 Ladies and gentlemen, with one second here, shut off my computer. Try to get all my Wi-Fi on my phone. Alright, let me make sure everything is set up on here. Now I got my back brace on the night now, so y'all forgive me, because the heat pad on my back may have to do a lot of lifting around this house with my wife. Let me get my hydraulic set together. Alright. Let me see. Make sure I got everything set up. I appreciate y'all joining me tonight now. Getting things under order, in order over here. So this week I'm going to try to go live. I've been saying I want to go live Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday and then take my weekends off, but I never really get around to it. So this week I'm going to try to see what we can get done just so I can answer more of y'all questions, because as you see, when I do these Q&As, I don't get to answer everybody and probably never will, but I'm trying. Wonderfully made. Y'all give me one second. Invite the Lord in the room. I was running late, I set this live up at 8.59. So y'all forgive me. My ex won't talk to me or give me another chance, and it's killing me. What should I do? Wonderfully made. Now, typically when we say wonderfully made, we're talking about a woman, but I don't know if you, a man or a woman there, and so that's the difference. It's a different approach for a man and a woman when it comes down to getting a chance with your ex, because if you're a woman, you really, you really don't want a chance with your ex, because men don't really forgive. So if your ex won't talk to you and won't give you another chance, let him go on by this business, because a man's heart is not like a woman's heart. So you go begging a man back, you tend to be a prisoner for life or a slave. So now women, y'all take men back all the time, all day long, twice on Sunday, and y'all know how to forgive, but you really don't see too many men taking women back. It's just differences in the wiring and the raising and all of that society. When do you know you're ready to start dating? When you can love like you've never been hurt before. Oh, that's Edmorelda. All right, Edmorelda, and I'm glad you asked a different question tonight. So about that man and them three, four kids and their ex. Edmorelda, when you ready to love, as if you've never been hurt before, that's when you ready to date. Do you and your wife go to parties, and if not, how do you feel about them? No, we don't go to no parties now. When you say parties, that's different. A party for us is like a friend birthday party, where it's at the house or something like that. If you mean party like somebody club, no, we don't go to nobody club. Because for one, I'm 36, I'm too old to be in anybody club because you got kids in there in 18, 19, 20, and then somebody won't start shooting. And I'm too old for that, because if somebody starts shooting, I'm gonna be a shot back, and I'm trying to stay safe and free in the free world. So no, we don't go to parties. And I mean, that's totally up to you. And also, see me, I don't go to parties because it's a booty cheek swinging. Okay? A man in a party, in a club, he's like a butcher in a meat shop. He looking to cut something because unless you, Chris Brown, and you like to dance on the middle of the dance floor, a man in a club, he looking for something to take home. And so, there ain't no other reason to be in there. No other reason to be in there unless you like to break dance or whatever kind of dance you like to do. Question, how do you close the door of disrespect from a man that you open, but you changed and want respect now? Well, you might have to close the door on the relationship because what you have to realize by the relationship is that when you're dealing with somebody, you speak in a language. So when you speak a language of dysfunction, that's the way they learn how to talk to you. And so imagine somebody talking English all their life and then now you come talk to me in Spanish. And it's like, I'm gonna be, oh, ese cuando, ese suche, ese suchar trabajo, cuando se te. You see what I mean? So now you like, huh? Excuse me. And so that's how it is when a man been dogging you out and disrespecting you, he don't know how to be nice one day. Oh, hey, baby, how you doing? Next day, you're such and such. You're so sorry because he's learned the language with you. And so sometimes when you're built on the wrong foundation, you just got to scrap the whole project and move on with your life. Sometimes, but you could try and see if he'll change. Sarah, God bless you. Now, my sister put me in her will to take care of my nephews. If anything happens to her, told my boyfriend and he said he wouldn't take them in if something happened to her. Why? I really don't know why he got that sorry man. I mean, for one, it's like, okay, what's the odds of something happening to your sister unless you got like a terminal illness? So for one, he got to realize that nothing probably not gonna happen. That's what a God parent is. I'm a God parent. Now, I'm praying for those that I'm a God parent of that they parents stay alive and healthy and well because I don't want to be responsible to take nobody in, but hey, I'm a God parent. And so that's all that's all it is. You ain't no more than a God parent. So for one, he childish and ignorant anyway. So now you got to ask yourself, do I want to be with old childish ignorant man who don't understand what a God parent is and who just think that just because my sister did that she couldn't leave the earth tomorrow. Now, if she getting ready to leave and that's what you're talking about and she in y'all preparing for that and you want to take care of your nephews and he doesn't want that, then you went the wrong man. And that right there, that's just a nasty spirited man right there point blank period. So you telling me my sister could pass away and you want me to send my nephews to the state, to the group home? Is that what you telling me? You see what I'm saying? You got to really thank this through. You went the wrong man. You need to run. You need to run. Last night need to be your last night to all together because he talking stupid. Ms. J. God bless you. My best friend told his mom, not me, that he loves me and wants to be with me but he's in a bad situation. What to do? You can't do nothing about it. You can't do nothing about it. He just talking. He might love you but he don't love you enough. So if he in that bad situation, he don't love you enough. Go on about your business. Don't wait. Go on, step on out. See if you could smile at a man because you wearing your mask so you just got to smile and see if you can catch your man with that smile. And now you met trying to catch your man with that smile. Now he might wake up and say, okay I got to go and leave this situation. Go and get my wife before she be gone. So just start every day stepping out the house and just smiling. And the way you got to do it now, America's next top model, you smile, just smile, smile with your eyes. And I don't know how to do it but you'll work on it. You'll get it. Hannah, God bless you. Finding out about you has been a real blessing with my healing process. Wish I knew about you five years ago but sometimes we have to live and learn. God bless you now. God bless, I'm glad you're here. Now y'all, I'm struggling a little bit tonight because I just ate. So I'm here trying to suck in so y'all forgive me if I keep running out of breath and then I got my heating pad on and it got a waste train on it. So it's like a, this thing. Y'all hear that velcro? That's from a heating pad. See what I'm talking about? So it feel like a waste train. And y'all know by the waste train that y'all be shifting all kind of organs around with no waste train. Organs be hollering. Oh God, bless you broke up with me because he needed space. Three days later, I see him coming out of his place with another girl. We are neighbors and this weekend they were on a weekend getaway and posted each other on social media. I'm so hurt. Feel to hurt, feel to hurt and feel to hurt and go on about your business. Feel to hurt. Feel it, feel it. Feel it so that when you study him and you look at everything you dealt with with him get all the lessons from it. Get all the lessons from it so that you don't trip up and fall for it again. Surrender God bless you. How should you approach your ex trying to return to you? Now I probably got a whole video on that. I probably got a whole video. That's a long answer right there. That's a long answer because it's a lot of caveats and nuances to that. When your ex trying to come back you have to be able to have a period of time. So it might be three months. It might be six months. Where you evaluating your ex to see if he or she has really changed. And you can't get your hopes up. You can't be settled down. You got to be ready to go in it at a moment's notice when your ex come back. Because a lot of time your ex is coming back out of ego and not out of heart. So you got to understand that now. Now, hold on. Okay, hold on. All right. Marsha God bless you. Now, hi Tony. For the 50 age group how do we get back to dating without being too strong minded meaning defensive. I have backed out of a lot of dates and I use 19 as the excuse. Please do more over 50 talks. Hey, you know I'm trying to and like you say now without being too defensive that's why I really try not to talk to the old 50 because when I do they want to tell me I'm too young and know anything about what it's like but then yet all y'all be asking a million questions but then when I answer the question you ain't never been 50. You don't know what it's like to be 50. This 50 year old thing working like it's 30 snapping like a red snapper and I'm like all right now you ask me all these questions and I answer the question now y'all custom out. So I said boy but I'm gonna work on that though. But right now over 50 you at risk. How you at risk. Right now with the 19 over 50 you at risk. That's been the Lord sparing you because he don't want you to come home early. So keep on declining them dates. Dates so virtual. Zoom. What's out. FaceTime. Skype. Don't do no dates in person. And you depend on your immune setup. You might want to wear a mask on the video. That's how your immune setup. My family member has a man who has been married four times trying to talk to her. She and I say that four married four marriages are a red flag. He called her and didn't show any accountability on marriage failure. Y'all tell her keep on going. That man got you wasting all our time. For them four marriages. You need to be married Jesus. When a man loves drama and attention from multiple women does that come from insecurities? Yes it does. It does come from insecurities. He just insecurities abandonment issues all kind of stuff going on. Do you have any words of wisdom for co-parenting with a newborn? Make sure you visit my mentor.life. We got co-parenting coaches on my mentor.life. I've never co-parented. So I try not to speak on stuff that I don't have direct experience with. And on that right there. But you definitely want to talk to a co-parenting coach on that. You feel having children ruin a relationship. I've seen so many relationships be good that once the child is born they fall apart. No. I mean us having kids probably helped us stay together. Probably helped us strengthen us, helped us mature. I don't feel that it ruins a relationship. I feel it can expose a relationship that was already weak. And that's what you got to know the difference between. So now no problems. It can exacerbate the situation. If things was already getting ready to unravel that child could go ahead and get it out the way because now you get to see them true colors. Now that time is split. Now you just can't be getting on your back in the old time because baby got to eat every two hours. A lot goes on in there. So to each their own. You are timed out when you consistently posting to the chat. Questions only. Thank you for your cooperation. Alright now to better let y'all know. To better let y'all know. Only questions in the chat. Only questions in the chat. Some of y'all knew. Some of y'all knew. The chat is closed except for questions until the last 15 minutes that I'm on here. Now tonight I ate that bowl from that taco place. So it got me a little full. It got me a little fuller than I'm supposed to be. I barely could breathe. So the Lord might call me to an hour tonight so that I don't have but I'll let y'all know it about 59 minutes. Tall girls rock. Why do men need to touch the fire to know it's hot? Why do they need more than one opportunity to get it right and not get it right the first time? Tall girls rock. Now I'm not sure if you asked me a question like that before but like I know when you ask a question like that about why do men that's like what somebody finishing must say. That's like asking me Tony why is the sky blue? Tony why is water wet? You know what I'm saying? That's just men. That's just men. The way we wired to take chances because you got to remember men are hunters. Certain kind of wiring to be hunters and to be warriors. Men go to war ok? Men got to go out and hunt and heal and bring it back to the family. So to be hunters and warriors it's some stuff that's off in there. It ain't just all smooth. So that's what you got to understand when you're dealing with a man you're already dealing with a different kind of being that has to learn and adapt to relationships and love because his nature is to hunt is to kill. Ok? X ignoring boundaries. He gets very angry when I attempt to set them. He still walks right in my house to grab the kid 10 and 11 and says I love you when he leaves after I have asked him not to and it makes me uncomfortable. Not what Kimberly now now alright alright now what you sound like right now is like the people who they'll take somebody hand grab somebody hand oh he slapped me give me a hand oh he slapped me how dare you give me a hand again that's what you sound like because how your ex walking in your house he got locks on the door he got locks on the door alright so lock your door he got the key oh change your locks your ex coming in your house cause you let him come in your house it ain't gonna cost you nothing Kimberly by $20 $50 to change them locks change them locks let your kids know hey don't answer the door do not answer the door matter of fact we're meeting your dad at the park when you call A I'm gonna come A we're not at home right now I'll meet you at the park and you sitting right at the house Lord for giving for that lie kids come on get your stuff together we're gonna meet dad at the park because you know you all could play 15-20 minutes and then go with dad okay you see what I'm saying you got to change stuff up now women y'all so smart when y'all wanna be when y'all wanna be smart women will figure out how to get millions of dollars from the SBA loan from the PPP loan but then y'all scrub with changing the locks on your ex but y'all getting all these loans from the SBA and the paycheck protection and the unemployment come on now y'all got to use that same sense when you dealing with your ex change your locks when you call you thank fast on your feet we're not home right now actually I'll meet you at the park I'll meet you at 1st and 10th at the corner of 1st and 10th we don't have those kind of streets in Florida so y'all forgiving the New York mess of y'all streets my sister recently passed and many people family slash friends constantly asking me about money or saying ridiculous stuff seeking attention I still have to plan the funeral am I wrong for blocking them um no you're not wrong you're not wrong whatever protects your peace whatever protects your peace and and I'll ask you about money I don't know if they trying to give you money or if they or they you mean like insurance money but you're not wrong you're not see me the only time I'm tell you wrong for blocking somebody for blocking somebody is your child under 18 18 and over even if your child they could get blocked they could get blocked you no longer dependent on 18 the only time I tell you wrong about blocking okay insurance money oh y'all blocking you mean block before they even get the hell like block gotta go yeah but the only time you gonna hear me tell you wrong for blocking somebody your child under 18 other than that adults still in your peace scratching God bless your height on you talk about those with a beg to differ spirit I have a brother like that and he makes negative comments about my 5 year old son how do I know when to speak up verse when to keep the peace for your child always speak up for your child always because don't let nobody put stuff in the universe on your child don't let nobody speak it's power in the tongue death and life is in the tongue so don't ever let your brother ever ever let your brother speak bad on your 5 year old check I mean immediately check them and I don't curse but that's when you and God if you got the curse that's when you and God ok ask God for forgiveness but listen here no don't ever let nobody I don't let my mom, my sister my daddy, my uncle, my brother my cousin speak on my child or my wife you mean if I got the grout they tongue don't don't let nobody speak on your children like that if a man tells you he loves you for the first time during intimate moment performed on him what does that mean red flag s at it Sarah um my camera acting up y'all give him phone buffering um alright nah see nah see nah ok alright see you said man ok you didn't say husband band you didn't say boyfriend you didn't say fiance you said man you gonna need a session and the reason why you gonna need a session cause you not supposed to be out here choking on microphones or somebody you don't even know this is a man they're just a man they're not a boyfriend they're not a fiance and then that's the first time he said that that's the first time he said I love you when you down there singing on the microphone and then you said and you didn't say singing on the microphone you said uh some performed on him so I we just hoping it's on the microphone but listen Sarah you gotta you gotta pocket Sarah all the way together let me help let me help y'all ladies understand this listen singing on the microphone is more degrading that's more degrading than getting on your back I'm not condoning getting on your back but a lot of y'all don't understand this about men men will let antibody antibody sing on that microphone so what you have to realize is that that woman that's $2 walking down the street on that avenue that's who men will let do that to do that to them but see men feel more intimate lying down with the woman so what you have to understand is when you get on your knee and you go to sing on that microphone that's the lowest of the low that's the lowest of the low that's not your husband okay that's not your husband you have just degraded yourself you've made yourself this big in that man eyes and he telling you that a lot of you to reinforce you and men learn that at a young age I remember I had a homeboy he told me he said hey when she get down there when she get down there on that microphone he said I go to make a noise I go to make a noise just to encourage her just to get up he said why go to oh I was like you be making noise he's like yeah man you gotta encourage her so that way she'll like it and she don't want to keep doing it we was like we was in high school so that let me know he men know that at a young age to encourage you sing baby sing hit that note so you have to stay off of the microphone you hear me that shouldn't even come across your mind if that's not your husband and I really don't even know what the Lord say about that with your husband but I'm gonna just say it's okay in marriage but outside of marriage you doing the most you doing the most all capital M-O-S we finna add an I in there M-O-I-S-T you doing the moist and so that's what I want you all to understand is say your mouth say your mouth say keep your lips closed too but what I've been noticing women patting themselves on the back for closing their lips and opening their mouth no no no y'all come on now Erica God bless you now what do you do with a confused man spends his free time with me takes trips, invest together says he's not ready for a commitment after 9 months says be patient but I fear he's just comfortable and having fun with me and that's it Erica you said it right you answered all you answered your question right there see it the seed to the solution is always right there in the problem and so you answered your question he not confused he not confused at all he know exactly what he doing using you you're a good time, you're a fun time you're a hold me down you're a placeholder you're a coaster see this coaster ain't got nothing to drink in here yeah but y'all do fine with protein bottle on the floor see this coaster that what you else so you just holding him up right now you see what I mean you tired of ya he just gonna trade ya it's been 9 months listen to me 9 months you shouldn't be invested nothing nothing but time y'all invested together that man finna have you on American greed Joanne God bless you divorced my husband for being a serial cheat found out we were pregnant before the divorce was finalized how to stay away from this toxicity still Joanne you gonna need coaching you gonna need coaching because I'm be I'm just that Joanne listen alright there's a $500 question with a $4.99 price tag okay we ain't gonna be able to touch them $500 questions but not really not mention money but I'm just saying that's a really deep situation whenever you mention husband whenever y'all mention marriage that's a coaching session because he marriages until death do us part so we really I really don't feel comfortable addressing marriage on here what I like to talk about is just you know the little play play situations that people be having that could be shot down just shoot it out out but marriage that's a coaching session that's a coaching session okay be and staying away that's a real deep one right there alright so understand that's I can't teach you here Cheryl God bless you now this is for making me holler by saying that over 50 group need to wear a mask on the virtual day hey God bless I said that I said that or you put words in my mouth now Cheryl that made my day thank you for all you do by the way I'm over 50 God bless you now you don't look a day pass for this Cheryl God have been good to you and for God bless is it okay to have a male companion who lives eight hours away both of us are Christian and want to get married someday but we both only want friendship right now I'm 28 and he is 33 he don't want you Amber he don't want you so don't you should not want him either he don't want you because in a man 33 that's when the Jeep that's when Jesus left earth definitely Jesus died and rose again at 33 so he know what he want if all he want is friendship that let you know he don't want you and ain't got nothing against you it just you not his wife and he's not your husband so understand that move on about your life and if y'all want to be pen pals and y'all want to block each other blessing by talking to each other and exchanging that energy and turning into a a long distance situation ship by all means y'all could do that but it's gonna block your blessing because your mind is gonna shut off to your husband that you walking right past every day for this man that's 8 hours away talking about he just want to be friends and he 33 years old he too old he too old 25 I love slide 33 no playboy you need to know what you want if you a man at 33 a man could look at a woman without even talking to him and say that's my wife he could read your whole mind at 33 he could read your mind and tell if you his wife ain't heard you say a word you hear what I'm telling you don't waste your time now and a man turn 25 that's the age of reckoning from 25 on a man need to be uh uh uh uh do what I want do what I want do what I want do what we gonna do do what we bout to do alright this what I'm doing courting you like this okay now be exclusive alright now I'm on one knee hit marry alright here go to wedding date alright he need to be making moves uh Nikosha God bless you is it okay to give my boyfriend an ultimatum after 14 months dating living together since March and in for an occasion he said he looked at rings but I slow him down when I come with my insecurities thoughts watch my video from the day Nikosha watch my video from the day and I was just the thing you playing yourself you playing yourself because he he's doing what you allow him to do so you living with him since March alright right when it hit time the quarantine y'all start living together you didn't have you didn't have covid twice he didn't cough all in your face and he step outside come back coughing in your face y'all living together sleeping together it's been 14 months 12 month of mark a man need to be on his knees by the end of the 13 month a man need to be on that one knee when you marry me if he don't hit that one knee by the end of that 13 y'all definitely should not be living together now he might not ask you until month 18 but y'all shouldn't be living together and sleeping together you playing yourself that's what they talking about why buy the cow when the milk is free alright we got to remember that just old school common sense right there so yes it's time for ultimatum on him but honestly no what I mean ultimatum you got to get yourself an ultimatum meaning am I finna lead is you finish or is you done because if you give a man an ultimatum he may marry you just to dog you out because you gave him an ultimatum men don't like ultimatum men don't like anybody forcing a hand so if he not asking for your hand in marriage then that mean you will be forcing his hand and if you force his hand then that mean you gonna have to watch it behind walk out the door with another woman oh god bless you guy friends have told me that when a woman breaks free from a toxic man that when he realizes he has lost control over her that it hurts him in his soul do you agree reasoning behind it it hurts his ego it doesn't hurt his heart it don't hurt his soul it hurts his ego so what you have to realize is that woman is the punching bag that woman is the pain pill that woman is the test dummy the do girl so he's hurting he's lost and he takes that out by controlling her so when he loses his outlet then he feels lost and he's hurting because now he gotta confront himself in the mirror now listen now I'm gonna miss some of these questions cause I see they coming in fast and some of these questions is deep so they disappear so y'all got to forgive me now you got to count it all joy so I saw somebody that told me the other day hey Tony you missed two questions did you wanna come over here did you wanna come over here is you over here I'm gonna miss a couple questions because I'm human answering a million questions and I'm just one person so y'all understand that and I count it all joy if you send a blessing up there and I don't see you I try to go find you Martina, God bless you thank you for the laugh tonight when y'all say people be saying thank you for the laugh so I'm not telling any jokes so that means that your spirit just in the right place and you just looking for your laugh you over there looking at oh that black top is hilarious that's a black top that's how y'all be but that's just the world we live in y'all be looking for a laugh I'm gonna be telling y'all jokes test it God bless you and complain when getting called out about something he flip the script and act like I don't understand his pain did a video for you today Tessie did a video for you today you might have missed it when I talked about the man mind tricks watch that whole video I did today it's really just a man seeking control that's all it is when do you start talking about being in a relationship when dating what does we have to grow to that mean well Bridget, typically for a man the man will be talking about it because he is the pursuer he's the one gotta get on one knee ask you for your hand in marriage so typically the man gonna bring it up and that's gonna be between month three and six on average if a man is talking every day that's gonna if y'all talking every day that's gonna be between month three and six if y'all talking every day these confessions I'm sorry God bless you I don't know what you're sorry about you must have got deleted or blocked or something like that 80 moderators gonna be playing with y'all I don't know what you're talking about though same pray love God bless you I reconnected with my childhood friend who was BFF's with my now deceased brother we had so much chemistry and he wants to pursue me but lives in New York well if he want to pursue you he'll pursue you see love transcends distance love transcends time if it's the right person it's always the right time sometimes people say do you believe in the right person wrong time because love transcends time so if it's the wrong time that means it's the wrong person because nothing is stronger than love nothing is greater than love so you got to understand now and what you have to realize is humans are selfish so if a person is hurting if a person is bored, if a person is lonely they'll tell you anything to use you for your time so understand you can't believe everything something come out somebody mouth if he want to pursue you you'll know he want to pursue you he don't want to pursue you unless you see him and feel him pursuing you Christy God bless your height Tony is it okay to ask a guy you just started talking to what is he looking for no and it's not necessary because for one he's not going to tell you the truth and then two you'll know if he looking for you so you know don't ask questions like that just be in a moment and pay attention to what he's not saying see you don't want to ask you don't want to get hung up on the answers you're receiving you want to get hung up on the answers you're seeing not what you're receiving verbally but what you're seeing physically north star G God bless you my boyfriend of two years is back in the streets after not being a part of it for a long time he knows I don't like it should I give him an ultimatum or just break up with him um you if he know you don't like it and he went back to the streets you're going to have to leave him and it's been two years and he's still a boyfriend you will have to leave him you have to leave him if you leave him and you make it look real you got to make it look real now you got to make it look real got to make it look real now but if you leave him and make it look real he might go on and come on out the streets My wife did to me. I thought I had her I thought she was there because we had been together about two years and we had just got married and I said I'm gonna go back to the streets So I went back to the streets got my little work I'm in the streets hustling and then one day she came home It was like I'm leaving You finna leave? I'm just trying to make a little money and then you scream She said I told y'all I'm not gonna be with a man who is gonna be in the streets And I tried to hold them. I tried to bell hug her. I tried to tackle her We had a furniture in the living room. So it wasn't nothing but an open space I tried to catch her and she's still there and that's where the 72 hour rule come from In a woman's influence. So make sure y'all read this book now You're gonna learn about 72 hour rule and that 72 hour rule it broke me down. It broke me down I left them streets alone. I got my wife back Ain't look by sense. That was 13 years ago Mo God bless you. Thank you for answering my question. You said to feel everything my stomach literally hurts I want to go off on him, but I'm better than that moving on advice. Keep feeling it and Go on Tony gas Academy take the courses get new knowledge. See when you healing Healing is just new knowledge. What they say knowledge is power Why they say knowledge is power because knowledge produces confidence. So when you confident you powerful So it's all about getting new knowledge read the books take the course and watch the video talk to your confidants your Accountability partners. That's how you heal Lola God bless you. Do you think a man without a child will still want to marry a woman with one child? Or should I only look for men with kids? Every man will be different on that, you know, if a man grew up with a bunch of siblings Then you having a child probably don't bother him if a man is fearful About his ways with a child then that may bother him if a man Fears other men and don't want to deal with baby daddy drama. They're gonna bother him. So it depends on the man it's not just a One size fits all on that right now. It depends on the man and some men and men like what I