 Chelsea says, how can I show him that I'm not like the other women who has hurt him without making it seem like I'm being clingy and needy? Well, what you have to do is you have to be careful with him. You have to showing him that you're not like the other women has nothing to do with being needy and clingy. Those two things are completely separate, right? In fact, what you want to do is typically do the opposite where you're giving him some space, you're allowing him to come and go, right? That's what allows him to find out that you're not going to hurt him. And if he's misinterpreting things that you're doing as you're going to hurt me, that tells you a lot about his situation and what's going on with him. And do I really want to be in this situation where he has so much distrust for women and whatever because what's going to end up happening is if you do get into a relationship with him and he doesn't end up healing these things before you're in that relationship with him, he's going to bring that stuff into the relationship and he's probably not going to heal it because he's getting his needs met with you and then what could end up happening is he ends up throwing it on you. And so really, there's two things that I have to say about this. One is to give him space and allow him to figure this stuff out on his own because that's really the only way that it's going to happen. You're not going to force your him feeling okay and comfortable with you onto him. He has to be able to, he's going to come forward and he's going to be like, oh man, is she is she trying to hurt me or manipulate me? And you're going to be like, no, you know, and he's either going to like chill out and relax and come back and be like, okay, yeah, you're right. You weren't trying to hurt me and I figured that out. Or what's going to happen is he's going to continue to kind of project that nonsense onto you and eventually kind of push you away and create a really toxic relationship that you're a part of. And so the real question is do you really want to be in a relationship with this guy? And you know, how long have you been seeing him and all that kind of stuff, which another place to come from abundances?