 وأقول في القرآن ما جاءت به آياته فهو الكاريم المنزاله وأقول قال الله جل جلاله والمصطف الهدي ولا أتأوله الحمد لله رب العالمين وصلت وسلام على عبد الله ورسوله نبي محمد وعلى آله وصحبه أجمعين السلام وعليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته نبدأ بالنسبة always by praising Allah by asking Allah to exalt the mentioned grand peace to our messenger Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم to his family and his companions We've been talking about our children as a gift from Allah and a nima And we're now going to insha'Allah talk about our children as a responsibility and an amana from Allah and a test from Allah We still have some evidences to talk about with the children as a gift and a nima So we're going to begin with those and then we move on to the topic of the episode insha'Allah after that الله عز وجل سيد والذين آمن واتبعتهم ذريةهم بإيمان الحقنا بهم ذريتهم وما ألتناهم من عمليهم من شيء كل مرء بما كسبا رهين الله عز وجل سيد نسوره الطور I number 21 Those who believe and their offspring follow them in iman We cause their offspring to be joined with them or to be raised up to them And we do not cause anything from their actions to be lost Every person is with regard to what they have earned they have been they are رهين It's mortgaged and it's like a security against the actions or what they have earned So here why I brought this ayah is I'm going to quote to you from al-imam al-saidi رحمه الله تعالى and what he said about this ayah Because when you first read the ayah it would appear first of all that you see from the point of view of the children who follow their parents Being a being the children following their parents it being a blessing upon the children That Allah subhanahu و تعالى raises the child up to the parents Because the child followed their parents in iman But there's also another way of considering this ayah And for that we're going to quote al-imam al-saidi رحمه الله تعالى Al-imam al-saidi رحمه الله تعالى He said Allah عز وجل brings that child up to their parents level in jannah وإن لم يبلغوها Even though the child might not have done enough themselves enough to reach it جزاءً لأبائهم as a reward for their parents وزيادةً في توابهم and an increase in their reward Or an increase in the child's reward وما عذارك and despite this Allah عز وجل doesn't decrease the parents reward in anything So here what I wanted to quote to you is where he said This is actually a blessing upon the father and upon the mother Upon the parents That Allah عز وجل brings their beloved near to them in paradise Even though those children in of themselves might not have done enough to reach that level But Allah سبحانه وتعالى brings them up And it's interesting we said that because the same thing is said about the husband and the wife in jannah The same thing is said about the husband and the wife in jannah That Allah عز وجل would raise the husband up to the level of his wife If he hasn't reached that level out of a karam Or an act of generosity towards her and honoring her And likewise Allah عز وجل would raise a wife up to the level of her husband In honoring him So the same thing is said about the children That it's an honor for the parent For their child to be raised up to their level Even if they haven't done what their parent had necessarily done And that doesn't decrease anything from the reward of the parents At all Doesn't decrease anything from their reward And it is an increase in reward for the children And Allah gives it to whoever he wills But this is a blessing from Allah سبحانه وتعالى That Allah عز وجل makes our children And raises up the level of our children to be near to the parents in jannah If the parents were more righteous than the children or the parents Ended up with a higher level in paradise than the child So this is something which is praiseworthy And which is a blessing from Allah سبحانه وتعالى So we wanted to mention it among the blessings of children So that we can establish the importance of giving our children the right tarbiyah The right education and their rights So that they can be from the people who are We are together with them by the permission of Allah عز وجل in paradise And the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم He said in the hadith of Aisha رضي الله عنها In the hadith narrated by Al-Bukhari Al-Muslim He said The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said Whoever is tested With some daughters Some of these daughters And he's good to them They will be a covering Or they will be a shield or a barrier Between him and between the fire And this also tells us the blessing And I brought it specifically because it tells us the blessing of daughters And the fact that the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم He said That they've been tested And now we're going to come to the fact that By generally speaking the word It can be It can be for something which is good And it can be for something which is bad So that doesn't mean that daughters are something bad But your children are a test And definitely Your daughters are a test They're a test Are you going to be good to them or not good to them And they're a test Particularly for the people who had that wrong And it became a test Are they going to be good to their daughters or not Whoever is good to their daughters Then they will be a covering That will be a veil Or a covering between them And between the Hellfire That will protect them from the fire So this is something really which tells us the virtue Of our children The blessing of our children And particularly the blessing of having daughters If you are good to them And likewise And if you are good to them And likewise Just generally when we talk about children If you're good to your children And you fulfill their rights This is the kind of reward You can expect your Mokriyama This mentions daughters And no doubt there are rewards Of different types And different Similar yet different rewards For all of our children So ultimately If we fulfill our children's rights And we take them seriously And we think about them And we give them there What is needed And we do our best To fulfill them properly Then Allah سبحانه وتعالى Will give us a great reward For that Yom Kriyama And from the rewards that are mentioned Is this reward which is mentioned In البخارية المسلم From the حليف عائشة That the daughter Will be the daughters That you are good to They will be a protection For you from the fire That interestingly and nicely Brings us on to the next part Of our discussion Because the Prophet SAW Who ever is tested And that tells us That our children Are a test A trial And a responsibility And this is the other side Of the The other side of the coin To look at the other side Of our children Not as Only as a blessing And a Heba That you can do whatever you want But like every blessing You are given by Allah That blessing is A test And that's why Allah He said in Surat Al-Anbiya In ayah 35 Every soul will taste death And we test you The same word the Prophet SAW Maniptulia Whoever is tested With daughters Allah said We test you With bad things And good things And that's why the word Is used for bad And good And so it doesn't mean tested Meaning that it's something bad You've been given But tested with good You've been tested With good Particularly in the case Of daughters as we mentioned Is that there may be some people Who held on to that Pre-Islamic belief That it's something bad So for them It's an even greater test Because in there They're trying to shake off This wrong concept And this bad idea That it's something bad And it still exists among Many Muslims today And I don't think that's An exaggeration That it still exists among Many cultures today That kind of feeling But here Even if you see Your daughters as being The best thing It's still a Bala It's still a test If you see your sons As being the best thing It's still a test Your children are a Bala They are a test And the test Can be good or bad Because ultimately Allah can test you With children That are difficult That are disrespectful And disobedient لا قدر الله ذلك May Allah not decree that For us And Allah can test you With good With the best children And Allah can test you With anything in between that Because the tests of Allah Are not restricted To the things which are Necessarily bad For us Rather when Allah Gives you health It's a test When Allah gives you Wealth It's a test When Allah gives you Happiness It's a test When Allah gives you Luxury It's a test When Allah gives you A beautiful house It's a test When Allah Gives you a great job It's a test All of these things are A Bala They're a test They're a test From Allah We test you With bad things And we test you With good things As a fitna An examination A trial And that's why It's correct to use The word fitna For our children And we're going to hear In an ayah That explicitly Allah Used the word fitna For our children They are a test They are a trial وَإِلَيْنَا تُعْجَعُونَ And to us You will be returned And there You will get the results And this seems to be One of the reasons Why Allah When you return To Allah You will receive Your results Of your exam You were examined With regard to your health You were given a test With regard to your children You were given a test With regard to your wealth You were given a test With regard to All of the ni'am Of Allah That the blessings Of Allah And the gifts That Allahعزوجل Gave you The hibah Of Allah The gifts That he gave you You were given them As a test For Allah You will receive The result of your exam Whether you passed Your exam Whether you didn't Pass your exam Allahعزوجل Make all of us From the people of الفردوس العالة Those people who passed The exam With flying colors In the best possible way Subhan Allah To think that You will go back To Allah And there You will see The result Of the tests And the trials That you had in this world And among those things Are the trials Or you know For example That it's only If your child is Disobedient That you're being tested Or I've really been Tested with my son Because he's disobedient I've really been Tested with my daughter Because she's disobedient That's not correct Rather you're Being tested With the obedient children And the disobedient Children All of it is a test From Allah وَنَا بَلُوكُمْ بِالْشَرِّ وَالْخَيْرِ فِتْنَا وَا إِلَيْنَا تُرْجِعُونَ So how is this test If it's good If you're being tested With good children And your child And a blessing And a grace From Allah And a gift From Allah عز وجل الوهاب Then how are you How do you pass a test If you're being tested With good We kind of understand Usually People have an intrinsic Kind of understanding Of how to pass a test When the test is bad Allah has given you A disobedient child And you know Your child Is nothing but trouble For you And you kind of Have a natural understanding Of how to pass that test I have to have sabr I have to keep trying I have to make dua to Allah I have to not You know Turn away from Allah I have to keep my People have that kind of Intrinsic understanding But a lot of people Might ask the question If I have an amazing child Who is just such A blessing for me How do I pass my test When I've been given Something good And that is Found in Surat Ibrahim In ayah 7 When Allah said وإذا تأذن ربكم لأن شكرتكم لأزيدانكم ولأن كفرتم إن عذابي لشديد And when your lord Declared If You are Grateful I will certainly Give you more And if you are Ungrateful Then indeed My punishment Is severe So here We are told explicitly That what is Required from us When we are given Good And tested البلا With خير With good And with blessings That what is required from us Is a شكر What is required from us Is a شكر And that's why I would highly recommend On that topic That if you have time For some extra Reading this Ramadan Aside from Of course Your You know your attention You're going to be giving To the Quran And your reading Of the Quran But if you have some time For some extra reading When you're watching this video Get A copy of Patience And Gratitude By This Book Which in English Is titled Patience And Gratitude In Arabic It's called So The title Is a little bit different From Arabic To English But in English It was titled Patience And Gratitude By A beautiful book And it just talks about The fact that Between You're always Every Muslim Is between these two things Blessings Which are tests In good And Calamities And troubles Which are tests In bad And what is required From you In the tests Which are good Is A شكر Gratitude And what is required From you In the tests Which are Difficult And hardships And so on And other information In that And extra information That you can gain From them And in reality When you look at Your children You're going to see That your children Could fit into either And maybe during Their life Will fit into both أبأكم وابناكم لا تدارون أيهم I'm near to you وأقربو لكم نفع Your fathers And your offspring You don't know Which of them Is going to benefit you Or you're Going to get closer To benefiting you more لكنك لا تعرف أن هذا الشيء might be the one that benefits you the most يَلْمَ قِيَامًا. لا تعرف what Allah has written for the أعقب and the outcome of you, of them, of where they're going to be after you die, of what they're going to do, of تعوبة, of changes, for good or for bad. لا تعرف which of your children are going to benefit you more. في هذا العالم or in the next? لا تعرف. فالتالي, it may be that a child goes through both phases. They could be a difficulty for you at times. They could be a test of good at times. And that's why our children really, it is correct to say that our children are a test no matter what situation they are in. Another ayah which tells us how we deal with the tests which are good is that Allah عز وجل, He said He said That's the end of the ayah. And few of my servants are truly grateful. So what is required from you to show gratitude to Allah عز وجل for this blessing is to act in accordance with it. And this I believe is extremely important when it comes to the blessing of children. And I think if we're talking about the نعمة of children and then we're talking about the test which comes from the نعمة of children, the blessing of children, then this is a test of what are you going to do? As a parent, what are your actions going to be? Allah gave you a gift. Allah gave you a نعمة, a blessing. Allah gave it to you and now the question is or parent, what are you going to do with it? Are you going to act in a way that brings about the pleasure of Allah? Are you going to fulfill that child's rights? Are you going to support that child? And give that child the طربية they need by the permission of Allah عز وجل for them to achieve the hopes that you have for them in terms of their religion and where they reach in the آخرة. Are you going to facilitate that? And it's in the hands of Allah. Are you going to facilitate that for that child? Are you going to be a cause and a means for that child to achieve that after the توفيق of Allah عز وجل? Or are you going to be an obstacle for the child to achieve that? So the question is or parent, what are you going to do with this blessing? إعمالو آل داودة شكرا Act or family of doubt? Do actions. That's what's required from you. It's not required from you just to thank Allah with your tongue and say Alhamdulillah Alhamdulillah that Allah gave me a child. الحمد لله الذي وهابني على الكبري إسماعيل وإسحق Like Ibrahim said, who praises to Allah who gave me the gift despite the fact that I was old of إسماعيل وإسحق. That's thanking Allah with the tongue. But now the question is what are you going to do? What are your actions going to be? And that's really what the rest of this segment on children is going to cover. As a parent, what are you going to do to thank Allah for that? إعمالو آل داودة شكرا وقالين من عباد الشكور Very few people actually show the gratitude that is proper and deserving for the blessing that they have been given and that's true for children as much as it is true for everything else. An example of not doing things, an example of things not being right. An example of things not being right. An example of ingratitude. Can we put forward an example of ingratitude as it relates to your children? Yes we can. And this example is an example given by Allah عز وجل in the Qur'an. Allah عز وجل said Allah عز وجل said This is the one who created you from a single soul and made from it its wife so his wife so that they may find tranquility in one another. This we have spoken about. Then Allah عز وجل gives an example. Some of the scholars of تفسير they related this example to Adam but the correct opinion and Allah عز وجل knows best is this is not something which happened to Adam. And it's not an example of something which happened to Adam. But it's an example generally of how some parents might respond to the blessing of a child in the wrong way. Allah عز وجل said So when he covered her he came to his wife in a state of intimacy she became pregnant حملت حملن خفيفة She became pregnant with a single drop. It was only something light it was a heavy burden it was something light فمرت به and then time went on and she became the baby became bigger and bigger فلما أثقالت when the baby became big and it became clear that she was expecting a baby they both they both دعو الله ربهما they both called upon Allah their Lord if you give us صالح and here the scholars of Tafsir differed they said some of them said the word صالح it means that the child is healthy if you give us a healthy child and some of them said the word صالح is righteous here if you give us a righteous child and the two it doesn't really affect the Tafsir too much you give us a healthy child or righteous child we will certainly be grateful if you give us a righteous child we will certainly be grateful فلما أتاهم صالح جعل له شركاء فيما أتاهم فتعال الله عما يشركون صورة الأعراف from 189 to 190 when Allah gave them that healthy child or righteous child then those two parents made partners with Allah they made shirk with Allah and sawajil in that which Allah had given them so exalted is Allah over what they associate with Him in partners سبحان الله what an example of the ultimate in gratitude the example of the ultimate lack of gratitude that a parent begs Allah Allah give me a healthy child give me a righteous child and I will promise you that oh Allah I will be grateful and then Allah gives them that child and the child is healthy and the child is righteous and then they make partners with Allah فيما أتاهم in the very thing that Allah had given them in the very thing that Allah عز وجل had given them either by the way that they named the child naming the child with a name that is against the rules of Islam and constitute shirk like naming the child عبد العزة the servant of Al-Uzza or Abdul Shams the servant of the son or any of these names that were from the shirkia the names that contain polytheism or in any other way and in any other way that a parent might make shirk but they made shirk with regard to the very thing that Allah had given them the very child that Allah had given them and then they made a partner with Allah عز وجل in that and less than that but equally it's equally an example of being ungrateful is the disobedience of Allah with regard to that child Allah عز وجل gives you a child and then you disobey Allah with regard to that very child by doing haram because of them or for them or for their sake or whatever people might justify it and of course shirk is the greatest and the most severe example of that but for a parent to ask Allah O Allah please give us a righteous child please give us a healthy child and then Allah gives you that righteous child gives you that healthy child and then you disobey Allah عز وجل by making a partner with him or by what is less than that then this is the ultimate act of ingratitude towards Allah سبحانه وتعالى so as Muslims what do we take from this first of all we do call upon Allah we do call upon Allah عز وجل to give us righteous children as Zechariah said when he called upon his Lord رب هبلي من لدن كذرية طيبة O my Lord give me from you good children good children children that are good for me that are children that bring near to Allah عز وجل children that are good they are good people they are good people good children and ultimately that's what we ask Allah عز وجل but we have to understand that when Allah gives that to you you need to act in a way that is good and a way that is pleasing to Allah don't make your children a reason for you to disobey Allah don't make it your children a reason for you to turn away from Allah don't make your children a reason for you to make shirk with Allah and this example إنسورة العراف is one of the most excellent examples and Allah has given us that wonderful example to understand how a person could be so ungrateful with regard to the children that they've been given and as I emphasized I don't think that there's any evidence to say that this refers to Adam and Hawa and rather this is from the إسرائيلية I don't think that there is any evidence from Islamic texts to prove that particular point so I think it's better that we keep away from that completely even if it is narrated from some of the salaf رحمهم الله تعالى وربي الله وعنهم that it's narrated that some of them said that but we see that the source of this and Allah عز وجل knows best is the إسرائيلية is the report from Bani Israel and so we say this is an example simply of ingratitude generally from some of Bani Adam الله عز وجل said in سورة التغابن إنما أموالكم وأولادكم فتنة والله عنده أجن عظيم indeed your wealth and your children are nothing but a fitنة now the word إنما here is a word to feed الحصر it gives us the benefit of restricting which means that it tells us that we are limited there is nothing but this this is the only thing there is your wealth and your children are nothing but a fitنة a test and a trial والله عنده أجن عظيم and Allah has a great reward الله عز وجل has a great reward for those who pass that test and that trial behaving in the right way responding in the right way and realising that your wealth that you've been given and your children that you have been given are a test for you and here الله عز وجل described them as a fitنة they are a potential cause of misguidance and going astray they potentially could cause you to go astray and could cause you to be taken away from the path of Allah عز وجل but they could also be a reason for ajarun عظيم a great reward in the sight of الله عز وجل we're going to continue that theme in our next episode Insha'Allah the theme that our children are a test and a responsibility and we're going to talk about that so that we can really understand I believe if we can understand how great of a blessing our children are and we can understand how great of a test and responsibility our children are then we really are approaching the rights of the children with full concern and attention and our full attention to the rights of the children 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