 I guess you're right. Listen, okay, I don't want to go to the sperm bank. I don't. So that shouldn't even be in your purview, rear view, none of your views that don't take that out of your mind. That is a terrible idea. It's a horrendous idea. You know, after this conversation, I can't say, I'm a lot more hopeful. That's good. Listen, it's the message right here. Black boy, tell me how you really feel. Cause I just want to build with you. Black girl, tell me how you really feel. I want to keep it real with you. I want to live better, eat better. I want to love better, sleep better. Yeah, I want to feel so aligned. Love ourselves and love one another without any type of sexual orientation, like no type of section. Bob literally just genuinely love one another. Cause that's really... I'm going to say this. Black men don't want to be loved. We want to be respected. You're right. You're right. So stop loving us, start respecting us. No, we are meant to love y'all. Y'all respect each other. That's the disconnect. That's not what the Bible says. The Bible says love your wife. Respect your husband. So again, like I said before, I have conversations with black men, right? But I'm talking specifically with black men and black women. We need y'all to respect us. We don't need any more love. Cause the love leads nowhere. The love is the reason why you're shacking up with a bum and complaining every five seconds that he's not who you thought he should be. That's when I realized that love is not enough. When you get what a man that you admire, that you respect, that you revere, it's different. That's a fact. That's different. It's a fact. I'm still looking for him. I'm just saying, y'all. I'm still single. I'm just saying that y'all know. And don't do that. Don't go to the damn sperm bank and try to be a single mother. Listen! Don't do that shit. Please don't do that shit. I would rather imprint my own child with the word and we travel the world together and then we see the world together than find a bum dude. What if the sperm donor is a bum? What do you mean? What if the sperm donor was a bum? He went to the sperm bank cause he needed a couple of dollars. You need semen to have a child? Yes. What if the sperm donor was a bum? There's going to be bum in his DNA. There's a catalog for this. There's going to be bum in his DNA. What if I get someone from Africa like an African DNA? That's what is. That's if. It's not no if. There's a catalog. You can go to Mark, where, what territory, what region? This bum's in Africa. I'm from Africa. Listen, it's okay. Just because you could have just been a bum for the circumstance is not necessarily a mentality. But you can't make that distinction. It's my point. And we don't need no more single mothers out here, especially raising boys and talking about they're going to find a 1% man for the boy, but they can't find a 1% man for themselves. How are you going to do that? That is a fairytale. Well, it's not that I can't find them. I'm raising myself up to be on that pedestal. Okay, so you won't have to go to the sperm bank. That's what I said. If I have to. You should never have to. It's my point. If I get to that point. You shouldn't be planning for that. It's like, for me right now, there will never be a time, there will never be a time. Listen, there will never be a time that I work in McDonald's. I'm certified. I always make six figures. So I'm not planning for that. So when you do the work you need to do, there's never going to be a time where you need to worry about going to the sperm bank and hoping you don't get a bum's DNA and raising a man by yourself and putting out another bum into the world. Oh, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait. I said I was extraordinary. Ain't no bum going to be in and walking around, nowhere. Listen, I imprint on other people's kids. Listen, an extraordinary black woman can still not raise a man. You're right. Exactly. So you've been extraordinary. But there's a lot of men who were raised without fathers who understand that they understand what their value is as a black man. 99% of them, just like you said, don't. There's a 1%? We can't hope on possibility when we got to do math. We got to do math. Men in their numbers. I hope your son is an exemplary human being. I hope that's the case. Because he will. With that being said, absolutely. With that being said, when you do things like go to the sperm bank, you decrease the likelihood of him being a son. What if it was a sperm bank in Beverly Hills? In Calabasas. You know how many homeless people are in the California? In Calabasas, there's homeless people in Calabasas. You think that left them in Calabasas? Why is originally going to the sperm bank? Tell me that. Because he's like Nick Kenney, but don't want to really necessarily deal with the women. He trying to explain as well. But he could fuck them? He could fuck them? Of course. So my point is, why would he go to the sperm bank? If you fuck a female and you actually have a baby with a female that you fucking, you know it, you got to still deal with her. Why would he go to the sperm bank? So he can have a whole bunch of kids. That he never is in contact with? Like what is the formula? Share the wealth. Because there's women out here that is one to every 22. So you're saying the intelligence. It's going to be a lot of women out here with no man. What are we supposed to do to actually have babies? To live out our purpose of nurturing? I would rather become a polygamous man than go to a sperm bank. Of course, as a man. Yeah, so my point is this Beverly Hills. Are you able to find women who are ever to agree? And so that's the situation. I'm a 1% man, of course I can. I mean, of course you can. So my point is why wouldn't... Because it's all business. You're saying Nick Cannon would go to the sperm bank. And I'm like, why? No, I would. No, Nick Cannon, he actually must love women. Exactly. So why would another Nick Cannon go to the sperm bank instead of going to Nick Cannon or up? I guess you're right. Listen, okay, I don't want to go to the sperm bank. I don't. So that shouldn't even be in your purview, rearview, none of your views. That don't take that out of your mind. That is a terrible idea. It's a horrendous idea. You know, after this conversation, I can't say, I'm a lot more hopeful. That's good. That's good. Do you have a question for me? I always like the interviewees asking me something. When you say, you know, doing everything right is that basically more so saying everything right on your end to fulfill your lifestyle or more so doing everything right for a woman? Or what's your idea of doing everything right for a woman just because you do everything right for yourself or have done everything right for yourself? And you feel like, okay, no, you should accept this. I've done everything right. So I'm not a super religious person, but certain parts of it I definitely agree with. And one of the things I definitely agree with is the story of, you know, Adam and Eve. Before God created Adam, he gave, before God created Eve, I'm sorry, he gave Adam work. He told him to tend to this garden, all the creatures in it, all the plants, fruits, all that bullshit. So for me, until a man can be anything for anybody, he has to be something for himself. And that's all about purpose. That's all about drive, that's all about integrity. So you can't teach it to him like I could. But a lot of men don't know what you're saying. So how can they teach that? Only those men should exist to you is my point. See, this is why. Only those men should exist to you. So he needs to first of all start by doing what he needs to do for himself. And then when he gets to a certain point where he can put certain things on autopilot, he brings in a help mate to help cultivate the vision of a legacy that he wants. Facts. So, and in maintaining that help mate, there's certain things you have to do, you know what I'm saying? But at that point, you'd have the money, you'd have the time, you'd have the disposition to do those things for her. Cause at the end of the day, like as long as I've been around women, whether it's my mom, my sisters, women I've dealt with, female friends, people I've interviewed, women just wanna feel safe. At the corn, just wanna feel safe. 100%. You know, I have to feel safe first. I feel like being, you have to feel safe first. First, yeah. Okay. I have to make myself safe before I can make you safe. Right, right, 100%. And you can feel that. You can feel that when men feel that sense of security and safe within themselves. It allows us to be feminine. Some of y'all. Really? Some of y'all. I wish, because what I'm saying to women is, the idea is if you check off all these boxes, then I will, dot, dot, dot. And what I'm saying to women is, a lot of those boxes, me and everybody, I know check those off and we don't get these results. So it's like you're saying this Birkenbag is $20,000. I save up $20,000, come to the store and now it's 50. So who's to say when I save up that 50, it won't be 100 next time? That's true. And that's what, that's why a lot of these men are leaving and I implore black women to me. You just gotta find one where we even find a discount. I don't believe in discounts. But to me, I implore black women to meet amongst y'all selves. Y'all get together and y'all have those conversations because y'all ain't listenin' to us. Because we don't say it the way you want us to. It's harsh. You know what? You're right. I think it's very imperative that when they have female friends that they can go to and have these type of conversations with. They're telling the truth. Y'all be lying to each other. Y'all be lying. Y'all keep telling Lizzo that she's beautiful. Oh Lizzo, she's not. She's tripping, but she's beautiful. She's pretty in the face. Listen, somebody like a bigger girl. Not the girl that, not the niggas she like. Not, but that's the point. But we don't know. Lizzo might be up in here. She really might be characterless. She like, she like Captain America. No, I think she gotta do though. You know, she might just be just like some people be on there talking about Drake or loving Drake. You feel me? It might just be y'all play in real life. Yeah, but she like, she like athletes. She like athletes. I mean, shoot, I'm pretty sure a nice linebacker could pick her up. That's why he was squatting at 500 pounds. And that is a perfect example because why is somebody, why would somebody who is a world-class athlete who goes to the gym twice a day settle for a woman who's 500 pounds? When he can get a Victoria's Secret model, why would he go to Lizzo? Make that make sense. Now, he might be a sloppy big dude just cause he in the gym. I don't see some big ones. Just cause you in the gym don't mean necessarily like, cause he might be like another big girl. I understand that. My point is, my point is, why would a, no broke dudes like super big girls? Yes, cause they know they can't get super models. We gotta start telling people the truth. That's the thing. It's the conversations that we're not having. We're not having enough conversations. That's really what the key thing is. That's why I respect Kevin Sames cause he's willing to take that charge to have the conversation that we're not willing to have. Like this is definitely, this is a good conversation. Oh no, this is gonna be he, you know what I'm saying? This is good conversation because in reality, I mean, we go up on Twitter or on Instagram and we say all of our pens and it is there but don't want to say nothing back or when someone responds, they take it a different way or out of context when it's in text. But when it's face to face, then you can really sit and analyze like, damn, I ain't thinking about it that way. Or no, no, you're wrong, you're wrong. Statistics say, man, forget statistics. Okay, I'm out here living these real life. Where is the statistics at when I'm outside? And I'm trying to see where it's working for me at. Like you said, I got a hot rolling thing in a song. I'm outside, don't tell me you're outside. But it is all about the conversations.