 So today we're going to lean into the four behaviors that destroy a relationship, and this is actually from the Gottman Institute. If you're not familiar with John and Julie Gottman, I highly recommend googling them, checking out their work. And the first one is criticism. When someone is critical of you, they share a criticism about you. When we criticize other people, this is true of your in-relationship or not, we can act in a very defensive manner. And certainly whether you're a man or woman doing this relationship, and I've noticed that men do this as equally as much as women. When we act critical of them, when we criticize them, that's certainly something that causes us to pull back, ghost, or even disappear in relationships when we feel like we are being attacked. The second one is contempt.