 I want to lead the conversation, I want to talk about what I want to talk about, make sure it's fun for me, if it's fun for me, I'm cool with it, we can talk about that. So she says something and she starts talking about, I don't know, sex positions or something. And I'm like, no, we're talking about dolphins, I'm a leader here, right? If it's something good, I'm gonna let it flow and let it roll with it a bit, you know? So it's the same thing with the vibe and all that shit. But I was going, we had a couple of different things here, so I'm kind of going a little bit off topic. With, I want to go back to some more examples of the opportunity stuff. So remember I was talking about, oh, I go to try to lead her. She says no, that's one example. The other one I use is when I was trying to approach her. And for me, that's an opportunity when I was talking about the Irish girls and stuff like that. Another one is like, I think something that occurred over the weekend with one of the guys and I was like, no, this is not the way to think about it. This is not the way to think about it. Is what he was using is he was using the end of the reaction, the end of the interaction as an indicator of how well he did, right? I'm like, dude, you are not gonna fuck every girl you approach. So everyone would suck then, right? So how can, how should I look at this stuff for me here, right? It's like, who knows what happens in between there, all this stuff in between. But it's like, you can't look at that as like, okay, reframe. How can I use this? What did I learn from this, right? Ultimately, what did I learn from this? What did I take away from this? So an example where that could happen is you go like, hey, let's go over here, or you're talking to her, here's a great example. You're talking to her and all of a sudden she says, I need to go find my friends. Most guys when I hear, or even me, like still sometimes, she's like, I gotta go find my friends, you're like, shit, all right, well, nice meeting you, cool, boom. But it's like, no, you gotta go find your friends, cool, where are they? Let's go find them, boom, again, that's like an opportunity for me. One example, I had one guy, he was texting a girl. So he got the number and they're texting and shit. And she's like, what did she say? She said something like, I bet you would, fuck off or something like that. And he's like, so I got that text and I deleted her number or something like that. And I'm like, dude, she's trying to flirt with you. And so he, because his reality is so women are negative, this is a negative place, fuck this shit. He perceived it in the negative, in the wrong there, right? As opposed to the positive for me, I'm like, she's trying to flirt with you. Another example, it happens all the damn time. Guys have an issue of what the definition for hooking is. So they're in there and they're thinking, okay, is this going well enough? Did it hook? So I had a guy on the program, he's like, it never hooked, it never really hooked. I was like, dude, you were talking to her for 45 minutes. Like it hooked, I'm like, what do you think hooked? And she's like, that's what hooking is or something? No, for me it's like, she opened, she's standing there. As long as she's standing there, things are moving forward, right? So it's always like, what is your criteria there? What is your criteria? What are you framing it on? Cool, so side tangent there, what I want to keep on going for as I look at the time here a little bit is kind of the rest of the year. So like I said, for me, the last two months have really been focused heavily on fucking this product thing here, which like I said, it comes out on Thursday. So I've been working nonstop, probably 12, 14, 16 hours a day. And what's been really cool this year is the productivity, like how much productivity has increased. So I think a couple things with it, if I look at it from the business standpoint, and also the pickup one too, it kind of annoys me but really what happens is you really just have to have your backup against the wall a little bit. So I think when everyone gets into pickup, you need to have that drop moment. For me, it was like I had the eight year relationship with some girl. All of a sudden that ends and I'm like, fuck, I don't know what the hell I'm doing. I need to figure out some way to find something to do. Let's look at this pickup shit and that's kind of how I got into it. Same thing with the business, like I said, I was fucking gallivanting around Buenos Aires for way too long. And also I got home and I'm like, fuck, I'm living with my parents. I gotta make some shit happen, right? So I noticed that kind of side of it. And also I think a lot of guys, when they get into any sort of motivational thing, they're driven by stress. They're driven by a lot of insecurity and scarcity. Which I think cool, it's probably some of the most successful people in the world created that success because they got something to prove. They're proving to their dad who never said I love you that I am special, I'm significant, right, or something like that. It's like great, you get a lot of stuff done, you can be very motivated, successful that way. But for me, the way that things have been happening over the last six months, we've just been like fucking super enthusiastic and super jazzed about it, right? It's like I'm having a lot of fucking fun this entire time. I'm like, doing some more video editing, ha, ha, ha, ha. Here we go, here we rock. And it comes down to probably the second most influential book that I've read is Nathaniel Branden's, The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem. So they're looking at how self-esteem kind of fuels everything and feeds everything in my life and how it's all really synchronized well together. So I think from everything, like I said, the gym has been a huge, kind of a really enjoyable thing for me this year. Public speaking's been a thing I've been working on a lot. But also just like the business stuff, as well as the girls, of course the girls. Like I said, the girls are always there, like the girls have to be there, I'm a fucking pick up coach, right? So when I'm doing each one, there's this awesome synergy, right? And I was like, I'm in the gym, so I'm in the gym and I'm like, bitches, bitches, dollars bills, dollar bills, dollar bills. And what it is for me, it's like the synergism of like working on the synergism that kind of sounds funny, that's weird, very fucking juvenile right now, I don't know why I thought of that. But so on all levels, you're like, working this shit, working this shit. And also for me, willpower, willpower is a huge thing, right? So when I'm in that gym and I'm like, okay, rep number eight. I'm like, fuck it hurts, do I push it, do I push it? Like, do you want to talk to that hot girl at the bar today? Yeah, do it, right? And then I'm in the gym or then I'm in the club and I see that hot girl. For me, when I see this girl, I'm like, okay, I see her. And it's not so much about me thinking, I want to get this girl. I see her and I'm like, do you want to be a millionaire? Yeah, and I go up to the girl, right? Cuz for me, that willpower is the same. That's the same willpower where I'm sitting on my computer and I'm about to hit the tab to go to Facebook, do you want hot bitches? Stick to this shit, right, yeah, right? So it's all synergistic, it's like the willpower. I'm eating my fucking paleo, whatever, diet primal, blueprint-style diet since we're 21 convention, I love that type of shit. So I'm in there, I mean it. I love putting the bread right here. I'm just like, fuck you, bread, fuck you, bitches, right? It's all like fucking synergistic, right? So I'm looking at all these things and it's all like really fucking coming together, like fucking awesome this year. And when you can really align things properly, one, I think most guys, they don't even know what their values are, right? They're just in there going through life, living the shit. For me, my background's a great example. I was full locked into the rat race for the first 25 years of my life, right? I got a master's degree in microbiology, started medical school, had the eight-year girlfriend, she's in law school. And I'm like, yes, 2.5 kids, white picket fences, haha. My parents are so happy that I have a noble profession doing all that shit. Then all of a sudden I'm like, no actually, I'm gonna be this pickup fucking get STDs, right? No, it was like total opposite, so I just went the total opposite way, right? I think most guys are so locked into that fucking, what do people think of me? What do people think of me? What do people think of me? That side of things, instead of like shunning all that. And I'm consciously aware of how that comes back on different levels. Like all of a sudden, I got the fucking product coming out. I'm sweet, coming into some cash, I think I need a new car. It's like, no you bitch, you don't need a fucking car. You're on the road 300 days a year. You really need the status symbols, all that shit. So it's always like it comes back again. Or even the same thing with the hot girl. It's like, how many times do I get the hot, literally every time I get the hot girl? What do you do before you leave the club? You walk or past your friends, haha. See you guys later, right? You gotta do that shit, right? I know I do that shit cuz of fucking ego bullshit. So the more I'm aware of it, the more I can fucking hide that shit. I would say it's like, you know when you're snowboarding? I used to snowboard a lot. It's like, you don't wanna do the fucking rodeo five or some shit when no one's watching and then you break your collarbone. It's like, at least if somebody sees it, they're like, oh shit that was fucked up, right? So it's the same thing with like the pickup shit. I'm like, if you're out solo, I mean I've done solo a lot and actually I love it and some of the best stories I have are solo. So it's like the own visuals I have in my brain are amazing. But then it's like, no one saw it, so it's not as cool. And again, why do I have that? Social conditioning, ego bullshit, I have my own little fucking things that I know I'm working on. And I always say even with the pickup shit, it's like I don't even have that strong of a sex drive. I just say I do it because I know no one else really can. So I'm like, fuck you guys, fuck you guys, whatever. So I know that's not the healthiest place to be from, but at least I'm conscious of how, why, what is my drive here, right? What is my drive? What is my focus? And I think for me one of the biggest kind of life philosophies that I deal with is I never wanna live life in reaction to something unconsciously, right? So if I know consciously, I can look at it like, cool, why do I actually have these drives to be really significant, to be really successful, stuff like that? Deep down, if I go really far enough down, I joke about it, but it's probably because my dad is like, we have a great relationship, but it's kind of stale. It's like, he's never son, I'm so proud of you, I love you. This shit's never happened. So I'm sure on some level I'm like, I'm doing it for dad, be significant, all this shit. It's like I see that drive there and then I look at it from the outside. So I'm like, cool, I'm consciously aware of it here. Why do I like this? Does this give me what I want in life? So what do I want in life? Cool. For me it's always like the trifecta, it's like, bitches, money, and being jacked. Like health, kind of traveling, that's kind of like the outlier there a little bit. So it's like, how do I get more of that? Why do I like that? Why do I want more girls? I don't know. It sounds cool. I'll roll with that one. Why do I want the fucking Porsche or some shit? That's a bullshit one. Like for me that one, I look at that, you know, that's just like the fucking show off to my friends. I don't need that shit out there. I see that in that drive, whoop, once you're aware of it, once you're conscious of it. A lot of times it just kind of disintegrates away. Like the emotional anchor kind of goes away. So then I look at like, why do I like travel? For me that one's like, it's obvious. It's like, for like raising consciousness, seeing other cultures. The main reason I'm going to China is being American, the China-American relations. I'm like, oh, interesting. I have a little bit of prejudice here. Let's check it out myself and then see how I feel about it, right?