 All right, hey, good art, hey, can you hear me? Oh yeah, can you hear me or no? Yeah, yeah, you're on, you're on. What's your question? Great, well, I didn't have a question per se, but I did wanna say a few things. Thanks for letting me back on again. Thanks for the book, I finished it today. Which book? What the heck is self-love anyway? I started- Whoa, whoa, whoa, let's give a pitch to everyone. She's talking about my book, what the heck is self-love anyway? Journey of Personal Development, self-opening spiritual work, link below. Okay. So I have the paper back, but I listened to it because I do better with that. Okay. Anyway, it was fantastic and thank you. And it also lines up with a lot of teachings that I study, you know, I really appreciate it. Anyway, all right, I don't have a question. I accept, I could tell you where I'm at in my life now. Okay, well, first off, since I may use this video, why don't you give everyone the backstory? By the way, a concise backstory, because you know what a dick I can be when you guys ramble and you guys have this, you ladies have this incessant way of just talking gibberish and we have no fucking clue where you're going. And then we're like trying to make sense of it all because it's like noodle soup, you know? So anyway, so give us the backstory. All right, there is no, the backstory is very little. I recently had a home disaster, my house flooded and I'm in a condo association. So in the process of mitigation and whatnot, a maintenance person has come by a couple of times and I'm like, man, he's so nice and so pleasant. Man, those handymen get laid a lot. Okay. I'm just telling you, I mean, I gotta tell you, I'm a coach, I talk to hundreds of women. I would say hundreds of clients a year work with me and I gotta think at least 5% they're doing it with the handyman or contractor. Okay, so keep going. That's all, okay. All right, good info though. He's ex-military, probably not even interested in me. I just think he's really cool. And we only met a couple of times. So I found him online because I have really good sleuth skills and friend requested him and he accepted my friend request and we went on a hike together. And I was like, thanks so much for, you know, putting up with my creepiness because I did look you up and excuse me. Anyway, I guess my question is, he's been single for a decade or better. And probably happily single, but we have a lot of stuff in common and I don't want to scare away but I don't want to lose contact with him. I keep checking in and being like, hey, like you say, how's your day? Blah, blah, blah. I don't want to do that. But I don't have interesting things to say every single day, but I do want like his interests and my interests are very similar and he's super pleasant. Okay, so I guess the question is, how do you take this from an acquaintance to something romantic? Is that kind of the question? Ish, over, yeah, a period of time. Okay, so, okay, why a period of time? Well, because I'm in no rush and I don't want to scare anyone away. I, plus- How old are you? I'm 40, almost 43 and I've been on here before. I have a couple of teenage daughters. I can't rush to- No, I just wanted to know. I mean, for all I know, you were a 60-year-old that looks good. So, I said, for all I know, you're 60 years old and you look really good. That was a compliment. You look really good, okay? That was the compliment part, okay? Okay, so here's my belief system. I don't, I believe, you know what? There's no time like the present, okay? So if you're simply looking to build a friendship with him- Yes. Then, then simply do things like go for walks or go for hikes together, go out to coffee together, go have a meal together, go to a museum together, do things, you know, you can offer to take him out, he can offer to take you out, you know? You know, it doesn't have to be, you know, you could simply say, would you be interested in a platonic friendship to spend time with each other? I enjoy your company, you enjoy my company. If you're waiting for the man to do that, you know, you're gonna become a skeleton, you know, because some men are just shy that way, some men are uncertain, some men don't want to make false promises. So if this is something you want, then initiate it. There's no cost to you. Now, I know you might be afraid of losing this tiny little sliver of a relationship that you do have. Okay, you have this sliver of a relationship, you're like, oh my God, I have to hold on to this little string and let it just keep going like this, but it just keeps getting thinner and thinner and thinner and thinner. I'm like, fucking just be bold, you know, be bold, you know, it's because what's the point? No, I appreciate that. I should be upfront because that is what I want in the short term is plus Sonic. Well, but now, but now, but if you have a long-term agenda, you know, with this guy, you're like, well, I want him, I want to be friends, but I want to become, I want him to become the one, then you're gonna have, you're gonna create stories in your head that's most likely going to be what's known as unrequited love. Okay, I want you to Google that later, unrequited love. Meaning you're gonna create all these fantasies and you've already created fantasies already. Probably masturbated to him already, you know, pulled out your vibrator and shit and gone off on him. Hey, I told folks, I'm here to call it the way I see it, okay? So... I've been a fan of yours for a few years. I know that this is not my... So this is the penance you pay for being on. So, but my point is, my point is, you know what? Here's the thing, doing the hard thing, let's face it, it's not easy doing the hard things. But when we do something hard, it's way more rewarding and maybe sometimes we get smacked in the face. In fact, I wrote a quote that's kind of apropos for this it says, some people come into your life to test you, some to teach you, some to use you and some to bring out the very best in you. I don't know whose quote that is, I'm gonna repeat that. Some people come into your life to test you, some to teach you, some to use you and some to bring out the very best in you. There's no accident we're having this conversation right now. There's no accident that you were brave enough to put yourself out there at this moment. So why not, you know, you don't have to do it tomorrow but when are you expected to see him again? I don't know, within the next week, I suppose. And in what circumstances will you see him? Probably one of us will say we're gonna go hike and do you wanna join? Okay, now why do you say probably? So you've built enough rapport that this has happened. Well, cause the only thing we have in common in this season is we both like to hike. Otherwise I work from home sometimes and I work in the office sometimes and he is a retired army vet and he's- Wait, you told me we had all these things in common. Now you're saying we only have one thing in common? Well, I'm saying like calendar-wise. Okay, got it, got it, got it. Yeah, personality-wise, we have a lot in common. Calendar-wise, you know, the only reason we got- Why don't you just kiss him and take it to the next level? Oh, wait a minute, I said kissing is sacred but it's not like he's a stranger but kiss him on the cheek. Give him a long hug. Give him a long hug. Got about that too. Actually, I thought about him giving me a long hug. But okay. Well, how about you giving him a long hug and then watch him squirm and freak out? And then he'll get a little rous and he'll get a little chubby. All right, my dear, well, did I help? Absolutely, always. Okay, we'll come back next week and let us know how it went, okay? Did that give you a big hug? Yes. Okay, thanks a bunch. All right, so Jonathan's fan has been on and she shared her story. You know, it's interesting. So to wrap up this conversation she and I just had, I recognize that there is a value into building a bit of familiarity with someone. And it'd be great. You build up that friendship. I mean, kind of Harry Met Sally, so to speak. What I'm concerned about is she probably already has a preconceived idea of what she wants this to turn into. And if that's the case, I would much rather you approach it sooner rather than later because what can happen is, as I said to her, a lot of stories can be made up in her head about him knowing that, not knowing whether or not he's dating other people, whether he's sleeping with someone else. And then all of a sudden it's a more gigantic let down. And so in that particular case, I'd rather someone act sooner rather than later. That's my suggestion to her. So big hugs for you for being on. Thanks a bunch.