 Hi, she was seven So today I'm going to make a video on two topics. Okay. The first topic is Equality now All these people in the comments on some of my videos, especially the men they're always talking about oh y'all have equal rights now so y'all have to pay and Everything should be split down the middle and equal and in the household and everything like that but There is a problem with that y'all and I'm not trying to say if your household is like that, you know You're wrong, but think about the effects of this in the future. Okay, if I Have a partner a man a woman You know straight gay whatever in my partner or my husband or my wife or whoever is equal to me and They can do everything I can do No more No less then why do I need them? Exactly, I don't need them now. You're saying okay. Well, what about what if you want them? What if you're very attracted to them? And what if they're like the best person ever? But you're only equal That's fine. Okay when that feeling wears off when you start to see You know their flaws and sometimes you get tired of them. They don't have any leverage, you know They can't say well, I do this well or I'm really, you know Superior in this because they're equal to you, you know, there's nothing that they can do that you can't do You know, so that's why the issues come in and then that's where a lot of you know Replacement comes in like okay. Well, I can replace you with somebody better somebody who's better Then you who has you know, you know, who's a little bit higher so I can look up to them so they can teach me something So, you know, they can take care of me when I'm in need, you know, there's there's no, you know Hand out to me, you know, this is this is sexy to me, you know, this is what I find appealing now because You know with you every month you're coming to me with your hands out. It's it's getting old You know, I want to go shopping. I see my girls, you know They get to do this and that because they have men who Support them and don't look for them when rent rolls around when when the rent is due they'll don't go looking for You know, so it might work in the beginning But as time passes and they see, you know, how other women are treated by their man How other men are generous towards their woman and they're still struggling with you or struggling with a man They're gonna get tired of that. That's gonna get old to them they're gonna start wanting more and One or two things that's gonna happen when they start wanting more and you can't give it to them They're gonna either go get it from someone else or they're going to become greater than you They're gonna outgrow you Okay, they're gonna be like, okay. Well, my man can't afford to buy me this this isn't that and I want this I've come to a point in my lifestyle where I want to have nice things on my co-workers at work have nice things I'm sitting here struggling with this guy I'm gonna, you know, I'm gonna go further my education and get what I need and then their man becomes the loser and the relationship Their man becomes subpar now. They're looking to upgrade. Okay. Now. They're looking to upgrade on a man because They can't do anything for them anymore and they're kind of holding them back in life and in lifestyle Okay, so that's why I always say it's better to get someone who can do something for you Who you can look up to who can teach you things who can teach you how to become better financially? You know, who can teach you how to you know Know certain things about You know getting ahead in your career if you have a career Somebody who could take care of you and you don't have to worry about sleeping with your boss or missing work Cuz your child is sick or sending your kid to daycare after school when you decide to have a baby You won't see him or her for but one or two hours a day because you're so busy hustling trying to pay have that rent That your man has his hand out for I'm telling y'all. This is not this is not a good life Okay, and anyone who lives that life. I see him I'm not I'm gonna tell y'all It is you know, sometimes people are in survival mode and they have to do things because they did things out of order They got married they had kids too soon. They weren't prepared So they have to deal with their consequence, but if you're you know, it's still in planning stages You haven't had children. You haven't gotten married and you have the opportunity to plan things out Plan it and make it so that you don't have to stick your kid in daycare for 12 hours Plan it so you can actually raise your own child Plan it so that you don't have to look down on your man Because now you've got promoted and you're in a higher position than he is and now he's not even turning you on anymore because He's beneath you. Okay Planet so that he's gonna grow Over you and you're gonna grow under him because you can't look up to a man With hand out. I'm just sorry. Okay. You can't I can't to me I would see him as a child or Or a little brother or someone I need to boss around and tell what to do because I'm obviously More financially and mentally superior than him if he can't get on my level That's all I'm saying. I mean that might not be the truth, but that's how I'm going to feel about the situation That's I'm gonna feel about him. I'm gonna be like, you know what? You don't know what you're talking about. You're just this you're just that, you know, I have this title I'm a this I'm a that, you know, your opinion is not valuable to me anymore because I'm higher than you So when you get someone equal make sure they have You know guaranteed guaranteed not Just hopeful potential but guaranteed potential like you know Like they're about to pass the bar or they're in their residency or something like that Not, you know, oh, I want to be a rapper. Oh, I want to be a basketball player Or oh, I want to start this new business and I have these all these ideas every two weeks I have a new idea of how to get rich. No, you need to be on your way Guaranteed with a job lined up. Okay? Otherwise that potential is only potential. It's not gonna help you or your kids your future generations or anything It's not gonna help you you have to be on your way there about to step through the door Okay, or already there so Ladies, I know y'all are all about love and manners like what happened to the love the love is always gonna be there because two people Can love each other and they can figure out how to be close to one another but What two people can't do is? Secure their future generations if they're always struggling. Okay, this is not about now This is not about you. It's about your future and your future offspring, you know Would you rather be with somebody? Oh, you were just so in love with he makes your heart go pitter-patter And then it wears off in about seven years and you're stuck with someone you have to struggle with and your children don't have anything you know when you when you die and You lived life because you followed what you thought was right and you struggled with someone and now your kids are gonna suffer for it No, that's not right and that's not fair if you're good if you decide that you're gonna be with a man and struggle do not have kids Do not have kids. Why because they're gonna be mad at you when they grow up and they're wanting certain things and you can't get it for them You know, they're gonna look down on you. They're gonna say, okay. Well, how come this kid could have it and I can't why you know Why do we have to struggle? We didn't ask for this life, you know So playing your playing your stuff ahead playing the kind of man you want playing the kind of woman you want don't just Follow your heart follow your brain follow your follow your mind and your heart. Don't just follow your heart because that That's not wise. It's kind of foolish, you know That's why you have both a brain and a heart so that you can use logic and you can use You know your emotion, but you never let your emotion make a decision you always Think about it with your mind after That feeling has passed because we all know feelings are temporary But ideas are not okay thoughts Often our plans for your future and you can't build a future on oh He gives me butterflies. He makes me feel good You can't plan a future on that and your kids aren't gonna understand that when they're looking up at you Wondering why they only see you for two hours a day They don't understand that so Just tell me all before y'all start Joss families If y'all already have a family to rethink it if you're in the market for a new spouse new mate Rethink it. Okay Do what's best for your future not what's best for your your emotions Because those are temporary and those don't last forever and next week you're gonna be feeling something different. Okay Okay, so the next subject. I'm gonna cover is okay. Someone asked me a question. Okay. What if you're in love with someone? Deeply in love and they don't call you for two weeks Well, they don't love you okay, they're obviously doing something else with someone else if they haven't called you in two weeks You love them more than they love you They know this that's why they don't call you because they know as soon as they decide that they have some Time to spare for you that you will actually pick up the phone or text them back after two weeks They know this because they know you don't value yourself They know you will sit around and wait around for them because they know you love them more than they love you If they even love you at all You're like the person that is always gonna be there even if they do the worst thing to you You're always gonna be there because you have a Low set a low self-value to sit around and wait on someone for two weeks If it were me if you didn't call me back after two days I'm over you. I'm done. Okay. When I call If I'm important you're gonna answer me back within two days unless you're dead in the hospital if you're not dead or in the hospital Then it's pretty much over. Okay, and that's just I don't give people the benefit of the doubt because I know That if someone is calling me, I'm gonna get back with them in one or two days at the Longest, okay, even even my mother. I will call her back the same day If if anybody called me I'm gonna call them back the same day or the next day. Okay, and I will be stretching it to say I'm gonna call them back the next day that is rude and And it's it's it's not right. So if they don't call you back in the same day Unless they're dead or in a hospital or a coma Move on because that is a red flag and you cannot make any excuses for it There's no excuses you can make for somebody not calling you back. There's none. Okay, and I lost my phone I've been busy. Those are all excuses that are code for I was with somebody else I wasn't thinking about you. I only talked to you and call you when this other person is unavailable When they piss me off You are not my number one You are an afterthought That's what they're telling you. Okay Because you know if you love someone and you're a question on someone and you're dating someone as soon as they call you're like Texting them right back with some high leads and emoticons and sending pictures and gifts and all that stuff You don't wait two weeks to do that. Do you? Okay, so obviously they don't love you and they don't feel the same way about you So move on and stop making excuses for him. Stop trying to say, oh, how can I get him to pay attention to me? You can't he's not interested in you Okay, move on find someone who loves you or likes you or pays more attention to you than you do them That's that's the key. That's how you're gonna get the treatment that you deserve You can't go for somebody. You know, obviously, it's not gonna put you number one You got to go for somebody who's gonna worship you you got to go for somebody who's gonna buy you stuff Who's gonna say, hey, I love you. I want you to be happy here. What do you need? What do you want? Can I help you? You know Can I take you out? Can I buy you lunch? Is there anything you need for me to do? I love you heart a emoticon smiley You know morning text evening text. Good night. I love you This is how you know he wants you and it's interested in you. Not. Oh, I was busy. Oh, I couldn't get to the phone Oh, I was swamped with work That's just not true. That's just excuses and if you fall for them you deserve what you get because Actions speak louder than words. Okay. All right. I'll see y'all later Oh, one more tip because it's almost Valentine's Day. If you get an invitation to go out Prior to Valentine's Day This weekend decline it because you would afterthought You weren't the first choice and obviously their first choice did not come through So if you hadn't asked you to be as Valentine's by now Decline to be your own Valentine's. Okay. All right. See y'all later. Bye