 When you see the narcissist after the discard Maybe the narcissist discarded you Well, you left them and you went no contact and there was a period of time where you didn't see them You didn't talk to them But what should you expect? When you see them again after the discard After you have gone no contact When you see the narcissist after the discard Don't expect them to be supportive or cooperative Don't expect them to want a resolution Don't expect them to consider your feelings or needs Because if you expect any of this You may be disappointed You may also expect the narcissist to be cruel and mean to you So that you could be reminded of why you left them But then they may return to the love-bombing Which may leave you confused So it's best not to expect anything Because the narcissist may catch you off guard They may pretend to be normal nice people Because they know that other people will realize that's why you left They want everyone to think that something is wrong with you As though you left without any justifiable reason Because you only care about yourself That's what they want to portray to other people They want to be seen as perfect As though they did everything they could to support you But you were bad to them So they had to leave you for their own safety Or if you left them They don't understand why you left You're never going to get validation You're never going to get closure All they're ever going to do is manipulate you So you have to find that validation and closure within yourself You have to give yourself the answers Because you're never going to get that from them Their main priority is the illusion And they have no interest in anything That does not support the illusion that they want to portray So when you see the narcissist after the discard Don't look for answers Don't waste your time questioning them Because you're never going to get the answers you're looking for And it's just going to give them supply To know that you still care Which is why it's so important to have more significant things in your life So you're not constantly worrying about what the narcissist is doing They feed off your reactions So let them think you're not concerned about it anymore Let them think you've moved on Even if you're not there yet You cannot display any vulnerability around a narcissist Because they will only exploit it Instead Talk to people who you can trust Talk to people who understand Whether it's survivors on my channel Or if you would like to book a coaching session with me Talk to someone who can validate what you have experienced Rather than looking for answers from the narcissist Because when you do that You're just showing them you still care And while that might make a normal person want to work things out All it does with a narcissist Is it just gives them supply It makes them feel powerful It makes them feel important It does not cause them to have any concern for you But they will try to extract information from you They will want to know what you're doing now Which is why you really need to limit what you say to them Don't reveal too much about yourself Because they're only going to use that information against you Even if you've moved on and you're happier and more successful now There's really no point in sharing your accomplishments with a narcissist They're not going to praise or compliment you Or if they do It's not going to be genuine They will just play it down And find ways to minimise it They will always find something wrong with your success Because it's not them So when you see the narcissist after the discard There's really no point in sharing anything at all Because whether you share good news or bad news They're just going to use it to get supply When a narcissist interacts with you after the discard They just want supply Or they're trying to get something else from you Whether it's money or sex They always want something If the narcissist didn't want anything from you You would never hear from them again So when you see the narcissist after the discard It's important to keep that in mind They're only there to take something from you Everything a narcissist says or does is manipulation Nothing is ever genuine or from the heart So don't allow yourself to be fooled You are wiser now But if you choose to engage with a narcissist After the discard After everything they put you through They are going to see you as weak They are going to think that you're stupid And they're going to see it as an opportunity To manipulate you That's all it's ever going to be Because they know they're never going to be anything good for you They know they're not to be trusted So if you don't want the narcissist to see you as that anymore Your only option is to keep it short and walk away Because the longer you stay around them The faster your value depreciates in their eyes They assume that if you're making the choice to be around them You can't be that great Because if you were anything better than them You would leave But when you do choose to disengage And you put your focus on things that should be more important to you That's when it's game over for the narcissist That's when they're forced to accept that maybe you are something after all But the moment you engage with them again They see you as a fool There's really no way to be involved with the narcissist Without them seeing you in that way Because they already know they're no good They know they're not to be trusted Thank you for watching I hope this video resonates with you Please like, comment, share and subscribe If you would like to donate My PayPal link is in the video description Coaching queries You can email me at coachinganarchsurvivor.uk Thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon