 I asked a girl who's my friend about how to talk to my partner about what exactly she would like in sex and how I can give her pleasure and she said it's not for the girls to tell this to the boys, boys have to figure this out on their own. Okay, so for every single girl who has ever felt that it's somebody else's job to figure out what she would like, no. Love making is not an exam where you have to figure out the correct answer. It's a mutual experience. It's where you explore each other's bodies, you experiment with different things. But at the end of the day, the first thing you need to do is to understand your own body. You have to understand what it is that you like so that you can guide your partner in the correct direction, particularly for women, because our pleasure senses are just so much more complex. We really need to work this out for ourselves. So don't be a lazy lover. Participate. Don't be an onlooker from the outside. Be a part of your own love making. Be in control of your own pleasure.