 Hi, I'm Matthew coast head dating coach and founder at commitment connection calm and in this video We're going to talk about how to keep a man interested in you But before we do that if you're struggling to attract a quality man into a committed Lasting relationship make sure you go to my website at commitment connection calm and take my quiz So today's question comes from a woman in our community and she's asking me how do I keep a man interested in me and Obviously this topic is very very important if you can't seem to keep a man interested in you It doesn't matter how attractive you are to him initially because you'll end up leaving and all your work will be for nothing So there's three really important ways to do this the first one is to continue to flirt and tease with him Even once you're in the relationship a lot of times women feel like once they get into a relationship It's like oh, it's done. I've got him, you know, and and I can just you know sit back and and You know not do the things that I did initially to attract him Which is why it's so important to use authentic attraction techniques and not to Try to play games or manipulate them because games and manipulation are very very exhausting in a relationship and even initially and and trying to keep that up for a long period of time is Really challenging but flirting and being playful and teasing is there those are actually fun things that you can do To Kenny continue to keep a man interested in you The second one is to focus on Emotional attraction not just physical a big mistake a lot of women make is they focus so much on a physical attraction And physical attraction can get you a lot of attention initially But what really makes a man fall in love and stay in love is that emotional connection that you create with them and so you know the biggest way to Make a man feel emotionally attracted to you is to let him be the man in your relationship And let him be the man in your interactions and and a lot of women try to compete with men To be the man in the relationship these days But that is definitely not what you want to do You want to sit back and and allow him to lead allow him to pursue encourage him to pursue invite him to pursue you and the more that He does that the more he will feel invested in the relationship and the more likely he is to Commit to you for the long term And so the third one is to keep a life separate from your relationship And keep your passions outside of your relationship And this is kind of a counter-intuitive one for a lot of women because they feel like they need to give everything to a Relationship, but it's actually not very attractive when you do that even though it seems like it would be a very noble thing for you to do It's actually really unattractive for you to what ends up happening is you end up like smothering a guy To the point where he ends up feeling like he needs to get away from you And then you've got nothing else to go back to and so you keep kind of chasing after him until finally you push him you end up pushing him away and so You want to give him space, you know, give him as much space as you possibly can well Not as much space as you possibly can but give him space You know give him a decent amount of space have things going on in your life outside of the relationship It'll make you so much more attractive You want to create a lot of women come to me and they say, you know, how do I get a man to commit to me? And really that's the backwards way to think about it. What you want to do is create a frame where He's trying to get you to commit to him not the other way around and so one of the ways to do that is to have such an Amazing and exciting life that he feels like he has to be an awesome and amazing guy Who can convince you to commit to him and convince you to stay with him? And so that's it for this video If you want more information on what's stopping you from attracting a quality man into a committed lasting Relationship make sure you go to my website at commitment connection comm I'm Matthew coast and I'll speak with you again soon