 Ladies and gentlemen Tony Gaskins here, let me Get this thing situated Want to pop in I told y'all be trying to do my Q&A zone Monday Through Thursday when possible, but I always posted on the community page So when you go to my page and then you click on community You'll see my little updates. So I try to post it on there whenever I can go live Let me see. Let's jump on into it now We broke up last night due to Inconsistent communication he calls today saying I was supposed to be Different and trust him even if he can't always reach out especially in the 19 He had his kids You got to go with your spirit Sound like he trying to do some reverse psychology on you, but you got to go with your spirit on that, you know, somebody's not Reaching out to you consistently It's no excuses because even with you with your kids They go to bed 10 o'clock at the latest if if he raising them, you know Let them do what they want to do they go in the bed 10 o'clock. So he still got time to reach out to you So I'm really not buying it Do you think you'll consider ghost writing again in the future? I may it just it takes a lot of time and You know, I just got a lot going on and and so, you know, my ghost writing fee is ten thousand dollars And it take a lot more time than ten thousand, but yet, you know, it's not real Most people can't afford more than that. So it kind of don't really work out Now if you could afford 20 30 I Might come out of retirement. Even Michael Jordan came back out of retirement now Lord may well have came back out of retirement If it if it makes sense, I might come out of retirement. I Totally I appreciate you from live Q&A to the courses to the books. You really helped me Is it wrong? Is it wrong or petty to donate my husband's things? We've been separated almost a year Um, you could get an address and mail it to him And if you can't get that then no, it wouldn't be wrong to To donate them or give it to a mutual friend or one of his family members to get it to him You know, you don't necessarily have to donate it or give it away Should I date someone who is newly saved? Hmm Well, if they save they save, you know, no matter who you date If you are christian and they're christian, you're gonna have different levels of You know spirituality. One of you are going to feel like you're more spiritually Mature than the other And you could be wrong that person could be wrong, but that is normal So as long as they save and they believe in now don't go in there hitting across the head with A bible I see somebody say don't put no curse words. It's a question. That's a good thing I don't curse. So if you got curse words in your question, I can't even read your question What is the radio show show you're doing tomorrow? Okay, coach share, um, you seen that I didn't know if that was showing up on there So tomorrow i'm doing a live, but it's different. It's like a stream. So It's a little different. Y'all will have to see it when you get on there. Um It's not my face. It'll be audio So it'll be me talking and then I can see a chat And I think you will be able to call in. I think you could call me I don't know If I'm gonna continue to do this because people like to get on get on a call and get long winded And I don't want to be rude and have to cut people off But I think you could call in if I ain't mistaken Um Aspiring dream of god bless you now. Tony. What if clients don't take us seriously? Don't respect that we are a certified coach through your course and instead expect us to have degrees in mental health um I've never had that issue. So you you may have to show You know what you're worth. So that may mean writing blogs. So they see where your mind is at um a person who Some people don't understand what life coaching is So, you know, if that's the case just tell them. Hey, you may need a a therapist not a life coach, you know A life coach is more so somebody that you dream with somebody that you work with on a plan on a strategy You know, it's not all about it's not about mental health life coaching It can help your mental health, but it's not about Depression anxiety, you know, all of those things that can go into mental health It helps your mental health, but a life coach is for a motivated driven individual who's looking to grow in their life not somebody who is You know stuck and down and out and trying to deal with all kind of You know trauma and stuff that's for a therapist and a counselor that really go deep with the treatment plans and really help them So sometimes you got to help a person understand What they're looking for and it may be something different Uh romana. God bless you now I Now I don't know what wdis is I missed that test in abbreviation university When he asked to marry you What do I say? When he asked to marry you but wants to include hall passes or cheat days I wouldn't even pay him no attention. I'll tell him man. Go and get out my face man. Get out my face with that nonsense My ex and I diamond bless you now. My ex and I separated. I keep pulling on this arm of this jelly thing Feeling like you're about to come off of that My ex and I separated but I left him With our house until we sell it am I wrong for not wanting him to bring another woman to our house Um It's not really y'all house anymore and you left him with it. So if you leave him with it then You shouldn't really feel like telling him what he could do with it You know and when you still learn about that that lets him know that he still has you That lets him know that you still hooked that he still got his claws in you So if you want to leave somebody and that's your ex then let it be And just sell the house, you know sell the house get you a good realtor And sell the house so you don't have to worry about another woman being there because because it sells so fast Point blank period y'all a god bless you now somebody that made a name one of my love And spelled it how I be saying it too Look at uh, I did to put that on a t-shirt now point blank period. Y'all okay Tony what are your top tips in speaking English? I'm trying to become fluent um to be honest with you And it really ain't no book on manglis yet because it because it's also it mean different things so it's contextual so A man could say something and in one context it means this and in another context it means this So it's situational, you know, and so you have to really You got to talk to a translator like myself to How manglis because unless you a man You're not ever gonna fully be fluent in manglis just because of the way the language is But um and vice versa, you know, I'm pretty sure women have y'all own language too, but typically with manglis the the common denominator is his actions So no matter what he says What it really means is what he does And that just goes back to action speaking louder than words starfish god bless you now How to gracefully set new boundaries with a female you let try you being too friendly With x's when they play dawn and you're timid um You may have to have a conversation on that right there And you may have to deal with the person That you're dealing with versus that woman Because you can't if you allowing a woman to be friends or too friendly with Your man if that's their ex if that's what you're saying I really don't understand that now Unless you a guy because let's say starfish Yeah, you may have to have your clothes a conversation. No, I'm not too sure Everything come through communication that I'm not too clear on your question right there now Is it look down upon by a man if you've been single for quite a while Now I'll be honest with you it is it does start to change a little bit once you cross 40 Now if you've been seen single a while and you you know 28 and you've been single since 20 that's different Once you cross 40 to be honest with you. It's not politically, you know, correct People get mad about it, but for me to be transparent for you. Yes men and women If you see a man that's single over 40 and he's been single for a while you may ask, okay. Well, what's going on? You're not necessarily look down upon But a person may say well what you got going on that has you so occupied That you haven't you know found love yet or what's been the situation with the people you're meeting So it does lend to more questions now. You got to understand that Wave it black queen. God bless you now I know you hate ex questions, but do you think I should keep a line of communication open? I finally decided to block him on facebook and I changed my number Unless you got children with them, then no, you shouldn't keep a line of communication open unless you're unless y'all got kids together Y'all hold on I'm a boy's a little struggling on me because I was sitting in the bed for so long I've been sitting in the bed watching TV and when you sit in the bed your body start to tell you it's bedtime So my body started to go through this little process Like you'll get ready for bed. So now You know it started to make me kind of Call for a little bit y'all got to forgive me Do you think guys care about a woman who has her body enhanced? I want to do it for myself and if it attracts guys That's not the reason I will do it or is it a big idea a bad idea uh it definitely changes the perception, but It just depends on the man so It changed the perception a lot of times a man is more Understanding when he's already with you So when you attract the man with the body that you have and then if you go do something That's a personal choice and you really get in trouble with when people telling you as a man telling a woman what she can't It can't do with her body And so I remember listening to my favorite speaker Back in the day uh ziggler And he he said his daughter his daughter went to get her ears tucked And I had never heard of that because you know where I'm from You know people trying to get their booty done get that silicone shot and they boot in the basement But ziggler say his daughter wanted to get her ears tucked So I'm guessing they was out like this here And she wanted to go get them tucked back and so He said she did that and it just changed her life gave her all kind of you know inspiration and You know and I was like, okay. Wow, that's cool So you see what I mean? So if you're doing it for your own self-esteem Then that's different That's different But if you if you're doing it to catch a man It's going to send that message Same pray luck. God bless you now. I am currently working under toxic leadership at work feeling like it's time to be self-employed But i'm not sure what's a strategy to know which way to move Um, I got a book it might be on amazon called the dream chaser It's called a dream chaser and it just talks about how I built my businesses how I built my brand But when you're in a situation like that what you got to understand is you got to balance the dream With the job until the job becomes the dream Don't ever just walk off your job just because you stressed out at work You got to change your perception and a young lady told me today I mentioned the eoc the equal employment opportunity council or committee whatever And I and I went to them about my job and and we got a settlement A young lady wrote me and said she went to the eoc And filed a complaint sexual harassment on her boss and she got a check worth tens of thousands on the way in the mail So when you dealing with that leadership don't just deal with that leadership google the eoc It's not equal opportunity. No equal employment opportunity council or committee And they write down your city. They write downtown you go right down there. You tell them about what's going on harassment whatever it is They send your job a letter your job got to come in there and talk with you about that So if you don't already win and try to deal with it Go above the head To your resources, but why are you there start building your side business? Take the entrepreneurship with purpose course Social media mastery course Take them courses get that knowledge to birth your book course and start building your side gig And then it could pick up steam and be able to take you off your job Pretty Taurus god bless you now x came back. I found out on ig He took a secret trip out the country while we were on a break I asked him about it. He refused to say who he went with or why I cut it off. Was I wrong? No, you weren't wrong if he came back and then want to come back the right way You weren't wrong at all I got the hold on something in here You weren't wrong at all. He came back and don't want to be transparent But at the same time too Y'all was on a break So really if y'all was on a break there really ain't none of your business So you also got to evaluate that but you never wrong for leaving if that's what you want to do But don't leave just because you butt hurt don't leave because you're trying to manipulate you trying to You know get a position leave because you feel like this is the wrong person for you and you need to move on with your life Don't leave as a as a chess move When y'all already trying to work something out And but also understand you can't get upset by something somebody do when they when they're not with you God bless you now, uh, I can't pronounce your name Vk God bless you. I appreciate that Tony gas and just saying god bless you for being a big brother and I Thank the queen for supporting you to help us sisters out. I'm watching listening reading your books. Hey bless you now All right blessing. Let me see now You hear me You hear me somebody else then put one of my Quotes in there too. No, you hear me Hey, god bless you for that. Tony if respect is love to a man Why do some men not respect their woman and still expect to receive love? Side note, please make a shirt a point blank period and you hear me. Okay Now y'all something else Y'all something y'all gonna have me in the t-shirt business Now what you have to realize? Respect is love to a man But a lot of men were not raised with standards. So a lot of men have double standards when you look around in the world You see double standards with men and women all around and some men never come into the knowledge that that double standard is wrong Some men will forever and always believe that That's right. So you just have to understand that so You can't get caught up with trying to change that man or convince him You got to realize that's not the man for you and move on about your life Hey, now, I'm gonna tell y'all what I ate not too long ago I'm over here. I'm about to get me something to flat tummy tea over here. I'm like, I need me some of this tea They'd be selling on instagram Well, I might be feeling Might be feeling bloated. I don't know May f god bless you now high toning new member and a new coach I have not yet been booked for a session and i'm not sure if i'm doing something wrong I'm made for you on your site. I'm also a social worker. Thanks. Well the key word what you said is new So you got to understand that you're gonna have to look around see the other coaches see Ask yourself. Do I have a professional headshot? Do I have a bio? That's 15 sentences or more Have I written three blog posts? You know, have I taken my link Of my profile and posted it on my facebook And posted it on my twitter on my instagram on my link then sometimes there's people writing your own following That been watching your quote. So watching your post and would love to talk to you and have a session So you may have to just take your profile get the link and then post it on social media uh, janessa god bless you God bless Pull out in her life. No question. Just super grateful for all your help and teachings because i'm super Officially over my ex who I was once convinced I'd be Hungover on for at least another year or two after five years of a cheap double hockey sticks praise god a blessing now Now y'all let me see here nine Y'all try to keep the chat clear only put questions in there only put questions in the chat I know we've got new people maybe getting on here. Y'all gonna see a lot of deletion But um, that's just the moderators trying to Keep it clear seen pray love god bless you now. Let me y'all let me scroll through here real quick and Me me jones. I see your brandy humble. I see your bless y'all for them blessing now starfish I really starfish. I really don't I'm not good with questions about women. You know, I'm a man So I answer questions about men So, you know, I really I'm not a woman. I really don't understand women. I understand men I try to stay in my lane. So y'all go to talk to me how to how to do this with a woman You know how to check a woman and I'm a man Y'all gotta ask me a question about a man Hey, Tony, why is it that only a few are chosen are chosen from god? Many are called but few are chosen And the reason being is because not everybody has what it takes to do the work that it calls when god Call you to because what when god called you to the work It's a high calling and it takes a lot of discipline It takes a lot of humility It takes a lot of selflessness and a lot of people are selfish and they get beside themselves like right now I'm on here And my stomach hurting my throat hurting I'm tired But when you call by god, you got to show up and you got to be able to do the work now I'm gonna get some rest but the day in my rest day after this I get the rest. I might just do an hour tonight Still the hour and a half But you got to be humble and you got to be obedient because tomorrow ain't promise So every day you got to do the work that god called you to because that's also a part of your legacy for the kingdom So everybody ain't built like that. And so god can't use everybody Just like it's a few great and it's a whole lot of average uh nika g god bless you now getting discouraged with dating because Our first Red flag I see I'm gone But when they try coming back months later because I feel it would be different I give another chance and it's still up going wrong advice well You got to keep that same energy So if you see the first red flag and you leave Then why are you gonna bring them back if they if they already got red flags super early Then why you just gonna let them walk back in your life? So when they come back you got to have stipulations in place to where they just can't walk back in your life They come back. Okay. You need to read this book. We need to go to this seminar. You need to watch these videos Let's do this. Let's let's get this coaching four sessions of coaching You got to have stipulations You can't expect that because you kicked the person to the curb Now they came back and they all they automatically back where they need to be And they don't win and did the work and they didn't got everything done No, they coming back the same person that you walked away from And so you got to be able to evaluate them and look over that 30 days or so And see if they've changed and see what they've done to be different And if you don't see that then you got to go on about your business Got to go on about your business. Uh, shaneese pinkston god bless you now Hope you feel better god bless. Hey, I so appreciate you. I'll be all right. I just First I had swallowed something wrong and it got me to cough and Then I was sitting down in my bed too long Dating for six months and we had the faith talk. He is more on the philosophical side I'm a believer we read first Corinthians chapter seven and he has all the fruits of the spirit thoughts Now I'm gonna tell you this right here You ain't gonna be able to philosophize your way into heaven So jesus is the way the truth and the light So if you believe jesus is the way the truth and the light All that philosophy that he think he got and all that don't count It's like brother. Do you know jesus? Do you know jesus j-e-s-u-s A friend indeed if you don't know jesus i'm gonna hit them about that philosophy You hear me? So when you are a believer You got to understand that you need to have a believer and if he don't believe He take that philosophy elsewhere because you'd be up the creek without a paddle here How are you drinking a special juice? That how are you going to sleep and not waking up tomorrow talk about this a philosophy juice and If he don't know jesus. Hey, you got a problem indeed if he know jesus you got a friend indeed So the temple's god bless you now mr. Gasson you gave me a solve when I lived Suffering as an open wound Your life coach platform and generosity is pulling me from a marriage built on quicksand and despair. Bless you May all your endeavors continue to soar to heights unimaginable. Hey god blessing. I received that doesn't know I received that Do you think it'll be harder to date after 19? No No, it might be easy because people have been sitting down for so long people might be ready to get back out down um Loretta god bless you now just started watching Question, what if I've been in a relationship for a few months and I've already rolled my bike and now Want to wait how can I? explain to him Or should I start over? Okay? So I see I see you are you one of the people that thought when I said on your bike that I'm saying bicycle I'm saying back When I say stay off your back, but I'm I say it stay off your bike But that's I'm saying back. That's just my accent and somebody else wrote that that they kept talking about the bicycle bicycle I said oh, they think I'm saying bike but I'm saying back But um, you just got to tell him Because and it's and see It's when you slip up like that It's actually it actually can work in your favor when you slip up like that because now He already know what it's like now. He know what the ride is like. Let's say it's a bicycle Okay, now he know what the ride is like it just like when you go to get your car They want you to test drive it so you know what the ride is like So now he know what it's like whereas a lot of times it's harder when you go into a situation And you being an abstinent he tells himself He don't want to marry you because he doesn't know if y'all Sexually compatible. Well when you slip up and fell in the bed now, he knows If y'all sexually compatible So when you say hey, I slipped up and you just said in the conversation tonight say hey, I've been wanting to talk to you You know, um, I made a mistake and I got ahead of myself and we moved too fast And I just want to backtrack a little bit because I'm not really ready to be intimate like that With somebody and and I hope you could understand that now you're gonna see the real He either gonna step up in your life or he gonna step out of your life one way or the other Nicole a god bless you now Bless you and I'll tell you what? Peace be still bless you Tony my ex-husband and I have been divorced for almost 15 years He has tried to hurt me in every way possible Suddenly he sends me flowers thanking me for taking care of our son. What does he want? He don't want nothing. He don't want nothing. He's just trying to be nice. He probably he might be growing up He don't want none. Don't thank too much on it. Um melanated Melon god bless you now. Let me see if I can see any more of those Stickers because did that go in the chat that I missed Now soothing temples, let me thank you again. Bless you. Let me thank you again Um, Janessa now, let me thank you again. That was a big blessing you sent Mighty mighty blessing me me John's bless you New day to see God bless you now. I sure appreciate that Yeah, see some of those that y'all saying they go in the chat So I miss it because I have the question at the top Opened up wide And I miss it when it come in that chat And it's so much in the chat I see I see brandy jones bless you ton of thanks for Rejection is your protection not your reflection that really made me realize that Your rejection and moving on video really bless me. Yes. We need a point blank period shirt Hey god bless you now. I can't promise y'all. I'm gonna get to that shirt now, but Y'all got me in a t-shirt business A guy I'm dating Has on his facebook bio five nine with a soul of a six four man Could that mean he's insecure about his height or am I over analyzing? Yeah, you're right You're right. He probably heard me say it Because I be saying that I I be saying all the time. I say when I was When I met my wife, I was five ten nine six four And I'll just be you know joking talking about that the love and the confidence, but it does Now I'm gonna tell you a soul of a six four a lot of six four is dogs So I really don't know if he know what he's saying Because a lot of them. Okay. A lot of little six four be out here slaying. Okay Little toy of god bless you now. What's the best way to end the relationship with a man? I'm finding I'm not interested in anymore after dating off and on for three months You just got to tell him just have a conversation with him. It ain't no best way Just have a conversation. Hey, this is not gonna work out. I don't want to waste your time. I don't want to waste my time Feel I walked away from my husband because I didn't understand a woman's influence I've took time to do work and realize I want them back thoughts That's a tough one right there Asia because When you lose that husband when you let that husband go It's real dangerous to go back to him for you to want him back Because a lot of time men don't forgive and men don't forget So a man have resentment and a man will let you come back Just so he could dog you out Just so he could do you wrong for you having the audacity to let him go the first time If you want to come back, he might let you come back just to dog you so you have to You got to chalk that up and just pray that he'll want to come back to you That he'll want to come back to you and work on it And you be praying on that and expecting that and then if he come back to you Now you still y'all do the work together. So you see he doing the work Why do most of the men I have met ask me for a picture of myself within three days of knowing them And why do they keep asking after I say no? That's just something man does, you know, it ain't no harm in it And unless he asking for Nasty picture. It really ain't no harm in it. It's honestly men are visual creatures So it's like he saw you he might have saw you in person Really didn't get to take you all the way in so when he say hey, can you send me a picture? He literally just gonna be there With that phone just like this zooming in moving around He might sit there for 30 minutes Just looking at your picture men just visual creatures And I know women hate that question send me a pic send me a pic It's actually something that you have to just let it flatter you. It's like he just want to look at you That's all it is no different than when you holding a little baby and that baby just Just staring you in the face That's how my wife used to look at me when I've met my wife She used to just sit there and just stare at me And I'm like what the world is woman be looking so deep into my eyes Like she just be looking at me so hard like she just was trying to just take a picture and just Keep it But it wouldn't be like flirting or google eyes or just like nothing like that. She just would look very deeply And so some people just visual like that God i'm seeing Says he has standards About being with a woman who kids minimum age of 14 My kids are younger than that thoughts and what is a standard? um A standard really is a foundational belief a standard is supposed to be a foundational belief what he has He may see it as a standard or it could be borderline or preference because it's something that It matters, but it doesn't matter as much as he making it matter like 14 That's still not going to be much different than a 10 year old You know now 14 is definitely different than 14 months So basically what he's saying is he kind of want a woman to have a child that is self-sufficient 14 you're allowed to stay home by yourself at 14 Like you can leave and go to a grocery store and your 14-year-old could be there And then got four years to get on up out of there About to be gone in four years getting ready to go off to college So basically what he's saying is he don't want to come into a situation The where he got to be raising a child. He wants somebody that's already raised getting ready to go on about their business That's really what he what he talking about Um rena god bless you. I watch your video on starting the business with your purpose today How do I psych myself up enough to actually get started? You just got to get started man. Ain't no mojo and you know go buy your domain on go daddy.com You know start your blog But I don't have no Psyching up tricks, you know, I just get out here and make it happen. I got a family to feed So if you ain't got no family to feed you might not you know come by that motivation the same way I want to be a life coach on your site But I don't have any social media accounts to advertise will I perhaps be okay? Well, that's actually why we created my mentor dot life For people who don't have social media for people who don't like to market So that people could still see you without you marketing And then in the course you're to talk to you about social media And then I have another course called social media mastery that you can take that'll teach you about social media And help you get started on social media So, you know you can build from there But you also can just market in person get your business cards and pass them out when you at the grocery store at the mall At church wherever when stuff open back up Hi, I'm a new member. I'm working on a relationship with a childhood friend I moved away from home when I visit I plan on staying with him and he knows my rules No sleeping together. What's your opinion? Sound like you'll be playing yourself. Um now when you stay with them Uh, you know It's a personal choice You kind of doing the most when you visit home You probably need to stay at your mama house your daddy house Family member house or stay at a local hotel Just to keep all the way that classing this when you come back in and just because y'all knew each other's childhood friends Don't mean anything you go stand with them. Now you plan with fire So it's like you teasing somebody, you know, it's how I'll be doing my son dawg I my son dawg be loving to try to eat whatever i'm eating So I just I just dangling it right there in front of your nose and when he go to yapp it I move it That's what you're doing to a man who is sexually active is not abstinent and then you want to go stay at his house It's just unnecessary temptation for the both of y'all and then next thing you know, you end up on your bike Okay, you end up on your bike. Then you like whoa What's going on? Hey, y'all try to keep the chat clear now. They're trying to keep it clear for me So only put questions in the chat no comments and feedback and answering people question only put questions in the chat 11 year long distance same state Aren't married or living together Boyfriend ghosted over pettiness said if you hung up I called him after three weeks he said He was hurt and giving me space yet wants marriage Luna you wasting your time and my time and his time And everybody time because that's 11 year long distance not married 11 year the most you could be long distance is a year and you know Two years if y'all walking with the lord When I say walking with the lord, I mean all up or on your forehead You now by speaking in tongues you getting hands laid on you Two years at the max if y'all walking on water with the lord Other than that you got one year to be long distance because long distance is not real for a man And that's why your man showing out the way he's showing out that long distance is not real for a man To be honest with you long distance ain't real for a lot of women either Because a lot of women are gonna do their thing and start cheating in a long distance relationship The only time you really got a chance with long distances when y'all was together and seeing each other close And then somebody get deployed And then y'all got real love and you could talk to people in the military They'll let you know a lot be going down on that deployment It's still ain't real on that So that long distance says you wasting all your time. You need to move all the way on Latoya god bless you. How do you know a man is serious about you while dating? Latoya with that right there. You will not have to ask a soul You won't have to ask me it'll be unquestionable When a man, won't you you're gonna know it you're gonna know it ain't gonna be no rhyme or reason to it You're gonna know it. He's gonna be pursuing you daily. He's gonna be there. He's gonna be for nothing gifts Words of affirmation quality time Excellent service. He's speaking all the love languages and you're gonna know without a shadow of a doubt that he's into you Shanika god bless you now my brother passed away from gun violence 10 years later my father passed. I also suffered a divorce In custody battle my daughter is 17 now how to date someone with those emotional scars Well, you probably need to Do you about 12 sessions of therapy? And then get your life coach from my mentor dot life and do at least one session a month And You've got to change the way you look at it You know, don't don't you got to look at it like this stuff that you've overcome Not stuff that you're suffering from Stuff that you've overcome and stuff that has made you stronger stuff that has made you wiser And you got to use it for your good So what you got to realize is you hear the night and so you in a place of learning and growing It's another woman who has went through what you've gone through and maybe even worse And she ready to end it all So with where are you at you doing better than her? So you might need to write a book You might need to start a support group on facebook You know, you might need to take that pain that you've experienced and let it birth your purpose And then when you start giving back and you helping others who a few steps behind you on the healing journey Now it starts to empower and encourage you and you start to heal your heart Um nominee Naomi, okay. Naomi forgive me now forgive me God bless you. That's a mighty mighty blessing now bless you now because that's that got the little back with l in front of it So that that's that's more than what a dollar worth That's one of them I don't know which one it is if it's a pound or a euro But I know it's a show enough blessing over here in this usd Much love and appreciation to you and your Beautifully blessed family finding you has changed the course of my life And giving me an understanding and peace that can only be from god I'm grateful praying you be in london soon. Okay. You in london. Okay. God bless you Now I did a two seminars in london. I hope to come back after this situation I like old london now. I live in london. My wife love london. She love that london We'll live over there. Then he got some good soccer over there, which I'll probably call football My my son say you want to play over there? Del v god bless you now. Hi Tony my boyfriend called me crazy after I woke him to cook I forgave him later He apologized I told him that I will leave next time. Is this okay? Now sis, I'm gonna tell you now I'm gonna tell you now You say you woke him to cook Now this your boyfriend Not your husband So you woke the man up To cook for you because that's what you wrote now After I woke him to cook Now I'm gonna tell you it ain't many men that would not have called you crazy So I feel like on this one you've got to understand the circumstances now You're waking somebody up out they sleep That's that's that right there You're gonna get called some stuff and and it's good that he only called you Crazy because a lot of men would have called you a lot more if you wake them up out they sleep to cook So, you know Yeah, they'll it really ain't no excuse for that. Okay. You're the man sleeping. You let the man sleep Okay, somebody could die without they sleep. Let the man sleep now So you got the you got to realize that and he just said You're crazy Come on. What in the world? Oh my god, I'm trying to get some sleep Yeah, I can't get a little shut eye Dump You see I'm saying that's totally different now if he woke up and Damn That's different But just waking up Everybody's gonna be grumpy when they wake up. My wife get on me all the time She was like, whoo, you were grumpy when you wake up I know when you wake up just leave you alone Because I have all kind of attitudes. So when a man's sleeping They let the man sleep And then when he wakes up then you say, hey, you remember you promised to cook for me Oh, yeah, you're right. But now he's fully rested But you wake the man up out of sleep He put in too much salt in your food. You got extra paprika that don't do nothing Now the whole meal ruined So sometimes y'all got to be a little more reasonable Which y'all demands and what y'all stressing by because sometimes y'all ladies could be a little too picky now Here hear human being okay here human being not not no robot Now robot robot could power the battery down and then you hit the button and Oh, I promise to make your food But you dealing with a human man got a headache that man a fellow sleep You wake him up to my hey, you promised to cook You see what I'm saying? We got to be a little more reasonable on that one not dealt So don't don't don't trip too hard on the deal. Come on now I'm I'm 34 Unmarried no children. I aspire to be I so and have a passion for fashionable Modesty, I'm nervous to put myself out there any advice. You're gonna have to just go You're gonna have to just do it. Everybody nervous. I'm nervous to get on here But I'm on here. I'm nervous to get on here. You just got to go You just got to go it ain't nothing to it, you know, y'all You you're not gonna be over there. I'm not gonna have a mantra for you that you Okay, let's go. All right now one two three four. Let's go I mean it ain't all that you just got to go Put one foot in front of the other Put one foot in front of the other Kristen Lee God bless you Can you have a soul tie if you never Went all the way with someone I think I might we run into each other Nw o Now that mean new girl Or the over here We run into each other. Oh now and then okay I always wonder what else yet. He wasn't right then and now yikes uh, yeah, you can have a little You can have a little Soul tie but a soul tie is subjective people describe it differently It's really like a little emotional fling a little emotional connection It's not a true sense of a soul tie soul tie come when you give your body to somebody You could not give your body to somebody and still be emotionally Bonded to them, but that's not as as real Or as damaging or as strong as when you give your body to them That's just really your brain just working You know I'm not close to my family. How and when do I explain this during the dating stages? Don't nobody care To be honest with you don't nobody care to be on the the the least Family you got to deal with is actually the better off a person gonna like you Because it's so much that come with your family. It's so much drama. It's so much ignorance. It's so much Up and down back and forth when you ain't got family Actually, the person is like, yes I get the hell you took myself I ain't got to be worried about your ignorant family because a lot of time that's why they got the term master-in-law But that could be you know a mother-in-law or a father-in-law And so That's not really a big deal. That's something that just come out naturally You know in in normal conversation don't force it don't feel like you got to write a memo or dissertation about it It's not really even a big deal to be honest with you Now let me see she's golden. God bless you A friend wants to introduce me to someone but says he's used to He used to donate plasma for money Is this too strange? No No, that ain't strange every You know at least he wasn't male scripting if she said he used to be a jiggalole for money He used to be out here splack of valley for money. He used to be out here You know Doing some strain for a piece of change, but those named plasma. That's helping somebody else So no, that ain't they ain't strange y'all be coming up some questions I'm like who in the world? Y'all be coming up with some questions Janese God bless you and I am I wrong for wanting to end a one and a half year Relationship because he hasn't spent a whole day and night with me more than two times Um where's one and a half years and it ain't about spending a whole day and night That really don't matter is do you get time and attention from him? Does he give you an hour a day? Now if he give you an hour a day by phone and y'all talking That's ample time, but it's one and a half years. So where's this going by one and a half years a man should be Getting ready to be on one knee He should be on one knee saying will you marry me? Especially if y'all over the age of 25 Do guys think that nice girls are boring nice meaning girls that don't smoke drink aren't promiscuous limit profanity Etc. No, no God don't think that's boring. That's that's wifey. That's wifey there You just described wifey a man a man Okay, a grown boy might think that's boring, but a man That's exactly what a man looking for because you got to realize it really had a whole lot fun to a man Other than his hobby whether that's cars whether that's video game Whether that's you know his his skill set it really ain't a whole lot that's fun to a man a man by nature is boring For the most part. So a woman having those qualities and personality traits That ain't boring. That's a blessing. You see that as a blessing Lj god bless you now. Thank you for all of your advice your book becoming missus, right Becoming missus right five years ago changed my life. Oh, wow blessing. I've been out here supporting me um Tracy I have been trying to distance myself from men who aren't serious So my husband can find me How do I get these guys to stop reaching out to me when I'm not giving them the time of day? You just gotta not respond at all You gotta not respond at all if you respond every third time They're gonna keep reaching out. You gotta not respond at all and they're gonna get the picture. They're gonna get the picture And and what you could do is just change their name in your phone to spam Or do not answer. So that way if you with your new man and they pop up Then he see that spam or do not answer and he don't think none of it or You could block their phone number Now you block their number now They can't reach you. You block their number Why is it hard for a young man to let go of a woman's past? Young man old man in a man like I tell you a man is not god See god is not man that he should A man is not god that he should forgive Most men do not forgive and do not forget the reason why is because men are territorial Women are too If if you come telling the woman all your past she still she gonna remember it She might get to the place the way she can look be on it because she's more loving but No Men not really like that just because of the way men are built for what men are built for you got to remember what men do When they serve in a country what they into What they got to do when they go on deployment when they trying to seize land What men had to do when men got to go hunt for the food men Brain is wired differently. So they look at things differently. So that's what you got to understand doesn't I? um Miss diatra god bless you Listen your coaching and birth your book courses was everything How did you balance your time with so many businesses? And did you only start with one? I have a solo spa, but I want to coach too You know what some people doing what they spas is making a little room in the back Or making or getting the the room a little office next door Or partitioning off a little back space and making that they coaching office So that when they clients come in for the spa, they also let them know. Hey, we also have life coaching services And you can cross promote and I did I just started with one business And then I just plan my days I plan my tomorrow today and I just compartmentalize and I do one thing at a time So today I might be working on this business tomorrow. I'm working on that business the next day I'm working on that business and I just give it just enough to Keep it going. You know, I ain't trying to everything has its own area its own compartment Brandy God bless you now. How do you know if a man is being genuinely interested in you in the beginning? Or love bombing you to get you hooked to a you later Been through emotional a twice and I'm afraid to date brand I got a video on that um that I did Not too long ago. So go on my main page click on videos And look at you know newest and scroll back and you're going to see Um the video I did on that but with that situation It basically comes down to it's going to look the same A man who's interested in you and a man who loved bombing is going to look the exact same The difference is the man who loved bombing you it's also going to be toxic traits in there So when you don't answer the phone because you're busy the man who loved bombing you He's going to be like where were you work? Where are you doing or you talking to your other man? The man who's genuine. He's going to be like, oh, yeah, I missed you earlier. Hey, I know you busy I know how it is. It's cool. You see what I mean? So you the man who loved bombing He's going to show some toxic traits whereas the genuine man he's going to be cool And he's going to go with the flow. He's going to be emotionally intelligent Now y'all see what caramel kisses told you right here. Tony gas academy dot com For the aspiring life coaches make sure you use the coupon code my mentor it expires June 4 it on expire, but a decrease in value Why would a guy You just started dating slash talking to tell you on the phone One morning that he's getting ready to go on a date He mentioned We just started talking and I wanted to be honest with you thoughts Um He trying to train you he trying to put you in your place and let you know that you're an option To let you know that you really don't mean a whole lot to him To let you know to make you think that he popping to make you think that he got many other options to make you think that he is you know Doing his thing and you need to work for him. You need to chase him um Melissa Um, Melissa, that's not really a good question. That's too vague. You know, why do guys play so many games? Why won't they commit? That's like asking why the sky blue? They're like asking why the green why the grass green? You see what I mean On this here q&a you got to ask a question that's specific to you What is the guy doing to you? What do he do to you that you confused about? But why do men play so many games? That's Why the sky blue? Why the light shining in my face? That's that's that's how that is. Okay That's every man you meet out here Can a selfish and prideful man change? Absolutely. Absolutely. But you know what it takes It takes a woman in Florence this right here. You ain't read the book This right here gonna answer that question. It takes a woman in Florence. I was a selfish and prideful man but When a man meets a woman that's gonna hold her ground that know who she is. She ain't playing no games He gonna grow up if if he feel like that's his wife I love a touch relationship of six years because Of my lack of trust in him. I've tried to reach out as a friend once since then But I get no response a Played yourself It was six years you let it go. You should have kept going when you leave something six years You don't reach back So the reason why he answer because he trying to make you pay he's like You're gonna leave me had all that's leaving. He's gonna reach out to me. No talk to dial tone. No Leave me on red. So he just he but hurt He making you pay to say oh, you thought you were strong. I'm gonna show you I'm gonna show you You ain't strong. That's what he's doing She's golden god bless you now support is important to me and my business I own if I'm talking to a guy he shows no support Should he not be an option or should I mention how the lack of support is a turnoff and see if he does better? um He should not be an option. It's it's common sense That if you talking to somebody To support them in a business and what they got going that that that's what you're gonna do if you like somebody He's not supporting you because he is jealous of you He jealous of you and he want to live off of you So he gonna let you do good and he wants you to build your business And then he want to benefit from the building of your business And then when there's some glory in it, that's when he gonna come in So now when a man is about you he gonna come in And he gonna see ways he can help you he gonna add his skillset to it and be giving you Ideas and want to help you but he's not going to want anything from it. He ain't gonna want no money from it He's not going to want any praise from it. He just want to see you flourish and do better He want to support you. He's going to be active in supporting you. And so that's what you got to realize and understand So y'all wouldn't even sweat that Ruby L. God bless you now. Believe in God will make a way financially for me to take your life coach course this month Thank you for all you do. God bless you and the fam Hey, I'm I'm I'm hoping you able to as well It's I made a very inexpensive compare the other courses these other courses I held $5,000 mine 90% less so You know, hopefully maybe it's a family member that I believe in your support you And you see some people they finish up and they get up they start getting their clients They already earn their investment back in a month or two And so I hope you're able to do that Ayanna God bless you now. I'm 20 years old and still have never been in a serious relationship This one guy has been consistent, but I'm not interested in him. What should I do? Keep going about your business and stop worrying about relationships now because see you say I'm 20 years old And still have never been in a serious relationship. You saying you 20 years old like you 40 years old And 20 years old you're a baby You're a baby. You shouldn't even think you shouldn't even be thinking about no relationship a man ain't even ready for real love before the age of 25 So all you'll be doing right now is just getting hurt That's all you're gonna be doing right now if you're out there dating at 20 years old You ain't doing nothing but just getting hurt You can get hurt getting hurt getting hurt and you just building up damage So that when you meet the man that you want to marry you to damage to even love them at 25 at 28 Because you didn't already been through so much. So right now get your bag together. Okay, get your major Get your business Get get that together. Don't worry about no relationship. Do not worry about no relationship And I know that's hard to heal for y'all women because y'all be talking about your body clock ticking and all that but No, you're too young for that too young for a man Get get this hill knowledge that get the hill game in your spirit But stay off that day market till you didn't got your degree You got you a good job. You got things set up. You get your apartment. You got your car Your bills paid you fully independent then you can open your eyes to these men because right now 20 years old ain't number grown boys They lost a few they barely could walk and chew bubblegum at the same time let alone know how to treat a woman There's god blessing now you say let your pain birth your purpose I feel god revealed my purpose after heartbreak one year ago But I think I waited too long to write the book and build a business due to fear. Is it too late? It's never too late. It is never too late And now is the perfect time now the perfect time Luna moon god blessing. Thank you for your message god bless. I've learned he didn't want to marry after 11 years Thought it was just financial problems. Thank you Oh, yeah It ain't never financial problems. A man does not does not not get married because of financial problems That's hard wash because you build you want a woman to build your finances with you So whenever men say oh, I'm waiting on financial stability financial security before I get married and the woman is willing to marry them Then that's hard wash. That's the man saying you're not my wife And I don't want to marry you but I ain't found a better option yet So I'm just keep dragging you along to keep having you here for this hill on demand Get you on your back on demand and then when I meet somebody else, then I'm gonna go about my business and leave you high and dry So that's what you're trying to do now Hey god bless you now not not looking like who Now why y'all keep making y'all names on here stuff I be saying in my video I'm trying to wonder is this the same person keep changing the name to one of my little slogans Hey, god bless you now tonic men know early on whether they met their wife When dating but they seem unsure after committing to the woman and become willing to cheat or leave Why is this? Also, I second the t-shirt idea. Hey god bless you now. No, I don't know be doing all these t-shirts Nah But I look into it if anybody out there design t-shirt y'all send me email just Send me old file send me a file of the what is the png file or whatever that shirt now The thing about it is Is if a man nor a woman is his wife and he's a real man He never really comes to the point of being unsure after committing And then being willing to cheat unless she was never his wife and he got married for the wrong reasons See some men get married for societal pressure Just like some women want to have a baby by the age of 28 out of societal pressure Some a lot of women want to be married by 28 out of societal pressure Some men get married for the same reason And so when a man get married and then he changed something else Then and he flipped the script He didn't he never wanted to be married. He did it for other reasons Latoya, what's your thoughts on for online dating? Okay. I see you knew here. I see you knew here, Latoya but um I got a video called the truth about online dating make sure you watch that But i'm totally against it. I'm totally against it. It's a section to the rules Now for one minute her 50s sometimes I'll be okay with it just because she know the game She know the landscape. She didn't see the whole box. She didn't been here and you know The the landscape is different for her. It's not a whole lot of men in their 50s walking up shooting a shot So a woman her 50s sometimes with supervision With with a strategy I I'll say okay. Yeah, that's what you want to do. Go ahead under 50 You just need to walk outside walk go to the grocery store go to the gas station go to the mall Go to starbucks. There's too many men walking around here to be online trying to date somebody if you under 50 How to know when a man is being sincere or pretending You gonna know that's a question. You ain't gonna have to ask If most men think about sleeping with you when they first meet a woman When they talk Is that a red flag? Yes, it is a red flag Because it's disrespect Because if you don't know a person like that, you shouldn't be talking about they private areas If it's if it's a private area, then that's a private conversation So when somebody come up and make your private area public conversation before they even know you that's disrespect So that is a red flag Tony should I could be concerned about how much financial debt a man has before I get serious with him? And you absolutely should you absolutely should if you don't have the same kind of debt Or about the same amount of debt then you should especially if you're doing good or you got a job because a man might want to get with you To get on your trade lines to boost his credit score to be a common authorized use on your credit card start running up your credit And ruining your credit and then having you being the bread one of helping him pay out pay down his debt Then once you don't pay down his debt then he go and sabotage the relationship cheat on you to make you leave But now he get the lead debt free and go get him another one See you know saying that happen every day So yes, you should Finances is a part of your foundation faith family goals finances Friends those things are part of your foundation when you evaluating somebody My ex-boyfriend from high school is troubled and also married but still keeps looking me up I blocked But then he will wait a few years and try to find me again on different social media How do I get rid of him for good? You can't really get rid of him for good. Just let him do what they do Let them do what they do But the only problem is if you respond So, you know stop responding and then why is he getting unblocked? You know if you block him leave him block So it sounded like you kind of making yourself available and you entertaining So if you entertaining he's just waiting on the time he catch you weak He catch you vulnerable and then you become his side woman because y'all got history Can you do a video on rules of engagement? No, I probably I might have had one of those But that's also a A war term so youtube might you know flag it. I don't know But we'll see by that one Now let me see now y'all put the hashtag cue in front of your Question some of y'all posted your question early and I missed it So, um post it in there. Let me see if I see it We've been dealing for four years had a disagreement he left upset with The situation going on the 19 he suggested that I use uber or lift Am I wrong to feel disrespecting? No, you're not wrong But you also what you need to feel offended by is that y'all that you've been dealing with him for four years Uber and lift is the least of your worries The most of your words is that you've been dealing with him for four years and you're still dealing with him Looking like who shot john forgot to kill him So that's really where your problem lies is you got to ask yourself You got to get in front of your mirror of the night and say why am I still dealing with a man? And it's been four years And he didn't had me off the market Looking broke busted and disgusted And it's been four years. So you got to understand that now um Okay, j you keep you keep running from Just ignore that's all you could do That's all you could do Y'all always got a caveat and nuance but at the end of the day y'all know the answer to the question If you ain't entertaining him ain't nothing he could do he's he talking to he talking to a dial tone He talking to to an inbox if you ain't entertaining What does it mean when a guy says if only you knew how much I was holding on to? It don't mean nothing He just you know manipulation by guilt I'm an over-the-road truck driver. Okay home 34 to 46 hours Once a month. Is there any hope for me to be in a relationship? Now if you find another truck driver at the truck stop You know, you need to are sitting in the lounge at loves, you know, you at loves and you at um Whatever the other one calls speedway byway BP you sit in the lounge Then a You meet your truck driver. I got some clients that truck drivers and they single they single too Meet your truck driver. Y'all might start your own trucking company You'll be the broker. He'd be the driver And y'all tag team on some some of the drives. You see what I mean? You got to keep your mind open for it though You your mind got to be saying a I'm gonna meet my husband at one of these truck stops I'm gonna meet my husband. I'm gonna meet my husband. I'm gonna meet my husband So what's gonna happen instead of walking like this with your head there speed walking? You're gonna be head up head on swivel smiling making eye contact. Give me a little nod Striking up conversations Man gonna be feeling he's gonna feel okay to strike up a conversation with you because you look Approachable and you look approachable because you've been telling yourself. I might meet my husband Looking toward from the floor now somebody keep changing their name on here And put my little folks on here now Tony we love you. Please talk a little bit about queen qualities and how She can attract her king now I was touching on this last night and Just the the the put it simple what you got to realize a queen is just a decent human being So when a man looking at a woman basically ask yourself this Can this woman Me as a woman and would I be a good role model for a daughter? Just go through it like that that make it real simple If you could describe or Define a role model for a young girl. What would that woman? How would she dress? How would she talk? How would she carry herself? What would her personality be like her aura light go through that so then think about it So when you see these women that's online with they booty out all the time You ask yourself what I want my daughter to look up to her You're gonna say no because she using her body as bait. She's thirst trapping If you see a woman that's smoking getting high You're gonna ask yourself what I want my daughter to look up to her No, because she's gonna be coughing. She's gonna have second-degree Second-hand smoke and long she's gonna get lung cancer From her her esophagus going to be corroded If one again drunk you're gonna ask yourself what I want my daughter to look up to her if she cursed like a sailor No, no, no, no But if the woman is kind she humble she meet she good spirit She's selfless. She loving but she's strong See a lot of time we think all the mother traits mean weak Mean a pushover. No, she's strong The way my wife did this thing the way the way my queen did it Is her energy was so pure that it felt like I could do anything I wanted to do with her It felt like I could make me a move But then if I made a move and it was a move she didn't want me to make or if it was a move and it was too Soon she could she'll stop me right then she'll go from To eight don't do that just like that So I was like, whoa This real strength Where it's a lot of women they might be yapping yapping yapping yapping and sounding all loud you know sounding all loud and Trying to Like they big and bad and then you have them on everybody Just like that And a lot of men are to see a loud woman who acting all big and bad and he said to himself I'm gonna put something in her mouth and shut up And show enough he tried and she's right down there Sanging on the microphone Yeah Dolores say feel I do you hear me? But she was doing all that talking sounding big and bad, but then you got this woman over here kind humble gentle And then you try and she She stopped you quick like hey, don't try me Denise Jones. Thank you. God bless you now Dino Bless you now. I have three children. My youngest is two. I'm 40 years old going through a heartbreak If I wait too long, I feel I probably never find a love suggestion Hey, you you had to think about that beforehand It's the wrong time to think about that now. Okay You had them three you having you a good time when you made them Now just focus on raising them. Don't worry about no love because you got love in them three You know, you already know what everything worked like you know what he what he gonna do all he doing is shooting leaving he Putting another one in your stomach and then he bought his business. So you'd have been through that You've not really been through that. So now focus on loving them Focus on loving them and when that two year old become five and could talk clearly Then you could worry about loving but see right now You had a two-year-old you go out and you looking for love That's why you got three of them now because you've been looking for love But you got to see the love right in front of you See that two-year-old you go out looking for love right now. You'd be talking to a man Everybody's doing your two-year-old Your mommy And then your two-year-old And then coming up to you And then you like what's going on, baby? What's wrong? And then you go over to your boyfriend and he say I guess she Hit her head or I guess he hit her head Wow, what's going on? I can't understand what they're saying. You see what I'm saying. So when you got kid It's about your kid. It ain't about your love life no more. Now. It's about your children by you It's by them and that's what you got to realize and understand Um mills god blessing god blessing um All lies on me blessing i've been friends for the past seven years Recently through conversation. He told me he loves me. Is he genuine? He knows i've been celibate the past eight years and waiting for marriage now. He wants to date. Is he being sincere? Nope Nope, he sure ain't He sure ain't In the reason why because a man is not gonna be around you For no seven years And just be a friend if he won't you If a man won't you You're gonna know immediately if a man won't you you're gonna know within the first three months This man been around you seven years. He'll want you now. He just won't the friend he been looking at thinking about being you know Now you starting to look good to him Now he's starting to get a little lonely now. He want a little love making that's all he won't That'll be the worst decision you make. I see it happen every day Black diamond god bless you now. Hello mr. Gas and the guy popped up to my job today. I took your advice and blocked him It's been nine days. He asked why haven't he heard from me the entire time his phone Going off. He's still blocked. You did the right thing. God bless you now You did the right thing now. I missed somebody question here um Andrea down in god bless you now Let me see Shanice pinks and I see you now. I'm gonna get to you now. I got to get the one that disappearing on me real quick Now hold on somebody so seen a blessing now Cute face j. Okay. This one disappeared on the why do men have issue if you treat them how they treat you And think it's okay for them to do it and think it's okay to teach their kids to act like them That's a grown boy sis That's that's all that is. That's a grown boy You can't you you cannot understand the irrational behavior Of a grown boy what a grown boy does is not going to Ever make sense. So that's not a man That's a grown boy. You got to You know understand that and just wash your hands with it. Keep on going So now you're god bless you now tony. I am in a long distance relationship and with that I believe And with what I believe to be a good man. He is consistent and has good character My only concern is that he isn't there yet in his walk with christ thoughts Um, that's a good concern to have and you got to just keep the timer on that long distance relationship And because when a man long distance, you really don't know that man He could play a role you could be talking to his representative So when a man is long distance, he could show you his representative a lot easier And if you still have concerns about his walk with the lord, then that's even more of a red flag So what you're going to have to do is start praying for discernment And you're going to have to start worrying about love and start looking at this You know a little differently You're going to have to remove all the google gaga All the google eyes and all of that and you're going to have to look at this In a different way like you a brand getting ready to merge your company with another company And you got to see if he's bringing more assets than liabilities You got to see what he really bringing to the table and you can't think about your body clock Getting married starting no family. You can't be thinking about all of that because that'll have you You know missed the point Um mills god blessing now you you send me a blessing to just give him a compliment I'm shenees painston Uh, do you think queen will give out her workout routine lol? I need her as my trainer shenees now listen She'll give it out to you now You don't want it. You do not want it. Okay. I'm gonna try to work out with my wife I can't get through half of her workout. You hear me? Now she got to work out so hard because she used to be a fitness competitor and it messed up her Hormones her adrenals and all of that so her body don't respond the way that it used to So she worked out extremely extremely extremely hard like with her workout Had she not been through that fitness regimen that she went through years ago with her workout She'll literally be looking, you know better than her body better than How you be seeing sierra showing her leg muscles and jalo It'll be like that put together with my wife workouts If you ain't gotten the hormone issues that they got because hunh hunh friends They they mess up their adrenals and stuff doing that fitness competition stuff Where you working out eight hours a day and you eating? Uh grill chicken and green beans every day It messed them up bad so they body don't respond but You shoot a dm. She'll see your workout now. It's gonna look like another language And you've been tried and you got I only recommend it After this you'll do a zoom training session with you Crush contacted me out of the blue after two years said he wants to talk and love my mind combo was going good I flirted left him With blue balls killed vibe haven't talked Sense let it go. Yep. Let it go. You wasting all your time You wasting all your time um Dia da god bless you now. I bless you. That's a mighty blessing. You sent that now. I bless you Let me see how much time I got eight minutes left y'all My boyfriend has asked me to marry him We have different beliefs He is a jojova witness and i'm a baptist The only problem we have is a woman teaching Do you think this could work? I have serious doubts unequally. Yo Yeah, I had the same doubts now jojoa witness don't celebrate holidays Doa The jojoa witness I knew my cousin was jojoa witness. They ain't celebrate birthdays and all of that So now baptists to my knowledge celebrate holidays. So now that might be another issue y'all have if i'm correct, but now Yeah, when you when you when your denominations is is very different Then you're gonna have foundational belief differences And that's going to affect how you raise your children because what if you have a daughter? And then the daughter want to be a minister if y'all believe differently about that You know, that's going to be that's going to be an issue um Cute face j god bless you now You told me last time to get my kids and leave my ex because he broke off our engagement and never moved out I'm now closing on my first house tomorrow. I'm leaving. Thank you. Hey god bless you Oh god bless you now. I wish I could close on me a house. You you blessed a highly favored now I'll tell you that now Rihanna bless you now What should I do during the divorce process when dealing with a lying vindictive ex? I left him while pregnant with our daughter and he's mad. I didn't fail I'm due next month You got to keep him at a distance. You got to treat it like a business deal You only talk to him about stuff you need to talk to him about And if you can't talk to him and he's too toxic, then you put somebody else in touch to talk to him You have a mediator. So that's your mama your brother your sister your cousin It's something you let somebody else deal with him So so senior god bless you now My ex of one year apologized to me after calling me a b This is not the first time he has yelled at me. He is consistent with his actions But can be disrespectful verbally should I let him back? You're gonna have to let him sweat. You don't have to let him sweat a little bit And this your ex tonight of one year You don't have to let him sweat and you don't have to let him Don't feel you and let him know that that was the last b He's gonna ever call That's the last time he's gonna ever say the b word and you got to say that to him And you got to let him know like look, we're gonna have to move real slow. So ain't gonna be no Acrobatics, you hear me ain't gonna be no tongue kissing especially with the 19 out We finna be we finna read a woman's influence. You hear me? We finna we finna read make it work. You hear me? And we're gonna take our time with this thing because you didn't lost your mind You was at your rabbit mind Calling me out my name. Now you say that in your language now because I don't know how you say that but Now you see the way I said he'll get it together Happy with them. God bless you now. Hi Tony. You are blessed Wisdom. I'm in my 40s and online dating. What are your thoughts on how single women should approach online dating during The quarantine especially with states easing restrictions Well for one, you shouldn't be online dating Now two if you're gonna be on there Um, I got a video on how to online date But you got to take your time. You got to go real slow at that online dating So you need to go from the online dating site to a FaceTime You go to FaceTime and you need to do you five to 10 dates on FaceTime Really feel the spirit really feel the spirit Then if y'all could meet up you could go and meet up somewhere in a public place like a downtown public place Where they got all the restaurants and you meet up out there He don't pick you up You don't pick him up and you need to have your mask on because he get out there and go to coffin on you And you asthmatic you're gonna meet the lord early So you need to have your mask on and you're going out there and y'all sitting y'all talk for two hours Then you get on and you get on home and when you're going home you make sure ain't nobody following you You go a long way home take a couple other back roads make sure ain't nobody following you Then you talk to him another five ten FaceTime See that online you could be talking to Ted Bundy nephew And because men who get online they doing a little something different Um moderators, I really appreciate y'all tonight. I really appreciate y'all y'all y'all could y'all could relax Y'all could take the rest of the night over we coming on We coming on to the clothes now. We coming on to the clothes. So moderators y'all could let the chat Y'all y'all could let the chat breathe I appreciate what y'all been doing tonight And blocking the keeping the chat clear. Um, thank you to my moderators Y'all don't have to work no more tonight Uh, and god bless you now. He's godly so Thirst trap pics he's godly so thirst trap pics aren't bad You said don't like them So I didn't only like positive pics. So he only does the same until I like the regular photo of him by himself and today he did the same. What does this mean? It don't mean much sis. Okay. He just he know you he see you He see you there, you know, and he got his eyes on he you trying to send him a message He's trying to send you a message, but don't read too much into it now. He'll have you on your bike He'll have you on your bike now. Don't don't don't don't don't don't get too Into a latino god bless you now broke up two weeks ago after dating a year He reached out for a first time Yesterday for the first time He he said he apologized for lying to me after I called his ex Wants to explain. I am following your 14 day rule. I haven't responded yet uh, well If it's two weeks ago, then that's already 14 days Now y'all broke up after a year So you really didn't have the time to where he know what he wants if y'all still having you know Too many problems at the year mark then you might need to really think hard about if you want to go back and entertain this So be careful with that because this is the time to make it a break it Cheyenne god bless you now Whitney hodge When you are married, are you supposed to help pay off your spouse's financial debt they had prior to being with you? I'm not married. Um, yes, you are So that's why you got to be mindful about the person you married and before you get married before you get engaged Talk about financial situations financial future. But when you marry, yes, the two become one So my wife, I would rather she didn't get no master's degree But she got a master's degree and it cost about 80 to 100 grand Because it's a master's degree in medical sciences. And so it was kind of this special program And it's what the people do before they get ready to go to med school It kind of simulates the freshman year of med school the first year of med school to see if you could do it And people do that, you know, if they need a little bit more practice need to get a couple more grades or what have you get ready So it cost about 80 to 100 grand So guess what we married so that's my debt too Even though I ain't got the master's that's my debt too because the two is one And vice versa So hey, god bless y'all now. Let me see. I I miss a couple of y'all in here in this hill Chat Down here. Let me see Let me see Tony do men prefer a woman with ambition absolutely all day every day And twice on sunday. Let me see Y'all miss us some of y'all now Okay, I think I pretty much got I think I got everybody especially those of you who Send a little blessing in a couple more blessings. All right. Now we done y'all don't send no more blessings in now. Don't send no more blessings in now Shamika every god blessing. I saw the red flag started to pull back suggested he work on his issues now Now he's with someone else. I feel betrayed. What should I do? Well, you pulled back and told him the the work on his issues So That means That he don't want to work on his issues for you He want to stay the same and go on to somebody who's gonna put up with his issues So you can't feel betrayed you got to be Thankful that you dodged the bullet that you got rid of a grown boy You ain't lose nothing you gain him So now your god bless you now. Can you touch on men in long distance relationships? With someone more. I'd like more wisdom Well, what you have to realize with that scenario is that a man is a physical and a visual creature so with a man He needs to be able to see his woman look you in the face Touch you hug you sit next to you a man is physical a man needs a woman in his presence That's why god created e for adam because he said man this man I hear kissing Donkeys in the mouth this man. I hear hugging on that bell Adam come here. Come here. Come here. Come here. Come here Knock out of my And took that reel and made e because he said this man losing his mind I hear by himself with the animals he out here on the ground like the jungle book So god made e to be a help me that is that has always stayed with me So you rarely see a man. That's 100% single. I meet every women every day all day. That's 100% single You rarely meet a man. That's 100% single because men were not created to be alone see A man needed the woman Eve ain't need Adam She was created for adam deficiency for his inadequacy So that's what you got to understand about long distance relationships and why it's so hard for a man Because men are visual and physical they need to see you feel you touch you smell you And that's what he's going through And so it's just his mind is is different Azula t god bless you now. Why is it that my energy keep attracting toxic people is it's not it's not your energy It's just the way the mop flops and the cookie crumble Talks to people approach everybody So it's not you talks to people approach everybody walking Now if you settle down with a toxic person and you see they're tossing and you keep talking to them That's when you need to address your energy. That's when you need to address your mindset That's when you got to change your minds because so as you think so you are So that's what you got to realize and understand now. Hey god bless y'all now. Let me Cut off that that the chat now what I want y'all to understand is As you look at the night and the question that we got You really have to start realizing that You every single man you meet. That's what I want you to understand every man you meet is a grown boy You don't just meet grown men Every man you meet is going to be a grown boy in Some way or another So a man could love god. He could be abstinent. He could be reading his bible He could have a good job. He could be making good money, but he may not believe in How to treat a woman he may think it's my way of the highway He may not believe in giving a woman say so let her use her her righteous mind Let her be equal to him in the mindset And being true team makes he may feel like more it's a dictatorship But you may look at him and say, oh, that's a good man That's a good man because he read his bible and he talking right acting right So what you got to realize is that when you meet these men out here They're gonna be a grown boy And so you have to have your standard set in place. You got to have your belief set in place And the number one thing that y'all ladies got to understand because today I got all questions from women Is You got to listen to your intuition That feeling that you have that little inkling that you have That's your mind trying to protect you trying to protect your life It's raising a red flag and what y'all do is Y'all see the red flag get raised and then you put it back down You ignore it and then now you pass him by all these signs that say Slow down speed limit road work ahead Cliff ahead dead in a head Make you turn you passing all the signs Because you're not giving yourself credit for your intuition You got to listen to your intuition because it's letting you know And what we call it the first mind. I should have listened to my first mind I learned my lesson listen to your first mind Tony if it don't feel right in your spirit If you don't feel right in your gut don't go with it speak up speak out say somebody don't go with it Listen to your first mind. That's what y'all going wrong. Just like the sister we had in here Been with a man 11 years. We had others been in there seven years. We had others been in there four years That's too long That's too long to not be married Listen to me. Yeah this day in time in your life now from this point going forward Somebody could call for you and you lose your life Somebody from this point going forward if somebody come around you You'll lose your life and don't mess around to be as mad So what I'm saying is you got to take life a whole lot more serious now You can't play around with it. So anybody you dealing with they get one year And they get one year in your life But they get the one year in three month increments When you dealing with somebody in life love or business they get one year in your life and three month increments So what I mean by that is every three months you evaluating the progress of the situation You're looking at a three month mark. How do I feel? What red flags do I see? What's out there? What am I seeing? What am I feeling six month mark? How do I feel? What red flags do I see nine month mark? What red flag 12 months 12 months Is make or break at the 12 month either we finna get engaged or we finna get gone Point blank period you can't play around with it because life is too short and too precious For you to be playing around with your life allowing somebody to drag you from summer Into winter with your summer clothes on see a lot of y'all getting caught in winter with your summer clothes on Because you hanging on to somebody and so when you hanging on to somebody That's trying to let you go. Guess what they're going to do? They're going to drag you right through the mud picture yourself hanging on to somebody's shirt tail And they doing what they want to do they cheat in they lie They talk see and they doing what they want to do and you down here hanging on their shirt tail What they're going to do they're going to drag you right through the mud You getting cut up you getting bruised up and then you want to look up and say what's going on What do I need to do you need to get up you got too late You need to stand up and you need to let their shirt tail go And you need to go on the other way go about your business So listen to me Valuate your life or evaluate the people in your life And it's time to start saying no to situations ships. Stop dealing with situations ships Stop letting somebody come and and play around with you and get over on you while You wasting your life away and listen Told y'all this last night. It is not rocket science And you gonna hear me say that over and over it is not rocket science Tonya joy god bless you now. I had turned chat off on how that one there popped up But I guess that's a special kind you you did now. Let me uh Let me uh All right now we done with the Q&A tonight I need to turn that Chat back on for our clothes that I But hey, I so appreciate y'all to everybody that sent a blessing. I appreciate you Everybody who sent a question. I'm sorry if I didn't get to your question in in that chat It get a little busy in there to my moderators. Hey, I really appreciate y'all for helping me out try to keep the chat As clear as possible But I really appreciate you and um, I'm gonna try to go tomorrow Tomorrow night at 8 30. I'm gonna try but I just don't know how my body gonna be feeling and um, if I'm gonna want to do a drive in I might I might want to do me a drive in moving with my wife tomorrow or Thursday But I'm gonna see by how I'm feeling Wednesday and Thursday Because I'm gonna try to do my lives monday tuesday and wednesday so I can take my weekend friday saturday sunday um off so uh other than my videos and If you took the life coach certification, we're gonna be live For the life coaches that took the life coach certification on tonigashasacademy.com We're gonna be on hill live on a private q&a this saturday at 10 a.m. Eastern So I sent out the email today. So make sure you check your email and copy that link and put it in your notes so that you Have that link for the q&a for the life coaches. Um this saturday at 10 a.m But god bless you now And we'll talk soon They don't move the button Oh, yeah, I'm gonna be on here tomorrow night. You know what? I forgot to tell you I'm gonna be on here tomorrow night But tomorrow night I'm doing the different one I'm doing the one where I'm not on the camera. It's just my voice and You could call in and you could write questions and stuff like that And I think it's gonna have a number for you to call in it's my first time trying This this type of live tomorrow. So it's gonna be a little different But the reason why I'm trying it because sometimes, you know If I be the guy into a fight at the gas station man to try it man He he called me one time I probably can't be on video that day Or if I be the hat my little break out in my claire cell or not zima ain't working fast enough I might can't be on live that day. I might just need to be on there with my voice So tomorrow it's gonna be a voice live like a radio show Okay, we're gonna try that out and see how that go Because it's also gonna be good for my eyes with these lights in my eyes for a whole hour So we're gonna try something different. God bless y'all. We'll talk tomorrow night