 I'm a day brighter, 519, and let's see, if I'm alive, yeah. All right, I think I'm on here now. Every time I get on here, I look like I be confused. And I almost, because I haven't been doing it as regular as I was doing it, sometimes I be about to cut you all off. I almost hit the button to cut you off. But I wanted to pop on, though, because they ain't slowing down because my son's soccer is over. Soccer season is over. Football season is over. So we're getting ready for summer. So I'm home a little less tired, no practices tonight. So that's why I was able to get on here with a little energy. But now I'm only going to be an hour, because this hill light in my face get me a little sweat. And I already took my shower today. And I don't feel like taking another shower. But this light get me a little brewing. And then the basketball game coming on night, Steph Curry and them versus LeBron James and them. So I'll be trying to catch that. For those y'all didn't know, I started working with the NBA in 2010 as a speaker. And I was a speaker from 2010 to 2016 for the NBA rookie. So all them guys that came in in that time period, I got to meet them and speak to them. And so I keep in touch with a lot of them. So that's why I be into basketball. So now if you have a question, make sure you put hashtag cue, put hashtag cue before it. So I'll see it right here. I've seen this one. Hi Tony, my ex broke no contact today. What do I do? I'm guessing you mean he wrote you? If you're still on no contact, then be on there. You stay on no contact. You don't change that until you ready to change that. Share. Oh, the blessed trial y'all asking about the talks with Tony. Honestly, I just ask y'all, did y'all want me to keep doing the talks with Tony? Because I've been doing them for a little minute now. And I just didn't want nothing to get boring for it to get boring. Because for me, I like reading the letters. And it's interesting to me. But it's only so many answers you could give. Even though the stories are a little different, I think that's what make the answers a little different. But me personally, it fills up to me. I would just do the talks with Tony because that'd make my job easier. Because I just could read the people letter and give an answer versus trying to come up with a topic to talk about. Because honestly, I don't really want to talk. I don't want to talk about what people need me to talk about. Because my relationship is what I call perfect. Meaning that's just what I call it. Everything always you got to have work that you could be doing. But if it was up to me, I would never talk about relationships because I'm happily married. And I don't have any begrudges and any ailments with women. So I would never talk about relationships. I would just be on here talking about entrepreneurship and investing and business and stuff like that. But that's not what people know me for or what people need me for. So talks with Tony make it easy for me because I can answer what y'all need me for. And so I just was asked to the blessed tribe that if y'all wanted me to keep doing them. Because my hope and I would love to do them every day. And if Lord give me the time, I'd be having two, three of them going out every day. The way for the people that get like me when I was growing, I'm still growing. But in my real intense growth, I used to put podcasts in my ear. And the whole eight hours at work would be ziggler podcasts. And then sometimes it'd be 10 hours. Sometimes I would go to sleep to it. Working out, no music, listening to podcasts, audio books. So if it was up to me and I had a little more time, then I would have three-fold talks with Tony going out for the people who they just get knowledge. And they don't care about music or reality TV. And while they're working, they just want knowledge plans. And Lord willing, I get a little more time eventually and come up with a little schedule. But see, around my schedule, you'll see some days I get three of them up. Some days I get no video up. Some days I get two videos. So it just depends on the schedule with the family. Sarah, God bless you now. Now y'all make sure you put your hashtag Q in there. Do you think it's good to be stopped by a man for a quick combo or exchange number while I have my two children with me? How would that look? It depends on how old your kids are. And if they understand what's going on and if they do understand what's going on, then you got to ask them if they old enough what they think about that. And this man looked like they stepped daddy. And he looked like he could be the one. And your kid is ready for you to have somebody so you can stop bothering them and chasing behind them. Then they might not mind. So it's just, it depends on your family and just your relationship with your kids and where y'all are and how they feel about you dating. If they young and they don't know what this is, then it's not, OK, yeah, 10 or 7, they might not really understand what's going on. They may, but they might think, oh, he got a business. Oh, OK, oh, you're gonna pay him to do some work at the house? Or what are you gonna do? He clean up, you see what I mean? They may not fully understand what's going on. So if he looked like that tall glass of water in the desert and it's like, Lord, they stepped daddy that I seen in my dream. That right there, I can see the change in that number and then coming up with a little explanation for the kids. I just can't get a listen. And also, if a man come up to you in front of your two kids, to me, it's he one end of the spectrum or the other. A Ted Bundy nephew or that's your husband. You tell me, either he crazy nasty or that's your husband. Because when a man don't care about you having no kids, he crazy nasty or that's your husband. How do men feel about feisty women? You know, to each their own, to each their own. And it depends on what, you know, and it also depends on what you mean by feisty. You said, I mean, if feisty mean cursing a man out and being disrespectful and just rule for no reason, then no man gonna like that. If it's disrespect, if feisty mean, you know, he do something wrong or he do something disrespectful and you get angry, every man gonna expect that. So the key is like, make sure you don't have personality issues to where you are a degenerate and you just rude and nasty, just to be rude and nasty and calling it feisty, you know. So, but if he give you reason to get feisty, then he already expect that. He already expect that. I'm an introvert and kind of shy around men, not much dating or relationship experience, any advice. Can you do a video on this topic? Introvert and shy around men. The best advice I can give you is to get all the knowledge you can get. Like all of the knowledge about men and relationships that you can get, get that knowledge. Because being shy and introvert, none of that means anything. The key is what do you know? What do you know about men? What do you know about relationships? What do you know about the games, men, play? If you have that knowledge, then nothing else matters. But if you naive and you gullible, that's what matters more than being introverted and shy. Introverted and shy is actually a great thing because a man would rather see you than hear you first, especially when he don't know you. When he get to know you, not he okay hearing you because not he know you. But a loud, obnoxious person, male or female is annoying. You know, an attention seeking person, male or female is annoying. So it's always typically the shy and introverted person that everybody is wondering, who is that person? Why are they so quiet? What's going on in their mind? Let me get to know them. So you gotta keep that in mind. Greatest love, God bless you now. God bless you. Now y'all don't have to send those stickers and all that, those offerings because all your questions in here, now she's just, she's sending a blessing. God bless you and welcome to the new members too. Hello, Tony. I'm just beginning my prayer walk with the Lord. Although I'm not ready to pray aloud yet, I do pray in my head in silence. Well, God hear me this way. Absolutely, God created you. You know, some people can't talk. Some people can't hear, you know. So you, God hear your prayers before you even say your prayers. For me, every breath is a prayer. Every time I breathe, every time I inhale and exhale, that's a prayer to God for grace and mercy. His grace and mercy is sufficient. So you gotta understand it's like God is in you. So yes, when you speak it, it is cemented with you. It's with you, like you speaking it, but God already heard your prayers, you know. Can you share the resource for proof reading? I just completed the birth your book course. I sent in an email to support. If you send an email in to support and it's been three business days and you haven't got a response, then send it in again. It's literally thousands of emails go to support every week. So sometimes they get deleted on accident, accident. Sometimes it get filed in. Sometimes I'm in there being nosy and I open it and then my wife or whoever is in there don't see it because I don't open it and didn't answer it because I opened it at 11 p.m. So just send that in again and we'll send you an email address to a proof reader. Coach Beverly, God bless you. Me and my friend are watching tonight's live together and wanted to just say we appreciate what you do and to keep going. God bless you and I appreciate y'all. God bless you and I. Can you share the resource you use? Okay, that's the same question I just answered. Whitney, Whitney, listen Whitney. All right, you done caught up on the video, you behind on the video, you not watching us live, you watching us behind there. Answer your question Whitney. All right, Whitney, don't put that question in there no more. Come on now. Y'all be doing like the people be doing on the talks with Tony emails. People be sending the same question in 30 times thinking that's gonna make me answer it faster. And I'm like, listen, it's coming in order. I'm gonna get to it, wanna get to it, okay? I was with someone for a few months. He cheated three times and tried counseling. Said he would put his hands on me. I have now finally cut them off. Advice on how to move forward. Just keep going, just keep going. Just block them, block them on every social media outlet, block them on your phone. Don't tell your friends and family, any of them know them. Don't mention his name to you. Don't tell you no messages. Don't tell you what he doing, where they seen him at, block them in every aspect of your life. Ozzie God bless you. I have a crush on a guy that lives in my apartment building. How do I catch his attention? I have seen him in passing a few times, working on the three B's. If you seen him in passing and you walk in his view, like you weren't behind him, if you seen him in passing, then he saw you in passing. So with a lot of times with that, it take, if he's single and available, it's gonna take probably, I say, I'm about to get my bottle off my voice. I say it's gonna take probably three times on average. When him seeing you directly, y'all seeing each other directly, y'all passing each other. It's gonna take that because a lot of time, man is building up courage and he trying to see you, he building up courage. And so understand that. But other than catching his attention, it's nothing really you can do because typically with a man, we see everything. We watch our surroundings very closely. We see everything tall, short, this, that. We see everything. And so always tell women, if you keep seeing a man and he doesn't approach you, that's not your husband. It could mean a whole wide array of things. Typically it's you're not his type. That's what it is. Typically you're not his type. The second thing is he's taken and he's being faithful. And the third thing would be, he liked men's. And so understand that right though. Because even a taken man will holler at you if he a no good man, sitting in God bless you and you look like his type. Area of God bless you. Thank you, Tony, for being such a blessing to us. Much love, you and your family. Hey, God bless you now, God bless you. Area of God bless you. How do you be certain when you should give up on someone that has gone back to an ex out of hurt slash spite? Do I wait for him if I believe he's the one? No, you absolutely do not wait for him. Because if he's the one, he's not gonna go back to an ex out of hurt slash spite. If he's the one for you. And you should never wait on a human being. All you need to wait on is God. Wait on the Lord. Don't ever wait on man, meaning human beings, meaning mankind. You always never put your life on pause for a human. You always keep moving forward. And if they wanna be in your life, they got to catch up to you. You're on the road to destiny. You can't just sit on the side of the road to destiny. You can't stop in the middle of traffic. You can't live at the rest stop. You got to keep going. And you keep going. And if somebody wanna be with you, they're gonna catch up to you, flag you down, wave you down, get you to pull over and make their case, plead their case, keep going. Queen heart, God bless your friend, promised to visit in support during the time of bereavement. He called every day, but didn't find time. I found out he went to a friend event instead. Am I wrong for getting upset and not answering his calls till after the funeral? Yeah, you're wrong. Because for one, he's a friend. Two, he got a life. He got stuff he wanna do. And he's not a grief counselor. And three, you can't put so much hope and stock and trust in people. So if a person say that they about to go out there away to do something for you that is not obligated of them, that's not their job or their duty, then you can't get in your feelings about that. That's your friend, that's not your husband. You know, that's not your boyfriend, that's your friend. So in the fact that he called you every day, that's still a whole lot. You know, it come down to it, it's like, okay. You know, honey, be God bless you. What is your advice on meeting men on social media? Have a public account, have a public account and be active. So the day I worked out, if I was a single woman, I would have posted, you know, a photo workout or after the workout or posted a little snippet from the workout. Then I had me some curd chicken and dumpling. If I was Jamaican or trying to be Jamaican as a single woman, I would have posted that curd chicken and Jamaican. I mean, dumpling. Then I had my protein shape, you know, I would have put that in my story. You see what I mean, like, then I was doing some work, doing some research, doing some, you know, stuff like that, I would have screenshot that, put that in the story. So when you a single woman and you on social media and you stand off these dating sites because you shouldn't be on the dating sites, you just have to be active. You're not doing a highlight reel, you showing your life. So if you get ready to go out, then that's an outfit of the day post. If, and you use your story because when you use your story, now you the girl on fire because it get that little colorful rain around there and that make a man click it. I got a guy, you know, that I mentored and that's how he met his woman in, on social media, you know, and they hit it off and I honestly think they're gonna get married. So you can meet your husband on social media and I recommend you meet them on social media then on online dating, on Dumbbell, plenty of sharks, offender, all these apps y'all get on, you know, watch.com, knowharmony.com, all these apps y'all get on instead of doing that there. Good night, buddy. Love you, my older boy. Reeves, God bless you. He's long distance, but in ministry and education. And it's only been a month of talking every day via text, call, or both. Play video games too. Haven't seen each other yet. Am I wasting my time? No, no, you're not wasting your time because you got a good job. Ministry and education, that's a good start. Ain't nothing wrong with video games unless he addicted to them and he playing them like four hours a day and he don't have a career in it. Like if he playing four hours a day and he getting tournaments and making money, that's a job, you know, that's a little side gig. Now, if he just on there cause he got gamer brain and he addicted to the game, that could be a little bit of a red flag, but, you know, if it's excessive. And y'all talk every day. It's been a month. So no, you ain't wasting your time. Typically when you dating somebody, if there's no real blatant red flags, you got about three months of that trial period. And then at that three month mark, that's when you make your decision if you're gonna promote, demote, or terminate. Only one, God bless you. My husband and I are going through a divorce after 30 years. He is constantly telling our adult children details of our divorce. Not cool by and by of our children. I don't know, I really don't know. You got an immature husband. You got an immature husband and he want them on his side. But this is the thing. The best parent is transparent. So it's three sides to the story. His side, your side, and the truth. So if he gonna tell his side, you best believe the kid's listening. So you need to tell your side too. And so don't try to sit there and be the same. Don't try to sit there and be the same, you know? And just, oh, he telling them stuff about the divorce. I ain't gonna say nothing. I'm not finna be childish. No, you gotta go on and tell your side of it because those are your kids and you want them to hear your side and understand too. But that's a prime example. 30 years, y'all should be riding off into the sunset absolutely happy. And that's what I talk to y'all about is a lot of times 30 year marriages, the marriage was over, 30 year divorce, the marriage was over year two. And that's why I be telling y'all who y'all in these relationships five, six years and you still not married or you still butt heads, it's this dead end situation, seven, eight, nine, 10 years, those are the relationships that turn into that divorce after 30 years because in a relationship it's two adults and so you should hit a stride. Around year two, year three, you should hit a stride to where it's copa steady. It's smooth sailing because it's a mutual respect. Like me and my wife, our issues are so small. Like I said in my video earlier, my wife asked me today, hey, I want you to kiss me more. So what that let me know is, okay, I need to make sure I keep brushing my teeth morning and night, but during the day I need to be drinking me some water, make sure the tongue right, so that when I go to kissing, I ain't got no hint on my mouth, you know, and I'm ruining my situation. So since she didn't ask me that, I didn't kiss the two or three times and she asked me that earlier today. And I just told her, be careful now. Be careful now, because you like that kissing now and listen, I ain't got all the scruff to be around here all the time now. But that's something like that. It ain't, can you stop DMing women? Can you stop having women call your phone 11 o'clock at night? Can you stop talking to your ex? Can you stop talking to this woman you go to work with? It ain't none of that. It's like, hey, I want you to kiss me a little more. And mind you not, we have a affectionate relationship, but she just want her some more. You see what I mean? And then for me on my side, it's like, hey baby, I need you to stop doing all this hollering at this game, at this soccer game now. You talking too much to this boy. Let the boy fail. Let the boy make mistakes. Let the boy learn how to play the game without you telling him everything to do. And that's what I tell her. She don't be listening to me. But that's the, it's like, am I finna go get a divorce because my wife be coaching my son during his game? Louder than the coach? No, I'm not finna divorce her for that. I just got to understand that's her personality. Cause when her daddy come to his game, her dad is the same way, but it ain't a deal breaker. So that's what I mean in your relationship, round year, two, three, four, at the latest year is year five, you need to hit a strive to where it's smooth sailing. And you just have little waves you got to hop over. If you still tumultuous five years, six years, seven years in, you're in a dead end relationship and you need to cut it. Branded God bless you. Now, how it's on the side from working on all three Bs, how can a woman prevent the attention of grown men? If men are good at reading women, why do they attempt to go for those that are not at their level? You can't prevent the attention of grown boys. I know what you meant. And to a man, every woman at his level, because everybody want a prize. You don't go into the restaurant and say, hey, can you give me your leftovers from yesterday? You go into the restaurant and you want the finest, freshest food you could get. So you got to understand even a trash can get a steak every nine then. So with grown boys, they still, even though they trash, they still want their steak. So they gonna always approach you. Flies go to booboo and flies go to sugar. So you're gonna always have grown boys approach you. You just got to know the red flags. So when you had that first conversation and that first date, you recognize the red flags. That's what you got to be on. Praise the Lord God bless you. Hi Tony, I quit my job and start my mobile notary business and vending machine business. But I am very nervous to quit my job. I want to quit my job. Okay, I had to read that again. Now, I don't quit your job, sister. I would love to get into real estate. Don't quit your job, do not quit your job. Listen to my book. It's called A Dream Chaser. Listen to The Dream Chaser. And I talk to you about balancing the dream and the job until the dream becomes the job. It's on Audible. If you wanna listen to it or you could order it off BarnesandNova.com or amazon.com and read the heart back. But don't quit your job. But you own the sum though, that mobile notary business. If you off saturday and sunday, that's when you do your mobile notary. Your vending machine business, it really ain't no money in vending machine business. So you probably wanna sign up for a coaching session with me before you go too deep in that. That vending machine business, you pay $3,500 for that vending machine and you finna make $5,000 that month. You see what I mean? It'll take you a whole year just to make your $3,500 back from the nice vending machine. And then the people that you put it, where you put it at, they want them a percentage of it. And then you also don't know if they gonna set you up to get your vending machine raw. So that vending machine, I looked into ATM business, vending machine business, I looked into it and after I did the math, I said, no, no, these people on YouTube line trying to make it look good. No, no, go ahead. Y'all doing that for views on YouTube. There ain't no money in that. Ain't no real money in that system. Now that movin' notary, you know, that could pick on up. That could pick up. People need that. Jack on the guard, bless you now. Hey, now y'all sendin' two million of them colorful ones in. Now I'm tryin' to get back to the chat now. People luggin' in the VIP line. Wow. Donnetta God bless ya. A guy datin' in high school 15 years ago wants to give us a try as an adult. He has five young kids, three baby mommas and no formal custody. No formal custody slash visitation set up with them. He says he is ready to grow and handle his business as a man. Yes or no? Move it, God bless you. Don't do me like that, don't help Donnetta. Don't come and help me in disrespect for Donnetta. Come on now. You gotta respect my time better than that now. Come on now, Donnetta. And if I was you, I wouldn't touch that man with a hundred foot pole. You hear me? That man see you doin' good in your life. That man see you eatin' crowdlegs on your Facebook. That man see you got you a nice Toyota Camry. See you got you a, you gainfully employed. You got $20 the waste on him. You wastin' $20 on him and it ain't benefiting him. It ain't got nothing to do with him. So the whole, that's a date right there. That's a movin', that's a movin' ticket that you spent on him. And he, listen, that man right there, if that man wrote me, if I was you and that man wrote me, I'd delete my whole Facebook. I got to go. Facebook, that, delete. I'd delete my whole Facebook. Listen, absolutely, sis. If you entertain that, come on now. If you entertain that, come on now, sister. Come on now. Tiffin' the beat, God bless you. You say when a man leaves you, it's over. Don't go back. He doesn't want you. Can you clarify if that includes him sabotage the relationship to make you leave him? Same thing. Do you recommend second chance? If he sabotages the relationship to make you leave him, now you gotta understand now sabotage, if you mean intentionally trying to disrespect you and he knows what he's doing is absolutely wrong. He grown and mature and he intentionally trying you like a baser to make you leave him, then yes, that is the same thing as him leaving you. Now, if he is unlearned because he was raised by savages and he was raised so cold that he doesn't know how to be warm and he needs you to teach him how to love like music soul child, then in that case, and if you have to leave him within one year due to a forgivable offense, then yes, you can consider a second chance. If it's a forgivable offense, you see what I mean? And when I say forgivable, meaning you can forgive and forget. Meaning you can forgive him and not want to keep reminding him of the offense. Like you could throw it into the sea of forgetfulness because it wasn't that big of a deal. But if it's something that your stomach gonna be hurting, it's gonna be keeping you up at night and you gonna wanna bring it up every six months, then no, don't give another chance. Go on about your bed now. Element G7A, God bless you now, God bless you. So it doesn't mean you have to do that now. Oh, brother, I don't know. God bless you now. Tee the origin, bless you. I've been watching your videos for a little over a year now and read four of your books. I can watch talks with Tony, feeling compassion for others and get a laugh thanking God for healing. Thank you so much. Hey, God bless you now. God bless you. That's a good place to be and in your life. How to co-parent after my son's girlfriend at the time spit in my face after I came to his whereabouts to get help. He left her afterwards but went and married her a few weeks later. Child, six months, since you gonna need a session. That's a little too deep for the Q and A now. That's a little too deep for the Q and A. And the one that's spit in your face? You got a great spirit. You got a great spirit. Because I'd be riding you from the prison cell if somebody spit in my face. You have an amazing spirit because the spit in your face is more disrespectful than punching in your nose, slapping in your mouth, spitting in your face is, that is like the most disrespectful thing in the world but it make me question, now she a rider for her's now but if she arrived that hard for him to spit in your face then what would she do to your child? That's my thing. Cause I don't trust that now cause you a different type of person to spit in somebody's face. Now I'm not me a man, but I'm not finna hope no loogie and spit in nobody's face. You are a different type of person if you will spit in somebody's face. That type of person I wouldn't have my child nowhere near that type of vile human being. And so that right there, if I was you he'll have to, he'll have to take me to court for visitation. And it'll have to be we meeting at the park. Yeah, you could bring her a little musty sorry, but she can sit over there on that bench, on that park bench, but my child ain't going to your house with that demon. That's how I be. Judge, okay, say what you wanna say, 50, 50, 60, 40, 70, 30, all right, yeah. Uh huh, judge, yeah. Bye, my child ain't going in that person's house, that woman house, he'll spit in your face, absolutely not. That's your me though. So, you know, you're gonna have to pray on that one. Okay, God bless you. Now, how should a woman deal with men who talk about, um, I ain't alone in other types of sirred toxic stuff. I ignore they don't go away. You are always so unbothered. Please give some advice. Um, y'all, now where is this here PLN at? Cause is that Palestine, what that Filipino? Cause if he talking about war, I'm not too sure I want to speak on him, sister. Cause listen, I don't want him coming for me. Yeah, yeah, I ain't, I ain't scared of now American, but these men from other countries, they move different. So I don't know where PLN is at and how the men move, but go on about your business, sister. Go on about your business. Y'all be something, nah, come, nah. This other thing, y'all ask me a practical question. Y'all be, nah, Tony, what do I do if he chew with, he chew his gum on the left teeth and then he chew it on the right teeth? Like what do I do in a situation like that? Cause this thing is just blowing me. Why he chew on the left tooth and then the right teeth? And then one more thing, Tony, now listen, and we sit down, he make his big toe just do like this. Like what do I do in that situation? That's how some of the time y'all be asking me questions and it's like, you see what I'm saying? Like we gotta be everything on how to answer. You see what I mean? Everything on how to answer. So I'd be starting to think y'all trollin' me. But nah, listen, on a situation like that, when you see somebody might be a little cuckoo for Cocoa Puffs, if you ignore him and he don't go away, then that lets you know he is extra cuckoo for Cocoa Puffs. So then you definitely get your distance. Block him, cut him off, cause with somebody like that, a man like that, you give him any kind of feedback. Now you're gonna add another month of harassment. Make sure you put a hashtag Q in front of your question. Some of y'all knew. Put hashtag Q in front of your question so I could easily identify. Hey, Tony, how do you manage multiple businesses? I would love to add another stream, but want to move wisely. It is tiring and it could be time consuming, but what I do is I give my days direction. Right now, my mentor.life, it kind of runs itself. And we got a staff that kind of handles the inbox and stuff like that. And then my writing, I'm not writing a book right now. And then Yaskin Productions, that's a, we producing, but the production company is producing. I'm just cutting the check for the project that they're producing, film, like TV situation. The other tech projects that I've created, they run their self. And so, because the work is already done. So what I try to do is create businesses that pretty much run themselves. We don't have to be too hands-on. And so what you'll do though is when you look at your off day, you look at how many hours it's gonna take you to run a business. So if it's gonna take you eight hours to run a business, all you got time for is one business. But if you could get this week's work done in two to four hours, then you could spend two hours on one business, spend two hours on another business, two hours on another business, two hours on another business, that's an eight hour work day. But you compartmentalize them. And so that's what I did when I had to be hands-on. I just give my days direction and I just break it down. Okay, I'm writing right here. I'm doing social media right here. I'm doing marketing right here, like that. Level up with the keys of God bless you. If I was making my man feel low and he cheated as a result, so he say, is it possible for it to work if we both decided to forgive each other? Anything is possible. You know, anything is possible except for the devil getting in the heaven. But anything is possible. But you gotta really evaluate if you was really making him feel low. Now, if you know you were taking shots of his ego and you know you was trying to hurt him and you know you was being nasty, then he got a point. But if you know that he kind of stretching it a little bit, like he putting a little extra sauce on it cause he want him an excuse, then you just can't accept what somebody's telling you that you was doing if you know you weren't doing that. And so because even if for a man, if you making a man feel low, he ought to just leave you, not cheat on you because that's weak to cheat on somebody because of how they make us feel. And then how about, oh, we wanna make it work because what that sound like to me is he not accepting responsibility for his immaturity and for his ignorance and for his bad choice. But instead he trying to do the Jedi mind trick and use manipulation by guilt. As Dr. Gary Chapman says in the five love languages, manipulation by guilt, where he trying to make you feel guilty to manipulate you into believing it was your fault he chose to go cheat with somebody else. When that could have been nothing that you had to do with that. And so understanding that right there, first that he need to accept that he ignorant in childhoods for cheating. And then, and you can't just be accepting all that right there because unless you know you actually did that. And then now, if that's not the way and y'all both agree to forgive and forget and y'all can move on and both of y'all gonna do the work, then yeah, you can get it right. No trolling, Tony. We love your content. The question was about insecure, weird men. Thank you for everything you do. PLN was from Poland. Okay, over there in Poland. It sound like you on that dating app. Now the lady just wrote me the other day from Poland that was on Tinder. All right. So it sound like you on that dating app. Somebody said I missed a super chat. Well, the reason why I said that one no super chat, that go, no, that was super chat, but it go in the chat. And so with the rest of the chat going, those right there go up. So when you come in here with that great value chat, you know, that right there don't come to the top where I can see it. So when everybody else right, yours get pushed on up. So, you know, you got to understand that because you too don't really value it. So they don't show it to me. So as soon as you write it, all these other questions, it push it right on up. So understand that now how to set boundaries when getting cornered by a man. And another thing which I've got to understand, just cause you sent in one of these monetary thing, just not a paid live. You don't have to send those in. So don't send in no paid thing for a answer. If you send that in, let that be from your heart because you saying, here you go, bless you because I'm not working, I'm not charging to answer questions. I'm not working to answer questions in on paid questions. So don't, cause I don't own answer questions for $2.99, $2.99, you see what I'm saying? My time is priceless. So when I'm doing this, it's a gift from my heart to do this. So don't send nothing in and think that this got to be answered, this is work. That ain't what I'm doing it for. This is a free chat. This is a free chat where all your questions could go in the chat. So if you sense a donation and it get missed, understand that it's because of the amount of questions that's coming in here and that's what this is for. A free Q and A for the blessed tribe because some of y'all could be sending in the questions, paying and not even in the blessed tribe and I'm answering people that's not in the blessed tribe question and missing people question that's in the blessed tribe. So understand that. I know a lot of people come on YouTube, get the likes up, get the likes up. Hey, hit the like, hit the like, hit the like. Hey, send a whole chat in, send a sticker in, send a sticker in. Hey, hit on my cash out. Y'all came find my cash out, I don't post my cash out. This is a young lady, Caramel Kisses, I don't even think she in here. She got my cash out and she be posting that for me. She don't work for me, she not paying for me. I don't ask for donations. I don't ask for donations, you don't see my cash out nowhere on my channel. Somebody wrote in to support and said, I'm looking for Tony cash out. I don't see it anywhere posted on his YouTube. And then she said something. She say that also says something about your character. And that's why I be trying to tell y'all is, today we can't even tell the real from the fake. We can't tell the servants from the savages and the scavengers. We can't even tell the difference. We don't even pay attention to it. Like a lot of y'all don't even realize, you never pay attention that I don't ever ask you to like or and subscribe. That while I'm doing a live, I don't say hit the like, I don't do that because I'm here to serve. And that's why I need y'all to understand. And I never ask for donations. And I don't have my cash out posted, my Venmo posted, my PayPal posted, because I ain't here for donations. So I want y'all to understand that when y'all writing in, okay? Now let me get to Latia thing. How to set boundaries when getting cornered by men. Call the police, call the police. If you feel cornered, cornered, that's a sense of danger. So if you feeling cornered, call the police. If it's just something to where a man keep calling you, then block his phone number, block him on social media. But if a man stalking you, call the police. If a man won't leave you alone, call the police. I had a client today. She say her ex-man showed up out of nowhere without her permission. She say she called the police. She put the police on speakerphone. He took off. And so I say, look at that, that's strength right there. Natalie, God bless you. Now my ex-boyfriend doesn't want to have a Christ centered relationship and says he's not ready for a full blown relationship with me. I tell him it's all or nothing after three years. He said, I can't pressure him. Stuck, no, you know you're not stuck. Go on about your business. What you stuck for? That's your ex-boyfriend. That's an ex for a reason. Go on about your business, you ain't stuck. Now you gotta ask her, are you stuck on stupid? Don't be stuck on stupid. Remember what I tell y'all, don't let your desperation talk you out of your common sense. Don't do that. You're not stuck. He ain't got no gun in your head. He not holding you hostage. He just sees that you gullible and you naive and that you're not loving yourself and he sees that he could play his card and get over on you. You can't let him do that. Don't ever let somebody like the lady say corner you and how you stuck when you got led to walk away. Go on about your business. My boyfriend hasn't been intimate with me for almost two years. Says we have two kids and don't need to be having aunt. He is an affectionate towards me and I constantly find him talking to exes. I moved out. I did good. Yeah, you did good. You did good, but listen. Don't ever beg nobody to sleep with you because that could be God saving you. He might then dip that stick in a cesspool and that stick got some on it that he try not to give you cause you the mother of his children. So that's one thing about when I was out there in that world and I was trying to get me some if somebody ain't want nothing and somebody ain't want, I wouldn't fit in the bag. I want to fit in the chase. I want to do none of that. Cause I say, you know what? This person trying to save my life probably round here with that heel and try not to give cause that HIV is round here now and they out here with that heel and try not to give. So listen, I don't question nobody. You hear me? Uh-uh. Don't be out here begging for nothing cause you'll be asking for a death sentence. And then he finally out of sympathy for you do something with you and you get up and never be the same. Tiffany God bless you. Thank you for being a blessing. Your content has changed my mindset almost done with the life course certification course. Blessing eight, bless you nine, bless you. And when you finish the course now you're welcome to join my mentor.life. My mentor.life is for certified coaches but certified could also mean you got a degree in whatever social word psychology coaching cause certification isn't required by law to be a life coach but we require certifications on my mentor.life to uphold the standard of coaches who, you know, take the industry serious and take the business serious. Let me see. Colleen God bless you. How do I answer a man's question? If he asks me if I have a lot of friends or to bring a girlfriend on a double date I don't have that right now. Just tell him you ain't got that right now. You know, just tell him you ain't got that. You ain't got to say it in another language. You ain't got to try to put it in code. You know, a lot of times ladies ask me how to say this to a man? How to say that to a man? Uh, just say it. Just say it. You talking to a human being. I don't have lady friends right now. You know, I'm in a different season of my life and we just not on the same page and see love God bless you. I hadn't caught alive in a while. Blessing you and your family and may you continue to increase. God bless you. God bless you now, sister. Now I don't know if you sent the same thing twice it's showing up twice now. It's showing up twice, sister. God bless you now. God bless you. I don't know if that was an accident. That was an accident called Google now. Called Google. Get that bike. God bless you now. That look like that was an accident. He said the same thing two times. Now you need to hit submit twice. Lord bless you. I was a God bless you with a guy approach you. If you are not looking your best each time you see him. Seeing him a few times in passing at our apartment building. Now I was gonna ask this question again that she asked earlier. And the answer is yes. A guy will approach you. Honestly, men really want to see a woman in her bare essence. So a man really wants to see a woman when you're out and about. A man really is more attracted to women who make up is natural or no makeup. And her look is as close as she would look to going to bed. And as close as she would look to waking up. Because one of the greatest fears that we have as men is that we approach Janet Jackson and then get in relationship with Freda Jackson. That's one of a man's greatest fears. So a man really, and I've had several clients tell me that they get approached by more men when they in sweats. When they in a sweatsuit, then when they in a heels, when they dress on. And the reason being is because for one the more relaxed your outfit are the less the more approachable you appear. The more done up you are, then it's like, okay, she bought bed and she's serious. She's doing something. She can ready to go to prom, you know, some kind of gala. So let me stay out of the way. She tied up. Can you go back to question of time nine, 16? Denise, I don't have a time on my, I don't have time on my side. So I don't, I don't know what question of nine, 16 is. If it was your question then, you know, copy and paste it. So I could see it, but I don't have, I don't have time on mine. My child's father constantly in and out of our life after going ghost on us for two weeks during New Year's he came to me with forex opportunity and got mad because I didn't want to join distance again. God bless you. Let him be gone. Let him stay gone. Let him stay gone. Let him stay gone. Um, Debbie Bay, God bless you. He wants to marry after three months. He's back overseas. I don't know when we'll see each other again due to jobs. We FaceTime every day. He's 38, I'm 27. He doesn't like garlic and onions. I do. He's Catholic. I'm not, but we love each other. Should we continue or not? For one man, he don't love you because it's impossible for a man to fall in love in three months. Men heart not even built like that. You got to understand what a man does in this world. Men literally on the front line, in the streets, taking lives and in a foreign country, in another country, taking the lives of strangers. So what you got to understand is a person that's built like that can't fall in love in three months. It take a good man, a good man, two years to fall in love. A good man, a average man, the man that they call simps, the man like me, that they call simps and that they call beta males. It take us two years to fall in love. You got a man in a whole other country. He want to get married for a green card and what that sound like. Or you could be a steal. He ain't in love, but you could look like a steal. You could look like a bargain with him being 38, old in Methuselah and then you being 27. That's 11 years different. You, PYT, pretty young thing. Tenderoni. So to him, that could be like, man, let me lock this thing in quick. Cause high in the world, I get a woman that's 11 years younger than me. You see what I mean? So pump your brakes, sister. Pump your brakes. You fantasizing. You fall in in love with the idea of love, but you ain't got love. Not in no three months. How can I connect with a man on an emotional level while dating? Conversation. They say conversation ruler nation. So when you, when you dating a man, what you got to do is, let me see how I could turn this here top chat off. Send messages such as potential, some messages, live chat, super chat, chat, you're an option. I try to see how I could turn off them, pay questions, but I don't know what button to hit. I'll be the turn off the whole line. Listen, when you dating a man, what you got to do is you have to, and this go both ways if men watch this. What you have to do is just ask questions like you Oprah doing one of her interviews, how she be on them interviews and she be getting people to tell all their business to millions of people. That's how you got, you got to ask questions like, this is the most interesting person in the world. And you just let the person talk, talk, talk. And when you let the person talk, now what happens is they start to fall in love. The more this person express themselves, the more they fall in love. And so that's what you got to understand. And that's how you connect on a emotional, mental, spiritual level. And that's how, and that's also building on, that's also building a foundation of friendship. How to start dating again after seven years celibate and single, have a 10 year old working on three B's relationship with the Lord and using my gift slash purpose should I wait a little longer to even try? Thank you for all you do. You shouldn't have to try period. So when it's time to date, men will start approaching you. When you ready, when your three B's in order, brain, brand, body, men will start approaching you. And so you won't even have to try. All you got to do is go get your grocery, go to your mailbox, go pump your gas, or go get on your subway. However you travel, ride your bicycle, all you got to do is get out of the house. And when your three B's in order, you're gonna have a glow and a aura about you that men gonna approach you. And at that point, if your three B's in order, then you also meaning you've been feeding your mind and you getting new knowledge, you also gonna have a sense of confidence. Now I'm gonna turn into a chat off now. So y'all gonna turn into a chat off because we wrapping on up. And see, this is what I want y'all to understand now. You cannot make life and especially relationships rocket science because it's not rocket science. So you have to identify your standards, your morals, your values. And in your life, you have to have non-negotiables. Like if you don't feel good, if you don't feel comfortable with a situation, don't do it. If the situation does not serve you and make you better, just like you would serve and make somebody better with your presence and your energy and your efforts, they should be doing the same. If you have to settle, it's different between settling and compromising. So I'm compromising being with an introverted extrovert. And meaning my wife, that is a compromise. I'm not settling because she's not less than, she's not unworthy. It's not a deal breaker. Now, if my wife smoked and if my wife got drunk and then my wife cursed and if my wife believed in having more than one partner, then I would be settling. If she was physically, verbally, emotionally, then I would be settling. I compromise because what I'm compromising is not a deal breaker. So her being loud at the soccer game, that's not a deal breaker because at the end of the day, still she respects me and she's not disrespectful. So when you look at any relationship situation, a healthy compromise, something that is not against your morals, your values, your standards, not your preferences. See, a preference is me being five, 10, I might call myself five, 11. I might be five, 11. I'm six, four now that I'm married and happy, but biologically I'm five, 10. So my preference would be a five, four woman because it'll make me feel like more of a man. My wife, five, eight. So when she put on heels, what's up, little brother? Her arm up here on my shoulder. She looking at the crown of my head when she put on heels. So I compromise a preference. My preference was me being in the South, a woman with old caboose. My wife, body built different. So that's a healthy compromise because it's a preference. But see my standards, I don't curse. I don't get drunk. I don't smoke. I'm not, I don't believe in cheating in a marriage or having more than one partner. Those are my standards. I'm a Christian. I serve God. Those are my standards. So I can compromise my standards, but I compromise some of my preferences. My preferences, the things that I had this idea. And then guess what? She did the same thing. Our standards are the same. I'm an introvert. I'm very quiet. When we go to a party, family get together. I'm a wallflower. I don't wanna go out on the thing and dance. Now I would dance at home with her, dirty wine, slow wine, everything. But in public, I don't want nobody seeing me vulnerable. I don't want nobody seeing me dancing. I'm not Chris Brown. So she compromised that because that's not my personality. She compromised that preference. She wanna get on the dance floor, her being a Jew making. She wanna get on the dance floor and dance non-stop, but she don't make me go dance with her. She compromised that. I'm quiet. When we round people, I don't say nothing. I'm actually very quiet and shy. I do this because it's my purpose. So I receive the strength of the Lord to do this. But anywhere we go and you ask anybody that know me, when I'm round people, I'm quiet. I speak when spoken to. And I don't answer too long either. And I don't like being bothered. I don't like talking to nobody. None of that. She compromised that. So this is what I want y'all to understand. It's a difference between your standards and your preferences. And so in any situation you go into in a relationship to where you are compromising your standards, then you losing. And that's when you need to leave. That's when you got to leave. But if it's okay, you want a man six foot and he coming in at five, nine, that's a healthy compromise. If he's a good man with good character. Okay, you want somebody that makes 75,000 a year, but they at 50,000 a year, but they got room to grow. They still gonna be climbing the ladder. That's a healthy compromise. Now you don't want somebody that smoke because of what it'll do to your lungs and due to your health, secondhand smoke. If you get with somebody that smoke, now you're compromising a standard. And that's when you messing up. So you got to look at what you're doing in these relationships and you have to understand that life will give you what you demand of it. Life will give you what you command of it. So if anything you settle for it, that's all you're gonna get. So when I was 25 years old, I said, listen, I wanna make six figures a year. I did not know how I would earn six figures a year, but by the age of 28, I was earning six figures a year and not just six figures, I earned 150,000 by the age of 28, because that's what I said. So when I said that, my mind started to dream and to plan and to try to conspire to get it. Then when I got there, I said, hey, I wanna earn seven figures a year. I didn't know how I would get from 100,000 to 1 million, but I did it and not just 1 million, I crossed 1 million, but it was because I said it. So my mind started to think of ideas and what I could create and what I could do to get there. And then I say, I wanna work from home and make seven figures. So I don't have to go anywhere to earn any money. I was speaking engagements coming in, retreat offers coming in, and I turned down all of them because I just don't feel like going. You see what I'm saying? But I said, this is what I want from my life and that's what I got. So my wife used to have a quote in her bio and I don't know if it's still there, but it said, I want it all. And people would think that that was arrogant or that was greedy. And I said, what you mean by you want it all? She said, I want good kids, I want a faithful husband, a good marriage, and I want a good life. Like, I don't wanna have to compromise and have amazing kids, but I got a terrible marriage or have an amazing marriage, but my kids just spoiled rotten and doing bad in school. She was like, I want it all. And guess what? That's what she got. Her son's got straight A's, her husband faithful, our life is comfortable, but it's what you say you want. And what I see the most, and it's the saddest thing in the world, and it's the only reason why I stay in the trenches. It's the only reason why I keep doing this work that I'm doing is because God has no respect to persons meaning that he don't love Tony Gaskins and Cherie Gaskins more than he love Latoya Williams or Brian Johnson. So God want everybody to be blessed, but according to your faith, be it unto you, such as you think so you will be. You see what I mean? So it's what you have the faith to believe you will receive. But if you are okay settling for less and you don't believe that you can have more then your mind will never configure a plan to have more. And so what I see the most is women writing me and settling in situations. Cause this is what you got to understand is I was a toxic controlling abusive boyfriend. I was a drug dealer. I was a thief. I was arrested. I went to jail in the ninth grade. I was trafficking cross state lines. But when I met my wife and we had a conversation and we talk and she heard me talk and she heard wisdom from God and she heard my vision. She say, that's who you're gonna have to be in order to be with me. The drug dealer that you are, the womanizer that you are, none of that ain't gonna fly. So I tried to test her with little stuff and she left me. Boom. She left me even after she had given me her body. And I thought, oh, this is the type of woman. She's so classy. If she give me her body and then I do something stupid. She ain't finna leave cause she don't wanna run her body count up. No, she ain't wanna run her body count up. But guess what? She wasn't gonna be dumb enough to stay. So she left me endating. She left me because I wasn't being the man that I showed her I could be. And so she left me once endating. And then we got back together six months later and then we got married 10 months after that. And then two months into our marriage, I went back to the streets to start selling drugs again. And she say, no, I told you, I'm not gonna be with a drug dealer. And she left me in marriage. She would go on three days, I would beg and plead and call her. She answered my call and she say, listen, our son was in intensive care unit. He was born two and a half months early. She said, I'm gonna give you one more chance. So she gave me another chance. She wouldn't just cut throat to the point. And it wasn't something that where I had to like beat on her or cheat on her. It was me going to the streets. So it was like what you would call a victimless offense. It wasn't necessarily directly against her. It was me trying to get money. And so she understood that. Now had I cheated on her and that got thrown in her face, she would have disappeared. Had I put hands on her, she would have disappeared. But I went back to the streets. And that's when she said, can you get old streets up? And when I say, yeah, I get a streets up. Now, if somebody crossed me, crossed you, anything harm come way, you got to be okay with me laying somebody down now, but I'll get a streets up. And so she did not settle because she said, you know what man, we need the money, our son in intensive care, you own it. Like just go ahead, just do it. You better not get caught. Had she compromised, I would have stayed in the streets and I would either went to prison for murder or I would have lost my life or I would have got caught. But she left me and say, I'm not gonna be here. That's what you're gonna do. And that's what I'd be trying to tell people that that's why we wrote the book, A Woman's Influence because it was her refusing to settle for who I thought I wanted to be. And her being willing to leave that forced me to grow. I didn't just grow for me. I didn't just grow for God. I grew for my wife and my son because she refused to settle. But what I have so much of is women writing me, the man cheating on you, the man beating on you, the man spitting in your face, the man cussing you out, the man selling drugs, the man lazy, he sorry. And so many women letting them do it. You letting him do what he wanna do. You letting him run in and out your life multiple times. My wife gave me a second chance in dating and she gave me a second chance in marriage. And she didn't have to give me no more chances than that. And we got married quickly. I ain't waste her time. We were together a total of like a year and maybe a year and a month before we was married and I was 21 when I met her. You see what I'm saying? And that's what I mean. And it's so many women with grown men, grown men in their 30s, late 20s, 30s, 40s, and y'all allowing people to date you for five, six, seven years. Just wasting up your good time, wasting up your good body, wasting up your good life because they don't wanna marry you and you settling for that. When it's real love, I hear happening. When you could be happy, married, favored from God, flourishing and you dealing with a liar, a cheater, a manipulator, a deceiver because you feel worthless and you feel that there's nothing better out there for you and that you can't heal and that you can't grow and that you can't move forward. And that's the biggest mistake you can make. Listen, stop settling in life. Stop settling in life. I'm telling you, I done tapped in. I'm telling you, I done tapped in. I say, I wanna be a millionaire. I became a millionaire. I say, I wanna be married from the age of 16. I say, I wanna be married. I became, I got married by 23. I say, I wanna learn how to be faithful to one woman. I learn how to be faithful to one woman. I say, I wanna work from home and still make seven figures. I work from home and make seven figures. I wanna travel the world. I want my kids to have a best school, have a good life, make good grades. All of that is in play. All of that in play. The only thing that I want that I ain't got is my eight pack that I had when I met my wife. But guess what? I got a boxing trainer. I got a basketball trainer. I got a weightlifting trainer. You feel what I'm saying? So the day I pull that shirt up, like that sweat off, up, they go two, is that two outs? Is that a couple of reals, I can see? Okay, got on the scale, 70 pounds down. You see what I'm saying? Now I'm finna go get that, because that's what I want. You probably ain't gonna get to see it, but I'm finna have it up under this shirt because I want it. You see what I'm saying? And so, stop selling. And it's like, I wish I could get people to understand this. When I said I'm gonna make six figures a year, I was making $20,000 a year. How in the world I'm finna make 80,000? Where does finna come from? When I said I wanna make seven figures a year, I think I was at 150,000. And then I went to 250, 350, then I went to 500, and I was at 500,000 a year for years. And then when I said a thing came, a year came, and I said I wanna make $750,000 this year. And I, listen, when you say what you want, you don't have a plan for it. You don't know how you're gonna do it. You don't know how you're gonna get there. But the fact that you said it, the way the mind is created, is when you give it a task, it comes up with a plan. When you present a problem, it comes up with a solution. So if you want happy love life, if you want a better career life, if you wanna earn more money, if you want a better body, you have to say that, and then you got to go towards it and stop settling. Hey, this Tony Gaston, I went over, what I went over, 15 minutes, man, I went to preaching on here. Y'all forgive me now. I'm passionate about this thing. I wish I could do a whole seminar, but see now this is the thing, with these seminars, the world getting ready to open back up and they calming down on the mask and all that. And I wanna do some seminars, but I'm gonna tell you what the issue is. The issue is throughout this hill situation where everybody was home, I was doing these hill videos and from this knowledge, it's been some situation where people waking up and they leaving these talks of relationship. So now, y'all baby daddy and y'all boyfriend is sending me threats in DM and see not me the type, me on the type, if he wanna jump frog it, I'm gonna be a lily pad. You see what I'm saying? Now, I'm finna let him land. But what I mean now, on his bike. And so what I'm also trying to do is stay out of prison. And so that's why with my events, I have to be real selective on what cities I go to and then my security measures because a lot of grown boys mad with me for sharing the game and leveling the playing field. And I don't wanna have to take nobody life over me living my purpose. So that's an honest to God consideration. And that's what I told my wife today cause the company wrote me about doing a retreat in Bali. I'm like, baby, I'm kinda thinking about doing this retreat in Bali because I really don't wanna be moving like that in the States because I'm getting threats and stuff from guys and me and my people. We be, you know what I'm saying? I told y'all transition from a different lifestyle that I went to when I became an adult trying to, and so it's certain situation to where, you see what I'm saying? And so I have to be mindful and I have to do risk assessment. And I got to look at, okay, if I go to this hill city, this hill city, some pop off, am I gonna have to do harm to somebody? My security, myself, cause it's on us, cause it's on us. We keep it on us. And so I have to think about that because that's how to double this spiritual warfare and that's how to double or try to set you up. Double try to set you up. And so, and it's real life and a lot of people don't realize that I don't have security since 2010. And I want no big, you know, I'm not a celebrity and I never was. And people be like, why you got security? Why you got security? I say, listen, the most dangerous thing in the world is an insecure man because he deranged and he crazy. And if a woman leave her man because she got new knowledge and she didn't got the game and he find out that you the one gave it to him. And I thought about that because I was a grown boy. If when I was a grown boy, if a woman left me because of the message of another man and I was in them streets and I was with that, that man may have some problems. So I understand that side of things because I was out there. And when you doing stupid stuff and you doing stuff for really no real reason. So that's what a lot of folks don't understand like in the work that I'm in but that's why I'm kind of in this by myself. That's why it's only a handful of men that do what I do because it is breaking the man law. But the reason why I break the man law is because this is what God called me to. The reason why I give away the game and the reason why I hold men accountable is because of the fact that it's breaking down. The man law is destroying our homes. It's destroying our women. It's destroying our families. We got so many single moms because of the man code because of the man law. We got a lot of abuse. We got a lot of teenage pregnancy. We got a lot going on because of this stupid thing that we call the man code and the man law. And it's basically men cheating, men cheating, men manipulating and deceiving women and playing a woman like a fool. And it breaks down the home and it ends up hurting the children. And this is what God called me to. But when you up in what the devil is doing, he gonna get mad and try to show his fangs. But see the sword of the Lord is so righteous. And we a lot of times forget that just because you say don't mean you're scared. And so what happened for me is I had to protect myself and that's why I got to move different because you never know who the devil got deranged. And he mad because he is a narcissist or he crazy. I only use that word. I'm using it for y'all because that's y'all favorite word, narcissist. And he wanna get with me and see the thing about it is is I don't wanna hurt nobody. I don't wanna get into no altercation with no man to where it could cause somebody because that's no different than me being in the streets and leaving the streets. So I ain't leave the streets to come to positivity that have to be dealing with ignorant men who mad because his woman left him because he cheating on her and beating on her and dogging her out. And then she heard my message that say don't settle and she decided to break up. And then now he mad with me like it's my fault instead of looking at himself in the mirror. And he mad with me because I'm not telling her like the other men with stuff spinning on their desk telling the women shut up, be quiet. Your grandma was cheated on by your granddaddy and nobody found out until the funeral that he had two other families in the same city. And that's the problem with y'all women today is y'all not like y'all grandma. That's what it's men out here telling women that is men out here saying that to women. And so the man get mad with me because I'm not saying the same thing because I'm not saying, Hey, shut up, be quiet, stay in your place. Let this man cheat. Let this man, you know, because he a man and men wanna say, oh, he cheated because he a man. That's not manhood. That's boyhood. That's a, you're a grown boy. You're not a grown man if you cheating on your woman. You're not no good man. If you manipulating deceiving and taking advantage of your woman, that's not manhood. That's boyhood. That's a, that's a temper tantrum. That's immaturity. And that's what we not really getting to. So, hey, God bless you. Now I'm supposed to go and I'm a gang getting ready to come on and he hear wars and he hear Lakers. And I got mentees on both teams. So, I try to keep him, you know, keep up with him so that I could shoot him a little message after the game. So I don't wanna miss this one here. Hey, so God bless y'all. God bless you. And I had turned off the chat, so y'all forgive me. But God bless you and we'll be in touch.