 There are five ways people speak and understand emotional love. In order to have a lasting love, we have to be willing to learn our spouse's primary love language. The object of love is not getting something you want, but doing something for the well-being of the one you love. As a matter of fact, however, when we receive affirming words such as compliments and verbal appreciation, we are more motivated. Some cherish the most each other's undivided attention, what we call quality time. Others perceive receiving gifts as symbols of love. Remember that physical presence is a powerful gift too. Another way to convey love consists in acts of service. Do requests rather than demands. Physical touch is a powerful vehicle, but don't focus only on the explicit act. Love is a choice, and you can choose to try every day to learn your partner's love language.