 A lot of women say their moms didn't teach them how to cook, and they don't know how to cook because their mom didn't teach them how to cook. She said, but your mom didn't teach you how to suck either, but you know how to suck too. But she's still trying to wait until. So if you really want to know how to cook, especially nowadays in the information age, the internet, shit, there's step-by-step tutorials on YouTube. That's true. At your big age of 20, whatever, or 30, whatever, you would know how to cook. That's true. So that no longer is an excuse. If a woman at our big age doesn't know how to cook, she just don't want to. And I would assume me personally, she's just not a nurturing individual. Listen. It's the message right here. Black boy, tell me how you really feel, because I just want to build with you. Black girl, tell me how you really feel. I want to keep it real with you. I want to live better, eat better. I want to love better, sleep better. You asked me a question. I wanted you to get all of them off. What do you think if men changed would solve this gender war? If men could be men again. What does that mean to you? Because back then, grandma didn't have a say and she was getting beat all the time. Yeah, that part is not cool though. She didn't have to get beat. But... Grandma would get beat. If men could be men, it's a man I don't know how to change a tire, don't know how to change a light bulb, don't own a hammer, don't own a wrench. And I feel like as women, I don't know, I'm a traditionalist, right? So I think that... They're going to be your DMs, boy, godly. Why? You're a traditional woman? I am. I'm a traditional woman. It's about modern women that's modern women that. So for a woman to come out and say I'm a traditional woman. What's a modern woman? We'll get to that, bro. I want you to finish. Oh, hang on. What was I saying? Oh, so yeah, I want men to be men again, like stand up in your masculinity. And the more that you operate in there, the more comfortable a woman is going to feel operating in her femininity. Bullshit. Not bullshit. Bullshit. No, it's not. I'm going to tell you why. Tell me why. I want you to be outside cooking and I'm going to wash dishes in the house. And I'll rock with that, but this is why this is my issue with it. And we hear it a lot where it's like, if men were better, men, women would be better women. Mm-hmm. Meaning that femininity is contingent on masculinity. Okay. The problem with that is it doesn't work the other way around. What do you mean? I can't say to you, if you were cooking, then I would be cutting the grass. No, you can't. Exactly. Exactly. Why would you even want to say something like that to me? Why? I wouldn't personally, but I'm saying if the message is going to catch on mainstream, it has to be consistent. No. Why not? See, because that's the antique for tech stuff. You can't, everything that we do or that I do as a woman, y'all don't have to mirror that or match that. It's all, and that's that Kevin Samuels, their new age, I don't want to audition, tap dance. That's that mindset. Like if a woman tells you something, you don't have to feel like what is the, what is the, what is something that I can have to say back to her that's going to match that? No, no. That's not necessarily what I'm coming from. What I'm coming from though is like, it makes it harder, if men subscribe to that, it makes it harder to evaluate women because I have to, instead of getting to the point where I realize that she's the problem, I have to always assume that I'm the problem. And when I talk to some men, that's what happened. The same guy I was talking about whose wife cheated on him in the whole night, she told him that she felt unfulfilled because they didn't have any kids. So then they had a son and shit got worse. So a lot of guys hear the story that, well, I would be more ex if you were more y. And it wasn't that he wasn't enough of why, it's just that she was fucked up and she needed an intervention, she needed to, but I'm saying like sometimes it's not, the things that she's not doing, it's not about what you're not doing. Sometimes. A lot of times, I would say, a lot of, and the fact that a woman would intentionally carrot stick her affection means to me that that affection is not natural. Like I've heard women, for instance, say, I would cook, for instance, but I've never dated a man who made me feel woman enough to cook. And then I ask, what's the last thing you cook? Yeah, that's just a woman that doesn't cook at all really. And that's my point. That's my point. She doesn't cook at all. And she is assuming that she's just naturally going to be good at it, even though she's never practiced it. And the reason why she's not good at it is because of some guy who didn't make her feel comfortable enough. No, she just doesn't cook. Exactly. So women like you who are saying, oh, I have all these skills, but you need to make me feel comfortable enough, this, this, and that. My only thing would be, okay, does wanting to nurture a man come naturally to you? Because for some women, it doesn't actually come naturally. And they use the fact that a man hasn't, whatever, to excuse themselves from having acknowledged it. No, this just ain't you. And that's fine, if that's not her, because there's probably going to be somebody out there that that works for it. But I mean, me personally, I feel like I'm nurturing. I also like to cook, though. I just don't want to cook for some guy that there's, we don't have like an exclusive relationship type of situation. Because then you're going to get, what do they say? You're giving away, why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free? They don't like half of us. You don't like half of us? Yeah. But no, that's the mind. I think that's why some women that do know how to cook and do like to cook why they say that, because they probably did it for some guy and maybe it just didn't work out. So. Yeah, but we can both acknowledge that's a trauma response. It is. Yeah. And in as much as I think men should work on our trauma responses, women need to work on theirs as well. It is a trauma response, because if you really like cooking and eating, like I like to cook, I like to eat. Why would you want to do that with somebody that you're getting to know or you enjoy being around? You're actually withholding something from them that you actually like doing too. But it's the same reason why y'all, instead of wanting to go on a date or out to eat or something like that, you might want to say, why don't you come over and let's chill? Because you've done it before and it didn't work out. I agree. I agree. Yeah. So for me, for instance, before even the come over, let's chill, like a coffee date. I need to see if I even like being around you. Before you do the come over and let's chill? Yes. I need to see if you're crazy. Yeah. I need to see if you smell bad. You know what I'm saying? Like for me personally, because to your point, if you're a woman who actually likes to cook, I think it would happen naturally where like, let's say you and the dude are on the phone. You know what you're doing? Yeah. I'm just cooking a room. Like, oh, I just, you know what I'm saying? Like it would come up naturally versus if it's something that doesn't actually let you don't actually do. Yeah. Because you'd never be cooking. Yeah. And there's some women that don't like to cook, so. There's ain't the women for the traditional man who are watching this. That's nothing wrong. If she don't know how to cook. I mean, she just might not be culinary, she just might not know how to cook. I saw, I actually shared it on the channel, it was funny, it was an Asian ladies voice, but she said, you know, a lot of women say their moms didn't teach them how to cook, you know, and they don't know how to cook because their mom didn't teach them how to cook. She said, but your mom didn't teach you how to suck dick either, but you know how to suck dick. But she's still on the way to cook. So if you really want to know how to cook, especially nowadays in the information age, the internet, shit, there's step by step tutorials on YouTube. That's true. At your big age of 20, whatever, or 30, whatever, you would know how to cook. That's true. So that no longer is an excuse. If a woman at our big age doesn't know how to cook, she just don't want to. And I would assume me personally, she's just not a nurturing individual. Because cooking, the reason why people say the way to a man's heart is his stomach is because even during sex, nothing is entering the man. So literally to enter a man is through his mouth, his stomach. So if you establish yourself as where he wants to lay his head, it's going to be hard for him to like. I tell women all the time, listen, you want to be where he wants to come home to. Not where he wants to have fun. That's true. Give me some more questions.