 Dear brothers and sisters, what I want to do is I want to just talk about the severity of the position of our parents that we may or may not really understand it. So I hope that to remind myself and to remind you of that today may Allah have mercy on them and on us. Beir, what we think, kindness towards parents is a characteristic of the believer. Al-Hassan al-Basri, he defined it saying that, and Beir is obeying the parents of everything that they ask, so long as it's not disobedience to Allah. And Rukouq, which is the office of Beir, is to disown your parents, but in a way that you deny them the goodness that you have. And by the consensus of the scholars, being respectful and obedient to one's parents is an obligation. Al-Hassan, Rahmatullahi alayhi, he said that being respectful to one's parents is an obligation. And he cited the ayah in the Qur'an and your Lord decreed that you should worship none but him and that you should be due to follow to your parents. To better understand it, the scholars actually laid out some conditions. If you want to see or you want to check whether or not you're actually fulfilling this obligation, then there's some conditions you can start by looking at. Number one, he mentioned that he or she should place the pleasure of his parents above the pleasure of anyone or anything else, including himself. Of course, he accepted the pleasure of Allah, but anyone, including himself, his wife or his children. Number two, he should obey them in everything they command or forbid him, whether he agrees with his desires or not, so long as it's not an disobedience to Allah. And number three, they mentioned that he should present them with anything he feels they desire, whether those parents ask for it or not. He should present it with kindness and to present it with mercy, understanding that no matter what he does, he will have shortcomings when it comes to fulfilling the true kindness that his parents reserved. So Allah swt, his love comes when our parents love us and his anger comes when our parents are angry with us. Ibn Abbas, Allah swt, said that there are three things that will not be accepted if its innate is not fulfilled. And from amongst those three things he mentioned, the verse in the Sons of Luqman, where Allah swt says, and thank me, and thank Allah, and thank your parents. Ibn Abbas, Allah swt, said that whoever thinks Allah and is not thankful to his parents, Allah will not accept from them. The prophet, peace be upon him, he reminds us that the pleasure of Allah is from the pleasure of the parents and the anger of Allah is from the anger of the parents. So we should stop and maybe think about how it is that we actually are treating our parents. Do we find ourselves, you know, if they need something? Do we find that we kind of shy away from them when they need something? Do we find that we only are revisiting them as often as they would like for us to visit them? Are we neglectful of their rights to the extent that some of them we find them in the retirement homes nowadays when they're in the conversion homes? When we argue, because sometimes unfortunately we argue, and the argument ignites between us, how do we respond? Are we shouting at them like they're the worst of our enemies? May Allah protect us from that. So compare that type of treatment to those who came before us. There was a man named Dibyan in Aliyah Thawwi. He used to travel to Mecca in the scorching heat of the sun with his mother. And during that travel, he would stop and dig a hole and fill it with cool water. He would say, He would say, come and sit down in this cool water. Come and sit down. Cool yourself. So the relationship between him and his mother, his mother was like his best friend. If you were to ask our children today, who's your best friend? They're going to say BFF. Who's your BFF? Right? Then answer should be your mother or your father. But unfortunately today we find that it's a little different. So what pleases our parents, in fact, should be the thing that's most important to us outside of peace and Allah SWT. So long as we make sure that our priorities are straight, that Allah comes first, or right after that the parents are there. The scholars understood this principle and in their lives they would give you examples so you could see it. And one chef at one of the demands of our owner, his name was Hawa Bin Shireh. He used to give classes in front of this house. And sometime during the course of the classes, his mother would come out and command him with something. And go feed the chickens. And in the middle of the class, he would come by and say, I'm the big chef I'm teaching at my mom's home. I've got to wait with him. What he would do, he would stand up, he would leave the haraqa and go feed the chickens. So we want Allah SWT to accept from us, we want paradise, we talk about it, we dream about it. So I'm just reminding you if you want to attain that then you should all look down, should look down and you'll find paradise at the feet of your mother. In the Ahmed, he narrated, and he narrated the story from Mu'awwad-e-Ibn-Jahimah. His father Jahimah, he went to the prophet peace be upon him. And he asked, oh messenger of Allah would like to go out and fight for the sake of Allah SWT. I've come to you for advice. So the prophet peace be upon him he said, is your mother alive? He said yes. He said then stay near her. For at her feet is paradise. So on the other side, making our parents sad, or you're making them cry, is one of the many ways you can earn the angle of Allah SWT. So we need to be mindful of that and try to avoid it as much as possible. Imam Ahmed also narrates from Abdullah Ibn-Alami, that us, of Imam Ahmad, that the man came to the prophet peace be upon him. And he came to give his allegiance, his bayah. And he said, I've come to pledge allegiance to you for Hijab. And I've left behind everything. I left behind my mother and my father. They were crying. The prophet peace be upon him came out and go back. And the same way that you made them cry, made them laugh. Make them happy. And in Allah, Allah SWT said that making one's parents cry, is from amongst the major sins. Shaykh An-Qasim added to this the commentary. He says, Alhamdulillah, how can we leave our parents crying? Tears at the throne of Allah's Shakespeare. Tears at unsettled the angels and the heavens. And then claimed that we want to go for Jihad. So that Allah would be pleased with us. Go back and make them happy with your visit as you make them sad by your departure. If they laugh and are pleased with you, there are a lot of speech with you. During the funeral of his mother, hadith and afternoon, and when asked for the reason of his tears, he said, why should I not cry when one of the doors of paradise has now closed? I told him, To ask Allah's counsel, Ahlul Mahdi, But this is unknown as we did not hear from him. ballot of Allah speech of Allah We brothers and sisters, we, in fact, we reap what we plant and we stick to it that far away. So among descriplies, there's a boy, who was born blind. and his widowed mother, the good Muslim mother she was. She didn't lose hope in her dua'a and she continuously prayed and as a result, a few years later the boy, his sight returned to him. After that happened, she realized also that the village that she lived in wasn't suitable for him to gain a proper Islamic education. So with her son in hand, she migrated to Mecca and there she saw to it that he studied and was instructed to go on hadith. The later we come to the young man's focus. So this young man would travel far and wide taking hadith from this one and from that one, collecting hadith from here and from there and so much so that he can follow the book and sits next to the Qur'an in authenticity forgetting that his mother that raised him well his mother named him Muhammad in this ma'aleen and many of us know him today as Imam al-Bukhari. Dear brothers and sisters, how often is it that it's a question so you can answer this isn't it how often is it that a farmer is going to plant wheat and it comes out of the sun cloud to another doesn't happen to them can't happen how can someone farm the seed of one plant and expect some other plant to grow just doesn't happen so similarly some parents they leave their children kind of wobbling in the mud of the worst of TV the worst of music, the worst of movies bad companionship then when the child reaches 12th grade and wants to go to the prom with his girlfriend or he enters university and stops praying or he gets married to a non-believer or he himself or she becomes a non-believer and all of a sudden we're wondering what happened it's the harvest of what we planted if we don't raise our children to be obedient then what do we expect them to do if we ourselves are not going to be practitioners of this team then you can't expect that to come from your children if you are not waking up for a project and see you day in and day out sleeping in then you're not going to say you can't expect them to be the sahabah or you can't do the basic minimum so there are some things that we can do to kind of rectify the first thing is we have to learn how to discipline our children with love and it can be done and we have examples you don't have to always go back in history with history but the one you can find is some great examples there is an example of a qishan which is a non-believer who one day he missed his son from Salat al Juma looking around at the Juma and he can find his son afterwards he sees his son and he asks the questions and I didn't see you Salat al Juma what happened I said don't want my son my donkey couldn't make the trip so what did he do he said ok for that entire, for the rest of that year he made his son walk to Juma and you might say that's pretty harsh but he made him do that because number one he wanted him to understand the importance of Salat al Juma number two the love he has for his son understanding that this is that obligation or if he's not trained in understanding the importance of that obligation it can lead to his ultimate destruction so he wasn't afraid to be disciplined but he gave him good love secondly the piety of the father and mother reaches the children in the Quran Allah SWT he will cause the sword of Qidr and how he will be broke the wall for two walkings and he mentions Qidaya as for the law it belongs to two orphan boys in the town under it was a treasure belonging to them and their father was a righteous man and their father was a righteous man and their father was a righteous man it's interesting because in the tafsir of course you can see how Allah protected these orphans because of the piety of their father but in the tafsir it's mentioned that this is actually a grandfather said in generations we can remove also Zayid in jubairah said I often lengthen my prayer I lengthen my salah for the sake of my son perhaps Allah will protect him because of it in conclusion we should really stop and reflect on the virtue of beer and water being or kindness towards our parents Abumalli Nasru he said that the man asked the father what deed is most beloved by Allah and he said he replied prayer on time the man asked and then what he said respecting and revering one's parents and then what he said Jihad for the sake of Allah and one last thing we'll mention here and it's important what Zayid said number one this virtue is a meaning by which one's sins are forgiven in that ayah which we mentioned earlier and we enjoy a man to be beautiful and kind to his parents the next verse actually tells us they are those from whom we shall accept the best of their deeds and both will look their evil deeds they shall be amongst the brothers of paradise respecting our parents and leaders to gender so the Prophet peace be upon you he was heard saying amongst his companions may he perish may he perish and they asked him who O Messenger of Allah he said he whose parents attained old age in this life one of them or both of them and he does not enter paradise because it is goodness for him the goodness for his parents doesn't stop when they die so one of the men from the Ansar they came to the Prophet and they asked him O Messenger of Allah may he be left of my dear to my parents that I should present to them after their death and the Prophet peace be upon you said there's four things number one pray and ask forgiveness for them number two fulfill their pledges number three be kind to their friends and number four maintain the ties of kinship that come from only their direction that's what's left from the gift O Messenger of Allah O Messenger of Allah he said my father died and for an entire year I didn't ask Allah for anything except that he believed my father so remember brothers this is the room of Safiqa inshallah for the time remember as you meet your parents today the words of the Prophet peace be upon you he said and he duty had in your kindness in your kind treatment towards your parents O Allah forgive us forgive our parents reward them with the finest reward O Allah elevate their position in the hereafter and in this world make that which befalls in an expiation for their sins O Allah grant them residence in your deus the highest level of jannah with the prophets the city of clean and the marks O Allah grant them residence in your deus the highest level of jannah with the prophets the city of clean and the marks O Allah elevate their position in the hereafter and in this world make that which befalls in an expiation for their sins O Allah grant them residence in your deus the highest level of jannah with the prophets the city of clean and the marks O Allah grant them residence in your deus the city of clean and the marks O Allah