 Once upon a time there lived a king who loved to collect rare and unusual objects and he was so passionate about collecting the stuff that literally merchants would travel to him from across kingdoms with their stuff because they knew that if he liked what they were selling he would happily pay even twice the asking price. And so one day this particular merchant turns up at his doorstep with what he claims is the most rare object in the whole universe. Now the object turns out to be a goblet, a cup beautifully carved made of the purest white crystal whiter they say than even the snow that sits on top of Mount Kailash. But what really draws your eye to this cup is the rim of the cup, the upper edge of the cup which is a deep deep red, it's so red that it's actually redder than the color of blood. And the merchant explains he says the reason that this cup, this goblet is so specialist because at one time it had belonged to the princess of Lanka. Now you your majesty maybe you don't know who the princess of Lanka is but let me tell you she is the most beautiful woman in the three worlds, she's the most beautiful woman that has ever been created. They say that when God was creating her he actually hired a team of artists to come and draw out every single one of her features and then he put all of these drawings together and breathed life into her, she's that beautiful but in amongst all of that beauty the most special, the most perfect of her features is her mouth, it's the most perfectly shaped mouth like the bow of Karmadev, like the bow of Cupid but it is her lips that you really focus on, they're so bright red, they're so deep red it's like a red you've never seen anywhere, it's deeper than the shade of blood and whatever she touches with her lips your majesty she leaves a stain of that red on that object forever more and that's why you see this is her cup, this is the cup that she used to drink from, that's why you see the rim is absolutely red and you can see that I'm telling you the truth because here is a shade of red that you would probably never have seen before either and the reason that I say it's very rare is because I had bribed the security guard to steal it from her but unfortunately the theft was discovered very soon afterwards and the security guard was put to death so I know that nobody else will ever dare to go and steal anything from her again and hence you will never ever be able to lay your hands on something that the princesses lips have touched, this is the only goblet of its kind in the universe. Now as you can imagine the king is absolutely delighted both with the story as well as with the object he immediately buys it pays 10 times the amount for it, merchant leaves happy but listening in to this entire conversation to this whole story has been the king's son and just hearing about the beauty of the princess has got him so excited it's got all of his passions aroused to such a point that he falls in love with her and he spends the rest of the day dreaming about her he dreams about how he's holding her in his arms he dreams about how he's making love to her he dreams about how he's kissing her on those beautiful red lips of hers and of course by the time he goes to sleep he ends up dreaming about her through the night as well so in his dream he suddenly becomes this great hero who's going to make that journey across to Lanka and meet with his beautiful princess so that he can hold her in his arms in reality not just in his imagination in his dream it's a very difficult journey he has to first find a horse then he gets on a carriage then he finds a ship which is swifter than the wind but eventually he overcomes all obstacles he manages to get to Lanka he gets himself to the palace as he arrives there the princess walks out of her room onto the balcony outside bathed in the magical light of the moon above and her beauty is so extraordinary that the prince faints from just looking at her she's that beautiful but even as he faints now you have to remember he's dreaming and in his dream he's fainted but even in that moment of unconsciousness his focus is still on her lips those exquisite red lips that he has heard so much about and so he keeps thinking about those lips even as he's lying there in a faint he's thinking about them he's focusing on them and suddenly he notices that the lips those beautiful red lips have started to grow they started to swell they become so big that they're like two giant mountains of red and they're coming towards him but just before they actually get to him just before they hit him they break up into a hundred little tiny pairs of lips beautifully shaped red lips a hundred pairs of them that start to swirl around him almost like a galaxy of stars and then all those pairs of lips all hundred pairs of lips settle down on his body and they start to kiss him they start to kiss him everywhere and the kisses and the caresses are so intense he can feel every one of them they're so intense that they actually revive him from his faint he sits up he realizes that he's missing out from being with his princess so he jumps to his feet he rushes into the palace through all the passageways through the corridors in and out of all the different doors till he finally comes upon his princess and as he sees her in front of him he rushes to her he flings himself at her feet and he stares up adoringly at her as she looks down and smiles upon him and then she leans down to give him a kiss this is all happening in his dream okay she leans down to give him a kiss and as that beautiful mouth comes closer and closer to him suddenly it turns from that gorgeous beautiful mouth into a pair of the most hideous jaws ever the lips from being those beautiful full red lips suddenly become these thin green blades of grass and the teeth those beautiful pearl like teeth have become two rows of the sharpest most deadly looking fangs ever the prince stares up in horror as he watches these jaws coming towards him he can't move he's so scared and then suddenly he out as a loud shriek and he wakes up do you think that these stories are getting weirder I think they are I agree with you they are but the real question is what is the lesson from this story because remember these stories are always about a lesson the lesson from this particular story is about the guilt that we feel around our sexuality the guilt that we feel around our desires because you know it's not just the subject that's taboo the subject of sexuality that's not the only taboo thing even the permission to think about it in your own head is unacceptable and it has the power to make you feel guilty it has the power to make you feel like you're doing something bad there is so much judgment there's so much shame around it that it has the power to make you feel like you've committed a sin sexuality desire pleasure arousal these are the natural instincts of any living being and suppressing it really messes with your brain now I know that people are going to say that actually it you know suppressing this is going to make you more powerful it will give you more strength I can't convince everybody I can just tell you what I have learned over the years through all my experience it really messes with your brain but even worse than that I find that it ruins any chance that you might have this idea of considering pleasure and desire to be a bad thing to be a sinful thing it ruins any chance that you might have of a healthy happy successful normal relationship because think about it you know if every time you feel desire or pleasure you think it's a bad thing think about how that's going to impact your relationship you're going to end up hating yourself and your partner for making you feel like that so it's time to change the story and we're starting today we're not going to put it off to tomorrow we're starting today and it's just in your own head I'm not asking you to go and declare it to the whole world it's just in your head give yourself permission to feel pleasure tell yourself it's not a bad thing it's a good thing it's a natural instinct and it has a huge amount of benefit and then give yourself a little fantasy to dream of to enjoy and I promise you it won't bite