 It's been nice hearing from who, Faith, she hosted one Tracy Molo who was talking about children or child parenthood, something like that, the teenagers who are parents and it's nice because that education is still needed now that most of our youths, most of our young people found themselves to be children, they are still children, they are still teenagers, but they find themselves being parents. So, I love the conversation, keep on doing what we are doing now, we are here to the main topic of today which is WCW, the discussion that will lead us to know whether what we should do when we are found in a balance where there is love and there is resources, you are in some class and somebody is in some class and then you find yourself loving each other, how should we go about it all together and with me here to help demystify this are two beautiful queens, young and beautiful, elegant, looking good, hope you can see, so you will introduce yourself, I know you are called Nadia, so you are going to tell us everything about your social media handles and everything. My name is Nadia Wanjiri Mungai, I am 24 years old, I am pursuing media as an occupation and also in school, I studied media, I am a cancer star sign and I am glad to be on the show today. I didn't get that last part, you are a? Cancer star sign. Cancer star sign, what does that mean? There is no madly horoscopes, so people are born between different months, so people who are born between May to around June or August are called cancer. So it's nothing to do with cancer disease? No, it's nothing to do with cancer disease, it has nothing to do with cancer disease. Welcome Mungai Wanjiri, I love the fact that you love your African name. Yes, I do. Nice, then this beautiful young soul here. Hi, my name is Karuki Mani, I am 22 years old, I did journalism and media studies and I am also a Leo, my star sign. What does that mean? What does that mean? Two people born in August. Oh, does that have anything to do with where you are destined to in life socially? Ya. Being a cancer, does that mean you will be somebody in future? Well, okay, it's mainly a make belief, where people believe maybe the way the moon moves or maybe the way your star sign is assigned to you is supposed to give a certain character. So like people who are in the cancer star sign have one character that is so defining, maybe cancer star signs, the ones I know are bold. So most cancer star signs are bold and they are very short tempered. Are you short tempered yourself? I've learnt how to manage my anger of recent style. You get angry very fast? I get frustrated very fast. What do you do, what do you react to that? These days when I'm angry I eat a lot of ice cream. What is the relationship between anger and ice cream? I feel like the frustration keeps getting less as I feel the cold in my teeth and the sweetness of the ice cream. So ya, it comes meet up. Oh. Ya. Or if not I run away from the situation where I am at, I don't speak things or say things that would come out as disrespectful. So somebody out there who is maybe looking at you as a potential future knows how to manage you. Exactly. The future is dark. Oh, the future is dark. I wrote about you with your live. What are your temperaments and all that? We say things the way they are, we don't hide. Oh. If Magdi you'll tell me on my face. To your face I'll tell you also. It's not cruel. It's not cruel. We have to accept things the way they are. Okay, let's get to the conversation of today. Is it possible, we start with you Nadia, that a very rich person, or let me just say rich, a rich girl because this girl is stuck. A rich girl and very poor. I don't want to call it that other name matter. I really struggle in man. Is it possible that they can get in love and really sustain it? Okay. In this scenario the lady is financially stable. Yes. You drive, whatever you want you get, you stay better, you are in a three bed room and still single. But this guy comes from a ghetto and from that ghetto he stays in some Magdi structure. Very dilapidated, when you look at it, you want to vomit, you see things, pass over. But you fall in love with this guy. Is it possible? Okay, first of all it would depend on how the person met the other person. Because you see this is what happens. Sometimes you get into a room and the energies that you exume, the way you are, you attract someone without them even planning for that to happen. Because I feel like for her to actually fall in love with someone from the ghetto. Probably when you meet in a place like this, you don't know where I'm from and I don't know where you're from. So unless until the person is honest, because you see when we meet I'll ask for your number and we'll talk. And then eventually now on the phone is when I will be able to exchange information like I'm so and so, this is what I do. This is what I'm into and whatever. And I know people who reach ladies. Ladies who are financially stable know what they want. Most of them know what they want. They know what they want in terms of love, in terms of education, career. So I'm sure if this person and the lady would sit down and have a conversation. It would be like I'm from the ghetto. This is what I do. And the lady would be like this is my life. Don't you think that can be a turn off if somebody you somehow liked somebody and then she tells you I'm from the ghetto. I stay with my uncle in the from the ghetto. Of course it's a turn off. But where people are is not where they'll stay forever. So you see maybe in the discussion that they have probably he'll say this is what I'm doing for work and maybe I've just begun. Then you'll ask where is your future headed? Because now that that place even for me is where it can determine if I'll really fall in love with you. Hold it there. Let's get what Karol thinks. Depending on if the guy is rich. Yeah, can you fall if you are you've made it in life? Can you date a poor guy? Let me just use that for the lack of better work. Yes, I think I can. It just depends on how I see the guy. You see, how is he, what is his take in life? Like five years to come. Is he planning for the future? Is he just there? Karol mnazani anga liya tu iwi alafu seme wu iwi in five years time ata kwa na do. Eh, kuna bili mtu anajiwa anga. How? How? Explain that. Kwa mnazani anga liya. Kikiwa na na fazia nini najiwa najiwa anajiwa anajiwa na do. Kama unangile yua future. Una seme in five years to come. I want to have done this. I want to have achieved this. And then there's a guy. Tu muko tuapu for the moment. You want to go to lunch ata wu angile. It's a future. Uko tuatu uju na taku kwa up in the next year. Bili unamajiwa mawa wili geto. Kwa me katu mahali. Kwa seme wu mingina kwa seme wu. Hey bro, hey. Uimaji tu na tembe ya tu mahali. Uka pek tu 5 million nimi. Uka tu mahali, uka pek. Na zafil naji. Kwa nafumu mingina na zafil. Hey mazena na zafil. Boa na zahenda nijengen. Na zahenda nibahigari. Nafumu mingina na muambia. Mazena sikili ya tu hiu dream. Sikili ya tu hiu dream iku heivo. Abes the kind of dreams that you want. Ano. I actually think kusema na pretenda. Ya. If the person kusema na pretenda kusema na maybe lack of capital or whatever might have an issue. But he is starting a business. He wants to be better. As a person who has money at that point, if I feel like you are respectful and if I feel like you are honest, especially that part of honesty, because if you come from the ghetto, most men will want to fake to the lady. That they are okay and everything. But if you come out and tell me, but there I like you and I'm from the ghetto, but I'm trying to make my life better. I'm doing one, two, three, four, five things. And this and this himengia na heiengia. Because kuna wale wa dilita Ivana. Two years later. Dil bado ina Ivana. Four years later. Dilisha chomeka. Umibati apuna pretenda. And I've noticed so many men who date ladies who are more financially stable and mocha. They moch off the women. Because now they say, ah, the woman will do everything. And you see women are very emotional. You invest in what you care about. Yes. If you show me direction like we headed somewhere serious, I will leave and tell you, since you started this business, you want to start this business. Let me give you 400,000. You start. Up on your, the guy disappear. What if he's just there, but he keeps on, let's give us this. He's just there. The guy is there, but after you've given him 400k, like he said, she said. She comes back. He comes back. I need another 200. I know. Oh, I need another. You know, a good business should start with a million or something. No. It can start with 2000. You can have a couple of 2000 and make it big. So, come on up to 200,000 and you're doing nothing about it. Say, leave you. Ah. But now living, where is the love now? If you just, you can just leave me that simply and say I just leave you. Now where is love? Where is the place of love? Love is not about just I love you and I love you and then we are not talking about the future. Say, leave you. We are talking, it's love and then we know how we are going to go our way forward. Is it that easy to live? Not yet. Personally, beggars are not choosers. I gave you 400,000 money that I worked hard for and I thought I could invest in you. And then you squander that and then you come and ask for more. Surely, don't you read the Bible? The guy who was given, there were these three people who were given riches. One went to bury the riches. One went and I think did for exchange because the Bible won't say for exchange at that time. Invested. Invested. And then the other said you know what, you've given me this so I'll keep it the way it is. So you know from there now I'll be able now to see are you really serious because that's giving the person 400,000 is like auditioning. He had taken audition now. Then if you create a mass the love becomes more. Why? Because you might love me you might respect me but maybe the way I want to be respected and there I want to be loved is not how you're able to do it. So you see if I give you that chance it's like trying to show you I want you to be the man inasmuch as I'm the man right now I want you to also be the man because you know Amman's ego is what has the whole scenario Like you see you want to pay my share you give me I don't have money so you give me the money exactly so that I'm the one who gives the condo. Exactly because I wouldn't want to be embarrassed I wouldn't want a case where we are together and then someone is like I'm the one who is mouching off of you but you see in that scenario you really have to be humble. If I'm to date someone who is lower than me and then I do that and then they maybe mishandle the money you really have to come back humble wash dishes and be eaten. The same Bible you quoted say that you guys need to be submissive really submissive so regardless of how rich you are and everything you really need to be submissive. Let me ask you a question. Let me ask you a question. Yeah. So that I can be submissive. Exactly. If you lead right I will follow without question. But you know it's not conditional that I should be doing something for you to submissive. But money will change me kaisusuali money will change me. Money attracts power attracts respect and attracts people who would never ever look at you twice true or false is the truth. Yes. Uki omosha to leo fulani ay it's been long should be fulani from primary school ay I remember you or fulani from where so I'm like if it's money that is making other people get to feel like they are so powerful even ay money will change me. Right now I'm Futsubishi. Once I get a VA it you'll see. You'll see. I have some statistics on how people accept people are close classes. Yeah. So we will see that in a few and we will decide we will decide they are let us have it. So this statistic says that they are classes like it was taken from some British something it was taken that there are people in different classes totally different classes and the class that loves most the lower class they are divided into working class there is there is working class there is middle class there is upper class and then there is under class so people in the upper class or let us start from the people under class so people from the under class say they they are not more likely to accept people from those other classes they want to be on their own as they are they want people from their same classes and then there are people from their working class working class are people first there is middle class there are people who are not really suffering about the poverty level yes and not really comfortable they can accept anybody from any other class yeah from the lower class or from the upper class they are working class there are people who are working for these people from the upper class and all that exactly theirs are just okay but the most interesting are people from upper class those who have really made it only about 42% of them would accept people from other classes exactly and this is about girls why do I get this notion that people from upper class girls are somehow selfish um you see for okay in normal scenario in our normal setting yeah usually the man is normally more empowered yeah financially but now you see for ladies it's one single single doubt ladies even within the media industry I wouldn't want to mention so many but you see people like Caroline Mutoko took a lot of time to gradually get to where they are our own Catherine Kassavuni took time to get to where she is so I think the things that you go through the male dominated society it's a man's world it's not cliche I used to think it's cliche when I was young I got older I understood there are struggles that a lady will go through to get to where she gets to and the ones that a man will go through are very different because in a ladies case there are other factors like probably their ages pregnancy when pregnancy comes and you know they get they have to be given leave and then come back again hormonal changes and all those factors and then also ladies are more fostered by their parents you know man uki fika 18 I won't be with Wendy but signs and vibes in the house it's like ah he talking in Asia okon na mi ambili you know it's never as we need you to pay token eventually most boys I see or most men when they get to 18 I'm going to stay with a friend one enda one enda so the struggle begins for them but for a lady I personally moved out with my mom not wanting me to move out I'm an only child and she was like why are you moving out but I felt like everything I needed I was being provided for until my uncles and aunties would even send money so you wanted to also for your audience so when I finished high school and I was now to get into I got a job a good job so when I got into university first year I was like if I have this job I need freedom now because I kept seeing my friends having freedom of going out and everything and I'm not actually that's why I moved out she's very liberal but my stepdad is so strict he wants things to be so this is what was pushing you to move out I wanted that financial independence so that I can prove to them that I don't need to be sheltered are you sure you only need that financial independence so you wanted freedom to be going clubbing they might be watching I'm going to whisper but you also needed that freedom because you see as an adult there are things that you are not taught by the school of life here so all in all I was like once you are guarded because ladies are normal so you can move out even when you are married because some ladies actually move out when they are married the man now comes to marry you now that's the time now you go so you see you don't have so much time to amass wealth but young guys hustle from when they are young and people who are focused in serious end up having so much money so now when you are a lady and you have money like that personally if I get to that stacha where I have enough money there are some things that will come in arrogance class you will have to limit the people you are talking to filter out some people because everyone will learn to be associated with if you have money okay Carol bring this to reality they are men you just told me that there are people who are promising of a promising future so however poor they are you can just date them but when you think there are people who really know how to fake it fake it till you think this guy has a great future have a friend who if you are near him they call that he make you can tremble oh ya ask he is kumali 2 million 2 million too small for me make it 5 and he puts down and sometimes he stories with you oh ya you got him at the garage how can you deal with those who fake it but he can fake it for long you fake it for a little short time and then you will know but there are people who will really like make you love them too much I was made to understand that you girls can be made to love till you don't want to live I'll tell you one story which girl I'll tell you one story a practical story of a lady who was married by somebody here in Nairobi this lady didn't know this lady promised that she cannot marry a married man she cannot be a second wife but she loved this man this man cheated that he doesn't have a wife kumbe there was wife at Ushago so when she came to Ushago she told her husband that she had a wife who was a second wife but she said that she already loved him too much but she didn't know how much she loved him is this true is there a lady love to an extent how much she loved him when he was married in afikanga please there are breaking points in afikanga I can't go on this guy maybe maybe I'm a fake it I'm a fake it until you know we can't go on until now it's over but in such a scenario I don't think you can love someone so much until you can't live them and maybe that's a psychological problem there are people who are battered they are in relationship and their men beat them like a pal but they can't live but nampenda nampenda nampenda nampenda nampenda I don't know there a psychological problem anymore but you are still not understanding they are not mentally ok as a human any of us are beside you're not see that relationship you just you just live What누 an advocate for mental health this is really mental but love So, can we blame love for this? Love makes people mental? Personali, I wouldn't blame love. I think in the process of love. You see, this generation has skipped a step in love called courtship. You see, our parents got to know to become best friends. Atakama, the dad walks out and goes out and does his things. There is still that best friendship in between. Because if someone is your best friend, you wouldn't want to hurt them. You wouldn't want to see them getting, you know, feeling bad mentally or feeling abused. But I've seen also, psychology says, there's normally, once the trauma becomes unnormal, it becomes like a bond between the abuser and the abused. Such that now the only thing that they can capture and have basis on is that torture. So that's why I'm trying to say, I unanchapa lakini sita nda, especially people who have children. Now if you remove children from the equation, many ladies are able to live. Unless now there is money. Because there are ladies who have realized, if there is money, you will beat me, you will cheat on me, you will, I am here like glue. There are several factors. There are several factors, not just money. Brenda told me three last time. She was talking about money when the wallet is so good. That one is the best. That one is done many ladies in this generation. When now there are looks, when there are looks, when the looks are so good, you are hearing it from us. You want children to be, you are children to be, those are our children. And then there is another one that I won't say. I will not say it, that other one. But they can make you stick no matter the situation. We hope that they will change. I think looks are for very young girls who are not into, you know when you get, when I was younger, I used to be like, I like light skin and this kind. Right now I prefer dark men of darker skin, alpha males. You see, when you, as you grow, you get to know what you want. And when you know what you want, when it comes to you, you are able to too. Because I don't believe someone needs to change for you. Karol, this was not a topic of today, but we can loop into it kidogo. Is loop anything for you? No, no. So you can get a monkey. So long as the monkey has money. No, he loves me, he respects me. Ya, but he's a monkey. You fear working with him in the public. Surapasono, lana ka uhu. Come on. Love is nice. You see, when you love someone, I see all the good qualities in you. Exactly. After tusha chanandyo nankani. I was still in that guy. What was I seeing? Kama uta fanya, kama uta fanya in ito X-ray. One around him zuri. Sayana kut treat. So kama puwa inakai, apopoto massivu. Ya, puwa nusi. You're so handsome. Personally, I prefer those men who are not as attractive. Because ugly face, good money, ugly face, good. Okay, not even ugly. Ugly is such a bad word to use. But not as attractive has depth. For me, I've noticed those guys who are not given that much attention. Because a guy who is good looking has 15 girls in his DM, but he loves you. But this, let me tell you once another lady wants your person. You are not stopping it unless the man is willing to stop. Because I tend to feel like if you love someone, the physical event stops becoming an issue. Because you see, I have seen ladies who are not as good looking as I am. But they are settled in such good marriages and you ask yourself, how come I'm better looking but this one is married? But people don't look at looks when they are settling down. They look at peace of mind. I've seen that meme going around, women are looking for peace of mind. We are not UNICEF, we are not UN, but okay. Peace of mind. No, that can just be one of the stories. Ya, you're looking for peace of mind. When you're settling with someone, you look for things that are deeper than looks. As I was looking up for this particular topic, I found what makes people belong to different classes. Sorry, what is occupation? Other is education and qualifications. So I want us to look a little about education. You are a graduate and some charming rich guy is a lead drop to a class 4 time 1. Can you love this guy with this academic dwarfness? I've been in a scenario like that. You have dated a nursery dropout. Okay, he wasn't a nursery dropout. But I was pursuing my degree and he had done a diploma. And I will kid you not, it was war. Because sometimes I would want to just correct something because of the basis of knowledge that I have. But because I'm trying to tell him this is how you do it, he feels like I am undermining what he knows. So in that particular question that you've asked, you know there are different types of intelligence. Just because you're not academically gifted, maybe you could be artistically gifted or any other type of intelligence. So it works but it has pitfalls. He might be street smart, he might be street smart, I might be book smart. Street smart and book smart is dynamic visuri. Because you will bring in the aspects of the realness of what is happening on the ground and me I'll bring in the theory. But it's normally a bit difficult, especially if you are more learned than the person and you impose it on them. Because you know I could be learned than you but because I respect you, I don't impose it on you that ah nimesoma you know. Kusoma people have degrees out here but they don't have jobs. Karol tell me what you think about this. I don't think education is a factor. It may be to others but it doesn't carry heavy weight because many people have made it in life that have noted gone to school or they haven't achieved those high academic levels. Karol imagine this scenario, you have gone to introduce him, kufamili yain, alafu aribuki zungu, aribuki zungu apu, I am loving liha. This lady of yours is very gorgeous, I love liha. So aribuki zungu tupuku, kufamili mi tingivu, don't you think? Akisha kujana gari na niya tanata kujaki zungu yake. Oh, hey, hey, hey. So gari features and all that is solid weight. And then also English is not a standard for intelligence. I've noticed but it's only Africans who try to make it look like, oh, knowing English is such a big thing. You have just told me that you tried correcting somebody and you got mad at you for correcting her. Wef English is nothing. Why then do you even correct him? Because the people you are going to present this man to probably are not even as good or as eloquent in English because I believe you could look at, I'll use my people. Lowers know how to speak English so well. I'm not saying that others don't. But even if you find a low on the street, he will pandemonium for you. Yeah, we are lugubrias, the twins language. So you see exactly. And they don't necessarily have to have gone to school. But there is the school of life. Have you gone to the school of life? Do you know how to deal with situations? Can we jump out from this bad scenario to a better scenario? If you are able to be objective, then your education is not a big issue. The parents factor here. You love somebody who is of really low class. They are familiar compared to your family. They still live in grass-touched house. You live in a mansion net. You are at Rona. So many. But they are from Kibura or Madari slums. Then parents say no. How do you handle that? Iwa ni gomu Like ni, I guess I'll try to explain why To the parents You explain to them Why this is the guy for me? Most of the time they insist no, we have got a good guy for you There is a son of CEO somewhere that is at best with you You are not going to bring this rug in this house We are not going to bring this rug in this house We are not going to bring this rug in this house How do you want to know the parents equation and cross class love? Okay, I don't think I can marry a guy that my parents Wama kata I don't think there is a way to that But nesa, jumma kata wyu, give me the freedom to look for another guy But don't choose for me who I am going to marry So you are saying you can leave somebody You really love because parents have said no I guess I can I wouldn't I guess I can because they are blessings And I don't think I can stay in that marriage Because you did their blessings I did their blessings Personally I believe my parents are very liberal But say if they were strict like that Apparance happiness should be your happiness And that I am an adult and probably maybe I am not in your house Or I am not under your care anymore I am able to make sound decisions But also if the parents speaks on character Because you know they have been there and done that So probably they can foresee things that I am not able to foresee What I can do is bring reasoning Ask them, this person makes me happy Isn't that what you want for me This person is working towards this one, two, three, four, five things In short I would tell my parents Mpe probation I prove to you people That he is doing Because for me he is proof to me If it's too much I am able to go against my parents Why? Because if your blessing is what is needed so much And you don't want to give me blessing for my happiness If we are able to go out and have good finances My grandparents can bless me, God can bless me What if they disown you You'll just go with the guy Personally right now the way I live my life I don't live my life like I live my life like I've been disowned Because in truth you are alone You are on your own But you can you have people to seek You have people to seek support Because I know if my mum is so adamant I can talk to Shoshu You see that's how That's something this generation doesn't have If you are wronged by someone from another part Go and look for another adult who is within the same age gap And try and explain to them your point of view Like I can really like this guy, this, this The way they will go and put it to your mum Will be so different from you Because if you keep on talking they'll think you're rebelling But if you talk to someone who is a bit older The way they'll approach the whole scenario Will be so different and you might even get help I have a friend who really invested on a boyfriend This guy was a mshamba In fact we'll talk about that in a few I'm a mshamba man, I do anything I'm a talk a village And then this lady was from town And this guy was poor, this lady was rich And then after kuchanuka Moka kidogo kidogo Wakachana Nakamuwacha Can you react as bad as that lady Called Karodin Kangogo How did she react? How was can you do? What is the worst that you can do After investing on somebody And then he works Or he takes a walk maybe with your friend I don't think I can go to the extent of killing the guy But I can't sue the guy Sue? How? You go to court and say I spend on this guy And now telling the court Telling the court What do you want What ruling would you want the court to do To compel this guy to come back to you or something No, I take back my money And everything The man is not there He has eaten it, he was thin And now he is fat How can you take back that money I guess I can just leave you I don't know this No rest for the weekend No rest for the weekend I don't know what I can do You don't know You've never imagined, that's what I was saying You were too young for life You've never seen so many things in life I've reacted before Yes, you've been in such a scenario? Yes, I have You invested somebody then? Yes, he was richer than me He was more financially disabled than me But at some point He was doing So he had a bit of financial woes And I decided we start a business together So I was earning money So I bring in half the amount And he brings in half what's supposed to buy a pikipiki And have an extra business Then he cheated And when you cheat me, I don't take people back When you cheat So when he cheated, I felt And he liked his peers He had to play station I just put one inside water And the other I poured oil inside Look at you Because you know the frustration Of trusting someone And I don't want drama You men are very strong So I did that and I text him and told him I've done this If you're going to go to the cops to ask them for insurance Even me I'll ask for my love back Don't you think she overreacted? I think she overreacted What did you do to the pikipiki? Because he used the money to fix his engine An engine that he had already been told By the man at the garage That it's not able to be fixed That he should fix it It will give the car three months mileage He sells it to someone else It becomes someone else's problem Don't you think dialogue could work Just dialogue You sit down and say I invested this Can we have a half half Before you went on to take water You are having ten conversations with yourself There is your subconscious There is your good side There is your bad side There is you sitting there and feeling like this person Even if I talk to them They will not understand the frustration So when he saw the PS and everything He also got very frustrated And I was very happy to see that He also felt the frustration That is what is called sadism You feel good when somebody feels bad At that moment I just wanted to equal The frustration I had Because I was like Some people are like walls Nothing can go through them So I was like So when I did that he got alarmed And he actually came We had dialogue after So it's drama now dialogue Karol you know What made all this The problem with this man Not just man Can you be forgiving What do you think Was forgiveness an option here No, forgiveness was not an option But later after the dialogue Did you forgive him? Actually the dialogue was for me To explain that I'm sorry I reacted like that because I'm not raised like that Did he take him back? No, he knew he was gone In fact he was even like oh come pick your clothes And that picking of clothes is where oh I'm sorry I was like no Be with someone else when I was your person Means you are willing To risk this Seven months I got some guys I'm like I've given you Seven months for me was like ten years Because in that seven months there have been people When you get into a relationship is when The others come in Somebody said that If you are living a man because he is cheating You are lacking to a person living a country Because it's raining Don't you think Most men cheat How sure are you that your current is not cheating Or maybe you've not just Chitting is a whole Different thing but that you cheat And that I get to find out Oh they level the commandment Because if you are doing They level the commandment According to these people Is that we shall not be caught And the 12th is if you are caught Deny, deny I caught him I wouldn't call it Snoopy but I'm an investigative journalist So I will investigate by the time I'm coming to you I have even PDFs Of the screenshots of conversation And of the time lapses I want to advise this young lady You sing your example Carol I'm advising you as your elder brother Let the sleeping dogs lie Don't try to investigate What your boyfriend is doing Because if you have a fault finding You will definitely find that fault If you want to see something bad in me You will get what you want The same way they were telling people Visit every three months While you will ultimately get What you are looking for Can I do that so much No but that's a joke So if you The phone is there You are looking who they are There are people they save on app in US That you can have That you can put in your phone Or in his phone And then you call the calls Record that back to your phone That's what I did You land up crying Like that lady was crying during bonding Usually when you begin a relationship There's normally the same energy And then at some point when you start When I start to feel the inconsistency Is when now I'll do the investigation If it proves right This lady just left me I didn't even see the signs Usually ladies get the information And relax on the information Until you least expect it then they leave Why? Because you're giving the person a chance To see but I get your point of Not looking through things Because it hurts someone When you find out the information You feel betrayed You feel sad What you don't know doesn't hurt