 Hello there, lovers and friends. Welcome to Head vs. Heart, a series where you guys are in control of answering the question and then I respond to it in two different fashions, one from the head and one from the heart's perspective. And in the comment section below, you vote on which answer you think is the best. So let's read this week's question. I'm a 25-year-old woman and I haven't lived with my parents since before college. During this time, I've come out and I'm very happy and at peace with that decision. But it's been five years and I still have not told my parents. Maybe they know and are in denial, but either way, everyone seems happier about me keeping this truth out of the family. My new girlfriend, however, is amazing and has been encouraging me to come out. But honestly, I'm okay with things the way they are. Should I come out of our comfort zone and come out? The end of the day, this comes down to you. And the only thing I can offer you is my own perspective. And my life changed when I came out. My life changed when I actually decided that I wanted to be myself in every single environment. And like, yeah, man, happiness is great. But happiness is also very easy to gain. Happiness is cheap. Freedom, on the other hand, is transformative. Freedom is worth fighting for. And I don't know you that well, but I feel like you asked this question for a reason. And I think that reason might be you want something more than cheap ass happiness. Okay, so if the question is whether or not you want to live this very like, crafted compartmentalized life, or you want to be able to be yourself in every single environment, that's the only thing that makes sense. Compartmentalization is a very healthy and normal part of being a human is having different parts of yourselves for different atmospheres. There's a work you, there's a home you, there's a play you, there's a sexual you. All you're doing is deciding that it's not safe in this current environment for you to express that side of yourself. And you found a healthy way to balance both of them. To me, you have best of both worlds right now. You have a healthy romantic life that you're able to exhibit on your own. And your family life is healthy. You are successful in both of those areas until one of those things is challenged. Why should make a change right now? Can I speak? Can I speak? Um, you sent in the question for a reason, right? Obviously, you're thinking about this question. So if it, if it, if it's on your heart, hey, right here, if it's on me, why live with the burden? Just get it out there. And again, allow them to make the decisions, allow them to live with the burden. Now, don't get me wrong. They probably have put things together. Maybe they haven't said it yet. You guys aren't comfortable yet. But when you are comfortable and that relationship adjusts to you needing to be out, you'll make that adjustment. Until that time comes, compartmentalization is not a negative thing. Generalization is an unhealthy thing. Don't let the reason why things get turned upside down is because somebody else was uncomfortable with how you find happiness. Sure. If you feel like you can't come out because you're living in your parents house or you're living in like a dangerous neighborhood or a dangerous country where it's not safe, I am the last person to tell you to jeopardize your life and jeopardize your safety. But safety was never ever the question. Right now we're talking about happiness. You know exactly what you need to do. You know that you sent that email for a reason. You knew that you've been thinking about this. It's been weighing on your heart for a long time. So because someone else put it in her head. Yeah, it wasn't in her. Clearly they ain't about to agree anytime soon. So in the I in the right hand corner, click the poll to choose head or heart. Or if you have personal experience of what you want to share in the comment section below makes you write head or heart and then explain why you think either one is a better decision. Until the next time guys. Bye.