 The narcissist doesn't see you in the way you think they do and this is kind of following on from the live video I did earlier today because I know I talked about when the narcissist is no longer sexually attracted to you and I was just looking back at that video and thinking about my past experiences with narcissists that I've dealt with and one thing I noticed is that they're very different to empaths and in fact I was I would go as far as to say that narcissists are actually not physically or sexually attracted to us or anyone I don't know this may injure a lot of people's ego is who are watching this right now but I'd rather speak more about the truth and not just what we'd like to believe what might make us feel better about ourselves and this was kind of something that I realized maybe even towards the beginning of the relationships that I had with narcissists but then I kind of overlooked it but yes I do believe that this is very true narcissists are not physically or sexually attracted to their targets or anyone what they do is they look for what is popular what is trending what everyone else likes and then they see this as a form of status of something that they need to achieve so then they can present this image to the world but here's the thing if they had never known what is popular or trending and what would improve their social status by being with what they've learned and then deemed to be physically or sexually attractive then they could have been they could have been gravitating towards something very different so this is not something where they decided and they looked at you and they thought that you are physically or sexually attractive and then they were drawn to you and a lot of this is from television social media it's just what they're being told it's just what they're seeing and they're absorbing this information and then they are projecting it outwards onto the world and whatever they think will make them look good and improve their image so that they can evoke attention and aberration from other people and that is why you may notice when they first manipulate and love bomb you it's like at that moment it seems like they're all over you they're very sexually into you but in fact even then even then when you're having sex with them in the beginning they're not really interested in you they're just being fueled by knowing that other people may be attracted to you through evoking envy or jealousy in other people and that is what drives them so even when they're physically and sexually involved with you they are still just experiencing it vicariously through other people and I remember it in my own experiences when I had sex with narcissists that I was in relationships with it's like they weren't even there it just felt like it was just me or my own and they were in their own world like they were just completely detached from the activity and for them it's just all about the supply it's just whatever feeds their ego and as we know the supply comes from not only the source but people who see them with the source who they deem to be physically attractive so they're just constantly living through other people's experiences and that's where it can go even deeper because then it's like where did these other people's experiences come from for them to deem you and the narcissist to be an attractive couple but yes this is the reality of it and I've experienced it myself a few times it's that and also you may notice this if you have children with the narcissist it's the exact same thing we are nothing but trophies fashion accessories we're not even seen as real people they objectify us and even then they don't objectify us because they're sexually attracted to us it's just determined by what other people think if other people think you look good together and do this ideal image of a family then they feel good about it but they can't experience it directly they don't have the ability to do that and in fact those of you if you ever met another empath in your life you will know that the attraction especially this the sexual attraction this is really something that only two empaths can experience together because you need to have the high empathy to have the ability to experience that because other than that sexuality in general is narcissistic you may notice that people in general other than empaths and I've noticed this in my own experiences many times they're not really connected to you it's just all about how you view them if you deem them to be physically attractive or sexually attractive they don't even care about you at a lot of times they don't even care about your experience as well once they've been with you for a certain amount of time they no longer value your opinions and it's all about how the outside world perceives of your relationship and I'm sure you've noticed this as well if you've gone out with them maybe to a restaurant or a party and you talk to someone there of the opposite sex they may have been completely innocent but they saw you and maybe they thought something of it and then you go back home with them it's like suddenly you have the most amazing sex you've ever had in the entire relationship and you just got to think how is that possible and it just goes back to my point that they do not experience it with you directly they experience it very curiously for other people so this means that if you go back to them the manipulation the love bombing I remember in one situation in my own life he now says say to me all of these things she liked about me she would say like the way I walk the way I talk it's like I'm walking on air and I was just thinking how these things are so superficial and shallow and she never really connected with me deeply or directly it was more just about the image how other people perceive it and even then it had nothing to do with me at all it was about how it makes the narcissist feel about themselves so it never has anything to do with you you think that you are physically or sexually attractive to the narcissist but in fact the only person who matters in the relationship is them the only concern is how they feel about themselves you're just an extension a component of them which is how you will notice that if you deviate from what they expect you to be for this image and you will especially notice this with narcissistic parents as well if you deviate from that from that extension then they immediately go to the devaluation and then it's almost like they disown you because it has nothing to do with you at all it was never about your feelings or needs it was never about you being the separate individual and they were physically or physically or sexually attracted to you who in the case of the narcissist's parents they never loved you they never liked you at all you were just this extension to present this image to the world and it was all just about how the narcissist felt about themselves and when you realize that you realize that you never meant anything to them you never even existed to the narcissist because all of these ideas they have of this ideal relationship or family whatever it is these are all just bits and pieces of things that they've seen on television or in movies or they've seen from other people and who knows where they got their ideas from and this is their reference point which they are trying to live up to to project this image to the world so that they can feel better about themselves as though they are something significant and important and they hold some position of status and that is all that it really is you were never anything special to them not in the way that you might think I mean they may have taken advantage of your high empathy your naivety the way that you just blindly trusted them they may take advantage of that but they don't see it as though it's a person giving it to them because they objectify you they just see you as an extension of themselves and it's only if they have this control over you if you act as their possession and you just do whatever they say and you listen to them blindly but I don't want this video to be completely negative I mean as I said earlier those of you who have met other empaths you will know what I'm talking about how it feels like for the first time in your life you're experiencing this real physical and sexual attraction and it's reciprocal it goes both ways and I believe that the reason for that is because of the empathy it's this ability to understand and share another person's feelings and experience the ability to put yourself in their shoes so that you can see how they see you and they can see how you see them because that's what attraction really is it's about being drawn to each other but with narcissists it was never even a relationship at all they were never connected to you it was just all about the image that you could present to the world and even then it wasn't even really about that the only thing it's ever about is the narcissist and their feelings about themselves everything else is just a means to regulate their emotions that is all that it is and yet we look at our relationships with them before we know this and we think we're so special they're so into us maybe they do love us maybe they do care about us but in fact if you look back and remember the things that they said to you and how you could never deviate from this extension of who they wanted you to be then you will realize that in fact it actually never had anything to do with you as a person to begin with I mean you got to think at some point if they were really physically and sexually attracted to you then why would they try to change you because the truth is that in fact the more physically attractive you are the more that they will hate you because the only person who matters the only one who's meant to be important in the relationship is them which is why at some point they begin to devalue you and they try to change you they target yourself esteem because they were never really into you like that it was all about the image it was all about how they were going to look to other people because they get other people to filter everything through then and then they live vicariously through them they do not experience you directly and they don't experience anyone directly they experience people through a distorted lens or through the perceptions of other people but even then that's distorted as well so sometimes they may not even view you