 What is a narcissist and what is narcissistic personality disorder? What is up everybody this is Chris from the Rewired Soul where we talk about the problem but focus on the solution and welcome back to another video where this week I am diving into different mental illnesses and today I want to talk about narcissistic personality disorder. Now I am thinking about doing more videos around this but real quick little rant like it bothers me that so many people like there's a stigma around narcissists right and like we have to understand like mental illness is mental illness is mental illness it's kind of like when we look at addiction right like it doesn't matter if they're a heroin addict or if they're an alcoholic like it doesn't matter if you struggle with depression or if you struggle with narcissistic personality disorder these are all mental illnesses and at some point we have to try to develop some compassion like most people who are narcissists don't like being narcissists so do me a favor do me a favor this is my buddy Ryan Liberty. Ryan Liberty is a fellow mental health YouTuber and he has a ton of videos a ton of videos on different personality disorders he's very well versed in narcissistic personality disorder and he has so much empathy for him and he's been doing a lot of videos about relationships and he's actually been affected by narcissists in his life so for a guy like him to still have love and compassion for people who have hurt him just because he understands they're struggling with a mental illness like that is amazing and I think he is such a great example and such a great role model so please please please if I have ever provided you with any value on my channel go check out his channel give him a subscribe say I sent you over and check out his videos about narcissists personality disorder um he also does a lot of videos about how to deal with them and stuff like that but he's been doing a lot of relationship videos so I've been trying to get him to come do a guest video over here but he's a really busy guy so maybe he'll come uh help me out when I do my relationship week all right but anyways so today we're going to be using this little guy all right this is the diagnostic statistical manual so those of you who do not know what this is the DSM 5 this is what doctors therapists psychiatrists this is what medical professionals and mental health professionals use to diagnose mental illnesses so we're going to go out of this book and read the nine symptoms of narcissistic personality disorder now quick disclaimer I'm not a therapist I'm not a doctor chances are if you're watching this you're not either so if you can relate or identify to these symptoms there is help there is treatment available so talk to your therapist talk to your doctor if you do not have a therapist yet go ahead and check out the info down below in the description I'll put a link to better help better help is affordable online therapy basically you fill out a little questionnaire they link you up with a licensed professional who can help you out understanding what you're going through and they can help you on a path towards healing so like I said it's very inexpensive so if you need help with your mental health go ahead and check out the link to better help in the description below all right but let's jump into it so in order to be diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder you need five or more of these symptoms so symptom number one has a grandiose sense of self-importance so this is somebody who thinks like they think they're better than everyone right and like this is something like by the way I didn't include this in my rant but we throw around the word narcissists like all the time just all the time all will and nilly right but this is somebody who thinks they're above everybody else okay a lot of self-importance all right symptom number two is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success power brilliance beauty or ideal love all right so they they have this these ideas or they're so successful they're so great everything is awesome um and they think very very highly of themselves they puff their chest out a lot right now um something I need to do more videos on but Ryan has some on it like a lot of it comes from insecurities for very good reasons all right so symptom number three believes that he or she is special and unique and can only be understood by or should associate with other special or high status people or institutions so these are people like man this is something that a lot of people struggle with in general like even if you're not a narcissist like you might be able to identify with some of these symptoms but people they believe they are so unique and so special nobody understands them nobody gets them like oh no I'm not a narcissist you just don't get it you just don't get me you just don't get the the path I'm on you don't get my greatness and like they believe that they should be part of certain social circles and it kind of leads into some of these next symptoms about entitlement all right so symptom number four requires excessive admiration so it's always me me me me look at me look at me like this is a person where you're having a conversation with them and maybe you're saying like something you accomplished or you had a great day and they're one up in you right like they want you to love them know how great they are you know what I mean all right so symptom number five has a sense of entitlement all right so it gives an example it says unreasonable expectations of especially favorable treatment or automatic compliance with his or her expectations so like everything should be the way they want right very entitled when things don't go their way they can snap they can lose it like you need to treat me like the king or queen that I am all right everything I am owed you know what I mean so symptom number six is interpersonally exploitive all right takes advantage of others to achieve his or her own ends so like this is another reason why the word narcissistic is thrown around everywhere like some people are just bad people okay some people are backstabbers liars manipulators and stuff like that but narcissists will use and abuse people okay they will they will try to use you as an end to their means all right so symptom number seven lacks empathy is unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others so like when you're sitting when you're propping yourself up on this type of pedestal like you don't care who you're walking all over or who you're affecting or who you're making feel bad again this is that that sense of entitlement so maybe being at a restaurant and freaking out on the waitress or something like that and you're just belittling them you know what I mean and you're not connecting with the fact like this this feels bad this makes people feel bad but you don't care because you're owed so much all right so symptom number eight is often envious of others or believes that others are envious of him or her so this is the type of person who's always like who believes that all the haters out there they're just jealous they're just jealous they wish they were made they're just jealous I'm beautiful I'm great I'm awesome I'm successful and all these other things and it's kind of a delusional thought but on the flip side of it they might also be a hater too where if anybody is above them they figure out ways to kind of uh you know make point out all their flaws and their mistakes you see what I'm saying so they are the the all great all powerful and all everything like that so symptom number nine shows arrogant hofty behaviors or attitudes all right so like this it's it's this it's more than confidence right it's that cockiness okay because I'm so great I'm unique I'm special and all this other stuff so like it's this extreme arrogance like you can just see it like or feel it exuding right that they're much better than everybody else and they can get whatever they want and all these other things all right so like again those are the nine symptoms but you gotta realize like again narcissists don't like being narcissists most of them push friends push family away you know it's hard for them to maintain relationships because sooner or later people figure it out and it's very hard you know what I mean and part of this personality disorder is never thinking that you're at fault so this is why working with a therapist is very very beneficial because you start to catch yourself and understand what's happening things like dialectical behavioral therapy can help when you acknowledge the thoughts or the feelings that are running through you and then you have the chance to switch so you can start to respond rather than react to situations and it starts to help you foster better relationships with other people as well as better relationships with yourself so if you can identify with some of these symptoms and if you feel like it's hurting your life and your relationships again go talk to a doctor talk to a therapist check out the description below if you're interested in checking out better help all right but before I let you go again do me a favor and go check out ryan liberty's channel I will leave it down in the description as well in the comments below like go check out his channel show him some love go subscribe educate yourself and understand what it's like to be empathetic towards people who struggle from any mental illness no matter what all right but I would also like to hear from you so if you have any comments if you feel like you've struggled with this or you've been diagnosed with this or you've interacted with any like I do want to start getting some feedback on this because I really do want to make some videos about how we need to start empathizing with people of all sorts of mental illnesses all right so make sure you leave a comment down below okay but that's all I got for you today if you like this video 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