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Hey man, so today is special You know, we started this podcast off trying to inspire people And when we first started it was crazy because, you know, we didn't really know what to expect Because God has a way of revealing things to you as you go You know, and we found a diamond in the sand We found somebody that was in the family and around my family members that I didn't even realize was And it was crazy and I was like, we gotta get on the show, man So she has a book, you know, one of the things about it that sticks out We've had so many people on here with books, but the ones we had weren't motivational, you know, speaking and delivering books, man This book right here, your daily ounce of poker, poker is in the house, what's up, baby? How y'all doing? What made you get into motivational speaking? I don't think it was like one of my gifts Really? I don't think it was something like I just, like, I want to speak, I want to speak I found myself speaking, so it's like when you're called to do something, people just come to you They gravitate to you for that reason Okay, that makes sense, you know, I think I'd be motivating people when I'd be speaking too Yeah, I got some, you know what I'm saying? I speak and motivate I mean, I just ain't took it to the stage yet, but yeah Maybe I'm there now, you know what I'm saying? Because that's what these microphones we're here for They're built so that when we say something, it can magnify audiences and change circumstances and situations And so that's the thing that I like about permeating ears with these mics Is being able to touch people when you wouldn't have normally even been able to touch them So we stream on Spotify, Apple Podcasts and Google Podcasts and Stitcher So all of those platforms and we're on YouTube a lot of times on Instagram And a lot of people are contacting and saying they want to be a part of the movement So, you know, I guess I am motivating in a way Sometimes people need to stay in their lane, you know Everybody ain't meant to be standing up on those stage either Some of them suck at motivational speaking You've seen them go on the name drop No, I don't have any names to drop But anyway, Steph, what do you think about Miss Polka? What you're doing is amazing, but I want to know what inspired you to write this book Okay, so every Wednesday on my platform, PolkaHunter is my social media account on Instagram and Snapchat and Twitter And where did the name come from? Okay, so let me do the first one So, PolkaHunter, I used to run with a group of boys and he used to call me A-Money But when I was growing up, my family called me PolkaHunter because of my hair So we wound up putting it together in middle school and I've just been with it ever since So everybody knows me as Polka Was your hair longer than what it is now? No, it's like almost my butt though Okay, okay Wow So then, so every Wednesday I do Polka Speaks Wednesday So people can ask me questions, ask me my opinion on topics, or ask me what they should do in a situation And this book was a way for them to contact me without me being there So did a lot of people contact you on Wednesdays? Yes, yes, I have a list, I just go down the list sometimes Awesome And this is on, where is this at? Instagram and Twitter Oh, so you go live and just interact? No, I have them send me the topics, sometimes I do go live if they request me to Yeah, because I think that's important to engage with the people, your fans, that's literally what you're expressing These are people who follow what you're doing, so they become your fans So, I don't like to call them fans though Well, I'm sorry, that's what they are They make it seem so negative now What, fans? Yes Because the only fans, right? No You got one of them too? No I'm just trying to figure out which one we at Because the fans, I mean being a fan is, I don't see that as an issue, but I guess terminology these days So what are you a follower now? What's this younger generation calling it? It is what it is Oh, that's what they say? No, but I want to know why are they, I mean, how is it negative? People hate to follow, like, you know No, being a fan, not a follower, but a fan But like a fan, somebody has to follow you, so I'm not a follower You know, there's going to be the response Support? Yeah, a supporter, I'm a supporter of you A mentor? I'm a viewer of you, that's how they will look at it But I do help people, you know, that I mentor And I do send support to I get it But follow, you know I get it, but I think it's, I think it's just You have to be, I don't know how people look at things For me, I ain't even a follower in that aspect I'm going to do things the way I feel to do them anyway So, I don't know, you know, I would say Do you think a fan is a bad thing? No, I personally don't Because, and I can be a fan of somebody I'm not sitting down following them every step of the way I'm not on their social media every single day Looking and seeing what they're doing Because I have my own life, I'm busy But I'm still considering myself a fan of that person Because I admire what they're doing I admire their talent And I would love to see them excel in what they're doing And I think that's just a mature mindset Because right now, and these times, especially in my generation I would say everybody just wants to be on top So anything that makes them feel like they're not It's automatically a problem But it's a change of word There's nothing new under the sun Just like the word gay Back in the days, it was like gay mean you're happy Now, you're scared to even use that word As being happy because I think it's something else Exactly So it's just a recycle, a cycle Of people finding different words How to turn it into something negative And it's just going to keep going like that Correct, who does poker listen like Who does she listen to to get inspired sometimes? I actually do not listen to motivational speakers Because I don't ever want it to be a point of time Where like, oh, she just studies what they say And repeat it back to me So I'm really, really close with God Like I'm really close with God Because one, I don't want to tell you anything wrong And then you come back to me and be like Well, you're the reason why Like no, so I try to make sure I'm right myself Because I'll tell you I can't give you a vice right now Because I'm not in the right headspace So you say you're really, really close with God In my opinion, I would say yes Say you're really, really close with God Like you're really, really close I would say he hasn't failed me Really close, you know what I'm saying? Like you're right next to him Like Jesus is right here, God is here And you're sitting right here beside them I try to make sure you have a good shrine I'm asking how close are you, you know I think that's a great statement though I love the way you express it You're really, really close with God I try to be Because at the end of the day In order for you to be really, really close with God You have to drop off some baggage There has to be some things that you have went through And have given up in order to be really, really close with God A lot of forgiveness You have to be able to let everything go Paul said I counted it all as dung Meaning poop, manure In order to get closer to God He counted everything that he ever knew As nothing And then he had to be reborn again So in order to be really, really close with God You have to be born again Okay, but my question to you Okay, first of all, how old are you? I'm 21 That's hot And at what age in your life Did you build this relationship with God? Okay, so I've always been involved in church But I feel like really knowing God for myself Was around 16, 17 years old Okay, and what situation you went through To stem that closeness in relationship with Him Because normally in life, people go through things And that's what pulls them closer to God For sure I wound up getting kicked out one of the best schools in Dallas Townview And I was removed to go to North Dallas I wound up getting there graduating a year early And I went to college I was a first generation college student Didn't know what I was doing, how I was doing it My mother had a stroke the day before my college classes happened So I wound up taking care of her, my little sister Finding ways to pay my tuition And that really got me close to God In my second semester, my father had a heart attack Now me and my daddy was beefed up at the time But I realized with my mother that when I lose you, you're gone So I feel like if I can come out here and work it out with a man Or a little boy at that time I can work it out with my father Why not? He messed up just like everybody else do So if you're here and I know that one day I will experience life without you Or you're going to experience life without me I might as well work on that while I can And God helped me do that And is your dad still here? Yes, my daddy beat counselor twice And then a heart attack just sealed it off And then let me ask you a question So were you still, did you finish college? Yes, I graduated I love the fact that you did all of this And facing everything that you faced A lot of people, even with the first thing you went through Would have given up school to go home and take care of family And the fact that you were able to manage all of that And how far was school from home? I went to commerce, it was an hour and 15 Now with my mama's situation I made it back in 45 But I asked God, I said God, I made it here And this was me driving back to Parkham Hospital I said God, I made it here I showed my people that we can make it here Maybe this is all I need to do At the time I was working at Domino's And my manager told me she was making I think 75 a year Working at Domino's And she said I'll give you my store She said you're one of my best employees In two years I'll give you my store You make your schedule, do whatever This was for my mother I said God, I can go back home and make a way for my family Even though it don't look like what I thought When I walked into the hospital room My mother was crying, she was talking like a toddler The first thing she told me was You're supposed to be at school I broke down, I said I'm going back And I made a promise to my family I said if you guys tough it out for four years I'll make sure you'll never worry After those four years up You'll never worry Wow And I've been keeping my promise I love your spirit I love that You're definitely an inspiration To every 21 year old out there For you to be able to do the things that you just It's 30 and 40 year old people That don't even make the right decisions On the things that you just spoke on And it's crazy to me that See God is something else He don't go by He don't go by a statue or none of that stuff He goes by the heart So there's a whole different level That people can be on That's why I never went by your age And all that stuff when it comes down to spirituality Because you can be a grown man And still be a baby A grown woman and still be a baby I'll call on all those people Babes in Christ That's right In Chapter 3 of Corinthians But the thing I got to say is this You just showed me That maturity can come At a 21 year old age Women are pretty much putting themselves out there In every other way There are so many different outlets On social media streams Sometimes I think a lot of times Our women take the easy way out Instead of them being able to step up to play There are so many easy way outs That you can take Whether it be at the strip club Whether it be at the Somewhere doing massages And giving happy endings There's all type of stuff that people can do And take the easy way out Just because of looking like you I'm being real And it says so much To your character For you to be able to step up Because at your age I was doing everything that a person could do At 21 And that's what I tell my young girls You're very, very, very different And I admire you And thank you for coming here today Thank you But my next question Because I still want to go back into Your state of mind at that point Because a lot of people who Is listening to this And hearing your story And they maybe have been going through the same things But people always make excuses So they'll look at you and say Yeah, but I was worse off financially Or I was, you know So how were you at that stage financially? So I went to college With three bands in my bank account Working at Domino's She said three bands I don't know if you want to thank me Three bands, you know Three bands, you know She didn't say three thousand She said three bands If you have ten bands, that's ten thousand dollars Three bands, that's three thousand dollars I guess I'm showing where I'm from, huh Well, to bring both of y'all together The easy way out was always offered to me I'm a pretty girl in some eyes So it was like, come be a bottle girl And I'm sixteen, they DJs Man older than me, you know Did they say come be a bottle girl? A bottle girl That's what I'm talking about Shout out to the bottle girl For people, hold on For people like me Who have no clue what a bottle girl is Please tell me So it's a waitress at the club You dress sexy, but it's like And you carry the things with the fire With the fire Be the bottle girl Or I get offered to work my door for me But my thing was I had to show girls because of that I wanted to put on for girls Who may not look as good as me Or may feel like their body is not as nice as mine You know what I'm saying Well, I don't have a poker look So I could know Because all the money I touched was clean money And when girls tell me, well, I'm not you Well, I just showed you how to do it Without getting my hands dirty at all Without taking any handout from a man So in college, I did have $3,000 save up But I got that from working at Domino's From going to school, taking ten classes In a high school in North Dallas And busting my behind at Domino's So I bought my car and I saved up for college When I got to college, yes, man wanted to pay for this Yes, man wanted to pay for that But while everybody was going to parties I was standing up doing scholarships I was finding resources So when I looked in my bank account at the end I could still tell you that all my money came from me And God, well, God allowed that to happen Nothing came from a man and nothing was illegal Or made me do anything with my body So did you get a scholarship? Yes, I didn't pay comers a dime And I had so much money left over That comers are still paying for my master's degree Wow I'm not paying for nothing Awesome And I used to tell my daddy That riding a train to school Daddy, they going to pay me to go to college They going to pay me to be in class And that's what happened I wound up traveling for free and everything Awesome You should turn that around and help There's a lot of young kids now I know there's resources Because like my daughter, I'll tell her We're not paying for your college You better figure out how to pay for college And not actually working Actually getting a scholarship Because there's so many scholarship money out there That you can get You just have to find the niche of how to word Your essays And there's so many different scholarships That are out there that you need to say Okay It's under this topic It's under this topic I'm a young black girl who is this, this, this You just have to know how to word stuff And what to get Even with your city Especially if you're in D.I.D. Do you help other young girls try to Anybody reach out to me Even my older friends that's in college They're still in college now They call me for fast food stuff We have to applaud for the government And people will send their friends, kids to me And we look up the city that they're in If you're in San Antonio In Houston What is in your city What's getting offered to you Or your school What does your high school have to offer you Because things are available Just based off of where you are Right, right That's amazing And I love the fact that you're trying to give back Definitely when people reach out to you I would love to get your information more out there Where can people find you again on social media If parents would like to have you speak to their kids Do you ever think about going to school And talking to kids So I do informational motivational speaking So at Pocaspeaks.com P-O-K-A Speaks.com You can look me for one-on-one sessions You can look me to go speak at a school Or a college I just spoke at SMU yesterday I've seen that I've seen that Awesome I love the way how you're giving back I just love the fact that the age you're at And the moves you're making Are just, man, they're powerful Thank you And I think that's the most important thing I'm getting out today You're witnessing to me and I'm old I like the way you come across with what you think I changed So I understand change A lot of people don't And for you to make those changes early on You're really putting it out there In a way that the masses need to hear it The 21-year-old women And under 18 to 21 Boy, I tell you That's when you're vulnerable Yeah, very vulnerable And you're still in school right now I'm getting my master's degree right now Okay I'm finally free I made a first Shout-out to the girl who's getting her master's name poker What do you say to the person that Don't have $3,000 in their bank account And want to go to college Go get the $3,000 I know what to tell them Like, is it still possible for that person? It's definitely possible What options do you think that they have? It depends on where you come from Like I said, the city So when you are a first-generation college student There are resources on campus They want numbers there Your background matters, your race matters When you get on campus They have resources there for you to apply for Scholarship service for you to apply for on campus Your high school They have stuff for you there Just by you being part of DISD If you're part of DISD So just figure out where you reach out I'm gonna help you the best way I can I promise you Cause somebody reached out and helped me They had EIF Which is Education is Freedom On my campus at North Dallas When I met Ms. Burns That was her name She was just a person over there She changed my life forever And I tell her that you changed my life forever Because you've seen something in me You was there So is there anybody else in your family That motivational speaks or anything like that? Are they all younger than you? No Your siblings? I have an older brother We don't really speak like that God is working on me I have a little sister And I chill out But you know, you were right there next to God So all you gotta do is ask him Tap him on the shoulder You gotta receive it though You say you was right next to him So you're right there I keep a cordial But just getting back to that That's normal I have family members right in the room With me maybe now That I don't really see eye to eye Sometime with This is something that happens And you have to learn to sail above All of the bull crap that comes around And in due time God will make it to where everything will be okay In due time Even my little sister though That's the one I really do My little sister and my niece How old is your sister? She is 16 Okay At that stage She ain't like you is she I can tell you where you look She's my baby And we're gonna get through it You trying to work with her? We're gonna get through it I promise Well I think, like I said With you being an example Because usually the little sister does Somewhat look up to the older sister Now sometime it can become a rebellion thing as well Just because of the way that everybody Is looking at you and saying Hey, you're doing a great job And she don't really want to even do that She could twerk and get to follow what you got You see what I'm saying It's real though And it's easier And she think She think she had me charging up people But she got a baby too She got a baby already She got a baby But the thing is She looks up to me And I'm happy there's no envy in it Yeah Because you didn't do You were there for her when she had the baby I was That's what's up I mean I was told like We gotta set some things in line But whatever you do We gotta rock out with it We gotta rock with it's life Life has a way of tapping you on the shoulder And telling you what you gonna do You know that's the way life is Life is something else It brings so many different things When it comes down to trying to live through life Right So live in this life You know you gotta really think about how How challenging it can be You know for those young kids You go to skyline And all those different places They say skyline everybody Praying it up there a lot of times I'm talking about If certain schools got a bad rep For the youngsters getting pranked I seen a girl Me and my daughter was going to school I was taking She was driving You know how we just drive to school And she said she's pregnant Dad I'm like really They used to call Pinkston Let's get pregnant Yeah But I feel like we going School system and preach No sex You know these kids having sex Yeah Give them condoms You know they black kids Give them bigger condoms Yeah Yeah Come on now For real You know it's gonna happen So tell them Right Tell them what clinics to go to And I'm gonna be honest with you But then they have sex education And they give out condoms in school They do They give out kids lifestyle condoms though And I was the And I'm gonna tell you something I walked in at the age of 16 Put myself on birth control Without my mama And she walked in I said what's that on your arm I said a rabies shot You just didn't want to get caught up It is what it is You know what I'm saying But I was mature enough to know I can't afford that I didn't know you can do that By yourself without permission They can And you know what Birth control I feel like In my heart is designed to kill us Because when I told them I didn't want it She told me if you showed up You gotta get it What? You gonna give me free medicine In America? Something is a problem Because a lot of people in today's society I know of so many women Who have been taking birth controls for years And as they get older They have a lot of internal problems Because of that Because any medication to me That is designed Have side effects And they don't tell you about It's like we only look at What is What it's preventing at this moment But you're not looking at All of the things that can cause Problems later on in life And as we get older Like oh we have this We have that And I realize it's caused Because of all the years You've been taking that birth control One of my friends and I Realized when he was on the basketball team In high school That part of our body would go numb My leg went numb for A month And they took me to Baylor And all the top specialists Come figure out what happened She used to shoot basketball And her left hand Would go numb We at high school She's like my hand going numb Let me see the cover of that book Kind of hold it up You hold it up Ain't my book There it is over there There you go There you go Yeah they see it just fine So this book right here Let's get into it What made you write a book Who do you think you are I'm only what God allows Okay that's a good one So what made you write a book And what is the book about Okay so it's a motivational book Like I said It was just a way for my viewers To have a piece of me Without me always being there And then I said I was going to do it And why not I'm 21 This is the time to fail I have no kids depending on me My family depending on me here and there But if you're going to do it Do it And I feel like the times when we Want to do something that we don't We often see other people Wind up doing it because We were stagnant Or we were scared to move on that So God had to give it to somebody else How long did it take you to write the book I wrote the book It took me a year A year to write I wrote it for every day Okay How long did it take you to publish it About two to three months Oh that's how Are you self-published Yes But is that typically how long it takes I have no idea Okay I just cannot tell you How much did it cost you to self-publish $2,300 Is that typically how much it cost Or did you get screwed Because somebody probably screwed you They seen you coming a mile away Well let me tell you Yeah you did Because you did your research on it Before you did it Yes I did But when I went to Talk about it It's coming When I went to other places Such as Amazon I was like no You get too much from my profit Right If it's my book And I'm going to take my risk I'm going to go stand at the venue Tables I'm going to go stand there And I'm going to go sell my book You know I'm not going to just let you do that How much profit does Amazon want to take I think around 40% of sales Really I didn't think it was that long Because I know You just made Didn't make You know When I made my decision I made my decision So with my You didn't go into it too much after that Because I have a cousin That have two of her books On Amazon On Amazon My cousin has his book on Amazon I got to go check and see How much it And I was asking around All the black cloth I'm like where did you go Where did you go I wanted help You know I was a sponge I want to suck up everything And after going through What I went through With the book and my choices I was like I'm going to self publish it And I wanted a hard And a lot of things Made my decision too Because I wanted a hard cover And I wanted a certain How much more Is a hard cover Than just a paper Yeah Probably about Okay And how much you sell your book for My book is 24.99 I thought you told me 32 the other day But you can give me 32 I told you 27 But if you want to tell me You know No I'm not going to tip you I'm just saying No okay Because I know I might buy two I don't know Because I know a lot of people On Amazon That I know They're selling their books They're not hard cover They're a paperback Yes and some of the options Not available for me Because me I wanted to be That thing that you point You know your kid getting Your nerves Like go get that book And I can hit you over the head With it No So I can get some motivation For I keep it for you No no no I mean so What do people What's the most The craziest thing That you've heard somebody Come back and say Or the most touching thing That you've heard somebody Come back and say after they Read your book I wind up gifting my book To a lady that does Sex work And I didn't know that And when I gave it to her She read her birthday She broke down crying Wow And I said You ain't got to tell me baby It ain't mean for me to know My job was to give it to you I don't know why But I did And that was between her and God And I was like alright Because there's two prayers In the book I don't know them by heart anymore It's okay But I asked God For guidance on writing this book And giving the words That's going to lead his people For decades to come So at that moment When she read it And got what she needed I stepped that away Wow And let God work That's supposed to be And I found out after the fact That you know she was involved In sex work And I was like Well I don't even know What the quote said So be it How long ago did you Write that book It came out in December December To start the new year off Okay awesome Wow So how has the sales Been going for you It's been going good I've been excited Yeah I know it I can tell all the books You're selling We can do something together I'm going to rock with you I'll go in the business With you How many did you have printed 125 How many did you have left I do not know I do not know So they come out of a warehouse Yes So myself published 48 hour books They published a book there And sent it straight to me When you first finished the book How long did it take you To get the first copy back to you After you got it published About three days That's hot Hmm About three days So did anybody help you Like to Lay it out The way you wanted to lay it out Or you did every single thing By yourself I didn't do it You never do everything So I wore this logo for a year Before I put it on my book And when I put it on my book I was scared I was calling everybody I was crying I was like it looks like a girl It's not going to sell No man is going to buy my book Men wear this shirt This logo on shirts and clubs But do you have a shirt with that logo Yes I sell shirts and mugs with it With that logo So is that logo trademark to you What are they in shirts at They in my trunk actually Because I just left an event on yesterday No you tripped me And didn't even bring it in No that's what I'm saying You don't even know how to set up shots I'm going to set up shots That's what we're doing What you think we're here for You think we're somebody to play with We ain't nobody to play with I mean you follow me on Instagram So you see what we can do No I don't know what we're going to be Talking about like that Our listeners don't Well I'm sorry But yes they come with shirts and mugs So is it trademark though That symbol No Okay Okay Why didn't you Really money If you can cut cross, cut cross I know the guy who made the thing I paid him for it We got that in writing He knows it's mine Somebody want to steal it And God be the glory So I know that when he asked you The question earlier about Who was your inspiration In being a motivational speaker Did you take inspiration from someone I know that you went strictly To like the bigger people And I was actually thinking about Maybe in your life Did anybody in your life As in your mom, your dad, your brother Anybody that was close to you Or could even be a stranger That you spoke to one time And say you know what You need to really tell your story I could say the one person That had the biggest impact on me Was my grandmother She was never really She's not blood But she raised over 22 kids And she passed away at 98 She somehow always had the answers Without saying anything at all And that always stuck out to me But growing up when I was young I remember my brother had this Girl friend And we was on the couch And she said You're gonna be really big You remind me of Oprah She said You're so smart And your words don't sound Like a young kid And that stuck with me As I got older So I always tried to pick And choose my words wisely And my daddy get on me in there All the time Baby say what you mean And me what you say And I'm like daddy I'm trying But I'm whole right now But yeah Definitely my grandmother What is so crazy Because the way how you talk You would People will get the impression That you seem like You have it all together And I don't I don't I cry in the shower I wake up and don't want to do it And I tell my listeners They're like hey When you ask me for something Let me know I only talk to you And speak the words I'm speaking to you Because I'm really talking to myself I had to go through something And that's the only way I'm able to tell you Where to go through It's so funny the way How you just said that Because I've told Like when I'm talking about God to people And I tell people all the time I said I'm speaking to you About God, about my experiences And all of that Not necessarily for you If you take something from it That's great But they don't realize That the more you speak about God Is the more it helps you To walk straight Because if you're not talking About him Your mind, the devil can sneak in In so many other ways And have you doing other things That are not godly Yes You know what I mean So a lot of times I tell people all the time I said If you can spread a message Talk whatever you are learning Like I have friends that read And they say that They forget about Whatever they're reading I said because you didn't call Somebody and say Hey, guess what I just read You have to talk about For you to stay in your mind You have to keep using What you've learned And keep talking about it So just like what you're saying You're giving advice And you're talking to people It's helping you to keep On a straight and narrow Yes And I also try to make an intention That I talk about God every day Let me just cut in You know Something you said earlier Is that you don't have it all together I don't The people who you think Got it all together Don't have it all together I don't think anybody has it all together I'll just be honest with you Until you arrive Really and be sitting On the right hand side Of the Father With Jesus I don't think We're all a work in progress So I wouldn't ever You never look at everybody else And even judge yourself at all Because they messed up, girl They just might be hiding it Better than you Everybody has a thing Everybody in this room right here Everybody that you meet Have a thing that they got going on And they don't want to tell Nobody about it But if it starts to come out They feel so embarrassed So I never get excited Over people and the moves That they make in a way That they facade around Especially when they become Self-righteous or egotistic Because I know already That they're hiding something So it's up to us as Followers of Christ To be able to understand How to spiritually discern And be able to keep focus When all this stuff is going on And in meanwhile help others That's our mission Is to help everybody That's why you wrote this book And I believe that's what God does The most He blesses those Who blesses others He told Abraham He says that I will bless you And you will be a blessing You know what I mean? That you're the father of many nations So you have to understand That God has a purpose And a plan for your life And He will get it out of you Long as you stay so close to Him How you are You say you're close to Him Like right next to Him Like okay I just want to make a show Because I should have seen you already That's how you're supposed to Walk with him there I haven't seen over there By him I'd be by him too So I'm trying to figure out Where she at with her He's so big He's so everywhere Okay, I'm nipotent Yeah, but it's definitely A great thing to see That you are basically Hailing yourself Like I said, the book It says volumes The fact that your father Had a heart attack And cancer beating twice And your mother going through The thing with stroke As you say You know, these are things That a lot of people Get taken out by You know, my mom She passed away with cancer At a very young age In her 40s, 44 And my brother I don't think he ever My younger brother Ever, ever recovered For that I'll heal from that And after that Other things started Pound up against him as well And I didn't heal from that I mean, six months later I was facing life And at the end of the day It was some things I had to let go But I think it was God's way Of opening my eyes When I had to deal with things Head first like that Without family members Or anyone else being involved So I think that stretched me To a whole other level And a lot of times People be trying to get On my level But you can't Because you ain't been Where I've been And you ain't never been But you cried in the shower Try crying in the shower When 24 of the men are in the same room Which you have to cry low Yeah, jail ain't for me Y'all look good in orange, baby So I was saying But at the end of the day It was crying and leading At the same time I'm a leader So anywhere I go, I lead It don't matter who I'm in the presence of So if you know that Then you know But I still had to understand How to change In the midst of a people Who you had to be strong And practice machismo Is them in front of And that's good But I was able to convert And I was able to help others And I was able to start Different prayer meetings And teach at different Teach five and six hundred men Okay, visual? Yeah, yeah Well, you can call it what you want I don't really go by title Because title and position Doesn't guarantee productivity I was about to say Why you gotta give somebody a title And I just said I said title and position Don't guarantee productivity You can have all the titles In the world You can have more degrees Than at the moment And you can still be weak I like that Oh, you gonna love me Stay here a little longer You know what I'm saying? But it's true You know, everything I spit is real I don't know what these other cats Doing because I don't Be hanging with them You know what I'm saying? So I mean I just love the way that you I mean My brother had already warned me He said You gonna love this girl And he was right You know what I'm saying? I really like what's happening With you And like I said I'm gonna definitely be I want you to I need your help So you know I can I mean I got a little bit Of change To make things better You know what I'm saying? I'm just trying to Figure out a little situation And I can use you And help you Maybe you can put some money In your pocket So that's the way it go down When God blesses you Shoot out through the room Yeah Yeah So what do you think You could tell that young person Not your sister Not your cousin, your brother But the girl that's Pretty much right now Don't have nobody to go to And she's 15 And her father is Sexually abusing her Yeah What do you say to that? I mean how do you are Or basically she's pregnant And can't tell nobody Or you know There's so many different scenarios You're right What would you say to these young people Who are going through the struggle? Going through Especially sexual abuse I would definitely say this I'm gonna say this to my man too It's not your fault Wow It's not your fault Because I used to say that Like maybe if I was No Like I had to look myself And remember baby girl It wasn't your fault It's not your fault And in those times People heal differently But when somebody Going through a time like that I would definitely say Keep that in the back of your mind You used to say that Touch yourself Is it You've been through sexual abuse? Yes Wow Yes And I feel like with women It's so quick Like How long did you go through it Before you actually Talked about it I mean Because a lot of times People always hold that in And not talk about it Or Like Arkevia said We had shot Arkevia He was on here About three weeks ago And he was molested Four times before He was 11 years old And By people in his family Both men and women Yeah, both men and women I watched him again You've seen it Yeah, that's my guy right there And He's able to share his story But the pain is gone Because of the fact That he's been healed And you don't see him Acting out Or Breaking down In the midst of him Explaining it Because he feels like He's been healed And he talks And tells people All over the nation And just about his story And he works on On his platform daily So I know that he's consistent With trying to help others And so You know I said that to say You know This guy man You know I think people like you People like him You know You have to be able To tell your story But you have to be able To heal You know Because everybody Gotta have healing Time to under And talking about things It helps You know A lot of people God is my counselor The Holy Spirit I'm not a fan of that Listen Listen You're not a fan of it You don't think God can Counsel you? No I'm not a fan of going to Counseling I don't knock it down No I just think the Holy Spirit The Bible says God is your Counselor So I really believe it And I don't know About all these counselors What they believe in Or what they doing So I don't know You might Go get you a soup Say or something I'm just saying You know There's a lot of people With educations That do a lot Of different stuff All I'm saying You got education I don't trust you yet I'm just trying To figure it out Yet So how old were you When you went through Abyss? So the first time I remembered Oh, that was two times A couple of times Okay The first time I remembered It comes back Like a flashback Like I remember What I had on I remember everything About it But I never questioned Him because It was blood It's a little So you mind blocked it Yeah, my mom blocks it But I know If I ever find out He was circumcised or not Will tell me if he did it Because I was so young After that time I was four After that time From 1711 I was messed with By my mother's Girlfriend's son Wow And I never How was he I was 17 He was 14 He was 14 And because I know my mother Don't listen to this Podcast I'm gonna say that She didn't know Hard, hard childhood And that will break her That's crazy He was 14 Even today He was younger than you No, I was seven He was 14 Oh, oh I thought you said you were 17 I'm so sorry I was seven He was 14 But I wind up telling my mother In a heated moment Oh, so you finally told her Yeah, because I said I wasn't gonna tell her Till she died I wasn't gonna say nothing Till she died But I wind up telling her In a heated moment I'm like mama Because there's so many times Where kids want to say something And we can't In a black community Is he still around to this day I've seen him since I've been Of age around 15 And I just locked up I was on train station I was like, oh my god And I just locked up But now, you know I pray for him Oh, yeah I pray for him That's how you supposed to do But yeah, my mother I was like mama You need to stop putting people in our lives That we don't know Because you don't know They're true intentions with us And she's like what do you mean I was like just know That because you love hard People hurt us sometimes Yeah And you told her And what did she say about you I never went in detail with it She doesn't know No But she knew you were abused Yeah And it broke her a little bit Because you know her past She didn't want her girls To spend what she experienced But my man happened Well, you know It's funny, you know We talk about the abuse And the people All the people that And we so quick as Our culture Black people We'll counsel people out Or whatever That guy that you're talking about And I'm not trying to take up For him or anybody Any girl that did it to a guy Whatever Black culture has been through so much I'm telling you on a whole You have to get You have to You have to level up to understand it They do what they see Is that what you're trying to say They've been abused from Their ancestors and everything else And we make excuses for it Yeah Like don't go in an unq room You already know what unq No, no, no The thing is I'm just telling you The whole culture needs healing And it's a big thing It's not just a small thing And it's not just a you thing It's not just a me thing It's not just a you thing It's the whole culture It has issues And nobody You hear black people Talk about it all the time From Robert Smith To all these people Trying to get your reparations And all this stuff Do you not realize that The slavery and all that stuff That you Your ancestors went through This has been passed down to you Genealogies What we study about on the Bible Why do you think it talks About genealogies It tells you about the people That you come from And it tells you about your history For a reason So why does it not affect you But it was something that Jesus' name was privy to It was something that people Looked at from the old times It's something that people value That's not in your culture Your white constituencies Or Asians They care about where they came from But we so quick to try to say Oh yeah, that was them That we ain't that way No more and out No, it's a healing process Yeah, one of my classes I wanted to research Some history and it was told That trauma can be passed down Through your DNA Listen I didn't even know that I've read books where a kid Was cut out of a woman's stomach At eight months And the kid cried one time And the white slave master Smashed his head And y'all think you can just Go on and act like this stuff Don't affect generations to come As you see your people Have been pretty much just In oppression And I just think that it's something That people need to wake up to And they don't They always trying to act like Oh no, we good Just cause the people that don't Like you didn't gave you a small opportunity And you got a little call If you don't go sit down somewhere And try to get yourself together And it can be gone tomorrow But it goes even on the flip side The flip side is A lot of times we live our lives for ourselves We're not thinking about the future Or future generations to come And so forth So even when we do things that are good We're preparing our lives for Even our children We need to look past just Preparing for our children We need to prepare for our children Children and future to come Because if mentally Certain things can affect us From generations past till now If we flip it And change that cycle for good Try to put that goodness Going down from generations to come So we need to also flip it And try to think about Not just our generation But generations to come Yes You know what I mean I definitely agree with you I think the main thing we got to do Is keep on praying for our people So I had another question though So with all the things That you've been through What is your love life? Oh my God Okay I go different places With different people And do different things I'm old school dating To see who I like But I'm going to say this And this may come out a little harsh But I intimidate a lot of men my age And I really try not to I don't care what you do You know what As long as you don't put me in harm's way You can work at Taco Bell Be the best Taco Bell person you can be But my thing is people see That I got a degree People see that I did this And I did that And they think they're not good enough for me Well I want you just the way God wants you I want you to be sent from God So when dating around I attract all the older men And then when I do talk to men my age They're intimidated I mean a lot of times Well I think I mean I'm going to be honest with you man You need to pray And you need to God will send whoever's going to come your way You know I think you shouldn't even Get caught up in the The way that they react And all that Because at the end of the day You have to be making yourself available But be chast You know what I mean But the reason why I ask that question babe Was because You know a lot of people When they go through abuse and certain things As a younger child It affects their relationships When they get older Most definitely But she says she's close to God Right But you know what A lot of people say that I'm not saying you But I'm just saying A lot of people say That they're close to God Or a lot of people say They go to church every day But still can't deal with A man touching them Because of things that they've been through They haven't forgiven They haven't passed over that hump To be able to move on with somebody else So the reason why I'm saying this too Because I know that you are giving out Advice and talking to many people out there And people are going to be like How you can be You know giving us advice But your life is a mess I love the fact that you You spoke on that So look Being mess with did hurt me It hurt me a lot And what happens is Because you gain that experience It's still experience So you become good at what you do Well the thing I can say is Go ahead So you become good at what you do So you start getting involved So I start having sex around 15 U-O-G I'm gonna say all that I start having sex at 15 And as I got close to my father I started picking up my brothers And I seen men that really loved me Respect me and cared about me I realized there's certain things That men that love you don't do So when I was So before that You didn't really have your father In your life My daddy was there Don't get me wrong I just started getting close to him I'm a daddy's girl You tell me You know I'm mad at you I'm slamming her though It's around But around the age How was I I was 19 At 19 I was fed up So I'm sick and tired of this So I dedicated a year of no sex No sex on a year I went over a year of no sex And that happened Actually I was done in August And I just kept going A little bit more And then I started back And Jane were And then I stopped again You found somebody And I stopped so quick I'm back to the basics Start over again Well like I said You know I actually just lost my ring last night Oh you had a promise ring or something To myself I said It says poker I promise inside And it was just telling like The little girl of me Like you promise to make up for me You know You have to be that person That we need So I kept it on me I think you The way you express yourself And the things that you're saying I think are just People You're speaking on a whole Lot of different things Because a lot of different challenges Come with growing up As a human Not just a woman Or a man Everybody go through different things Where different things challenging You're challenging your flesh When you fast to sex That's something you have to do Gundy used to challenge himself To not speaking You know For a period of time And his wife Everybody tells That you just wouldn't talk for Maybe a week You know Maybe two weeks You know Certain things that you Challenge your flesh That's what fasting is all about Whatever you do too much of Yeah You challenge yourself If you're on the phone You say I'm not going to use this phone For a week or two I'm going to hold back You know Certain things That people do That's just an example But you have to challenge yourself On every level To be a better individual In this universe And I think that's something That's important I think everybody should do it Anything else? No I think that's it for now Yeah Well I mean Like I said I would ask you About the top three artists Of all time But that's not what this is I would say That people need to go out And purchase this book And if y'all see You can get it from Boss talk too Because I'm going to have Bob one or two I'm going to start flipping them She charged 24 I charged 38 You know what I'm talking about We in a store So At the end of the day She says she does have Cups and shows We don't know She didn't bring them in So I don't know Do you have a website That they can find This merchandise on? Yes If you go to the store All my merchandise is there And then also My booking opportunities Are there too So I do MC service Better me sessions One-on-ones You have an organization You want me to bond with I create workshops For you guys Circles A whole bunch of stuff That's hot Hey man Thank you so much For coming on the show Thank you for having me Say man One thing that you need I help with You make sure you get a hold To me I will And if there's something You need me to come speak To some young brothers About or some young sisters A I'm always ready to speak Okay The Bible says Be instant in season And out of season That mean I speak Whenever And any charities Because I see you doing I can see you Creating your own Charity I'm looking to do That with somebody To help others I can see that So I have one In the works So when I was in college My sophomore year With my parents I created an organization That teach college kids How to cook How to sofa How to build credit By homes So they're functioning In commerce now And What's the name of the charity? Focus practice It was an LLC Because I was young I didn't know what I was Doing I didn't want to do A nonprofit And mess it up So as we speak I'm learning How to transform That LLC To a nonprofit Hopefully Y'all see me around At the college But couldn't you create A nonprofit Yeah, you can I'm learning I fully want to change it Though Because I want that To be a nonprofit But hopefully I'm at different universities And we do stuff In the community Like we Adopt a nursing home With my church And gave them Christmas trees During COVID Oh, awesome Yeah, awesome I like that But yeah Just looking at you And hearing you speak I knew that Had to be coming So I could tell Definitely Let us know How we can help Thank you Love to join With people who are doing Good in the community Correct Yeah, I got a bag For that Yeah, she said Three bands So I got a band You can double that Yeah, I can triple that Actually, I'm that man You know what I'm saying? Instead, I ain't trying To brag I'm gonna hold you too With them For everything That you've ever done For me, God I'm not trying to sit here And be all like Hard to act Like I'm hard And everybody I am just a regular dude I'm just a nobody Trying to tell everybody About somebody You know, so thank you For coming on the show Thank you We wish you so much love So much success Thank you And we're just Hey, we're gonna be watching Your moves And before the end Of this year I am gonna do A little something For all of my motivation On people You know that I know you know Already what I'm talking about I'm just gonna be Watching your moves And then when I figure It out, I'm gonna Bless you Hey man It's a unique hustle Boss Talk 101 And we out