 Okay, let's pray. Father, we thank You for this day, Lord. We thank You for giving us yet another opportunity to come to Your presence, Father God, from various places. So God will draw near, Lord, to seek You, to seek Your will, to seek Your purposes for us, Lord. We thank You for Your Word. We thank You for Your presence, Lord. We thank You for Your anointing that breaks every yoke that makes God everything possible, Lord, whatever You instructed in Your Word, Lord. We thank You that the empowering of Your Spirit is enough for us to walk in that mask. We thank You for the empowering of Your Holy Spirit. We thank You for Your anointing, Lord, that enables us, Lord, to put to death the deeds of the body. We thank You for this verse that we read just now that when we walk in the Spirit as prompted, as led, Lord, as guided by You, by Your Spirit, Lord, we will not fulfill the lust of the flesh. And it could be in any scenario, God, we thank You that it will its work or family, marriage, Lord, in all these environments, God, in all these different scenarios, God, when we are led by You, Lord, when we walk in the Spirit, we will not fulfill the lust of the flesh. We thank You for this declaration of victory, Father God. And so we choose to agree, God, we accept, we receive Your Word this morning, and we agree with Your work, knowledge that this is the truth, God, because You have spoken it, You have declared it. And so we declare it over our lives, God, that we will walk in the Spirit, that we will not fulfill the lust of the flesh, God. And we just, God, bring all areas of our lives, Lord, and we submit under the Lordship, Lord, under Your submission, God. And we pray and we ask this morning that You will continue to lead us, God, even as we follow You, even as we obey God, and even as we put to death the leads of the body, we thank You, Master. We thank You, Lord. We give You all the praise, we give You all the glory of this time. In Jesus name we pray. Amen. Amen. Awesome. Okay. So today, before we just step in, I just wanted to quickly talk about what we saw last class. We looked at how the husband and wife are the team, and we looked at the dynamics of the team and how that would really help in a marriage relationship, help strengthen the marriage relationship, help everything that the couple does together to really prosper, to dwell with understanding, spiritually prayers and spiritual walk with the Lord. Everything is enhanced. Everything changes when we begin to work or walk together as a team. And we looked at some of the hindrances, what really keeps us from becoming a good team. And we also looked at something which is much bigger in terms of purpose, in terms of our walk with the Lord. The fact that the Lord, yes, He calls us individually, but He also calls us as couples, as husband and wife together to serve kingdom purposes. And that's a beautiful thing that the Lord invites husband and wife as a couple to serve His kingdom, to build His kingdom. And that's a beautiful thing. So once the couple understands, okay, God, this is one area that you called us, this is one thing that we can do together. So there's so much synergy, there's so much of sharing of strength, there's so much of covering up or overcoming of weaknesses, because one is strong in the very area that the other one is not so strong, maybe. So we see all that. And also looked at some of the practical things, that when you are pursuing kingdom purposes, that we always need to support one another, encourage one another. And also we looked at some very practical things like, just one second, sorry. So very practical things like when it comes to people, so ministry is about people. And especially if we are going to be in a church kind of a ministry or any other kind of ministry, we are going to be interacting with people. So we do not need to live for people's approvals and expectations. And we say this in a good way, in the sense, well, there could be constructive criticism, there could be certain expectations which go with the role, that is fine. But then we don't have to live for the approval, we don't have to impress people and live to always fulfill the expectations, especially when you know that, okay, this is what traditionally the role calls for. And we saw how typically a pastor's wife is supposed to be serving in this area, the pastor's kids are supposed to be doing this and all that. The pastor's son or the daughter needs to continue with the ministry and those kind of expectations which are more cultural and traditional rather than the truth itself, the truth of God's word. So we can very lovingly and also in a firm manner, explain to people and also be faithful to serve God and in the very area that he's called. So we don't have to cave into that kind of pressure. And also when it comes to nurturing children, we see that that responsibility is for the couple as husband and wife and as mother and father. And so we don't have to relegate, we should not relegate that responsibility to anyone else, right? Okay, of course, others in the extended family can definitely or be, you know, chin and help and, you know, because there are so much of pack schedules and different things to be done. But then the owners, the responsibility is on us to pay some up. And being a husband and wife team definitely helps, definitely helps live or parent in an effective manner. Okay, so today, we're going to look at one more interesting aspect of marriage, which is, you know, which is something that the husband and wife needs to be skilled at. And having skills in this area definitely would help sort out a lot of problems, right? So this is in the area of conflicts or resolving conflicts. Okay, so when it comes to marriage, when it comes to, you know, the ideal marriage, one would say, okay, we do not want to have any fights, we don't want to have any arguments, we don't want to have, you know, any disagreements. And that's the, you know, that's a dream of every couple, I think when they're at the altar and they're exchanging their vows, it's a beautiful setting, it's wonderful and, you know, it's a happy occasion. And that's what the, I'm sure that's what they're wishing for, you know, but that is not reality, right? The conflicts are bound to happen. A conflict can be a disagreement, conflict can be that just a different way of looking at things and it can be as sharp as an argument or it can be, you know, it can be something more intense than that also, it can be a quarrel, it can be a fight, whatever. But the thing is to have an expectation that that it's going to be completely zero conflict is not a realistic expectation, okay. And why, you know, the reason is that the primary reason is that as a couple, the husband and the wife are different in so many ways, okay. So even the husband and wife who are like, you know, whom you can say that they are so similar, they are similar likes and similar, you know, dislikes and they like the same thing and all that. Even those couples have differences, okay. They are built differently, wired differently. They have differences, okay. So there's no doubt about that. So we're just going to look at some of these differences in what realms we have these differences so that, you know, it doesn't take us by surprise, right. Let me just share that screen. So many times what happens is, you know, when there's a conflict, people or the couple just comes to the understand, comes to the maybe kind of a conclusion that, yeah, this is the end of it. You know, this is that we've had a conflict, we had a fight and this is like a black mark in our, you know, spotless record. And so, wow, this is it. This is the end of it. You know, we can't proceed beyond that, you know. So that is, that is not true. Okay. So the thing is that conflicts are bound to happen. Okay. It's just that we need to know how to handle them. Okay. And it happens because we are different. Okay. Let's see. What are the areas in which as husband and wife or as men and women, you know, as a gender itself, we are different, right. So as men and women, there are differences. One, of course, the most obvious one is in terms of anatomy, right, physical anatomy, there is difference. Physiologically, also, there are differences. When we say physiologically, we're saying, okay, in terms of, in terms of strength, in terms of, you know, in terms of thinking, in terms of more, maybe the physical attributes. Well, men are different. Men are stronger in most cases than women. And then, well, science also has proved that women have four times, apparently, more neurons or brain cells than connecting, you know, the left and the right half of the brain or the hemisphere of the brain than men. So the way they think is different, the way they decide certain things is different, the way they make choices, it's different. So there are, so physiological, physiological differences. Now, these physiological differences, now they influence the way men and women affect or influence, I mean, sorry, it influences how they approach a problem. Okay, how they're going to approach a problem, how they think and make decisions, the kind of capacity for remembering, you know, data, remembering dates and remembering, you know, all those things, remembering information, recalling information, everything is, is different. And so that influences or that definitely has an impact in the way, in the relationship, right? So we need to, it's a given, right? It's, this is what happens. So there's no avoiding this, this is how it is. So when it comes to, let's say, yeah, then the third, third area, sorry, is psychological. Okay, so physical, anatomical, then physiological, then psychological. So when it comes to psychological, you know, the way problems are solved, the way thinking itself, thinking pattern, memory, etc. So let's say, for example, if you're looking at, you know, problem solving, normally they say that, you know, for women, the process of how it is solved is, is very, very important. Okay, so it's a, it's an opportunity to share, to discuss, to interact, the relationship is strengthened. And, you know, all that happens. Okay, and recently we had a, we had a project, you know, presentation, different groups and, and, you know, my wife was in a, in a different group and just primarily, you know, all the ladies were there in that group. And, well, they would meet very often, they would discuss and, you know, late night calls and, and all that was happening, a lot of chatter, a lot of things, and they really enjoyed that whole thing. And I was just comparing that with some of the, you know, the all the guys groups, which, which, which also meant, but it was mainly focused on, on the, you know, task at hand, well, all the other things were just a outflow of that, or outflow of the group meeting together, but, but it was like, okay, let's, let's solve it, let's get it done, and then let's move on, you know, we just don't want to hang around and do these things. And yeah, so it is like that. So when it, even when it comes to problem solving, it's, it's the approach is different and the way they do it, the way the man does, the way the woman does is different. So now that's going to, so those are, that's a difference. And then, when it comes to thinking itself, something as basic as thinking, processing information, you know, so when it comes to women, the, the, no, the psychological aspect of people who have studied, you know, human behavior, they say that women are very, very intuitive. They are, they, they consider multiple sources of information, not just go with one thing, and before making their choice. And there's so much of, like, connectedness, okay, in making decisions. Right. In fact, I think the next slide kind of, you know, explains that. Let me just, yeah. Yeah. So it says men are like waffles in the sense, you know, if, if you see waffles, waffles are like, like this, right? It's a block and it has these kind of, you know, impressions there. So men are like waffles in the sense, so compartmentalized. Okay. So you think about one thing. I'm not going to think about, I'm not going to let the other thing affect it, like to a, to a large extent. Whereas for women, you know, people say that women are like spaghetti in the sense, like, like noodles or, you know, spaghetti. So everything is connected. Okay. Everything is interconnected. It's not compartmentalized. The way what happened in the morning, what happened, the conversation that happened over breakfast, the, you know, everything is connected. So ultimately, when it comes to that interaction and or a problem, you know, everything has a bearing on it, right? So it's so interconnected. It's, it's not boxed like, like men's thinking. So women think differently. So that also has a bearing on the relationship when it comes to conflicts. Okay. Okay. When it comes to memory, where women have a, do have an edge in the sense they are able to recall. Okay. Like, for example, I'm, I'm talking to my wife. And then, you know, she says things like, okay, on that day, this person wore that or she's able to recall a particular, I don't know, some birthday or wedding anniversary. And then she's talking about, okay, I, this person wore that or I wore that. And, and it just beats me because I have no idea what I wore on that day. I have no idea what that other person wore on that day. So my memory is completely okay. You know, I think I wore something formal or casual. Maybe it's, that's the, you know, that's the depth it can go to. And I'm sure there could be exceptions. You know, I'm sure there could be men who have, you know, a great memory also, but then by and large, this is how it is. So they're able to bring back when it comes to remembering details, okay, about something that happened. They're able to remember things, restructure the events. Okay, this is what happened. You said this, I said this, you said this, all details are there. And the man is like blank. Okay, maybe even the, you know, the, the, the sequence of it is sometimes, you know, forgotten. So, so that, so this is what happened, right? So that's, that's a big difference, right? Okay. So you can imagine, right, when it comes to these kind of things, okay, sensitivity, let's look at sensitivity. So women, more sensitive, more caring. And I think it is more to do with, of course, people also have found out that it's more to do with the fact that they are, you know, they are naturally wired and designed for, for nurture, for care, to, to be a mother to the child and so on. So again, they, it's, it's a, it's a gender, we can't really completely generalize, there could be exceptions, but women are more caring, more sensitive, right? Well, men, how are relationships with others, you know, when they have shared activities, when they do stuff together, and it could be, you know, a physical, more like a physical thing, maybe like a game or something, or sport, and, you know, and that's how they connect with people, and maybe over, you know, even watching a game, you know, like cricket or football or whatever. And there are a lot of sharing things that happens, sharing of information, discussing certain things like politics or, you know, something like that. So, so this, men connect over those things. Okay. So it's, it could be things like, you know, sharing of information, so not necessarily maybe naturally compassionate. Again, there could be differences, but the thing is this. So we have all these differences between just the gender between the man and the woman. So, so in a marriage, one needs to be able to understand, recognize that there are these differences. So it's, it's, it's, we cannot expect the wife to think the same way as, you know, as the husband is thinking to approach a problem the same way the husband is approaching to solve some things the same way the husband is doing. Right. So both will be different. Okay. So we need to kind of recognize that. Okay. Okay. This is how this person does it. Well, some could be just on the spur of the moment, right, spur of the moment decisions, spur of the moment, some choices, right, very impulsive sometimes. Well, the other person is very rational. I'm talking about, you know, it could be either the husband or the wife, very rational, a lot of research, maybe time taken to go through these things. Yes, no, and our pros and cons and comes to us. So for that, for that kind of a person, an impulsive, you know, if the other, if the spouse is very impulsive, and this is how they decide, it puts a lot of pressure, you know, let's go there. No, we need time. One person likes surprises. Wow, let's do it. Let's go there. Fine. Fantastic. Oh, we need to do it. Wonderful. People suddenly show up. Oh, wow. So I'm so surprised. And then, and then just enjoy the surprise. But for the other person, they don't, they can't handle that. They can't handle impulsive things. They can't handle surprises. Oh, no, I need some time. Oh, I'm not dressed for the occasion. I'm not, you know, mentally prepared. I need some time to just process these things. So it puts them under pressure. Whereas the other thing, other person is like, you know, bored, saying like, come on, let's raise your sense of adventure. And there itself, you know, that because the difference is there could be a conflict, right? So, so the thing is to recognize that there are differences, to acknowledge that there are differences. And these are, these are uniqueness. You know, these are unique to every person. And these are unique, typically to the gender itself, right? So, so recognize, understand. And, and also some things that that is not to be done is not to criticize. And because of these things, not to criticize. Well, so to learn to respect, to learn to love, to learn to serve, with these, you know, differences, right? That doesn't mean that okay, if it is hurting, or if it is being ineffective, certain things are being ineffective, let's say, one person is forever cleaning, arranging, the other person is just making a mess. Okay, the other person is just not able to, you know, put things together or unable to, and also not, you know, putting things in place. Obviously, the house is going to look a mess, right? It's going to be very messy. And things are not in their place. And I'm going to find great difficulty in finding one simple thing. Okay, where are the keys? You don't know. Where did you keep them? I don't know. And so how do we lock the house now? We need to leave. So, they are spending a lot of time just searching for the house keys, so that they can love. So, those are things that one needs to avoid, you know, with respect to whether it's impulsive, or creative, or inspirational, and, you know, all those characteristics. Well, here's something that needs to be sorted. Okay, so when it comes to those kind of things, of course, you know, we need to love, respect, and in an atmosphere of love and mutual respect, decide the course of action, saying, okay, this is something, this is the place for the keys. This is the place for the clothes. Okay, now, within this, you do what you want, right? If this is the place for the clothes, and this is your space for the clothes. In this space, how you want it is entirely up to you. But the suggestion is that if you want to find it, you'll find it easier if it is kept in this way, right? So that's the thing. So you don't have to criticize the person and say, you are always messy, or you are always disorganized, and we can help, right? Because if we make those kind of statements, we are actually putting down our spouse, or the other person is saying, you are always too rigid, you are inflexible, you're always doing this, have, you know, losing up, have some fun, you're always like this, why are you like this? You know, you're so obsessively organized, or so, you know, it's like an compulsive behavior. So when we attack each other, it's not going to solve anything, right? But when we recognize that, okay, this person is, even for a simple decision, is going to take some time, okay, fine. But, you know, if it's going to affect the working of the operation of the house and other decisions, then we need to talk and find a way out, okay, without putting down the person, right? And we can talk about the behavior, we can talk about, you know, these traits, without putting down the person, without attacking the character, right? So that can always be done, okay? You know, we go back to that scripture, 1 Peter 3, and verse 7. Okay, 1 Peter 3, we've gone back to it several times. So let's go back to that, 1 Peter 3 in verse 7, which says, husbands likewise, 12 with them, talking about the wife, with understanding, okay? Giving honor to the wife as to the weaker vessel, and as being as together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered. So we understand several things, okay? First thing, foremost thing is the instruction itself, right? Dwell with understanding. But going beyond that, we see that there is a need for dwelling with understanding, why? You know, it says that giving honor to the wife as to the weaker vessel. So there are, you know, there is that physiological difference there, and there could be, you know, n number of other differences, so the need to dwell with understanding. And this applies to, you know, both of them, the husband and the wife, to dwell with understanding, right? And primarily, the instruction is for the husband, and also other instructions that we see in the next chapter. So it, or sorry, when we go to, when we go to Ephesians, and we look at Ephesians 5, we see the other aspect or the instruction for the wife, for the wife to dwell with the husband, to be submissive, and, you know, to love and to cherish, for the instruction for the husband, and to give oneself love as Christ loved the church, and to give oneself to the wife, and for the wife to respect, for the wife to be submissive, and so on. So we see that, you know, these instructions are there, which means that there is a need to understand the difference. There is a need to acknowledge that, yeah, there is a, these all differences are there, but we're going beyond that. We're not saying, okay, people will be perfect, and therefore I can, I can do this. No, people will not be perfect, there will be differences, and despite that, we acknowledge that these are the differences, and we go beyond that. Okay, so when conflicts arise, and why do conflicts arise? First of all, it's because of these differences, but conflicts can also be because of other factors, okay, other external factors. Like one, the thing is this, when the husband and wife are not prepared, and the husband and wife are not living according to God's design of marriage, when there is no understanding of God's design of marriage, well, there will be constant conflicts. Why? Because this is the design, this is how God designed it, and we're not going as per the design, okay? Like for example, if, you know, either the husband or the wife's parents are going to be constantly interfering, constantly directing, constantly making decisions on behalf of the husband and wife, right? Now there will be conflict, there's bound to be conflict, right? Because, well, the Bible is very clear, it says, okay, this is, for this reason, shall a man leave his mother and father and leave, right? So that leaving is not abandoning, we looked at that, this leaving is not disrespect to the, you know, it's a lack of honor, nothing there of that sort, but then there is a separation in the sense that here now, husband and wife are a separate entity. So they're going to be making choices for them themselves as husband and wife, and for them as family, there can be, you know, good advice, or maybe there is some good counsel coming from either, you know, parents, which is fine, then ultimately the decision, the direction is taken as, you know, in a, in a consultative manner by the husband and wife. So, so when there's interference, obviously there will be conflict. There could be conflicts because of financial things, the way the husband handles the finances, the way the wife handles it, maybe it has to do with spending, it has to do with saving, right? If there are differences, and one doesn't understand why this person is living that way, or if there are, you know, if there are, if those financial decisions hurt the family, right? Maybe there's extravagant living and not enough, you know, not proper stewardship of finances, and there's, and there's lack because of that, there's constant tension because of that, then there will be a conflict, okay? And if there are other behavior patterns, behavior patterns like maybe some addictions, behavior patterns which, which, you know, without proper boundaries for relationships, you know, people of other gender, it could be without proper boundaries, well-defined boundaries in relationships, then again, there is a conflict, okay? And when either the husband or the wife constantly and consistently, if they neglect their responsibilities, they're going to be saying, okay, not living up to the promise, not, not taking, you know, taking responsibility for their behavior, or taking care of some of the things that they need to do, okay? Consistently saying, okay, I'm not going to do anything. And we see, you know, some, it's very sad, but we see some of the, you know, people who help in, in people's homes, we constantly, you know, hear this, you know, that the husband is drinking and just, you know, sitting at home, not doing anything. And, and the wife is going and helping in, you know, different homes, she's taking care, somehow getting, putting all this money together, paying for the fees, children's fees, and paying for the rent and taking care of the expenses of the running, the expenses of the house. And, and you see that there is constant turmoil, you know, the atmosphere in the house is one of conflict and, you know, hurt and, and, and always, there's some kind of verbal abuse and domestic violence and all that happens, right? So we see that these kinds of things, like, so even in a Christian home, even when we say that, okay, the husband and wife are believers, if both of them don't share the load or don't take care of the responsibilities as they should, then there is, but they're bound to be conflict. Okay. So when, when there's, okay, let me just see what else. Yeah. So when there's, when there's a conflict, there's, you know, there's arguments, there is, maybe, you know, people are being, there's argument, arguments, and then you say hurtful things, there's heightened emotions of anger. And, and because of which, you know, you say things, you do things, and then you offend the person, hurt the person, right? And anger is, is something that there is a, probably, you know, that is the first outcome of a conflict, right? So, yeah, so the question is this, is anger good or bad? You know, anger as an emotion. Yeah. So what do you think? Is anger good? Is it bad? Probably you can put it in the chat because we need to understand, right? If, yeah, I mean, okay, Jeff, and sometimes it's good, maybe, you know, sometimes maybe. And yeah. So any other, any other responses? Like, what do you think when it comes to anger? You can just unmute and talk also. Why does a person, you know, feel anger in the first place? Anger, right? Anger, to me, anyone, why does a person get angry? Why do you get angry? And I sense Jeff, you know, put the thing, I'll just ask Jeff, you know, like, why do you get angry, Jeff? Maybe when the other person does something that I don't like, or sometimes when he doesn't do the right thing, I might get angry. Maybe when you get angry, people listen. Oh, okay. So when you, when you respond in anger, then people listen. Okay, just shouting and then they listen rather than kind words. If you kept saying something for a long time and they are not listening, and some one day, if you just raise your voice a little bit, maybe again. Then they behave themselves. Okay. Okay, John, John says, anger is a human emotion. Okay. So Bible says, be angry. And in your anger, do not sin. Be angry, but sin not. We see that in Ephesians 4, right? Okay. Paul says, it is emotional reaction that you may not control. Okay. So yeah, so the thing is this, that anger is a human emotion. Like John rightly said, it's an emotional reaction. Sometimes it's a, you know, I think reaction is a good word because it just seems to, you know, it's not a response, planned response, but it just outbursts, which is a react to a situation. And it happens. And well, so to say that anger, and like Jeffine, I said, okay, it's good sometimes. In the sense, we get angry because there's some sense of injustice, right? Some sense of injustice. In the sense, hey, I'm meant to go there. Somebody cuts, you know, in, you're on a queue and you're the next at the counter and you've been standing in the queue for about 10 minutes or so, and you're about to go and get your ticket or whatever, and then somebody cuts in. And you get angry. Now, it just indicates that you are not, you don't like that sense of injustice. And rightly so, right? It means that you are aware that it is a sense of, there's injustice being done, and you have that sense of right and wrong. You're not passive. You're not unemotional. You're just not cold, but you're alive to these things, right? And if someone is, you know, there's injustice, someone is treated poorly, someone is abused, maybe there's physical abuse, and you get stirred up, and there is a sense of anger, you know, that needs to stop. I need to do something about it. I need to, you know, so it's anger is good. But the thing is this, you know, and when we react in anger, so anger is an emotion all of us feel as human beings, we feel anger. But then when we react out of anger, and what we do with anger in anger, that is what makes it, you know, either good or bad, in the sense the outcome of it, right? So when we, in the sense, it's like this, when we feel anger and we say words, because we are stirred up, and we're angry, and there's no control of it, right? We would have used other words in a, in a different, you know, for the, for addressing this, you know, maybe you could have used, you know, wholesome, good kind words to get the job done, but then because we're angry, we use hurtful words, right? And these words go like bullets or arrows, and they are tearing down the person and hitting the, you know, character of the person. So, so when we use, when we react in anger, then it creates a problem. I mean, so anger needs to be managed well, anger needs to be managed well, or it needs to be channeled properly, needs to be controlled, right? And, and that verse that we saw, which John was referring to in Ephesians, let me just go to that verse, Ephesians 4, right? And verse 26, be angry, and do not sin, do not let the sun go down on your wrath, nor give place to the devil. So it has a spiritual repercussion in the sense, you know, in my anger, if I say something, do something and sin, now that's a possibility. If I'm continuing to be an anger, you know, anger mode, then, you know, I'm opening the door for the enemy to, I'm giving a place for the enemy. So, so it's very clear, don't give a foothold, you know, that place is, that word used there, not good places, it's a dwelling place. It could be as small as a foothold, right? So you're giving a dwelling place for the enemy, you're opening the door for the enemy. So, if it's continuing, you know, if you're going to have a sustained period of this anger, so that's the thing. So anger, it is a good emotion, but we need to do it, or we need to respond in the right way with anger. So it just, it alerts us to something that is not right. It alerts us to something that is, you know, that you are being wronged, or, and that also we need to be careful, you know, is it out of a selfish thing, you know, motive, or is it, is it otherwise? Okay. So anger must be dealt with in the right manner. Maybe, you know, in your notes, there are several scriptures that talk about the negative impact of anger, right? It talks about when we are always angry, we do some things which are not wise, foolish things. Anger causes arguments, whereas when we are patient, it brings about peace. When we have a quick temper, you know, a quick to get angry causes a lot of strife, a lot of quarreling, a lot of trouble. Okay. So if you are quick tempered, you know, if you're not, if you are quick to get angry, then in the relationship, there's going to be a lot of quarrels and a lot of strife. It's quick to get angry and in your anger, you're saying certain things, and it creates a very, very, very negative atmosphere in the home, right? It affects the, you know, the relationship with the husband and wife, and also, when there are children, it affects them. They are constantly, you know, we don't realize it, but those constant arguments and those constant exchange in anger, exchange of angry words and anger emotion, it affects the children as well, right? So that's the sad part of it. Okay. So James 119 and 20 says, everyone, you know, we should be quick to listen, slow to speak, slow to anger. Quick to listen, slow to speak, slow to anger. And also the verse 20 talks about how the anger of man does not fulfill the purpose of God, right? So, so this is the, you know, the outcome of anger. Okay. Okay, we'll stop here. We'll take a break and then we will get back.