 All right, I think Got this thing on Okay, yeah, treat you early. I think I might be a minute early too. Now y'all got to forgive me now cuz We locked up in the house. So forgive me how rough I'm looking You know, I ain't nothing I could do much about it. I bought me some little clippers. I'm gonna see what I could do but um We in here for the night shift. I did a day shift earlier and Said I was gonna do a night shift I almost called in, you know, like a lot of folks doing right now almost called in off this night shift But I said, let me go ahead and keep my word since I told and somebody asked me earlier Tony You're gonna be on the night cuz I can't do it in the daytime. So I want to pop on so if you missed it or Okay, so you missed the noon live so remember if you have a question put hashtag q so I can identify it and They have Super chats and they have stickers. I don't know the difference But one of them it goes to the top and I could see it and one of them goes in the chat and I missed it, you know So put that let me see How can I deal with toxic relatives to be honest with you me personally? I don't deal with them if anybody it don't matter if it's blood and they close You know, I've had to cut off each one of my immediate family members for a period of time And I just let them know listen I don't need that type of energy in my life if you can't respect me if you can't respect my wife if you can't respect what I'm doing Then you ain't gonna hear from me. Don't call me and I got one sister I remember I had a block hurry probably was six months to a year I didn't talk to her and I ain't miss a wink of sleep So you got to get to that place to realize that just because somebody family does not mean they have a right to give you a deaf sentence and what I mean by that is Don't let nobody drive you to an early grade because of stress and worry if they want to be in your life They got to bring the right energy so, you know Just cuz they family don't mean that they can't get cut that they can't get cut off that that they don't mean nothing about you know Might say you can't choose blood where they could choose how to act That's one thing they can choose it if you want to sit there and get drove crazy just cuz y'all blood That's your choice But listen to them You get cut off with a quickness I'm ready to date. How can I show up on social media? Just show you just show you and whatever you do in life social media real life You always got to ask yourself, where am I operating from? Where am I operating from and so if you showing what you eating you showing what you reading you showing what you doing Then you being genuine, but when you start trying to show all kind of booty cheek You know trying to show all kind of stuff thirst trapping now you operating from desperation So you just got to ask yourself where am I operating from a Man told me I was a poor man dream and a rich man prayer Explain this please. He was raised around old people He was raised around old people and he heard that saying under the shade tree from somebody granddaddy, but that don't really mean nothing. It don't really mean nothing cuz Rich men don't even pray like that for no one because they got so many women knocking on their door And you might be a poor man dream and a poor man dreaming about it cuz normally he got to watch her go to a rich man He just talking it don't mean nothing. It just really mean you look good It's no different than when he say How do you how did it hurt and you say what you mean did it hurt? He said when you fell from heaven That's all it mean same thing What you talking about Lorenzo? I don't know what that is Chanel Harrison God bless your God bless your 23 just started writing my book How did you give get over your fear of? exposing your story to others For me it was like you're gonna please God or you're gonna please man That's what I had asked myself You're gonna please God or you gonna please man and the Bible say that you know So I had to say do I want to live my purpose? Or do I want to live in the prison of fear and I still struggle today? You know like it's hard to get on here and do this because when I get on here I'm exposing the lies so it's hard to do this You know so but I still have to just talk myself through it and say listen you want to please God or you want to Please man and and you just got to always keep that in front of you and remember that My angel love God bless you God bless you poor Bless you Veronica see I have a soul tie situation. How do I end it just block them? You can have a closure conversation You can have a closure conversation and then you can tell them that it's over and Then just move on you don't have to just block them unless they start to Cross boundaries when they cross in boundaries, then you got to go ahead and block them Keyshawn God bless you Tony. What does it mean when he's always busy with his kids or siblings? It means he doesn't have time for you That's all it means that he doesn't have time for you He may be busy with those people But a man makes time for who and what he wants to make time for You know like I could be working all day. I got enough emails I literally could work 24 hours a day and not get through all of the messages But what I did I worked with y'all this morning and Then me and my wife we went out for a few hours riding round We had to do a couple of essential pickups came home had us a little date What I told y'all about the restaurant. They had a zoom Wine tasting so we on there and we really don't like wine like that But we just did it just to feel bougie, you know bad and bougie So we sitting there on zoom and there's a bunch of people on there and this man talking about this wine And we really ain't drank it, but you know, we had a soul date and then now what I'm doing now I'm back Serving so a man make time for what he wants to make time for I Am business God bless you God bless you How do you distinguish the difference between being too clingy to demanding and demanding the right amount of respect? Well, you got to understand is if you asking somebody to neglect their responsibilities like neglect their homework or neglect their job or Neglect their sleep to give you time Then that's when you being too clingy But when you just asking for a normal amount of time like hey call me You know when you're not working. Let's talk on Friday night Saturday night or whenever you're not working Let's go on a date. You ain't asking too much then You're not asking for too much at that point. So understand that right there Black Orchard's God bless you. I was dating a guy for eight months and recently walked away He still wants to be friends. I deleted his number and stopped following him I love him and he knows that should I still be friends? No, you should not be friends You can't be friends with somebody that you love unless you whip that person Because if you being his friend and you have love for him Then subconsciously you shut off the side of you the side of your brain That sends out those waves to the men that you meet in public and so your energy will say I'm taking But really you're not taking you on layaway You know what layaway is when you put a little money down and they hold it for you and you keep paying on it That's love on layaway. That's you standing still and so no You cannot be friends with somebody that you loved romantically. You can't do that If I'm telling a guy, I'll know it when I see it Does that mean I shouldn't ask him what he's looking for? Correct Because when you ask a man what he's looking for It may sound good you know, so It may sound good, but He might just describe you So you really Can't expect him to tell you the truth and then when you ask him what he's looking for it may also come off It's desperate of thirsty when you have to have the energy of like listen. I'm me. I'm me take it or leave it Like I'm me. I'm being the best I can and take it or leave it, you know but when you come say what you're looking for to the man that sounds like Translation, I hope I'm what you want or tell me so I could become the woman you want So I wouldn't even you know focus on that right there Harry God bless you if a man isn't pursuing me by FaceTime calling during This here should I not give him the time of day? after This here met via IG prior to this here Correct, you're right you're right You you met him on IG he ain't FaceTime and calling that's if he not FaceTime and calling you right now during this situation That's because he with his woman he's with his woman and He met you on IG and you was finna be the IG wife that he cheat with Emotionally cheat with and and what he really was gonna be asking for us for some nasty pictures. That's what really a lot of men See some men they'll go to the little site and watch the nasty movies on the site But if they could create their own site by hollering that women on IG and then how you're sending Nasty pictures of somebody that they could actually talk to Versus watching on one of these websites and that's what they try to do So he got a woman and that's why he can't call you and FaceTime you right now because he with her and Then after this over when he get his little time and they not on lockdown no more Then he probably will start calling and that's when he need to get blocked BK God bless you Two years no commitment told him we're done since he doesn't want to be serious blocked his number He keeps calling from other numbers Changed number. He says he doesn't believe me All right now so he telling you I don't believe you and he pressing you to see if you really bought that life Now you give in it's been two years. You don't waste it. You don't waste enough time. You don't waste enough time He didn't waste enough time You go back He he would lose all respect for you. It's all out the window You're gonna get treated like the length between his toes like bubble gum on the sidewalk. You hear me? So listen now, you're gonna have the block you got a block you ain't got to change the number Unless you answering the phone if you know all these random numbers now If you got somebody that need to be calling you for a emergency and he keep Tricking you and you answering phone thinking it's somebody who needs some seriously Then yeah, gonna change the number and just let all your circle know you had to change the number Um Sasha the mentor God bless you. Hey Tony, you are heaven sent Purchase the certification course and I am so ready. Thanks for all you do a God bless you I'm glad you took that step and I know it's gonna pay off when you invest in yourself. It come back a Thousand fold so a I'm wishing you the best with that Jessica God bless you. Why does my ex watch my IG and Facebook stories but hasn't asked about his child in months That's probably where he trying to see His child that on that story So let them let them see, you know, let them see the child and don't worry about him asking See a lot of time men just don't have the emotional Capabilities and the thing about it is he's so hurt to the point to where he's in a situation They got that they got a little dog and dog see me and hear me So now she won't me because I be sneaking a little food She ain't supposed to eat but I ain't gonna be doing that now It don't be a whole lot, but you know, she's not nice now She liked me cuz they're not drop a little something supposed to be so she came to my office when the parking now listen what you have to realize with this is You're gonna have to understand that sometimes men so emotionally messed up that What happens is he knows he can't be everything and he knows he can't be there So therefore Men just try to get distance Because men have a fix it mentality So when he can't fix it and he can't do everything Then that's when he kind of breaks down and he says I'd rather just be hands-off just be at a distance But yet his heart is yearning you see it in the movies You see it in the movie where his dad disappeared and then all of a sudden he he linked up with his son or daughter 20 years later and they link up and they do good and he's like why you left and he's like I just was so you know Broken like I didn't want to continue to hurt y'all like I was just so messed up If I stayed it just would have ruined everybody life. And so sometimes you just got the appreciate That they spared you That pain and heartache That 1999 I'm gonna come back to you cuz they're gonna leave yours up there, but the smaller ones they they disappear Coco God bless. I'm having a hard time leaving my ex alone for good after a few days I call him and he always picks up and then we get back cool Then I leave again. He told me to stay gone or stay with him any advice You need coaching you need coaching because you probably got friends that you can talk to but you're not listening to them So you obviously don't want him. It obviously not your man He obviously not your husband, but you got a soul tie and what you got to realize is having a soul time It's like having an addiction So it's like if you try to come off or something that you whatever it may be it might be soda It might be sugar after a few days you start to have craving craving craving. So you're like, okay, man Let me hit that Coca-Cola, you know, let me hit that coffee and then you hit it Then it calms you down So that's what's happening with you you calling him because you got a soul tie with him And then when you call him it give you that release your your brain literally releases Chemicals into your body that serotonin that dopamine and now you feel better Then you come back to your senses and say why am I calling this fool because we ain't meant to be so then you go About your business he's staying there because he broke busted and discussed and he got nothing else to do better with his life Anyways, meaning spiritually and emotionally so he's gonna stay there as long as you gonna be stuck He gonna be right there to answer that phone So you need coaching accountability partner somebody that can talk some sense into you That you can hear over and over and over by down the heaven God bless you God. Hey appreciate that by down the heaven Do you recommend dating an ex from ten years ago? Who you are not attracted to he says he's never stopped loving me and is willing to accept my two kids Most find him attractive, but I don't friends say love will grow thoughts. No, keep it moving Keep moving. You can't force attraction. You can't force attraction and it's 10 years ago See me and love to dip back in that pool Remember I told y'all about the black book syndrome the man get bored nothing going on He pulled out that black book. Let me see who I used to talk to Okay, all righty All right, let me get her a call. Hey, yeah, how you doing? As soon as he hang up from you He going to okay. Let me check on her. Hey. Hey, how you doing? You know, I showed one mind getting back with you and he just on the phone too Hey, I showed one mind getting back with you So they're going about your business because if he really wanted you he wouldn't let ten years pass between y'all And then you can't force it trying to be with little ugly if you think he looked ugly Then your friends think he looked ugly too But they telling you that he's attractive because they don't want to hurt your feelings in case you might like him, but scared to admit They don't believe that you telling the truth So, yeah, you really can't deal with a looks challenged man He need to be Somewhat what you want because that's a part of your standards and love Ah Little crystal God bless you God bless you mr. Gas and you said women go to college I said loose booty 901 ain't say women nine. Okay, let's get it right. I say loose booty 901 That's her at name. That's her screen name Go to college to become doctors and lawyers to be sat down. I'm a store manager Degree I have a blog and nonprofit. I'm not good enough to date a certain status A man really don't care about your status, you know a man really don't care about your status and You hire enough status but My point was exactly that it is women today who don't have character who don't have standards But in a relationship But they're going to get high education and get classy looking jobs And one of the ladies came in the comments. She said tone. I know exactly what you're talking about I know a woman who became a Help know a nurse practitioner because she wanted to marry a doctor So she became a nurse practitioner and in the process. She met a Anesthesiologist and now she is married to him and she don't have to work and her ring is insane Somebody put in the comments. I know it because I'm seeing it. So the thing about it is a Million now it's me now's who would rather pick a woman up Who's who's working at the window of McDonald's? Because that represents humility and it represents a willingness to work that represents ambition Doing what you got to do now She's probably gonna be in her 20s if she's gonna be in her 30s or 40s He's gonna want to see her in that other color shirt that blue shirt or whatever color the manager wear but um but yeah, a man a real man don't really care about your your Job title and all of that. Hey, it's a lot of things coming up here. Some of them disappearing y'all forgive me I'm trying to catch them wavey black queen god bless if a man walked away from you Why would you still want him? Is that just a soul tie talking or a dignity to the pain from the relationship? You already know the answer. That's already down. So what you hitting on you already know That's exactly what you saying That's exactly but at the same time to though a man walking away from you. You still could love him You still could love him now if he dog you out You still could love him. So you may still want him because you love him But yes at the same time that is also a soul tie Nikki rolling. God bless you Thanks for your business Saturday vid today Do you find it necessary to also do IG lives in order to build your following? I was told I need to start doing that, but I've noticed a lot of people doing it, but no one watches um No, you don't need to do IG live to build your business You don't need to do that because Instagram live now Facebook live. That's different Facebook is a little more Facebook live is a little more viral than Instagram live And it could be a but if you do a live, you got to do it at the same time Every week so every Wednesday night at 9 p.m. Or every morning at 6 a.m So if you're gonna go live, you've got to make it consistent So people know when to find you and where you're gonna be at But um, you don't have to do it to build your business because it can be a little daunting you on there And you sitting there live and you really ain't live because ain't nobody on there And then one person pop up and then they leave now your heart skip a beat then you get three And so now you sweating so now you sitting there sweating because you talking to one person that didn't happen to me before I don't know if the counter one working or if it literally I was talking to one person I just was like whoa, I had to go lay my head and my wife loud I could go in live and talking to one person so it could be more demoralizing what I recommend is just shoot a video and Post it on your page because that way you don't have to look at how many people watching or not Just be consistent on posting the video if you want to build your business that way Pretty PDJ God bless you been married for nine years been together for ten with two kids together He got deployed about two years ago when he was deployed. He cheated how to get past the past It's in a situation like that you got to start all over really like with that relationship if you want to stay meaning that You're gonna have to get coaching to really exercise healing and forgiving and some forgiving Exercises some practices that you got to do if you want to stay He's gonna have to get coaching. He's gonna have to show that he's a whole new person that he's a different person and You know y'all married So if you want to fight for it, then you got a really he has to court you all over He has to build trust all over he has to earn your love all over and if he's not willing to do that then You got to go about your business. You got to go about your business Her mark God bless you God bless you How do I plow the knowledge from your videos to my future relationship marriage instead of thinking back to my past and what my ex did The more you hear it the more it becomes natural and when you still warm between The stuff your ex did in your past and what the new knowledge that mean that you got to just get more new Knowledge keep learning the knowledge and it's gonna build that confidence that you need Key to Crawford God bless you God bless here. Go Keeley showing that bless a lot Hates on in the bless tribe. Mr. Last live in under the weather. No not from that health corona. Okay. Good. I'm glad Just wanted to pop in and drop a blessing keep doing the great work God has put you here to do and join your new book y'all be blessed. Hey, thank you Thank you so much for getting that book now if you have not got a woman's influence Make sure you grab that if you haven't got that it's gonna bless you Carolina God bless you God, but I just got out of Mm-hmm that kind of relationship. Mm-hmm with one of those He called me out of $1,300 in furniture and he left me for Mm-hmm This man psychologically and physically For four months. Okay, you're gonna need counseling And you're gonna counseling or therapy You're gonna need about four to twelve sessions on there Because you got to talk all the way through it. You got to talk all the way through and then you're gonna need relationship coaching with somebody, you know who is experienced as a relationship coach and and Living the relationship life that you want to be in whether that's single and happy or whether that's married and happy But you want to find that now you can visit my mentor.life My mentor.life and find you a coach, but you're gonna definitely have to work through that But that's something that it's too deep for this right here I can't really speak on that because you can't even say those words on on uh, youtube without getting your video You know struck or demonetized. So That's that's a little too deep for him Um, can deal god bless you how to be there for a guy who is grieving From the passing of a family member He let me know how he feels, but is there anything I can do besides listen now. Just listen Just listen. Just be there. Just your presence. Just listening. Just be there so You you know, your presence will do enough and he's gonna grieve It shouldn't unless it was his mother or father or somebody who like raised him It shouldn't be more than You know a couple weeks Sometimes now one thing you got to be mindful of You don't say this to him, but you just be mindful of it A lot of times men will use that As an excuse to get some distance To kind of do what they want to do like a little hall pass Because on average It have to be a mother or father somebody a man really close to for him to really be down and out Just because of the way men handle our feelings. We don't really let a lot of stuff You know hit us like that. So sometimes men are used that To get baby to get some extra sympathy to get a little hall pass to do what they want to do So you also got to be mindful of that that he being genuine and honest Because it's some man you go the one who even cried the funeral But then or use that with a woman to get all kind of sympathy and distance to Cheating peace. So, you know be mindful of the other side too. And why are you there? Just just be supportive. Just listen You know, sometimes You know, it's best to say nothing because you anything you could say could end up starting to argument and he cussing you out because You he feel like you tone there for you being insensitive Um, a re God bless your boyfriend of three years Gave me a ring but didn't say anything When he handed it to me I had to ask is it a promise or engagement ring and he said both Why didn't he say the words will you marry me red flag? Absolutely. It's a red flag because y'all already been together three years You already been together three years. So he just buying some more time He gave you this ring and his ring was a confusion. So you sitting there like, uh What is this? And he's and he's and he wants you to sit down and think about it He wants you to sit there and think about it Because that's gonna keep you stuck. So yeah, you wasting all your time Honestly, you need to give him that ring back and say listen when you figure out what you trying to do what you want. I may Be single. I may not but God bless you I got to get going with my life because it already been three years and I ain't got time And see what y'all don't realize when something a man holding you this three years Four years five years six years like somebody from the earlier Q&A we did That's like you going to the lot and test driving a car three years in a row Yeah, I'm thinking about buying it. I'm thinking about buying it and and the salesman at the lot like well Well, you didn't put 3 000 miles on it test driving it. Um You know, we're not going to be able to keep allowing you to keep test driving the car And that's what y'all are doing in these Relationships you keep getting test drove You hear me you keep getting test drove and the man ain't never gonna Sign the dotted line and say look, I want to want you to be mine until deaf do us part He just keep test driving now. He done ran your miles up Now when a man that's for you coming to your life You need new tires. You need new transmission. You need new engine You know, you so broke down and but discussed it because You didn't let this man run you in the ground for the last three five six seven years So you got to listen a man know if you his wife in the first 12 months He know in the first 12 months if you his wife man still got you hanging on By thread holding your breath three years at you wasting all your time point blank period I hate to get y'all the truth like that, but I'm just here to tell you somebody got to tell you Because he meant I hit a line to you Hi, mr. Gaston a god bless you jackman. Uh, canadian. Okay. Bye God bless you canadian. Okay a woman's influence chapter 11 Got my book yesterday. God bless you and your family all a bless you bless you That show no for a blessing got the book on chapter 11 You reading right on through that now if you like the book if y'all get the book and you like it Leave a five star review If you do not like the book take it to the lord in prayer But if you like the book leave a five star review Okay, if you do not like the book Keep it to yourself. Take it to the lord in prayer because ain't nothing I could do about it If you don't like it at this point it's written Hey ball the life coach course excited after completion next steps. Do you reach out to new coaches? Yeah, we do q&a was supposed to do one today, but I slipped up but we do q&a's every month I was gonna do a bonus one today and didn't get didn't get to it so You'll get an email on the next q&a And after you finish the course then the course will tell you the next steps If you didn't hear the next steps then you was cooking uh talking on the phone while the video was playing so go back and listen to the video It also have a sheet that you could download with all the steps You need to take all the steps all the web sites you need It got a download in the course as well And then you go and join my mentor dot life. It's my mentor dot life. You sign up there It's really like the myspace for coaches You remember myspace you sign up on my mentor dot life Thousands of people visiting the site every day. They see you read your bio. See your calendar. They could book a session with you So that's how it's gonna work Uh la crista God bless you. Okay la crista. I remember that name. Uh you pop back in here Mr. Gaston, where would I meet men that are ambitious humanitarians? Humanitarian men with character I spruced up my instagram page, but seems as if i'm attracting unattractive thirst traps any suggestions keep doing what you're doing You know, you go through a hundred toes before you meet Prince Charming Just keep doing what you're doing and those men that you describe they everywhere they everywhere Okay, Michael just got done coaching a client and I see Michael right here. He's on my mentor He's on my mentor as a coach And see that he he booking he booking clients Um keep doing what you're doing because the men you mentioned they at the gas station They at the grocery store, but it's all about you understanding yourself You understanding what you portraying you understanding perception how you want to you know position yourself Um Alice god bless you god bless you Alice. Let me see if I Missed any super chats in here Because some of them I feel like It might have been one got away from me. Give me a little second. Oh, I might have called them all That vip line got long I'm trying to make sure I called Okay, let me find another question then a man Stop talking to me because A man okay a man I stopped talking to because he wasn't showing full interest initially Today told me He's interested in me still and wants to make things right and dating How can I tell if he's serious or not? You can't really tell you got to realize if what you got to ask yourself Is is when you cut them off did you cut them off prematurely? Did you cut them off really quick to send him a message? And if you cut them off quickly to send him a message And you didn't really waste much time with him then it's okay To give him another chance to see if he's serious He could have had a little situation He was dealing with and was trying to get you too soon But still hadn't broke free of what he had going on So if you decide because this is a personal choice But if you decide to give him another chance, you just got to set a timeline in your mind You never tell the right hand what the left hand is doing So you don't tell him hey, I'm setting this timeline You got three months to prove yourself. You don't do that But in your mind you say I'm gonna give this three months He got to put up or shut up in these three months He gonna have to step up or step on And now you paying attention Okay, yeah So you cut them all real quick. So it's worth another chance It's worth another chance. Just keep a timeline now. Don't let them drag y'all Nahima God bless you. Nahima God bless you somebody Now I put that hashtag Q in front of uh in front of your question so I could see it Lorenza, I've been getting some pretty nice donations for my business from men They seem a bit flirty. Do you think they like me? Or are they really interested to help me? Um Yeah, it could be both it could be both but a lot of time with men is You know god give gifts and add no sorrow but a man Gift can add sorrow a lot of men that give gifts They have the attitude to where I'm gonna take it back if I'm finna leave you or you want to break up with me Gary think I bought you back. That's how a lot of men give gifts So a lot of men it might be to get some, you know, get in a little closer But just be careful the wealth of the wicked is stored up for the righteous What the devil meant for evil god to turn into good. So listen here Whatever your intentions is with his gift. Thank you You ain't getting it back. So if you had bad intention, you played yourself. Thank you. God bless you got the gold And so just go ahead and receive it as a blessing and you will know if he Got other intentions because he was gonna send you a little message with it He'll gonna shoot a shot with And if you get if you shoot him down, then that's when you're gonna know But you could meet your husband like that too Hey, Nisi. God bless you for man Knows you're his wife within the timeframe you stated But not ready at this time. What would you suggest? Is it possible that men just don't know? It is possible that a man just doesn't know But when a man just doesn't know that means you're not his wife So when a man meets his wife, he's going to know When a man does not know And he's not ready That means he's not your husband Because when a man meets his wife, he gets ready You could be at home and saying, oh, I lost my job. I'm gonna take these four weeks to To be off. I need this vacation. Yeah. Oh, thank you. But if a job opportunity come in that is Amazing, it's a dream job. Guess what you just said yesterday You finna take these four weeks to just gather yourself and you need to break and you're gonna count it all joy And then the day you like, oh, yes I'm on this job Fire on my job when I'm see that's why people always say they say can it be the right person In the wrong time and no that it came because see with law Love transcends Love transcends time Love transcends distance Love transcend when it's if it's the right person It's gonna be the right time because nothing will be able to stand in between not distance Nothing will be able to stand in between when when it's the right person And the right time So ritha god bless you. Thank you for being super consistent. Hey god bless you Boy, then you're like, okay. I've seen this Um, it's the same one. Okay This is our time a god bless you should I keep encouraging my ex who has stage four cancer I love helping all people so it's hard not to help Um, yes, you should keep encouraging your ex and the reason being is because That stage four Um, it's typically the last stage So if you could be a blessing to somebody going out in there going out and you could make that time easier You could release some pain. You know, that's a good deed You know, you put things on hold in your life as far as building another relationship and moving on And just being a blessing, you know Now if that stage four they come through it go into remission somehow through this miracle And y'all ain't fit y'all not meant to be to each other then they could walk on their own two feet You help them get through that tough time and your blessing is going to come from on high for what you did A sacrifice you made but you know That stage four if that's the last stage you could be You know a blessing so that's that's a different that's that's an exception, you know to the rule um see love god bless you god bless you I forgot to say earlier give a thank you to your assistant She got me set up for real love you in less than 12 hours after I sent the email You said send stellar service forgot to say that this morning just came back to me. Hey god bless you Hey, thank you for that. Thank you for sharing that. Thank you for sending that blessing Now I'll see love. I don't know if you a secret million now You hit the lotto you that got you a good job, but you be blessing me now You really be showing out on them blessing. I'm praying the lord You know you and uh kill if some of y'all just be blessing me like that and I'm praying the lord show up and show I Chantille god bless there is a guy that says He wants to build toward a relationship But it's not ready to be in a relationship yet. We have mutual interest and spend time together. What do I do? Move on with your life Move on with your life If you want to be in a relationship And you ready for love and he doesn't want a relationship What's going to happen? You're going to end up on your back You're going to end up on your back Then you're going to end up pregnant Then you're going to end up a single mother and it's all because You didn't listen to him when he said I don't want a relationship When a man tell you he don't want a relationship then let him know That he got a friend in jesus So he could be friends with the lord a dog is man's best friend But you got to go ahead because you dating with intention because you Ready for your husband. So don't be stuck in girlfriend land when you're trying to be a wife So understand that right there because that situation that's what happens every single day To so many women then they look up and say Why he ain't here for his child? Why he left me when I got pregnant? Why he got another one pregnant? It's because he told you in the beginning That he didn't want a relationship and you ignored him because he said he'll build towards it What if he does know but he knows you're not ready if you're not ready that means That's not your husband Understand this when you meet real love. There is no saying no to love There is no i'm not ready when you meet your husband You're gonna be ready. You're not ready because your spirit is not settled that this is your husband This a maybe can of water shoulda coulda might be Maybe if and and but Husband okay, but that's not your husband That's why you're not ready it when a woman ain't ready That's when you know The relationship ain't meant to be because women is born and bred and raised and trained and taught For marriage. So when you as a woman not ready, that's your Intuition saying no run run get out of here You we ain't ready for a reason We ain't ready for a reason Lydia god bless you god bless you and anything they come in kind of fast. I'm trying to keep up Tony what do you think about a man that keeps going back to his exes just soul ties and he don't have He doesn't have any base, you know, he doesn't have a good circle. He doesn't he doesn't he's not getting new knowledge He ain't watching videos. He ain't reading books. He don't have a life coach So he just keep going back to the addiction keep going back Um, Lisa. Hey, some of y'all asked some good question, but the vip when they pop up there I got to go and get to him because You know, they they saw in a seed and I don't want nobody to do that and get left hanging But there's some good questions over here and it's her chat Talking to a god daily for one month every weekend He would go m.i.a for eight to ten hours during this here situation Said he was just with friends and family, but didn't take my call I cut them off. Did I overreact? No, you didn't overreact You didn't overreact You didn't overreact Because he could at least text you and said hey, uh, or he could have text you before and said Hey, I'm about to be with my friends and family But he lying anyways, and I feel like I answered that question before I don't know if that was you but he lying he lying because Even with friends and family we in the midst of this here 19 We got to be social distancing We're supposed to be home and while every weekend you all assume with your friends and family So what y'all just coughing the 19 in each other face you over there? You know, so he telling you a lie. That's all that is you got to understand that my ex Contacted me a year ago and he said that he wanted us to get along better because we have a child together The conversation started out great, but he then wanted me to be on my back Mm-hmm So you just keep it moving you just keep it moving say this we'll get along through business communication about our You know, son or daughter together and you keep it that he showed you, you know, he showed you what happened The free course made me buy three more courses. Hey, Tasha. God bless. I'm glad you took the free course, but those are you Who you know not in a position to Um buy a course, but you still trying to do the work on tonic gases academy.com It is a free course 10 steps to self-love It will bless you. I treated it just like it's a paid course, you know That's just my way of trying to get something for everybody because everybody ain't not in a position to to do a course um Okay, Lorenzo Now he probably only like 29 or something like that 28 29 Um Chantilla god bless you Okay, thank you. Lastly should I stop communication with him? We were friends First my question was the one about the guy not being ready um, yeah, you ought to stop being friends with him because When you friends with a guy and then y'all try to be together you like him He like you he wants to be ill But he says not ready for a relationship what that's gonna with you being friends with him You're gonna eventually fall for him And then he gonna make a move and when he make a move It's gonna be hard to say no to your friend because you got love for him. You got feelings for him So what a man tries to do is he tries to say let's be friends because you drop your guards You drop your guards. You get comfortable And somebody say see his video can a woman and a man be friends got a whole video on an hour alone He gets you to drop them guards and then when you least expect it Well, I'm bound. Thank you now Okay, you on your back and then you getting up with a child in you now You like oh wow, what in the world happened? It's because you play with fire when you play with fire. You're gonna get burned. The other thing is Is when you dealing with a man that you got feelings for And he says he wants to build with you, but he's not ready for a relationship By having that man in your life. What that does is it blocks your blessings Because now the next man who want to come in your life you get up with him y'all go on a little date And then your phone go to ringing And he like Your phone really blowing up. What's going on? Who is that? Oh, that's just my friend Oh, okay. Mm-hmm check, please Uh check check, please Yeah, I just I lost my appetite That's the last time you're gonna hear from And so that's what you got to understand Don't let nobody block your blessing if they ain't ready for no relationship and you looking for a relationship Go on about your business Go on about your business Um kishandra Girl, he left me for god bless you kishandra. I really appreciate that it just You're seeing that blessing now Girl, he left me for 10 years ago called me Asked if he and I could talk We don't She's seeing my number around Like in an iPad she asked him if we are talking he ignored her I've got emails from sites. He shops at I ignored thoughts Um, you think it too hard and got me thinking too hard You think about a man from 10 years ago um And she called you to ask if y'all talk. Okay, that mean they got problems in their relationship Okay, what that mean they got problems in their relationship And that mean that she just paranoid they on they on the outs of that relationship And you need not be worried. Okay. Just tell her no. We don't talk No, I don't know why you see my number in the phone I know you're going through it for you to be calling me And I ain't been with this man in 10 years. God bless you. I told you Okay, I hope you're happy with your package that you got So just send off with blessings and go on about your business Go on about your business. Let me see. I'm looking for the hashtag q I know this is not a question Just wanted to say thank you and tell you to please make sure the queen gets a portion of the cash out I sent today Latoya clark you sent a cash out today. I couldn't let you know that when I sent it wanting to show her appreciation Hey, God bless you God bless you. I'm I'ma go and um See if I see see your name in there if you sent I probably could have hit that heart button But um to be honest with you she get all love. Latoya. There ain't no portion anything come in She get all love And she probably sitting outside of my office listening and be gonna be checking the phone when I get off here Now who said us? I got a cash out Okay Lorenzo I see I might Do a little match making but I don't you know the guys in my circle that single I don't know if y'all ready on that level yet because y'all I'm still working with y'all still working with y'all Being my boyfriend see each other once a week due to our work schedules And I'm not ready to have him around My kids been together for a year am I wrong for not having him meet my kid? No, you're not wrong. No, you're not wrong If your spirit saying no your spirit saying no for a reason So you keep them right way yet when he get on one knee and say will you marry me? If you feel like that's your husband, which that should be coming in the next six months If you feel like that's your husband, then he could meet The rest of your family But nope don't have him around till you feel like this husband and he's an ass. Will you be my wife? Um God bless you. God bless. I broke up with him two weeks No contact. He begged me back a pastor told me That he wasn't the one I told him about it Mistake, he said it wasn't true. I was his wife Epstein months later. He broke up Why lie? That's why a man come back a lot of times, but that's the gamma you take That's the gamma you take all you could do is learn from it That's all you could do and just be glad that he left you again instead of dragging you along Getting you're pregnant and you know or even marrying you and then divorcing you sometimes a man come back For that. Um, there's a ray. I see your question right here. You don't post that thing. Hold on um uh Jew I'm married now I'm gonna have only them kind of compliment now. You want to send a compliment? Say your blessing up there Okay, it's with your soul seed up there. You want to send a compliment? Uh, what does it look like when a man is in spiritual warfare? Um, that could look like it is different spirits, you know a different spirit. So that could look It could be drug use alcohol. It could be nasty movies Pern as as I try to say the word, you know Um, it could be lying. It could be Disappearing it could be ghost and silent treatments when a man is not confident Consistent and full of character And it's showing then he's in spiritual warfare most humans in spiritual warfare all the time So every man you meet is going to be in some form of spiritual warfare. It's just dealing with it differently dealing with it differently And it's always new levels you know, um A man always getting tested in new ways You see if a man hasn't broken a soul tie with his baby mama Does it make it harder for him to be in a relationship with someone else? Absolutely Absolutely, is it it's nearly impossible Um, if he's still got a soul tie with baby mama, the new woman is really like A strong soul tie now He always going to have a soul tie with her because he had a child with her So he always going to have a tie to her, but if it's still strong Now then y'all got to forgive me. I got a little itch in my head. I got my little cone. Y'all remember these little cones I've been trying to cone. I don't know why this one. He'll paint it came to their for color, but I mean Trying to cone his beard So he always if he got a soul tie the next woman is really the next woman is um She a bandaid She'll hold me down. She'll rebound And he gonna use you as a bandaid he gonna crush your heart And after he didn't use you up, then he gonna go back to the woman who he has a soul tie with Um, now we now. Okay. Now. I am a life coach now I see you come in here with a question outside of relationship How do I deal with my father becoming distant with me? Because of the problems in his marriage with my mom in the last few years Things just aren't the same. I don't feel like his little girl anymore Um, that's he you know how they say a dog Go die alone A dog would go off when it knows coming to his end. It's gonna go off somewhere And and die alone and that's how a man is, you know, a man don't want you to see him sweat He don't want you to see his kryptonite because he knows he's your superman And if he's going through in his life Then he knows that if you seeing him and he didn't got hit with that You know kryptonite that you can lose your superman So he goes and he gets distance and he hides because truthfully he's embarrassed because of the failure So what you have to do as a daughter is you got to let him know listen that I love you And you only get one life to live and I only get one life to live and I need you in my life I understand you and mom going through but I'm gonna love you regardless So what y'all go through because you my father I understand relationships can break down can fall apart mistakes are made But I love you So you got to express that to him to let To let him know that you don't mind seeing him Go through those times and you want to love him and support him and at the same time love and support your mama, too Kaya lee god bless you my baby daddy haven't taken care of our child since last year I asked him to help to change her last name He agreed should I proceed with the proceeds? Yes, you should go on proceed if he agreed to that Then then go ahead go ahead and change you want to change it You don't go right on head Um your Torah God bless you can you elaborate on influence some influencing a man versus thinking for Reasoning teaching a man. Is it expecting too much to have a civilized breakup? Or is it judgment Civilized breakup So now you went from trying to influence them to to just you want to leave them Um Now that's a big jump there now You just want to get you three four five questions in there and that one question Now what you got to realize is when you influence a man, that means that your energy don't change That means if he want to yell you don't yell you check him and say a don't yell at me If you want to talk to me talk to me like a human if he keep yelling you walk away If he put his hands on you to hold you You dial a 911 before you can Uh, yes um, I need an officer over here and that's how you influence a man See when you taking because he see that your character stay the same even when he has changes now When you talking down to him or you're trying to teach him. That's when you correct him everything he does Instead of just showing him by example See a woman who has influence make sure you read the book. That's going to answer your question right there Okay, make sure you read the book. It's going to go in a whole lot more depth That's why it's called a woman's influence a woman who has influence She don't do all that talking arguing going back and forth she put up She put up a shut up. Okay, she showed you what she's talking about My wife in 13 years of marriage has never yelled at me has never yelled at me I didn't gave her plenty reasons to yell. She's never yelled at me. She's never cursed at me I didn't give a plenty reason to curse when I act the fool She never stooped to my level. She stood her ground And she had if she had to walk away She walked away if she had to give me if she had to be silent for 24 hours for me to Be able to sit and talk to myself and realize and think what I did or said wrong and then come with an apology That's what she did But she never got out of character and that's what influenced me to change because she showed me Instead of trying to tell me and so that's what you got to realize and it's it's a fine balance And it takes some, you know, some fluidity in this thing some flow But that's why you're gonna have to read the book and really sit with it and get it in your spirit Um, ariana god bless. Is it wrong to receive a compliment from a male if I'm with my man Or should I be rude and act like I didn't hear? um It's not wrong to receive a compliment, but you just cannot Go any, you know You you can't go Deeper than that So if he give you a compliment and you say thank you you need to be saying thank you with a stride Okay, you need to have a stride. You can't be strolling. Oh Thank you very much. And you know what? Same to you Now you're doing the most But if you Thank you and you go on ahead and he's like, oh, okay. Now. He know you're taking But the problem with being rude to men today is It's a lot of men Cuckoo for cocoa pus And so I've seen some people I've seen stories of women Turning a man down saying something to a man and then It goes all the way, you know, and so try to You know, not be disrespectful or nasty or rude But just thank you but do it with a walk with a stride with an energy that he knows You're not interested in no further conversation. You know, thank you Bye That's what he got to feel Um, rameka. God bless you. How do you move forward with your ex-husband? After a baby After divorce was conceived with his side chick When married Um Now you did not say if you and him Have a baby Now, let me know that rameka if you were in the blessed tribe So here's the thing if you and him don't have a baby then you and him ain't proceeding forward You just going on about your business You going on about your business you talking to your life coach or your therapist and you going about your business Now if y'all got children together the way you proceed is it's a business relationship Here go this child support Okay, here go this visitation rules and rights Okay, here go where we gonna meet to pick up and drop off. Okay. Here go They letter or how they doing in school here go their report card. It's just business It ain't really know. Hey, how you doing? Here you go. Thank you. Bye. Bye But if y'all don't have children together then ain't no moving forward Let him deal with this situation. Let him be a daddy To the woman to the side chick that he got prayed Let them do what they got to do and you going about your business heal your heart and prepare For your real love with your husband Um brandy p. God bless you God bless your poor life. Hey, I'm praying lord bless y'all now for blessing me Hi, Tony. I'm new here and glad I found your channel. Hey, thank you. Thank you for being here My question is why do some women like myself only attract unavailable men? They're either married got a fiance or girlfriend Could it be the energy that I give off? I'm quiet and keep to myself most of the time Um, it's not really your energy It's just it's just how the mop flops and the cookie crumbles and what I mean by that is it's just the numbers it's like because It's gonna be less single men that you bump into single and available because men are so dependent upon the energy and the presence of a woman And that's why eve was created because adam was not whole. He was not complete without her So you're gonna meet more unavailable men So it's kind of like just the numbers when they say you got to kiss a hundred toes before you get the kiss prince charming That's that's all it's saying so it's not necessarily you Because that same energy you have is gonna attract an available man But it's just you got to increase your rate Of interaction meaning getting out doing more being out Head up on a swivel not on your phone being present when you out and about And all of those things brandy god bless you god bless you brandy Um, apple helps god bless you. I ordered the audiobook of woman influence last night. I'm on chapter two It's a game changer. Hey bless you you saying it's a game changer already on chapter two I told too much truth in the night. I'll tell you that I told too much truth I can't even read the book no more because I'm like lord I don't know why I told all this truth in here I've been I've been hoping not too many people read it. I'm like why I told too much truth in here Sharitha god bless you. What is the best way to heal from abandonment from parents and people? You're gonna have to do therapy You won't have to do therapy. That's not really a life coaching question Because when you speaking you speaking childhood trauma you speaking abandonment. That's that's you know what I mean You need a treatment plan to deal with those things. So you need you're gonna need therapy on that one sister Um, victor I stay in my lane. I ain't don't know at all. I ain't don't know at all I just do what god called me to do you feel me? I don't try to play nobody else role I can't be you know the point guard and the center. I got the death I'm on what I'm on, you know, so I want y'all to understand that About me now victoria more. God bless you. Can you elaborate on what characteristics? Or things of substance that are attractive to a male in general? Um Now see this is a thing about y'all ladies y'all be wanting to know Okay now, all right When I take this left step with the left foot Do I do my pinky need to hit the ground first or do the big toe need to hit the ground first? Because I don't want to look lopsided and y'all get so intricate and need questions It's like this right here. So it's like this right here victoria If you love the lord and you keep and you live in a way that good books say so understand what this means humility Confidence you're not looking down on nobody. You're not talking down on nobody You operate from self-love So you kind you generous you treat You treat a waitress or a waiter the same way you would treat if you met the president with that same respect and energy That's what a man is In the way you talk to Other people he watching the way you carry yourself. Do you curse like a sailor? Do you drink like a fish? Do you smoke like a chimney? He paying attention because he want to see can you be trusted? Can you be counted on can you be faithful? Can you be a role model to y'all children if y'all have children? Can you be a role model? That's what he watching So you got to carry yourself as if if every young girl in the world was watching you What would you want her to see? How would you want her to be inspired when you embody that? That's whatever man looking for you know in in a woman and that's who he need to be in a man He shouldn't be no piece of trash and then want you to be all of this Um, Ms. Neeson Harvey. God bless. I did fall in love With a man who told me day one that he wasn't ready for a relationship and he's talking to other women Him and our good friends. He tells me to play my part We don't have in of course. Okay. He tells you to play your part. Let me tell you. Let me help you understand something. Let me help you understand something Let me help you understand something He see you like a two-dollar woman on the side of the street You're a roster filler. He see you as somebody that he could bounce up and down in and out his life He see you as somebody that's replaceable. So see he don't want you He just wants you to be the hold me down. See you the you the garbage Can he you he come dump all his Stress and his mess on you. He come over there to you The the treat you let you deal with all that and then he take all the good energy And all the good loving to these other women he's talking to But he telling you I don't love you. I don't respect you. I don't want you You could leave and be better off with another man But as long as you're going to be foolish enough to sit here I'm going to let you sit there because you making me feel like a pimp and a player That's what he telling you and I hate to put it that direct to you But I need you to hear this here truth to understand that you plan yourself You plan yourself. You got to hear that reel and roll now You plan yourself and you wasting your time Your husband could be right around the corner waiting on you, but you sold starstruck You you like a deer in the headlights stuck on this stanky booty Sorry man who don't know his left from his right came to a Sunday from Wednesday And he got you sitting there stuck standing still Blocking and blocking all your blessings and he don't know whether he going or coming Head up his booty and then he got all these loose booty 901 that he talking to Come on now. You got to love yourself. Nice. You got to love yourself. You got to get up and you got to get going You got to get up and get going your hub and waiting on you To get your mind right. Come on now. You got to cut that man loose till that important. God bless you. God bless you Why do you think? Some single women think it's okay to come for a married man Many men are trying to be faithful What is the best way a faithful man should handle women coming on to him? Just curious He shouldn't handle him. He should ignore him. You know, he got to ignore him. He got a Bob and weave it ain't no it ain't no talking. I ain't no talking about all that You know, he shouldn't be handling them and suddenly what you also got to understand It ain't always the one and see his energy It's energy. I deal with a lot of women. I deal with a lot of women, but my energy like this right here So a lot of women when they talking to me They kind of scared They kind of real they tip toe. I can tell they tip tone because my energy is a way to say listen You come at me. You're gonna get embarrassed You come at me. You're gonna get your feelings hurt. You come at me I'm gonna have you on the blog By being old loose booty 901 trying to steal a married man But see when your husband when a married man give that energy that say hey If you feeling froggy jump, I'll be your lily pad. He giving that energy. So that's why she's like, okay Okay, he's not really happy. He's not really happy in his relationship. Okay. Let me shoot my shot I remember a woman told me she said we don't worry about a man Being married because that just tell us that he willing to be faithful And now we just need him to be faithful with us She said I don't care about a man being married. That means he willing to be faithful Now I just need him to be committed to me now. I just need him to get committed to me Fitton mom. God bless you. Okay. Fitton mom want to get somebody question in here Uh, God bless you Fitton mom Oh, okay, somebody had a 499 question that you saw that I missed. Okay Uh, hey, I apologize about that sometimes a little question right there that 499 I don't know you two don't like that 499. They'll delete your question before I even get to you Hey, Tony, thanks for your wisdom. What are some ways a man can show you he's fully committed to you before a ring Now you know what fully committed feels like So it ain't just showing you now you're gonna know what that feel like. So what you got to realize Is When a man fully committed, it's almost gonna feel like an obsession It's almost gonna feel like you're gonna be like man. He gives me his free time Man, he makes me a priority. He fits me in like he will Get off the phone with somebody to talk to me He will miss something that he got going on that the boy is doing to be with me. So he's gonna prioritize you That's the one thing he's gonna prioritize you Number two is he gonna treat you in a way that he would want a man to treat his mother or his sister So you're gonna feel that you're gonna feel that and number three. He's going to make a move He's gonna make a move what I mean is he's gonna be intentional He's not going to leave you hanging 12 months in He's talking engagement within 18 months. He you definitely engage by 24 months Y'all planning a wedding like y'all got a date set within within 36 months. Y'all married That's what a fully committed man gonna move like you're gonna know and you're gonna feel it That he's serious and he locked in Now when you got to question it, I always say if you got to wonder if it's love, it's not love If you have to wonder it's not love because see love either is or it isn't There is no such thing as in between love when you sitting and you scratching your head and you wondering You ain't got it. It ain't real. You can't love is so strong. It cannot be denied It is overwhelming nearly you're gonna feel it You really gonna feel it when somebody truly truly love you and into you You're gonna feel it Believe me when I tell you rameka. God bless your answer. We have a son together. We have been divorced two years She just had the baby in january. So y'all been divorced two years. You got a son together Y'all were married for six years Y'all got a divorce, but she concedes why you was married. She just had her baby in january I can see he is changing But accepting the situation is hard I imagine it's hard. So what you got to do Is you got to be strictly business you can't you can't say oh, he's changing. So let me let me ease up Let me ease up. Let me lighten up Let me get on my back to show him that I'm still the woman that he that he was with, you know So Don't ease up keep it business And let him pay his dues let him pay his dues because he got a pregnant She can see why y'all was still married. That's adultery. Okay. It's a price to pay for that So if he want to move like that, okay, boom pay this his child support. Okay, boom here go to alimony Oh, here go this spouse of support. It's business now. It's business. Ain't no friends. Ain't no friends Ain't no ain't no. Oh, I'm gonna let you slide because you because you're growing. No Pay up pleb. You should have did right April god bless you god bless you high high toning loving a woman's influence. Hey, I appreciate y'all getting that book I really do a god cut off last year because he was emotionally unavailable returned And played the fifth when I asked his relationship status. Was I right to block him for lack of transparency? Yep, you so was right to block him because you the judge and jury You the judge and jury don't come in my court talking about no plea the fifth We don't get down like that playboy you coming back in my life I asked you a question about what you got going on I need to hear a clear and concise answer that proves to me beyond a reasonable Doubt what you trying to tell me if you can't do that Okay, got the go I'll see you later. She in the came back wasting my time. So go on buy your business Go on buy your business. Hey, you you ain't wrong for that. Never feel guilty about having Having your standards And share just said a good thing. She say later tonight or tomorrow play this video back Listen again. Y'all need to do that because while I be talking y'all be reading the comments Now on instagram when I go live on instagram, I turn the comments off Because you know, because it's your brain can't do two things at once That's why some of y'all be asking me the same question twice because I answer your question But you be reading comments while I'm answering your question And then you only realize I answered your question and then be coming back in here The next day asking the same question you asked me yesterday I really like this man, but he doesn't like me back and talks about other women in front of me How do I get out of this friends on? Get out the friend just step out of it. Just let's stop talking to him It stopped talking to him. That's how you get out of it You're not gonna get out the friends on with a man that don't like you Because listen here a man that like you you ain't got to convince him You ain't got to win him if if he don't like you listen You got to keep on going and what you got to realize everything That you like ain't good for you. I like Popeye's chicken. Where's gonna put me in an early gray Okay, I might like coca-cola where it's gonna put me in an early gray So what you got to realize is when you liking somebody you liking a man and he don't like you and he talks You his friend he see you like little homie, you know, you love homie you little sis Okay, go on about your business because you just saying yourself up for failure and see the thing about it is When you liking somebody that don't like you the problem with that is The problem with that is that mean you seeking approval and not love See you got the like who like you But when you like somebody who doesn't like you you seeking approval because you feel like he at your lead um Ask you remember No, she conceived after divorce. Okay. She could see after divorce. All right. Don't really matter. Don't really matter She still can see okay. Ramika really wants to hear you tell her to get back with her husband It is a bad idea. Listen to fitness mom. It's a bad idea Okay, y'all got a divorce Y'all been divorced two years this man and winning got a whole nother woman pregnant Okay, he ain't gonna kiss another woman Okay, and catch mono. He went and got a whole nother responsibility That he got to take care for the next 22 years And y'all got somebody together So why you worried about him and talking about he changing and all of that going about your business Because he out there dirty dipping He out there dirty dipping ain't no telling what that woman could have put on him that he's going to come back and give you You don't know what that dirty stick got on it now And and what you got to realize when you go jump in that within two years of your divorce and the woman Didn't had that baby. So that really mean he already was touching her before he was out of divorce She could have already went to Planned Parenthood. Why y'all were married? Ain't nobody finna be y'all been divorced two years and she she's not already had the baby. Okay It only bought a small window each month that a woman can even conceive. So what that mean he had to be You hear me for months on end Then she conceived then you ten months with the baby y'all just been Divorced two years. He's been nailing women All this here whole time now coming back talking about he changing listen go on about your business Yeah, and see this is the thing what y'all be trying to do y'all be trying to find every reason every Oh, well, he went to church last sunday And when he called me he quoted John 316 He's never done that So I know he's changed now. No, he's still the same man When y'all divorced them two years, he should have been sniffing your booty You know how when a dog walk outside and they see another dog the first time bang it do run up Sniff that booty He should have been sniffing your booty that in the entire two years if he wanted you Instead what he was doing out there eating peach cobbler He out there eating peach cobbler Create new Children and barreler could take care of one you got with her come on now Come on now Y'all got to get it together. Y'all got to get Erica mid-lord. God bless you. God bless you Y'all got to get it together. I'm trying to tell you Hey, I'll be trying to help y'all now Y'all don't be wanting to hear the truth though now Come on now and the thing about it y'all know the answer, but I'm gonna confirm it for you My ex said I'm his wife. Okay mahogany listen to this your ex said Hold on my phone my battery about to die now. I got to go in 10 minutes now Got to go in 10 minutes. I got these 80 minutes. I do an hour and a half. I want to do an hour on here tonight now um My ex said I'm his wife, but when we was together he texted other women told me We wasn't married just together. I stopped talking to him Or don't want to give a second chance. Am I wrong Tony? No, you're not wrong. You are not wrong I knew his wife And you he was already with you. He should have told you that when he was with you but last time He telling you oh, we just we just together. We ain't married. So I could I could talk to other women Hey, I'm looking for that hashtag cute now. I'm trying to see His wife a common law marriage of 12 years Had an affair they had four children in the process of their union. How should I handle his interests? He feels I'm his soulmate Now I'll be a little worried about that one because He was with her 12 years and she cheated What a man would do in a situation like that. He might use another woman to get back at her He'll have you all on facebook flaunting you parading you around like the maces day parade remember that mace parade He flaunted you parading you around Just to go just so she could see it and be mad and be butthurt Get her right what he wanted to begging pleading crying and then going back because they got four to four children together That means that's so tight so strong. Okay. That's so tight so strong You got to be very very cautious me personally me myself personally if I was you I No, thank you, brother God bless you. God bless you, but it's not gonna be a fit. You like what that man you say randy That's gonna be a no for me dawg. You know, that's what I hear them with. Mmm. That's gonna be a no for me dawg Uh-huh Sabrina. God bless you because you make a video possibly on dating men with children multiple baby mamas No children or are you totally against it like online dating? You know people have been asking me to make a video about that, but as you can see Any questions right here you seeing the other side of it see see you got to use inference You got to read between the line you seeing the other side of it You seeing so many women in each question saying My man ain't checked on his child in a year. My man ain't took care of his child in a year My man ain't been to see his child in a year. My man ain't did it for the child in a year two years So you dating men with children multiple Baby mama that already speaks to what he had going on So in order for you to give him a chance He got the walk like talk like look like smell like drip like You know snip like sniff like jesus When you see him you ought to see olive oil Dripping out his poor. He need to be sweating olive oil When he speak he need to be speaking in king jane's version when y'all go to the ocean He need to be able to walk on the water You hear me for you to know that he has changed If he can't do all of that then guess what? He's still the same man that ain't taking care of his children from their multiple baby mama gone by your business Gone by your business. Okay Gone by your business now. It's some men. I know that have had that have multiple baby mama and have changed So it could happen, but they had to be Dipped in the renewing water You hear me they had to be baptized to the point that they almost drowned when they came up out that water Like that baptismal you hear me if that's not the case go on about your business. Just keep it moving Ashley god bless you god bless you my ex or seven years Broke up with me Three weeks ago We met up today and he said he still loves me But said he's scared to get back together and go through the same problems again He's also seeing someone new already. Should I let go? Absolutely y'all to let go now see for one You need a quarantine because you just met up with him. He might have that 19 on So now he met up with you now. He didn't breathe all that 19 in your face So now that's what happened when you go back with your past you might pick up something that you shouldn't even picked up So that's the first thing don't go see his butt again Number two he's seeing somebody else that speaks to his character He's seeing somebody else and yet coming to meet up with you. How do you think she feel? Then he already just fresh into the relationship in line It's just been three weeks number three is it's been three weeks and he's seeing somebody else Number four y'all were together seven years Seven years you gave him seven years of your life and he didn't make you his wife So y'all relationship was over Six years and three weeks ago And you just stood still and let him waste another six years of your life. So understand that Actually understand that And move on with your life move on with your life. Do not deal with him He came back because of his soul tie He got a soul tie with you and see that soul tie it go to doing this right here It go to doing this and you see how move was changing. That's what that soul tie do He gets shorter breath and so he need when he comes see you at least it loosened up that soul tie He get that release in his body. It's like getting a hit Or the of what he was addicted to he get that hit So now your calming spirit your nice nature your sweet gullible naive empathic Empathetic nature It gave him what he needed Now he about to go back to loose booty 901 She a black widow. She a Jezebel spirit. She running him ragged He needed to come see you To see that peace that presence the fact that you was with him seven weeks He left you y'all to broke up. It's been three weeks He with a whole nother woman the fact that you'll go meet up with him in the midst of this 19 Let him breathe in your face in the midst of this 19 He know how he that's how crazy he see you is for him That's what you just told him That you stuck you standing still that you don't know Uh Who you are what do you think about the show married at first sight and love is blind? I don't think nothing about it because I ain't seen them I watched it love and blind. I only could get through five minutes of it. I said lord Let me get off this hill I watched five minutes. I can't watch that stuff. That's the just abomination To to the relationship these people reality people do anything for a check They'll do anything to make a tv show tv show don't bit more make sense than the man on the moon trying to paint How do you work through issues with anger when things get tense in a relationship? How do you work through? Both of y'all got to work together y'all gonna have to work together in my other book Make it work You got to read make it work I got a chapter on communication Now some of y'all reading a woman's influence, but you ain't read make it work when you read make it work I got a chapter on communication. You're gonna set you free me and my wife ain't ain't had a real argument Which I'll call an argument in a decade So that's what y'all got to but so when you learn how to communicate it is it's real easy This might be about my last question. Here's now. I got about one more minute Oh, I'm gonna end it. I'm gonna end it the live on you If a guy seen one way when I met him, but he acted a completely different way When I saw him another time, is it okay for me to block him and just stop communicating? Y'all be real tough in these comments. Y'all be real tough in these comments. I'm out blocking And y'all be blocking and then unblocking the next day and then blocking and then unblocking the next day And then next week y'all will be on here Well, is it okay if I take him back now? You know, he hit me in the head with a dumbbell, but I'm thinking about taking him back because You know, he went to church last week and so listen to him. It's okay to block him. They understand this I I work for the block ministry I'm with the blocking I'm with the blocking. I block people on here every single day I go through and have a block party every day. My wife be watching me up. Okay. You want to get slick out the mouth block I hope I hope that comment was the best one you ever made block Okay, you want to block look I'm with the block ministry I'm never gonna tell you that you shouldn't block somebody block them left right and center Because you got to get them out your life. You got to get them out your life And you got to move forward now what you have to realize is you can't be blocking and then unblocking You can't be blocking and then going back on your words. So understand that there a Healer from a Jezebel spirit for men and women asking for a friend who's going through it. Um, yeah, I think about that But you know, Jezebel spirit. That's a little that's a little rare. That's a little niche You know, it's not really no mass thing. You know, it's not it's not a Very common problem. So that them people right there might need coaching because it the masses really not dealing with a Jezebel spirit You know, that's that's real specific and um I wanted to block someone in the comments the other day, but I realized I couldn't they were coming at you sideways tone Hey, I probably if you go back, they probably block if you go back, they probably block now I don't deal with it. I don't deal with it because if we was in, you know, somewhere else You know, something else got to go down. So on these comments the the least I could do Block You hit me Hey, god bless y'all. I got to get going. Why wait no man Give us a little bit of his Netflix and chill in so god bless you and um tomorrow night is our normal q&a tomorrow Sunday night at 9 p.m God bless you. You remember if you sign up for the life coach certification on tonigasacademy.com you the coupon code My mentor use the coupon code. Let me get fitness mom fit them on She'd be working for y'all helping y'all like This last question now don't a don't send no more blessings Don't put no more question with the with the little super chat or the sticker or nothing like that now. Okay I got to get going now So now it's fit them on and got y'all question. This last question How do you explain when you have one child by a man And you leave him because you know your word Then he comes back in your life And has another child But goes and be with another woman Was that done Or y'all got to forgive him. I lose my wasn't him. I'm trying to call from trying to fight to help call Was that done just to get back at me? sin I hurt him by leaving I guess y'all have to type so some limitations in the uh character count the character limit. Okay So now the man you had a child by him And you left him because you know your worth. Okay, you left him then he comes back in your life And has another child Now I don't know if you and him had a child or he had a child with he come back and had Child with somebody else But goals and bees with another woman Was that done just to get back at me? Since I hurt him by leaving. Okay. Yep. That's exactly what it was That's exactly what it was and that's what y'all got to realize now. Remember this Whenever you let a man go And he comes back What you have to realize Is that He's coming back for the last laugh. He coming back for the last lick He coming back to a man don't like to get the last let you get the last lick So he coming back to sting you to say a okay the child you're he coming back to sting you to say a You thought you had me you want to be tough you want to have some some integrity You want to have some character you want to have some self love? Let me show you just how stupid you is Let me show you how weak you is. Let me show you how gullible you is and that's why that's why when a man come back You got to have stipulations that he got to go through That there's no possible way he's faking So when he got to come and do 12 sessions With me Okay, do the mail $275 an hour times 12 Okay, you ain't playing You ain't coming back to play to get no last lick when you finna do 12 sessions with any coach Even if it's $25 an hour when he got to read this book One chapter at a time and y'all talk through the chapters when he got to read This book one chapter at a time and y'all talk through the chapters Not only do he do coaching but he got to do four sessions of therapy See when you got standards when you got stipulations for somebody to get back in your life That's how you tell if they real or if they fake But when you just let them come back Boom, and then you when I'm down. Thank you ma'am like that. Uh, uh, then guess what? That's how he could get you but you got to have your stipulations Hey, god bless y'all appreciate you. Um 50 mom Thank you so much for Spending your hard earned money to help somebody get their questions on there And uh to the moderators caramel kisses and share thank y'all for moderating and um Um, I don't know if two bellows in there. I don't think she was but thank y'all for moderating God bless you and for those of you who missed it if you watching the playback Lord willing I'll be on here sunday night at 9 p.m. Eastern. God bless you. We'll talk soon