 The number one thing a narcissist will never do. This is something that separates narcissists from the rest of us. It is a clear distinction between a normal relationship and a narcissistic relationship. It may even reveal to you that you are dealing with a narcissist because it's not normal behavior. It's not something that you should expect if you are in a relationship with someone. But this is how narcissists behave. It's normal for a narcissist. If you are in a relationship, the person you are with should be the most important person in your life. They should be of great significance and value. So you should want to give them support rather than tearing them down or watching them being teared down by someone else. If that happened to someone you care about, you would step in. You would intervene. You wouldn't allow it to continue. But the number one thing a narcissist will never do is defend you. They will never protect you from harm or danger. They will never have your back. They will never speak in support of your ideas, beliefs or plans, especially when no one else will. They will never support or defend you when you are being criticized. They will never show strength, confidence or determination on your behalf or as your representative. They will never take your side. They will never agree with you in an argument. If someone is mocking you or insulting you, they will choose their side. They will support and favor someone else. They will show approval and preference for them over you. Or they will walk away and leave you to figure it out on your own. But they will never support or defend you. They will never stick up for you. They will join in. Or they will ignore it. They will find it amusing. They will see it as entertainment. And if you ever confront them on it, they will say that you're easily offended or upset. They will gas like you. Or they will shift the blame on to you, which will leave you feeling unsafe. It will leave you feeling as though you are not protected. As though you are exposed to danger or risk. It will leave you feeling very cautious because you know that if anything goes down, they're not going to be there for you. It doesn't mean that they should be angry or aggressive. But they could at least step in to confront the other person's behavior. And tell them that it is not acceptable. But the narcissist only cares about their own appearance. They only care about getting validation. And they're not going to surrender that so that they can defend you. Sometimes they might be backed into a corner where they have no choice but to respond. But it will be as they result to their own preoccupation with themselves and the gratification of their own desires. Or because they took it as an attack on them. Rather than something that was directed at you. The narcissist will make it very clear to you that they do not have your back. They will defend anyone other than you. They will choose sides against you so that they can boastfully display their abilities and accomplishments. So that they can attract people's attention and admiration. So if you are in a relationship with a narcissist, you will always be left unprotected. They will always leave you to incur blame and punishment. They will always leave you to accept blame for something they did. They will never be at your side when there is a need or opportunity for it. In a narcissistic family, they will only favor the golden child. Or the child that they have brainwashed. While they treat you in a strikingly different way, they see anything close to them as being worthless and beneath their consideration. They have strong feelings of disrespect and disapproval for you. Because they just see you as something that is disposable. You're expendable. You're able to be abandoned or destroyed and then replaced with something else. Which is how they feel like they can treat you however they like. But they also assume that you're not going to leave. Which is why they don't bother to defend you. Because their supply is more important to them. And why would they defend something they think is worthless? The narcissist has an inflated ego. So they will side with their family and friends and even strangers against you. But if they are doing that, recognize that it is a choice. There is another alternative. There is another option. But instead, they choose to go with the one that is against you. Which should tell you that they don't admire or respect you. They don't value your relationship. And one day, they may need to publicly support you in a situation that is very important for you. Which could involve a lot of risk or serious consequences. Maybe you could develop an illness or an injury. And if this person cannot be there for you now, do you really think they're going to be there when you need it the most? Are they going to take your side and defend you when you're in danger and when you need help? Are they going to fight for you? Are they going to go to war for you when you need someone to publicly support and defend you? I can almost guarantee that the narcissist will not. Thank you for watching. I hope this video resonates with you. Please like, comment, share and subscribe. If you would like to donate, my PayPal link is in the video description. Coaching inquiries. You can email me at coaching at laksa5.co.uk. Thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon.