 Why narcissists disappear when you first met the narcissist They may have made you very happy They were very charming They were agreeable They were full of praise and compliments It seemed like everything was perfect They listened to you They seemed to recognize and value your abilities qualities and accomplishments They seemed to have regard for your feelings wishes and rights But then one day The narcissist disappeared They vanished from sight They left for a few days weeks or months and it may have been after a argument Or it may have been for no apparent reason They may give you an appropriate reason They may say that there was an emergency But as time goes by they begin to disappear more and more Because they're trying to punish you they may even threaten to leave you Or replace you with someone else When it wasn't long ago That they were telling you how much they love you And how they want to spend the rest of their lives with you But then suddenly they're no longer interested in you And they may never come back Because they've already drained you of everything You no longer have any use to them. You may be very sick and helpless You may be left suicidal or hospitalized And that is when the narcissist will abandon you forever They will only come back If they find out you've managed to recover If you're still able to give them what they want But some narcissist Will stay with you even when you're sick and helpless Because it gives them a sense of control And it makes it easier for them To put you through the endless cycle Of abuse and rescue But sometimes they're just waiting for you to die Or end up in hospital So that they can prey on you and exploit you Another reason why the narcissist might disappear Is because you've figured them out You've exposed them You know who they are They can't manipulate you anymore When the narcissist knows they can't get any more supply They're not going to waste their energy on you They will find someone Who is more susceptible to their manipulation But if that doesn't work out They may try to hoover you And that may even be a punishment To their new supply When they disappear They won't give you a reason They will give you an unjustifiable excuse Or they will start an argument with you So that they have a reason to leave Because they're busy with their new source of supply But when they do that You should realize that they were never really with you They were never really loyal or committed to you They were just waiting in the wings Until they found something new When the narcissist chooses to disappear You cannot control them You cannot change them You cannot stop them from doing what they choose to do Because it really has nothing to do with you Narcissists are going to do what they're going to do You just have to return to yourself And begin to question Why you're seeking love and devotion From the narcissist You may have abandonment anxiety Which is what they will use against you But you need to realize that you have the power in this situation You can choose when it ends By healing yourself By no longer fearing abandonment By no longer fearing being replaced by someone else Which is where I can guide you I invite you to book a coaching session with me At Narc Survivor the Cuddy UK Where we can talk about healing from narcissistic abuse Removing your fears and doubts about the narcissist And building a better life for yourself Thank you for watching I hope this video resonated with you Please like, comment, share and subscribe If you would like to donate My PayPal link is in the video description Coaching inquiries You can email me at coachinganarchsurvivor.uk Thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon