 like this is coming from a drug addict once an addict always an addict that is it coming from a drug addict who has a child who no longer with that person I don't know the thing but it's like you have a child you're not married to that mom you have another girlfriend that's do you know what I'm saying and he acts like his is so perfect and like just looking at him you know he does judgments just by looking at our videos and just by looking at his videos not his physical appearance like looking at his videos and looking at him and the way it's like he looks tired he looks worn out like he's such an expert so I am no stranger to Trisha Paytas making videos that should upset some people so in this video not only do I hope to offer some solutions for dissociated from my own personal experience but I think it's something that we can all learn from when it comes to maintaining our own mental health when stuff like this is going on outside of YouTube and in our regular lives what's up everybody this is Chris from the reward so where we talk about the problem but focus on the solution and if you're new to my channel my channel is all about mental health so if you are like me and you are actively trying to improve your mental health makes you subscribe and ring that notification bell and in case you missed it in case you missed it yesterday I uploaded a video where I interviewed a world-famous psychologist about dealing with anxiety during this uncertain time all right his name is Dr. Judson Brewer I will link that video up in the info card and in the end screen go go go check it out whether you're struggling with anxiety right now or you've struggled with anxiety for a long time he is an amazing man when it comes to helping people with their anxiety all right so yeah anyways I just saw that dissociated just uploaded a video this comes after Trisha Paytas made her switch caught on camera video that was clearly upsetting I had a lot of people from the community comment on the video I made discussing it and everything like that but here's a clip of what dissociated had to say about it this Trisha Paytas stuff has hit our system real hard we've seen a lot of other systems splitting new all has been created people saying that you know they ain't ever gonna tell anyone else about their DoD the other thing is we were one of the systems who had a new split because of this stuff we had a lot of flashbacks from watching the Anthony video which obviously was extremely aggressive there was a lot of threatening behavior a lot of lunging at the camera particularly at us and so yeah why why am I making this video okay so this is something that I've personally been through during the time when Trisha Paytas made her video about me I had a lot of people from her audience come over and you know start leaving nasty comments over my channel I really hope this isn't happening happening to dissociated or anybody else who is talking about this right now because Trisha Paytas has been around for a long time she's a very large audience and with that comes a lot of loyalty so I feel like you know as somebody who's been through some of this like I want to offer you know dissociated if she ever watches this but also I think it's important like I make videos for all of you okay all of you watching this and we're gonna have people in our lives whether it's friends family members co-workers whoever it is who are going to disrupt our mental and emotional well-being all right so yeah so obviously you know Trisha Paytas is going to make these videos and she's not going to stop this is clearly a pattern of behavior anybody who's been watching over the years and like as many of you saw from my last video like that last video it just it really it really bummed me out right because the intention behind her video was it was it was just awful okay and something that I've had to learn through my own experience all over the place is while we cannot control the actions of other people we can control how we react and respond to them right like the only reason I'm sitting here with seven and a half years sober after all the stuff I've been through in the last seven and a half years is because I've learned to let that kind of stuff roll off of my shoulders all right and although Trisha said this in her last video about Anthony Padilla you're on YouTube guess what people are entitled to say whatever they want about your video it's called freedom of speech you put something out there get ready to be criticized baby all I said was like yeah like watching that I could be like oh that girl seems crazy you you you watch my video and you're you made an assumption saying I'm mocking people with disassociated disorder what the did you watch it you dumb little she also has a pattern of behavior where she doesn't respond well to people replying to that so something that I hope everybody learns out there anybody watching this is when things like this are happening like dissociate did you know obviously like she was talking about how she's been dealing with this and it's you know kind of messed her up internally and everything like that what we need to do is recognize what's going on within us and take care of ourselves in whatever way that we can and it's not us it's them all right like something I always think of something that I just never forget is when I was working at the rehab center there was a kid and I I'd only had him in like one of my groups like maybe once or whatever and I was waiting in the front lobby and I just hear someone cussing and screaming down the hallway and I'm just I'm just sitting there waiting after I was waiting for somebody and I just hear somebody saying f you f your mom f this f that and I just hear thump thump thump thump thump and this kid gets right up in my face and says an f you to and he storms out jumps over the front gate leaves rehab right and and yeah like it it didn't affect me too much because I knew that it wasn't me right I happened to be the target but it wasn't me all right I knew he was going through something and actually and this is something that's helped me be a little bit more empathetic is he came back to treatment after a day or two and he apologized to me and he told me he was going through a lot of stuff he was afraid to leave treatment he didn't have much to go back home to and all that right now I want to make it very clear although it you know it seems and obviously I don't know Trisha Paytas it seems as though she's not working on herself or going to therapy or anything like that it is not an excuse for the behavior okay none of it's an excuse like I for a long time I leaned on my addiction and my mental health you know or mental illness rather as an excuse to be a jerk to people lashing out on my friends on my family members just being an overall garbage person and this has helped me kind of develop that empathy as well like I wanted to blame everybody else right and when I got sober I was like oh you know I was pointing the fingers like maybe if my mom was an alcoholic and she raised me right and all these other things then you know then I wouldn't have all these issues you know what I mean but then I had to look at myself in the mirror and realize like I'm an adult like I got to take care of this like nobody's coming to save me I have to actively participate in my mental health recovery right so for me it started out with 12-step programs obviously but since then it comes in the form of meditation and journaling talking to a support group therapy alright if you are somebody who is struggling with like emotional issues anger issues whatever it is like therapy okay and in scenarios like this like I I I've seen dissociate did talk about how you know she gets her own help and everything like that but for all of us who have friends and family members in our lives who you know trigger us if you will or upset us again we cannot control what they do all we can control is how we respond to this situation and one way to respond is getting help right is actively working on our mental health you see what I mean it builds up this sort of resilience but finally and kind of lastly is like I'm I'm not special I'm not any better than anybody else but over the years I've built up this kind of resilience and responding to Trisha Paytas like I'm glad dissociate did said she's kind of done with this situation is that Trisha Paytas will chase those views chase that story and everything like that so hopefully you know that's not a response again the reason I'm making this video is because I've been through it in the past I've responded to it looking back I probably could have done a little bit better but I remember dissociate did saying in her tweet like at a certain point sometimes we are getting upset for our community or our friends or whoever it is you know what I mean so for anybody else out there if dissociate did does not or decides not to make any more videos out on this like Trisha Paytas will run with this thing until it kind of dies out right until she's not giving the views and not getting the attention on it and everything like that so if you are somebody who struggles with your mental health and this is upsetting with you for to you cut it off right like you can click on YouTube like I do not want to see these videos or anything like that like there are plenty plenty of people on the YouTube platform where I'm just like I don't want to watch this stuff it upsets me and that's where it comes to us being very mindful of our own mental and emotional well-being when it comes to the actual people in our lives like people lose it on me they absolutely lose it when I'm like sometimes you got to cut them out like sometimes you have to cut people out of your lives like if they are regularly and frequently upsetting you like no joke when I was about a year year and a half sober my mom and my relationship was so really on the rocks and I said listen I love you but right now like I can't maintain a relationship with you I said I need to work on myself right before we can continue this relationship and now she's one of my best friends and we have a phenomenal relationship but it took me working through some stuff and one was realizing you either accept it change it or eliminate it right couldn't change it eliminating my mom out of my life a hundred percent difficult but possible but I worked on accepting it and I realized this is who she is she's you know 50 years old she's not changing now and I think that's a good thing to think about with Trisha Paytas like do any of us really think that a video or a response or Trisha Paytas getting hatred on a video is going to change her nah all right so we we either accept it or we eliminate it right we accept that she's gonna do what she's gonna do she's not going to actively participate in her mental health in her recovery right or we eliminate it we just stop watching we don't pay attention to when people are talking about on social media we don't pay attention to videos like this like the one I'm making right now you know what I mean but anyways like I would love to hear from some of you in the comment section about setting those boundaries like who have you had to set a boundary with because they were regularly upsetting you all right I would love to have a conversation about that down in the comments below okay but anyways that's all I got for this video if you like this video please give it a thumbs up if you're new make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell and don't forget go check out the video I did with Dr. Justin Brewer it is linked right I think I'm pointing in the right direction all right go check that out thanks to everybody who supports the channel over on patreon as well as everybody who supports the channel by buying my mental health books or the rewired soul merch all right thanks again for watching I'll see you next time