 Tony Gaskins here just using this live to Using this live to shoot a video just because I'm out and about today and if I take in I Don't have my microphone. So y'all got to forgive me, but if I take in Shoot a video then It won't upload while I'm out Moving around it'll take forever. So I want to pop on here and Just use this live to shoot a video and when you two been acting up here lately You know how it is when the fair is watching meaning you too folks watching and the thing about it is now when you are person who You speak in knowledge when you sharing things that's gonna advance people and and you see that and people start to come together and Start to learn and start to grow and start to build The power that be they get a little worry they get a little worried because unfortunately not everybody want to see you do good Not everybody want to see you advance and a lot of people don't realize that a lot of people don't understand that a lot of people don't believe that But the way humans are humans are set up to be humans are territorial Humans are competitive so Those who are in a certain position in any walk of life They don't want to lose that position to somebody else So when somebody else start doing the things they need to do to elevate those who are in position start to get worried and There starts to be a competition and if they can hinder you they can hint they'll hinder you if they can derail you they'll derail you and My video last night old raggedy YouTube put on a ass limited basically saying that we were talking about stuff that You ain't supposed to be talking about that ain't suitable for appetizing and All we were talking about was love and relationships So they don't even want you relationship to get better and It's just crazy to see you know in this hill world But I was thinking today and I was saying to myself today y'all got to forgive me because I'm out in the box So I went I'm out like this and I'm in the hill cat With the hill 807 horsepower. I have to watch my surroundings because sometimes you have a little young knuckleheads And that they you know, they can't see you do the 10 or they hear a car They see a car said not they'll come and try to do they go on in 60 seconds So I have to watch them surroundings every night there when I see somebody moving But y'all got to forgive me this hill is the car I'm in the most stolen car in America It's the most coveted engine in America 807 horsepower this supercharger and And So I have to be careful when I'm out and about but I pulled over in part Just so I could get my video out because what I'm trying to do and I want you to take a lesson from this too Because I'm taking a lesson from it myself is it's about Consistency so I say Tony you're not really consistent at anything in your life other than you know being a husband and a father and I'll be coasting I'll be coasting. I'll be honest with you. I could take in I could take in scale. I could 10x my income my business and everything But I just don't care to work that hard or to work that consistent because the Lord taking care of me Yes, I'll say a keel Lord taking care of me and but at the same time I realized When we consistent in one thing It teaches us and helps us become consistent in other things And so I was just talking to my wife on the phone and I was like, hey, I'm in here parking lot I'm gonna go on shooting a little video But I want y'all to take a lesson from that whether it's with your workouts Whether it's with your brand whether it's with your business your relationship your children We got to find a way to learn how to be consistent in something so that we can be consistent in everything Okay, y'all watching video Appreciate that but the day I was thinking We are in a new day in time ain't gonna be on here alone I'm gonna be on here 30 minutes and it's not a Q&A. It's just a little normal video I'm just using the live to shoot the video But I was sitting here thinking this morning about how we're moving into a new day and age Prime example car just pull up beside me and It's a man and a woman. They in a motorhome or RV That they bought in Fort Worth, Texas The woman is driving the man riding And when you see a motorhome, it's probably like the length of my sprinter so it might be 24 feet It take up two parking spaces Now look all the park spaces this park a lot little park space This brother come park right behind me. You know why cuz he see I'm in this supercharger And he come park right behind me so you can get him an eye full and these these right here look like the guys I've seen on the video Still in people catalytic converters I don't know what the thing was called that they stole what they people just pull up beside the car Stole something from up under the car wasn't even the engine and Told it in a car and took off. I'm like, what was that they stole? Like the front part of the muffler I'm around him. It's like brother all these parking places don't come parked behind me tonight It's a million open parking spaces. That's how they'll work try to throw you off your message now listen to me What I'm talking about Prime example this woman she driving her husband and We are in a day now Where we used to have Men had this mindset of women being feeble women being less than Women being not on the same level as men in any area and so We're in this we're in this place in this mindset To where today What you're gonna what you're gonna see and I want you to look around I want you to look around and You're gonna see a lot of contention You will see ignorant women and ignorant men ignorant men and women talking with all the sense and People one thing about knowledge is knowledge make people feel good So people is learning about the stars People learning about ancestors People learning about the spiritual realm people learning about all these different things and they start to study it and they start to Think they wise they start to think they knowledgeable and they start to talk from this place of Wisdom knowledge and understanding but really what it is is They become The one-eyed man or the one-eyed woman in the land of the blind and We will get all of this knowledge in areas that does not matter So you got so many people that's knowledge about the ancestors and spiritual ancestors and the stars and the galaxies in the moon But that does not move our world forward it does not help us in our relationships It does not help us in our marriages, but they got all of this useless knowledge About and just want to sound deep And so what happened is it's starting to create contention more contention between the genders To where men going at women that women going at men that and It's a bunch of arguing across the aisle and there's some disdain and What I'm noticing from the male perspective is a lot of men are Becoming wise in their own or conceded in their own wisdom like the Bible talk about and a lot of men are Clamoring and I'm looking from a male perspective and I see this with women too But I'm not a woman so I don't look through those lenses, but a lot of men are clamoring for male validation and for men to Be exalted and put above women and Then on the flip side I see women Clamoring for women to be exalted and What we're not understanding is that in the spiritual realm? This is the adversary's goal the adversary want to separate The gender so that you can't come together and build Because when you come together and you build whether it be in business, they don't have to just be in a relationship Imagine if men and women do more business together Without the funny business without sleeping with your co-worker or your business partner a Woman gonna see things a certain way a man gonna see things in certain way So if the man could see that side and the woman could see that side There's no blind spots if the man could see this way and the woman could see that way There's no blind spots and so but what happened is is we we separate and We compete and it's like hey this women's only this men's only and It's a lot of and what I see too is a Lot of women are doing women's only I see a lot of women who they buy old and they everything is women's only and it's like yes Men may come to you as a woman for the wrong reason a Man may come to you and try you But what you get the opportunity to do as a woman is Show him that you are not loose That you are not easy and that you are about business and then what you get to do in that is you then get to Shift the narrative you get to shift the culture because I see a lot of women they bio say women's coaching And they coaching on real estate. They coaching on credit. They coaching on Business credit they coaching on personal credit and it's like why you just coaching women It's like why you just coaching women when you also could be coaching men You also could be coaching boys and girls And you could utilize that gift to coach everybody But see somebody that told you oh you got to focus Oh, you got to be on one lane Or you got to be in just focus on one person one type of person And what it's doing is it's causing division. So when you look around There's a bunch of women's only conferences But the knowledge that's being taught could benefit men too And a man may be more open to learning from a woman In that area Then he is from a man because he was raised with a single mother Or because he may look at a man as his superior or his competition And and so a lot of women today leaving a lot of money on the table by just focusing on coaching women But what it also is is it's a sense of inferiority It's women feeling like why would a man listen to me? It's and that's because of what men have done men have We have put our foot on the neck of women to make women feel inferior And inadequate that now it's so many women with life changing knowledge But they only Give it to other women because they feel like men won't be open to receive it And it's so many bios I don't see any women that they teaching something that I could learn but they say that's just for women They didn't come up with one of the slogans that say I help women Do this and do this in real estate or in business. I'm like, well, darn I was getting ready to hire you because I need to help too But we separated and so we have to realize and understand that And start to pay attention to how we move and and then when we see somebody move in a certain way That's not beneficial or advantageous to our growth. We got to be able to speak to that And there's a lot of times I done told my female clients Hey, open that the males too, you know and just have your boundaries Don't be on the phone after 9 p.m Don't be meeting in a private place in person with a man. You don't know But if you use the zoom you using the phone You could be coaching a lot more people and sharing your gift more with the world because Instead of just being separated. So today we have more division Then we have unity And what I'm noticing too is What we're failing at as men and I have failed at this as well Is We will ask a woman Her opinion will ask our wife girlfriend fiance mama sister will ask a woman her opinion Just so that we could dump our thoughts But then we'll do what we want to do And then it comes to a time to where the women The woman in your life or the women around you Don't want to say nothing to you as a man because you never listen And I have failed at that as well And I had to realize so what I started doing is I got to a place Is I got to a place to where I say, you know what? I'm gonna take in Ask my wife a question about this business move And whatever she feels is the thing that should be done I'm gonna do that when lose or draw Just to show her that I respect your mind I trust your mind I trust your judgment I trust that you my teammate and I trust that you want the best for me Because what's good for me is good for us And I had to start doing that to rebuild what we As men in our society had broken And that's the confidence in A woman's mind Vice versa the same thing has to happen With women with men because sometimes a woman could know her knowledge and she could look down and I've heard women say that In group sessions. I've heard women. I mean in coaching sessions with a man Well, Tonya, I would listen to him, but he just don't know nothing It's just everything we get ready to do. I'm smarter than him It just it just all his ideals be done And it's like sometimes you got to take that L And you got to listen to your other half Whether it's man to the woman woman to the man To build that confidence to build that trust It's no different than what you see like in sports where You'll be in sports and you'll see the coach Let the quarterback make the call We lose a draw Make the wrong call. They live with it Coach live with it, but it's to let that quarterback know I trust you Let a certain player take the last shot of the game I trust you. That's what we have to start doing across the gender lines to build trust And to utilize the mind and it's because that that way when we come together we stronger together Then we are apart And what I want to say to the man is Especially the single man what I want to tell to the single man is stop thinking That you smarter than women And stop thinking that you're stronger than women Stop thinking that you're better than women. Stop thinking you're the prize Because it's on the man to approach a woman Stop waiting on a woman to approach you You can't call yourself an alpha male But you want a woman to approach you You can't call yourself a leader and a provider But you want a woman to approach you and shoot her shot because you don't have the confidence to shoot your shot Because you're afraid of being rejected It don't work like that You can't be the follower in the initiation of the conversation And then want to be the leader in the household If the woman coming and approach you then she the leader She got the confidence She the head of the household If the woman proposed to the man then She got the confidence She the head of the household And that's why god tell a man to find his wife and you find a good thing That's why the man get on one knee Leadership in service Leadership in love So you lead with confidence you leave with love you leave As a servant not as a dictator or a tyrant And so we got this here thing going wrong and then on the flip side for the women We got women Looking down On men because of where he is currently at in his life So this man could be The director of the boys and girls club And that job in that city of baltimore or wherever May pay 35 to 50 thousand But his trajectory is to become a superintendent of something Or a director of this over here, which may pay him 120 thousand But he got to put in the time And today it's a lot of women that's popping up that are superficial That just focusing on a dollar amount and not looking at the character of a man and allowing his character to be his currency And taking into account his trajectory and his ambition to get him there Because he may be one or two or three years away from his peak From his breakthrough And could be an amazing person and and we got these narratives going around from from the woman side That's how we have men saying hey woman Shut up sit down play dumb be dumb And let me do what I want to do just how the man saying that it's on the other side women saying I don't want no man who work a nine to five. I don't want no man who don't make x amount of dollars I don't want no man who can't Pay for me and my friends to eat I don't want no man who this and that and just put it all to money And then what they get is a man with money Who doesn't have any character And what they overlook is a man with character who's going to have a whole lot of money And then look up and wonder Why the eyes red why they got a headache from all this crime? And it's because you chose currency over character Not understanding that character is the greatest form of currency That the character can produce any amount of currency But no amount of currency can buy character And that's what have to be understood But the reason why Men can't see the value in women and women can't see the value in men is because of where we're operating from We operate from a reprobate mind This society is operating from a place of lust From a place of greed from a place of selfishness We operate from the seven deadly sins Instead of from the fruits of the spirit And that's why we cannot see and recognize the value Each other And that's why we lose So you got to be able to see and recognize the value in order to build and to grow And you got to ask yourself where am I operating from? And you got to be honest about Your strengths and your weaknesses Because we're not being honest about our strengths and our weaknesses And then we're not celebrating We're celebrating each other Instead we competing with each other And we're afraid to praise to celebrate and to give Affirmation because we feel like lifting someone else Is putting ourselves down? That's the wrong mindset And we got to break free From the shackles of our parents shortcomings Daughters are becoming just like they twisted father And sons are becoming just like they twisted mother And as adults we are still trapped and bound by the mental and generational Shortcomings of our parents And we being and doing and operating just like our parents Instead of recognizing. Hey, that was a flaw In my mother or my father Instead of me operating from that let me Adjust that Let me change that and let me be different Let me instead of saying this is me and this is how I am and this is how I was raised And this no Let me grow and become Who I need to be Let me grow and do what I need to do Instead of remaining Just like those who raised me And so that's what we got to realize and When we get to that place that's when we're going to start to see things change Somebody said can I do Q&A later? Probably not Probably not One thing one thing you can't ask a servant is a can you ask some more work to your schedule? Probably not But yeah, I might get to it just put on my son practice But uh, I'll try to If I don't have to do a coaching call or nothing like that during my son practice, then I try to hop on them But uh, hey, but just wanting to pop on here I say I'll be on here 30 minutes and just upload do my video like this So sometimes when I'm out in the body, I'll be going live. I see this a good connection I see this here The telephone pole working good Because ain't no Wi-Fi Turned off my bluetooth so the sound not going through my car And I could just go live and do my normal message and then it be uploaded on there and uh Versus happen to try to shoot and upload it because when you try to upload To this youtube without Wi-Fi that thing take 10 years But hey, god bless you appreciate you And um, we're gonna be in touch. I might be able to pop in later tonight During my son practice lord willing will see But uh, I talked to y'all so Appreciate y'all moderators and everybody that was able to join me live in the middle of the day 1247 where I'm at that was uh That says a lot Have a few people pop on here. I literally one time I went live My wife got a good old laugh out of one time. I went live on youtube and zero people was on there What look here? What are you talking about a reality check? What are you talking about? Your stomach hit hit your toe And you sitting there trying to keep us keep a straight face with that zero On that live boy. Look here. So I appreciate y'all showing up evening Even if you have your sound turned down because you at the job just being just being in the building y'all y'all help me out so a god bless you and um I see momentation now one of the moderators and everybody who joined live And we'll talk soon