 Hey, thank you so much. All right, let's go swimming, let's go swimming. Suzette writes, question, when do you know it's time to take your profile down from a dating app when you start seeing a guy more than the other ones you like more? You know, I'm gonna share with you my personal feeling on this because everybody has their own choices here. You know, I'm gonna share something with you folks. The minute I'm flirting with someone on these devices and we have a scheduled meeting, I then disengage with flirting with other people after I've met them. If I've met the person and I wanna see them a second time, I disengage flirting with anyone else. I disengage flirting with anyone else. And if I see someone a second time, I definitely start to not look at my apps as frequently. And if I wanna see someone a third time, it's usually because I wanna explore something with them. If I wanna see someone three or four times, then that's the time for me, just Jonathan Asley, where I deactivate my accounts because I don't want the distraction. The problem is it's very addictive. It's very addictive to go, ooh, you get a ping. Oh, wow, she's kind of, wow, she's way cuter than the one I'm talking to. Oh my God, well, shit, well, what am I gonna do? Well, should I talk to her? And should I keep talking to her? Because I don't know if she likes me and all this folks. I'm a believer that two people within a three week period of time can figure out if they wanna explore a relationship if they happen to live in the same town. And so I would prefer to disconnect from the dating app sooner rather than later. That's just the way I operate. Now, I know many of you are being counseled not to do that. In fact, many of you are being counseled the exact opposite. They want you to do what's called duty dating. They want you to do what's called circular dating. And what that means is dating multiple men at the same time and let the cream rise to the top. Here's the problem with that methodology. A, it's exhausting. B, you can miss things through the cracks. But C, and the most important thing is the reason why that advice is given because it's helping you avoid getting attached to someone. Here's the problem. If you have a problem getting attached to the wrong people, dating multiple people won't solve that. All that will do is fuck it up even more. It muddies the water. I was talking to a woman once who listened to one of these coaches that, you know, advocates circular dating. And she said, she realized that she was missing things because she couldn't remember what this guy said and what this guy said and what this guy said. And things were slipping through the cracks. You can't be a good detective if you're working on four homicide cases all at the same time, homicide cases, I'm using that. But think about it, when a detective is working a case, it's one case at a time. And that's my invitation for you to do the same. So for me, the minute I like someone, I like to disengage because I just don't want to get distracted by other people. Who agrees with me? If you agree with me, give me an amen. If not, then I'd like to hear your thoughts as well. All right, let's keep going. Let's keep swimming, let's keep swimming, let's keep swimming. All right, what's going on? Question, post the word question or purchase a super stick or super chat. That makes it easier for me to find. Oh, here we go, chain pieces. Question, what do you do when you've been messaging someone for a few weeks yet they're still active on match? Ask him out on a date, say, hey, I'd like to take you out for coffee is Tuesday or Thursday good for you? Get off of this and get in face to face. But Jonathan, he lives 4,000 miles away. Well, then fucking get on a plane or have him get on a plane, but stop fucking around. It's not healthy to spend a lot of hours before you meet someone because here's what happens is seven out of 10 times you can spend hours upon hours and actually never meet each other. Or you spend hours upon hours, you meet and there's no attraction for one of you or you spend hours upon hours of hours and one of you likes you but the other one doesn't. So cut to the quick much sooner. Use my method three, two, one, three, okay? Three means no more than three email or text exchanges should lead to no more than two telephone calls that should lead to one date all in a three week period of time. But Jonathan, there is no buts. Day people who live in your neighborhood or relatively close where you can actually invest in one another because it's hard enough to build a relationship when you live miles apart from each other and it makes it even more doubly challenging when there's distance because there's children, there's work, there's your exercise regimen, there's your friends, your family, all of these things make it more complicated. But Jonathan, if we love each other, magic fairy dust will make it work. What fucking magic fairy dust ladies are you buying? Love doesn't make a relationship work. Compatibility makes the relationship work. Love is the icing on the cake. Compatibility is the most important thing. Shared values, blendable lifestyles and emotional maturity. So stop fucking around, having hours and hours and hours and hours and hours and hours and hours and hours of conversation. Cut to the quick, do the sniff test to see if you like each other. Then you can start investing on the telephone. Three, two, one, three, use it. All right, I hope that helped. Thank you so much for that question. I really appreciate it, Jane P. All right, we're gonna take one more question.