 Today, I'm happy to be here with Heather Tobin. She is one of the favorite people. I've met recently and I think you'll discover why So first I want to say hi to you Heather. Hi Heather. Hello George. How are you great to be here here? Yeah? Thank you so much. So I'm gonna read your bio For everybody and then we're gonna get into this conversation But Heather has been just just a such a great Participant in some of the courses. I've taught she is now in my MasterHeart business mentoring group and She's really impressive because she replaced she she is you know only a few years into her coaching and healing Business and she replaced her corporate income in a fairly short time and so I think what she I think she walks What she teaches so anyway, let me let me read your your bio for everyone Heather And then we'll get into the conversation So Heather's motto is rock your mud It is the basis of all her programs and her way of life Her traditional schooling is an addiction treatment and counseling and she's forever a student in the school of life She shares the teachings of our own life lessons in a vulnerable honest and real deal kind of way So she had a 20 year in in the corporate world Completely different industry and now she's immersed herself full-time in the magic of wonder of believing and trusting as a Soulpreneur and as a coach and a healer Heather's a straight shooter. She shares what she needs what needs to be shared and delivers it with love and humor She's a master at illuminating BS stories that we create and as an authentic way of channeling information from a higher consciousness That reaches right to the core of the issue. She offers clarity inside and practical action steps moving forward and one of the cool things Heather, you know, we were she and I were talking earlier about her niche so-called and The thing is she has such a way with her clients and with people that people ask her for all kinds of things And so really Heather's niche is Heather Tobin That's her niche because she does different things and you'll you'll you'll hear as we go into the conversation Heather, do you want to say anything about your background before we get going? Yeah, just a little bit. I guess I I like to pride myself on the fact that quite humbly That I didn't ever become a statistic You know when you grow up in a challenging environment and you're conditioned a certain way People have I guess certain expectations of how your life is going to play out and I Thankfully being me and deciding to get connected to who I really was eventually a few decades in Decided to just break the mold and not go down the path that many others had gone and so I kind of Truly stepped into who I became and really am self-made. I like to say That's so cool Give me just a second here. All right. Thanks. Sorry about that. So yeah, let's talk about Let's talk about how you you've become self-made and which is what so many of us entrepreneurs want to because we've left behind The corporate job or we were you know, we were stay-at-home parents or whatever and and now you know Whether we're left the job or now there are you know our kids are older Some of some of us are some people are still with young kids, but how do we how do we do this and I? Think one of your one of your superpowers is really teaching people about How to reshape their mind because it really all starts with our mind and our emotions to be able to have a successful Business, right? So how how do we how do we? Shape our mind to reframe our thoughts that kind of sure Where I like to begin with people is to kind of take an inventory I suggest to them, you know Just pay attention to your thoughts over the course of a handful of days and you know, keep a few notes And this isn't about shame or going into, you know A pattern of guilt or looking at this list at the end of the week thinking oh my goodness I'm a mess like we're all a mess. It's fine But after doing that Your club is called rock your mud Yeah, yeah the mud club right like what do you mean the mud club? Are we going out in our jeeps? No, no You know, it's it's the mud club because we all have mud we all have Stuff stuck to us and you know quite often it's you know society and upbringing and conditioning and that sort of thing And so I really want people to first take a little bit of an inventory of what's going on where the thoughts have been in their energy has been and then We get back to basics And by basics, I mean The moment your eyes open and your feet before your feet hit the floor is I am so grateful I get a gift of being alive today. I Would love to pull the audience to say how many people actually do that and Then just really saying okay, so how do I shape my thoughts? Well, so we are so quick to Get up start our day and completely disregard anything and everything that we've looked at touched Experienced if you think about the amount of gratitude you can create in your life in the first 15 minutes of waking Depending on how your mornings start You'd have a running list already And so many people like to start with gratitude In the in the morning, they'll sit down and you know They'll they'll kind of do more of a reflection after they've got the kids off to school or you know How be out the door or whatever the case may be they've walked the dog or at the end of the day It'll be an overall for the day So what I like to tell people is why don't you start doing gratitude on the go? So you've touched the tap that has now given you clean water You've touched the top water tap that's given you hot clean water, right? You've used shampoo and soap that you've been able to afford and this sort of thing. So it's really about Gratitude on the go in the moment mmm, that's powerful. Yeah, because there's and and Yes, the things that we do in our morning and just The fact that sometimes I just give gratitude for remembering to give gratitude like yeah, like right like that itself It's like a grace. It's like yeah. Yeah Yeah, that's so cool and So, yeah, this is a powerful exercise. I really hope everybody will will will will try this out You know start your day with gratitude on the go. Yeah, you know, yeah, that's really really cool so How do you let's talk more about your? Your morning routine or what you recommend to people. How do we? Nourish ourselves as as the start of the day Anything you would recommend to that? Yeah, the the biggest thing I like to tell people is You know, I think everybody's heard of the 5 a.m. Club, right? Like everybody wants to be part of the 5 a.m. Club and they think it's all the rage Well, it's really not all the rage for a lot of people it is for me because I'm an early bird So I'm I'm one of that I'm in that one of those people but for the people that aren't I always say to them It's really not about the 5 a.m. Club. It's about the me first club and the me first simply means you are taking the time for you and You do what you need to do to take your self to a place of Wellness of a place of balance of a place of clarity Before you kind of just propel yourself into the day and start taking care of everybody else's needs We and I don't know if it's a generational thing. I don't know if it's a gender thing I just I and I don't really want to go there with that because it's all people all over I find and What happens is we really are givers by nature I think the majority of people love to give and over give and so what happens is We forget that we need to give to ourselves first And so by the end of the day after everybody else has been taken care of and everything else has been taken care of We end up with this paralysis of not knowing what to do for ourselves And so I really like to try and Uncondition people to that way of being and then Re-learn or remember how to take care of themselves first and when I say remember I tell them think about when you were a baby You cried when you needed something you yelled when you needed something You know like it was either you needed to sleep be fed or be changed So if you take yourself back to that first beginning moment of you being as beautiful little ball of light Where do you need to begin? What do you need to do? And so the very first thing is always you first even if it's only the first 10 minutes of the day To do whatever it is that speaks to you as an individual For some it might be a yoga practice for some it could be meditation for some it could be journaling But whatever it is. It just has to be for you first Thank you. Yeah, that's really great reminder So one of the things that you know, you've been able to do as I've mentioned before is to be able to build a Sustainable, you know business for yourself in a relatively short time doing the thing you love to do Expressing your soul expressing your gifts and really helping other people Part of that journey of course is doing things that are outside one's comfort zone all of us have to do that Otherwise, we're not going to have success because otherwise we would already have had it We have to do things different than what we've already been doing stretching outside. So that is Obviously you've done that successfully and that's one of the things that you also Coach and heal others into doing any tips for us about being uncomfortable Which is required like, you know, I say all the time in my videos. Listen, I don't feel like doing this video right now But I'm here. I'm doing it. Yeah, it's true But once I in it and it's like But any any advice and any encouragement in that regard, you know, I think I think at the end of the day We have to remember we're all human most of us anyway And We all bleed red. We are all one, right? So If we were to step outside of our comfort zone for whatever that looks like for people if more of us did that We would probably be a much healthier society. First of all but even on on an inner circle level or a familial circle or You know that immediate group or around the biggest tip I can offer is The only way to for me to do this life is to just show up and be me and For the people who love it great and for the people who don't Also great because we all have to really just be our true selves and show up as that is I joke with people. I'm like, I'm absolutely insane but I'm also one of the most balanced and you know Easygoing people there is but I also know how to like cut through my own crap and Get to that place of realizing that everybody has their stuff But we're so busy in this like egotistical society Driven thing that we're trying to outdo situations or each other or whatever the case it's like Yeah, that's not working for me And so the the that's the comfort zone that that's the sheeple, right? Like that's we're all just doing the thing that everybody else is doing The moment I stepped outside of that and the moment I I walked into I Guess my soul and took a look at what was going on in there I realized that the discomfort was actually that over there that I was doing originally This showing up as me right now in this moment. That's Heather. That's this moment. That's me Yeah, that's beautiful. And as you do your work as you build your business. There are times when You're doing activities that you are stretched in Creating content showing up on video You know launching something you're not sure people will will buy How do you deal with those uncomfortable feelings? So I When I first started out. Oh Good heavens. I was so afraid. I Thought you know, I I don't know how to show I don't know what if nobody signs up or what if only one person signs up? And I came to the realization that then that one person gets all of me in that moment And so if I was running a live course or if I was running a group or whatever it might have been if only one person was there then they just got that much more of me and that person needed that in that moment and Learning to be okay with that Took a lot of battle because I thought well It's gonna be a waste of my time if I only have one person or I won't be able to cover the costs of the venue for example these types of you know issues that come up for all of us depending on what we're serving and When I realized that that was really just kind of all the outside think and Knowing that we all have to start somewhere Making a difference in the life of that one person Could be the game changer three months later for anything and everything for me for them Or whoever it is and the ripple effect of that person's life for my life And so I stopped judging what other people would consider a successful event versus a non-successful event And said you know what no gonna do it my way and if it works it works And if it doesn't that's okay too because it's also still working even when I think it's not working Yeah, that's that's a great great reminder and what about Our concern about what other people will say I mean especially now that you changed careers so much. Yeah, how have you? Yeah, what and that that leads us into this other conversation about Kind of reframing our thoughts what we say Yeah, you know judgment and all that stuff. Yeah, so I quite truthfully I So I have shared my life for a very long time in writing And I have probably I want to say written honestly for about the last probably 10 years But I cannot find all of my old material But it has always been on Facebook or on a blog and I didn't realize I was building an audience I had no idea because I at that point was living two lives I was living the life of the person with the you know the life coaching healing practice And then I was living the life of corporate world show up do your office management job and then come home and so neither knew that the other world was colliding so I kept that two completely separate things and There are still a lot of people who have no idea what Heather went and did after she retired from the corporate world and There are a handful that know because I had a more intimate Relationship with them of course with close friends and that I had worked with and I really had to realize that if I started to think about We'll say that the bigger names that are out there of business coaches or you know the non guru gurus Because we know they don't really like to be called gurus Did they really stop and worry about how someone was gonna Think or react or respond when they were suddenly, you know the life coach of the year or whatever title they have and I Had to stop and really think about What thoughts I was carrying around it where they actually me? Legitimately thinking I wasn't good enough to do what I was doing or was it something that had been programmed into me because again of Conditioning and teachings and and whatnot and when I realized that I could shape my day my future my everything through my mindset and Choosing to show up with the right mindset every day That that was going to be what made me or broke me and There was no negotiating and so my mindset work is my non Negotiable my mindset work is more important to me than flossing And we all know how our dentists feel about us flossing every day, right and So that that is the piece for me. And if that's not there, I'm not here Yeah, wow any tip about mindset Shift It's when we're saying yeah, I'm dealing with thoughts of my friends family colleagues judging me You know, especially if I'm launching something that was different than what I launched last month Yeah, it's like, oh, I'm a flake am I a flake and this is gonna work if people gonna laugh at me Yeah, you know, I think the biggest thing I tell people when it comes to you know Trying something new and launching something new or whatever is first of all if People are going to talk about you and they will Let them because clearly they're not doing enough with their own life to be entertained enough to be ignoring what you're doing That's that's the first thing The other thing I used to share to with people a lot on that topic is if they think you're so great to talk about Wonderful let them again because either way it's attention Either way, it's it's it's your energy in there in their sphere, right? The biggest tip I think for all of that is Don't believe the stuff you tell yourself at 3 a.m because That's the stuff that will make you crazy When you are tired when you are trained when you put all your blood sweat and tears into creating something and you're Flat out done exhausted Leave it alone Ignore it for a couple of days Then come back and look at it and I guarantee you you will see the mastery in it And you will see how magical it actually is Versus what you're 3 a.m. Some will tell you and that's great. That's a great great reminder. Thank you so I want to Encourage people to kind of look at your website look at your Facebook I Think you just offer so much goodness there and you have a couple of cool offerings I want to make sure people know about And you know as we said in the beginning you Create different things because the people ask you for so many different types of things But two things I want to mention your mud club because we did already mentioned that so I want to talk about that And then also upcoming decluttering for the soul Program so okay, so mud club. Let's start with that. Tell us what that is and how people get involved and so the mud club is my absolute most favorite thing in the world it is a Monthly group so what happens is the beginning of the month a new group of people sign up and start and they stay for the month There's no pressure to stay for anything longer than a month. It's a month to month sign up The idea is that it is a space for people who are Either just getting their feet wet or people who are looking to continue their practice even looking for more accountability To get your mind mud straight so we were talking earlier about how to start the day and How to be in that me first mindset? That's the idea with this and so what I do with that group specifically is there are days where there are content So there could be a day with forgiveness exercise or there could be a day where we're celebrating the winds of other people Or we're focused on the lessons learned that week There's also days in there where I encourage people to plan What things they want to take care of next week? There is a right now a 10 minute Challenge this week that everybody just takes 10 minutes to organize their area where they're doing their mind mud Work because people are very often overwhelmed because of the environment that they're in and I'm like, no no You have to 10 minutes and that's it. Don't do 20. Don't do 12 10 minutes take care of it and move on to the next thing and so it's of the energy in there is just So wonderful it actually like there are days that I cry. It is so amazing. Yeah, and It's a Facebook group, right? And I'll just say you know having having been in a Facebook group with you Heather I think you you just bring amazing energy and thank you kind of container. So folks if you're interested Definitely check it out. I think this would be one of the best Facebook groups you join And then you're decluttering for the soul. Tell us about that So the decluttering for the soul is actually starting on Monday. It's starting on the 20th and it's seven days Will you be doing it again in the future? And yeah, I am listen Yes, so I'll be running it again and there will be a waitlist sign up on my website Okay, so basically just go to the links that we're gonna give you and then people can join whenever it's coming up Exactly, exactly, but yes, it is starting on Monday And the idea is that it's not just about you know taking care of making sure that your area is neat and tidy But it's also about taking care of making space in all areas of your life when it comes to people places and things Oh, very good. So we'll have links in the notes of the video for these different things But just I want to be sure to at least name your website So the website is Heather Tobin dot CA which is Heather H E A T H E R Tobin is T O B I N Heather Tobin dot CA okay dot CA dot com Heather you're in Canada. What part of Canada are you in? I am really close to Toronto, Ontario Cool. Cool. So Heather Tobin dot CA go check it out Of course, she's active on Facebook on the business page and her profile, you know check out either one or both Heather, thank you so much for the work that you do and for showing up for us today. Thank you very much George