what you can do so what this kind of feels like is focus but we're going to use the element of water so you see the boat and that's the support that's the flow going with the flow energetically so we're going to use this the second pillar as water the energy of the color blue and then also we're going to use so the water is also connected with the heart chakra in emotion okay so that's going to help you as an empath so this is going to support you support your heart so we're going to use the water element and we're going to use the word flow okay we're just going to let things flow so when an emotion comes up or you have an exchange with somebody don't hang on to it don't do what i did and spiral into the abyss of like oh my gosh is this and oh i can't do that no it's not fair no no don't do that it's just it's a waste of time okay so flow don't own any emotions as your identity let them come in as information let them let them come into your awareness to maybe guide you or teach you something but let them go because there's so much more to life it's not just one thing or one emotion or one identity it's just it's it's information so so let it flow okay so we got the water we got the color blue and we got the word flow as our second card okay whereas our second pillar all right so that's what we got here all right so we're going to use this other card deck which i also really like this is a kyle gray deck this is the angel oracle by kyle gray i think this is also in my description as well i think i do believe so so we're going to get two more maybe from this deck i don't know may only get one from this one we're going to see because i keep seeing another purple so we're going to see what happens with this one cards again are just a tool you guys they're just a tool they're like flashcards for little kids learn the alphabet okay or sight words all right oh there's actually you know what i think i'm going to take this one oh this one came up yesterday you guys this one came up yesterday in my reading my gratitude reading that i did for you guys okay so this one came up yesterday i love it when this happens the synchronicity of it right earth and ground so we're going to use the energy of earth as our third pillar so the earth we've talked about this the earth as empaths like you don't have to be you know growing your own veggies or going on walks in nature or living off grid okay that's not what i'm talking about i'm talking about earth presence being present for the time that is now the earth is here now okay and the energy of the earth grid is what makes all the impact and all the difference in the world so you got to plug in see how this being is plugged in they are seated their sitz bones are on the earth and their root chakra is connected to the earth so too can you be now the primary color here is yellow so that yellow is that solar plexus energy which i love how that yellow kind of is a diagonal from that moon energy as well this feels a little bit solar to me in addition to the earth energy so you're seated upon the earth and imagine the sun pouring over you so this pillar might also represent the solar energy or the sun energy so it might be earth grounding you while the solar sunlight energy is just purifying you just clearing your chakras flowing through you like water would flow but it's flowing down through your chakras all the energy centers of your body and just really going into the earth and you are that vessel you are that leo-esh pillar of light just letting that energy flow do you feel that doesn't that feel good that feels nice doesn't it it's just a beautiful cycle just sitting your booty on the earth just feeling that energy closing your eyes and letting that light pour over you that beautiful so that is our third pillar the earth energy and the solar energy okay so yellow and gold is also one of the colors that's coming through here okay all right so i'm going to use this purple deck again because i kept seeing the purple when i was using other cards and my god there's one more purple one so again this is the denise denise lin lin n sacred traveler deck this one's like super basic like you could have this one at work ain't nobody's gonna go what is that it's so non-denominational super like just feel good vibes kind of thing so i mean it's fine it's fine practical someone's trying to come out here i can feel it i don't know which one it is though let me see i can feel it but i can't decide it i think i'm holding it the wrong way here let's try like this oh oh there we go i got her thank you oh and our fourth pillar honors the heart voyage of the heart love flows through you and to you so our fourth pillar is the heart chakra okay and nice how the diagonal connects to this water pillar the water element the foggy fogged in energy of the i'm not so sure but if i just focus on what really matters what's important not all this the chaotic energy or the static but just really be aligned and then flow and that heart energy it's just nice diagonal connection there as well so it's our heart chakra connecting with our heart energy and so that is what and then look at the doesn't this look like water here look at that isn't that beautiful yes yeah and she's also got like that moon right there too i see that half moon a crescent moon beautiful and she's got all the creatures the sea creatures the starfish the coral maybe a koi and there's a boat too do you see that boat way down there see that and the flow see how that connects with this one it's totally a diagonal see how that connects with this one see that this is what support is you guys this is what support means it means there are commonalities and patterns believe it or not patterns aren't just for negative stuff that you have to break okay patterns are things that you can create for yourself that's what a grid is that's what the earth energy grids are it's like making the connections that are positive for you that are supportive for you that's what matters as an empath it means to structure that energy in your heart and your soul at the core of your body to really embody what is good for you what matters to you what will bring balance and alignment for you what will amplify and support an environment internally of love internally that impacts your mind so there's not the criticism or the critiques or the projections outward or the anger there's just simply this knowing this embracing of acceptance and this making change in a way and making an impact in a way that is from a state of aligned love which isn't like mushy gushy love and let's just be hippies it's not bad it's like love that comes from a strength and a power and an integrity that has so much power in it so much just shining bright that you can't avoid or ignore it and who would want to because it's amazing so everybody wants it you know and so everybody wants a part of it everybody wants to know how everybody wants to be part of this this community of hope of light of shining and I mean that's what matters right the empathic energy is here to allow us to be nurturing and compassionate and strong and leaderful and trailblazing and supported and in community with one another so I hope that this conversation that we've had in this little experience with the four pillars and my little story shares that I've given to you have helped you to maybe understand the empathic impact right now because I know that the state of the world and with all the holidays coming up it is so intense for empaths this is not the time to go to your vices this is not the time to oversleep overeat over drink over shop this is not that time this is a time to go inside your heart and your soul and really be in a place of honoring and that seems like too far-fetched of a word be in a place of knowing yourself what are you going to choose how are you going to choose to be to show up for yourself not the old ways that punish you and go back to the past just right here right now with these pillars of light supporting you how are you going to choose to connect in and be it's not about avoidance it's not about resistance it's not about distraction it's about presence and I know it seems hard and we've been taught how difficult this load is for us to carry as empaths as psychic people but being an empath is a good thing being aware of it is a good thing and it can be hard but I hope that maybe I can help maybe I can help so I hope we've inspired your spirit today filled you with some hope and encouraged you to live your life this is your life after all and you get to live it just live it I want to make sure I say hello to the chat if I missed anybody nope I think I got everybody all right my dear friends thank you so much for being here