 Alright, Jennifer says, what is a good way to tell a guy that you want exclusivity but not scare him off? Well it depends on what kind of a situation you're in with a guy. Are you sleeping with a guy yet? My suggestion is that you bring up the exclusivity talk no later than getting physically intimate with someone. So if you're not physically intimate with a guy yet, then my suggestion is that you don't bring it up at all and if you are physically intimate with a guy already, my suggestion is that you stop being physically intimate with him until you've had an exclusivity talk with him where he's agreed to it and the best way to have that conversation is just to talk about the fact that you're not seeing anybody else and asking him if he's, you can either ask him if he's seeing anybody else or you can just say, hey, when I'm sleeping with somebody, I don't sleep with anybody else while that's happening and I want to make sure for health reasons that the person that I'm sleeping with is doing the same thing, you know, if you decide that you want to sleep with somebody else or that you're interested in somebody else, that's fine but I want to make sure that you let me know first so that, you know, we don't end up, so that I know what kind of a situation I'm getting myself into and so if you come from it that way and I know what I just said is going to freak out a lot of women because I just said, you know, it's okay if you go and, you know, decide that you want to sleep with somebody else but just realize that you're setting up a situation where you're allowing him freedom, right, and if, you know, if he wants to go and do something, he's going to go and do something regardless and so if you're saying, hey, that's fine if you decide that that's what you want to do, that's fine but, you know, we're cutting this off if you do do that then you're kind of letting him go and do that if that's something that he wants and you're kind of giving him enough rope to hang himself with and at the same time you're giving him freedom so that he looks at you and he's like man this woman is awesome and I don't want to screw this up and so I'm going to make sure that I get into, you know, that I keep her around and that I don't, you know, why would I and if you're doing all the right things and he's the kind of guy that's interested in having something long-term with you, it won't be a problem anyway. That's my point.