 Yeah, thanks Steve. That was great. Sure. How do you feel that your ideals changed as you Got older and got like deeper into your kind of like pick up and self-help career. Oh Good question. It's actually something I always like to bounce off of Anthony because he's like a very idealistic person and I don't directly ask him this my ideals almost never change like I always have them like I've always even in teaching this So there were like times in 2006 where I just flat out lied to chicks man It was like, you know, I don't have kids like love and I like came into Relationships with them and had to end them because I was just so full of shit and Then it's like my ideals change to be like alright Let's be really honest and then you know experience and experience and experience allowed for more ability to be honest And especially intimate situations because that's the toughest thing in the world We don't really know how to do it and I feel that it's not that it's just culture that doesn't show us But we're born not knowing so experience is supposed to show us, you know So it's not that my ideals they do change and there are beliefs that that do transfer and transform and all that sort of stuff and evolve, but it's really my behavior and Kind of like my Reception of those experiences, you know, like I was getting angry. I was getting like resentful in shit the other day And I was in the goal is not to be perfect man because that would mean you're not alive Which might be a good thing, you know, we'll see I'll let you know but the thing is is that the I Was I was feeling kind of resentful and pissed off and I'm like, why am I? What am I attached to that's keeping me from being able to be free? you know from being able to exist and It's tough. It's a tough thing I do a lot of writing on that and like inventory and a lot of it, you know comes out in this But some of it also comes out with writing about Just why I'm mad why I'm mad what part of it's affecting me, you know, is it affecting like my emotions? What am I afraid of because usually if I'm a mad about something it's that overall I'm really afraid to Be rejected or afraid of being alone or something like that and that fear and not being able to look at it You know keeps me from looking at my part and it keeps me from looking at The deeper parts that it's affecting me yet. I like it again great speech man. I just want to add to it I was I've been doing for the last month like getting up and doing questions that focus on gratitude You know a bit of meditation how it increases your baseline state day-to-day Like things that like come your way so you get rejected a couple times and you're out off night Usually go into like a spiral and get like beat yourself up a bit You can walk away refresh yourself a bit and your baseline state picks you up a bit. Mm-hmm So that's pretty that's that's cool something I noticed but another question was How did your views on because we okay a lot of me my friends were raised in like a curry traditional Culture conservative culture right so it was like get married. You're gonna get arranged Oh, that's it. And then basically in the last couple years. We've done a 180 in my parents knew what we're doing Shoot themselves. Um, I don't know. So then so moving forward say I was in a three-year relationship a couple years ago Got in the pickup stuff. That's the beginning of this year in a relationship now for about four months And again getting a bit bored again, right and thinking about or if I keep I can maybe break up in the next couple Get back be single going to polygamy again So what did you views on polygamy versus monogamy? How did they look at me like multiple wives? Multiple multiple multiple go from Holly emery multiple girlfriends. Yeah. Yeah. Holly emery is like this is my age, but polygamy. Let me tell you I've never been married This is like marriage and monogamy. Yeah, I was thinking about having like my 30s Dude, you're okay. So there's there's a couple things number one Culture is a big deal. It influences us. However old you are is how much it influenced you and still influences you and it's part of you And you got to love it and embrace it and all that sort of stuff to see what's there, you know My culture whatever that they say Americans have no culture and it's kind of true but you know, I did grow up with certain beliefs and certain ideas and things that I I you know liked and disliked and thought were myself and whatever and Peeling through that is kind of like a confusing and contradicting process, but you need experience to do it And there's some tools like this to help you now That there's no easy answer to you just got to figure it out Your culture is a part of you number one thing is you got to accept it and own it All right that this is who I am and this is where I'm starting. All right and not denying it I hate that there's this guy actually this is This is a little bit separate culture But he's Punjabi and he teaches pickup and he showed me his fucking driver's license. I should have This this will show you some anger should have just fucking kicked his ass and god I was just like, what are you saying to these people? He's like This is me, you know, look at me before I moved to LA and He's like I wore this stupid shit and had beard and now I'm filmmaker and actor and people and I'm like dude You're not any of those things you say you are and like you're just telling these people they threw away your culture You know, it's a fucking live of a Hollywood ideal that has no proof of happiness to it I mean like you listen to what you're saying, you know This is why you need to be fought Listen to what I'm saying Anyway, but the thing is is your college is gonna be a part of you and own it man, you know and then then once you own it you can start to separate what's you and it's a process man It's tough and it that's where you're gonna find a real self and that's what my constant work with myself is doing But the other thing is is the reactions of sex and the ideals of sex. There are no rules to sexuality man You know there might be a dude who's like an extremely sexual person like defines the sexual life. I meet this dude In fact, there's a guy Fred. He's the wheelchair Yoda, man. He's an awesome dude. He's like life is great And I'm like you're in a fucking wheelchair He's like yeah ever since my wife got murdered and I learned to let go of things But I mean I'm like what Fred really but no true story man. The guy's just so like enlightened But the deal is and I would actually talk to him about sexuality and he's like I don't need a woman I don't need a woman. Maybe when I was young dumb and full of come da-da-da. I'd be all over and that's awesome But dude, you know, I don't need that. I don't need that to complete myself I'm happy and I'm a sexual person. You know what that means Steven He'd go on and on about all this stuff, but It's for you to define The key to this is and what I say is like look at your identity All right, look at who you are and look at the facade facades are good They're not bad, but when that facade creates your identity you're being full of shit You're being like that guy who you know shaves off his beard and says he's a good person now because of He's buying into a facade You know, he's not looking at what's really him and there needs to be a compensation of those things and also you need To look at the experience versus action systems and methods when you go like all right I'm looking at the action the system and method. All right, polyamory polygamy Good stuff And the Mormons do it right man. They do it good. They do it better. Well, I'm not even gonna get into it All right, but you look at systems, right? You go like all right open relationships, you know You know being in a relationship. That's a system. You got to look in the experience What the problem lies in that four months? I'm kind of bored I'm not gonna tell you what's right or wrong with that But I guarantee you the answers in the experience that you have with her rather than the system that's facilitating it And then the system can can really shed light on it And then the other thing too is don't look at the results. I'm bored happy. Is this serving my purpose? You know my life Fuck I wish you guys were all like worshiping me right now I wish you guys were all going like oh my god fuck and I could see it on your faces like but is that serving my purpose? That's a result man, you know, so I need to go like all right. I'll have faith in my purpose I'll have a child and their experience and then be introspective. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah So the road's just gonna come through whatever experience you have What's up we have one more Anthony Okay, one more and then I got to send a special message Anthony hello, sir. What's up? Thank you for sharing loving it so far My question is what if just like James shared before someone starts out real late What would be your advice about being social and being sexual by real late? I mean, you know early 40s Man Yeah, I almost don't understand that question man because you're always alive man Okay, so this is another thing life like let's look at life as the answer like life is always moving Life never never can anything be so fucked up You have to have faith in life man You have to have faith that that it's gonna do shit that you won't imagine we can look at cellular structure We can look at the human body. We could look at how plants grow We can look at how animals mate and there's consistent behavior But the ever not even the evolution that life that exists within that specific thing You cannot predict and that life no matter how fucked up it gets Can totally change and you're fucked up and that's what you're saying is is your age That's not true man. Man. I've had so many times and it's weird I want to talk about this more in the next speech that has to do with like the more Violent aspect in angry aspect in those things because those are all good things We just don't look at them in those ways and kind of combat stuff helped me through that I don't want to make myself. It's like some sort of badass, but I used to really align myself With somebody who had fucked up shit in my life But now it's not a part of my identity man I don't have the the stuff which holds on to that So the one thing that I'd say to you is life is always going to be there you need to have faith that that can kind of take over and You know older person, let me tell you you got like many advantages number one You show up. Let's get back some technical like social dynamic stuff number one By showing up and talking to a girl in a social way. It's almost automatically sexual She has her friends to hang out with she has her friends to play with she has her friends to have fun with You talking to her you might be randomly and even like but you might even take all the intent out of it But your intent has an easier leverage because it's almost there when you show up. Also, you have experience You know, which maybe you don't have experience and I'm not asking you to fake it with anybody But your experience is assumed and you have experience with life. You also have stability Remember sexual energy is calm one of my good friends is Eric Everard. He's a porn star in fact, I learned more from porn people about Sex and like your different ways of treating it than any fucking tantrum motherfucker or Like Like pick up people but like Eric and either even my friend Anthony is very interesting is they They would tell me that like look sex is more like when we're having sex we're athletes We're professionals and we're fucking but there's like 1015 percent of like fucking 75 percent of actual sex So sexual energy is mellow it's always meant to be mellow the other stuff is social and Facilitating and cultivating reactions whether that's opening and being direct or doing something that's cultivating reaction And I want to get to a deep emotional part In fact, one of the things that I say for guys living their social and sexual life You should get to an emotional root or something that can be seduced which is emotion and sex itself Within two to five minutes should happen. I mean it's just general any guys who have skilled women know that I think I got to wrap it up now, but let me just say this With that, thank you very much Good time