 Hi, I'm Matthew coast head dating coach and founder at commitment connection calm and today We're going to talk about what men find attractive So if you are struggling or you want to you're struggling to attract a man into a relationship Or you want to attract a man into a relationship then this is what men are attracted to So first let's talk about what men are not attracted to so we can you know get that out of the way first and The first thing that men are not attracted to is masculinity now. It's not that men are You know repelled by masculinity although they might be in some cases But men are not attracted to masculine women So if you are a masculine woman and you're trying to attract a masculine man That's not going to work very well I mean he might want to be your buddy might want to be a friend of yours He might want to be a drinking pal but you know being Attracted to you as a masculine woman. He's not gonna. It's probably not gonna happen. So what you want to do is Not be masculine if you're trying to attract a guy the second is Being a strong independent woman now a lot of times What I'm not saying here is that being a strong independent woman is unattractive There are attractive and there are unattractive smart Strong independent women and if you want a man to be attracted to you You can't expect that he's going to be attracted to you for being a strong independent woman So the next one is that thinking men are the problem now this is actually really unattractive a Lot of women come to me and when I tell them that I'm a women's dating coach They'll be like, well, why do you do that? You know, why aren't you you should be talking to men because men are the problem men need to figure out their stuff men are You know, what's wrong with the world and that is really really unattractive Imagine a guy coming to you and telling you that Women are the problem and that women need to get themselves together and women You know, it's women women women and it's it's just really unattractive when Someone says that when a woman says that to a guy or she even thinks that you know It's a belief system of hers because your beliefs will come out No matter what So the next one is trying to fix men or make them the way that you want them to be Alice and Armstrong is kind of Known for saying having a phrase that goes, you know, men are not just big hairy women, right? And a lot of women kind of think that men are big hairy women and that they should act like women do and you know they know what they should be doing and they should be acting like women and Or you know, and so a lot of women will try to fix men or try to get men to be more like them Or they'll you know try to change men and that's not what men want men want a woman who is Who loves them and and accepts them for who they are and when you're trying to fix them Or change them. They're not going to feel like you accept them and that's very unattractive So let's talk about what is attractive the first thing that's attractive is feminine energy So feminine energy is incredibly attractive and a lot of women Kind of put this down there's a lot of feminine shame going on right now in our society and it's not by men It's by a lot of women that are doing it and I think that's really a disservice to women And I think it's a disservice to men and I just I think it's a disservice to relationships You know feminine energy is beautiful and it's attractive and it's amazing and it's magical and to a guy it's totally mysterious and you know filled with wonder and excitement and you know, it can be really powerful to be a feminine woman and so Anyway getting off my soapbox there Feminine energy is really really attractive to men Another thing is youthfulness which kind of plays hand-in-hand with being feminine is is being playful, right? A lot of women are like oh men only want young women And to a certain extent there is some truth there But what men really want is a woman who's youthful who is doesn't act like she's old who acts like she's young who has Playfulness and youthfulness within her like that is very very attractive to men Another thing is Value so being valuable as a woman that's incredibly attractive to men So a woman who is valuable to him in his life and makes him look good Is really really attractive right now woman who doesn't feel like she's very valuable It doesn't feel like she's worthy or deserving who has low self-esteem. That's very unattractive. So you know Recognize your value find your value build your self-esteem that can be a really really powerful thing And the last thing is connecting to a man's heart and a lot of women try to Convince men to be attracted to them and that is a losing strategy in every single way So if you want a guy to be attracted to you you need to connect with this heart you know connect with your Emotions and then connect with his emotions and that can be really really powerful because men don't get emotions They don't understand them there. It's more difficult for them to touch their own emotions And so when they can get pulled into your world of emotions that can be really really powerful and make them fall in love And and love you forever So that's it for today if you want more information on how to attract a quality man into a committed Lasting relationship make sure you go to my website at commitment connection calm and take the quiz there I'm Matthew coast and I'll speak with you again soon You