 the narcissist puts you in a box please like the video share your thoughts in the comments subscribe if you haven't subscribed yet and please share this video if you would like to donate or if you are interested in a one-on-one coaching session the links are in the video description what does it mean to be put in a box in society we are put in a box to conform and act or appear as what is considered to be a normal person with the narcissist it is a way of restricting or limiting you you have to be exactly what they expect you to be rather than being your own person from a young age this is what the narcissistic parent will do to you they will put you in a box they will condition you to conform and act or appear as whatever it is that they personally expect from you rather than being your own person rather than being your true self rather than being in line with your own true purpose beliefs values principles desires wants and needs when the narcissist puts you in a box you become greatly restricted or limited as a person you may adopt the same or a similar purpose beliefs values principles desires wants and needs as the the narcissist you may forget about what you truly believe or value you may forget about what you truly desire want or need and just go along with the narcissist this is why when you are with the narcissist you never feel like you are being your true self you never feel genuinely happy because to be happy you need to be authentic you cannot be authentic when you are stuck in the box that the narcissist has placed you in but the narcissist does not care about how you feel from birth if the narcissistic parent put you in a box it is to keep you as a never-ending source of supply it was easy for them to do this to you at a young age because you had no idea that you were in the box but as you grow older and experience real life you begin to develop your own beliefs and perceptions it becomes more and more difficult for the narcissistic parent to keep you in this box this is why when you became a teenager and started to find your own style your own opinions and beliefs the narcissistic parent didn't like that because you were specifically placed in that box to serve the narcissist to regulate their emotions to provide them with narcissistic supply once you leave the box it causes a narcissistic injury and it is as though their pet is escaping the narcissistic parent will become hateful and angry towards you they will manipulate you to get back into the box which they've created for you the narcissist wants you to think the way they want you to think they want you to believe what they want you to believe they want you to do the things that they want you to do you may have thought that you were the issue but you were just trying to leave the box which they placed you in the old you get the harder they will try to keep you in the box they will try to isolate you prevent life experiences whatever it takes to stop you from seeing them from the perspective of the outside world because they know that what they are doing is not right they feel great amounts of shame for trying to keep you in this box your entire life and they will do whatever they can to maintain a code of silence to pretend as though nothing is wrong the only thing that is wrong is you is you outgrowing the box which they have created for you you were not supposed to expand your thoughts you were not supposed to change your beliefs you were not supposed to do what you wanted to do you were supposed to think how the narcissist wanted you to think you were supposed to adopt their beliefs about yourself them and your environment you were supposed to do what they wanted you to do the narcissist wants to have complete control over every aspect of your life that's the only way that they can keep you in the box if you leave the box you can no longer provide them with narcissistic supply and this is why they will control everything you do everything you even think of doing everyone you talk to everywhere you go they have to control it all because you are their pet you are their narcissistic supply and they know that once they lose control of you once you experience what life is like outside of that box they are going to struggle to get you back in there again they do not want you to question them this is why they use manipulative tactics like denial projection and blame shifting if you try to confront them they will gas like you they will spin you around in circles and hide the truth because they know that the truth will set you free the truth is they have been trying to control you from day one the narcissistic parent your narcissistic partner society they have always tried to get you to be their vision of you rather than who you really are they conditioned you to conform and act in a way that benefits them rather than you in a way that they are able to enslave you as their source of narcissistic supply as you grew up and began to develop your own thoughts and beliefs the narcissist became more hateful and angry towards you this creates arguments and fights you may become anxious and stressed this affects your emotional health and some people experience psychotic breakdowns you may even do something that you wouldn't normally do just try to escape the box such as violence drinking alcohol doing drugs many people end up in mental hospitals prison or even dead just trying to escape the box the narcissist will then use this as an excuse to put you back into the box if you are trying to escape the box which they have created for you you are a dangerous person you are a threat to their narcissistic supply if you still try to escape the box they will remind you of all of the bad choices you have made in the past although they were likely impulsive decisions you had made in a desperate attempt to leave the box they will tell you that you are crazy or there is something wrong with you you are a bad person and you need to be placed in this box so you do not do anything like that again do not believe it do not believe anything they say they want to put you back in the box because they are losing control over you they are losing their narcissistic supply you are beginning to develop your own thoughts and beliefs about yourself them and your environment they do not like that in their minds it's like you're not allowed to have your own thoughts you're not supposed to choose what you want to think and believe this is a clear sign that you are beginning to leave the box you are starting to think outside the box you are beginning to do things that they never expected you to do it suggests to them that you are no longer their pet their slave you are beginning to think for yourself you are beginning to do things the way you want to do them and they do not like that they expect you to conform to their distorted and limited way of thinking and acting if you do this enough eventually they will disown you they will see you as a lost cause but this shouldn't worry you don't think that they no longer care about you they never cared about you anyway if they really cared about you they wouldn't have placed you in that box for their own selfish needs they would have allowed you to be free and experience life any way that you choose so for anyone who is watching this please leave that box begin to think outside of the box and soon enough you will develop your own thoughts and beliefs they will do whatever they can to pull you back in they will even tell you that maybe we can compromise maybe we can do what you want for a change but soon enough once they have got you in that box again they will continue to force their ways onto you so please leave that box it's no good for you and to be honest it's not too good for them it limits them takes up a lot of their time and it is highly addictive to the point where keeping you in the box becomes a lifestyle for them i hope this video resonated with you 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