 Hi, I'm Matthew Coast, head dating coach and founder at CommitmentConnection.com. And in today's video, we're going to talk about what a casual relationship means to a man. If this is the first time to our channel, make sure that you hit the subscribe button to get more videos on how to have the relationship that you've always wanted. One of the biggest situations that women come to me in is that they end up getting into a casual relationship with a guy. And next thing you know, they catch feelings and they're wondering why the guy isn't feeling the same thing or why he's not moving things forward and how she can kind of prod him or trick him or force him to create a committed relationship with her. And the reason that this happens is because fundamentally and from a big picture standpoint, a casual relationship means something completely different to a guy than it does to a woman. For a guy, there's really no risk there. It's like the lowest amount of risk with the greatest amount of reward. And for a woman, it's like the greatest amount of risk with the least amount of reward. As for a guy, guys are very good at kind of separating their physical and emotional brains from each other. So if he can get into, most guys can get into a sexual relationship and never feel like it's anything more than that. I know guys that have been in casual relationships for 12 years and never even had a thought in their mind that they'd want to take it anything deeper than just having a casual relationship. And usually the women that are in those relationships are like, yeah, maybe he really does see me as a girlfriend and he's just pretending like he's not because he's afraid or something like that. And that's usually not the case. It's usually that the woman catches these feelings and she's like, oh yeah, this is the guy for me now. And the guy is like, it's just a casual relationship. So for a guy, what you might want to think about is maybe the casual relationship long term means what it does to the woman initially, right? Like you see a guy and he's really hot and you're like, oh yeah, I just want to hook up or whatever. And that's kind of how the guy sees it forever. He just sees it like, hey, we're going to hook up and this is fun. It is possible, it is possible that a guy will catch feelings. It is possible to go from a casual friend with benefits relationship to a more serious type relationship, although it's not that common. It's much, much less common to do that than to just go straight to a relationship from the get-go. So the first thing that it means to a guy is that it's just this physical attraction that he has for you and that it means nothing more. And so the second point that I want to make here is that a casual relationship to a guy a lot of times means that you have voluntarily taking yourself out of any relationship possibility for him. So if a guy sees you and he's really attracted to you and you know, he's thinking maybe she's relationship material. A lot of times if you're just like, hey, I'm just going to jump in there and sleep with this guy or you know, maybe you're thinking that you'll sleep with him and then you'll catch feelings or whatever. That's usually not how it works for most guys. Most guys kind of look at it and they're like, you know, she's she's this option. And really you become less valuable to a man. The more you have sex with them and the faster, right? So if you end up hooking up with a guy immediately, your value to him goes down really, really quickly because it's like, oh, you know, there's no there's no investment that he has there. It didn't, you know, people it might be cliche, but it, you know, people value things that are hard to get. And so the more he has to put in the more effort that he has to put in to get you, the more he'll value you on a surface level. There's also other types of value that I talk about in other videos and programs that I have, but just think about your value being how much a guy thinks of you as long term relationship material. So the more valuable you are to him, you know, and values not just determined by the amount of effort and investment that he puts in. It's determined by a lot of different things. It's determined by how you look. You know, whether you're his type or not, whether he thinks that you'd be a good mother or a good, a good wife, it's determined by, you know, your personality and the way you act around him, the way you act around his friends. There's a lot of different things that determine how valuable he sees you to his life and the more valuable, but the more valuable he sees you, the more he thinks of you as long term relationship material and the faster you jump into bed with him, the less likely he is to see you as that type of woman. Thanks for watching this video. 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