 What's going on you guys welcome to the single guy channel? My name is Lloyd giving you practical and actionable dating advice that really works today We're gonna be talking about a subject that I was reluctant to talk about but since 17% of my audience happens to be in this age bracket I'm gonna be talking about it today, and that's how to get girls in high school Okay, if you're a guy who's struggling with girls in high school. Okay, you're not alone There's so many guys out there, especially when I was in high school I had a lot of trouble and it's because you're kind of in this closed environment that pigeon holes you into an area where there's It's very difficult to move around Okay, so a lot of the videos that you read online are about approaching tons of women and a lot of pickup devices like that I actually wouldn't recommend doing that when you're in a closed environment like high school is because you can get pigeon Hold into a certain kind of guy and very difficult to dig yourself out of that hole once you've done it So if you are someone who wants to get better with girls I think the number one thing that you need to start doing is you need to start Socializing with people more a lot of guys in high school What they do is they just go to their class and then they basically just go home and sit in the front of their computer and play video games Or do whatever it is do their homework and they do the bare minimum to get by I think you got to do a little bit more if you want to get girls in high school If you want better for yourself then chances are you're gonna have to do better So in this video what I'm going to be talking about is I'm gonna be talking about the practical tips that are gonna help You get girls in high school I'm gonna talk about the complications the problems that you're going to encounter once you execute these tips and the final thing Are the mindsets that you need to have in order to be successful not just in high school But in life in general okay So the first practical tip that I have for you is like I said if you're just going home right after school You're just trying to get through class and you're just hoping a one-girl likes you okay You need to be more proactive than that you need to actually go out and talk to people One of the things that I suggest that you start doing is join some clubs join some organizations join some sports teams You know for me sports teams really didn't get me that many girls But I'm sure if you join the football team or something like that there'll be girls that are interested in you I was the captain of my soccer team for two years and Didn't really do much for me But I guess people really didn't care about soccer and make sure that you're joining a club that you know It's gonna have girls that you like there's gonna have girls that are pretty or people that you might be interested in a student Body's really great You know my student body at my high school had it was like 90 80% women or something like that You know and you were the thing about these that you're doing projects together So changes are you've probably talked to some of the popular kids at your school or something like that? But you haven't really been able to make a connection with them Well the way you make a connection with them is if you have projects when you do activities with them And that's actually a recipe for life just having casual conversations doesn't really bring a strong connection But if you're doing activities, you're actually doing stuff with them that will bring a connection to them And you will become better friends with them The second thing is when you're in class don't just be in class just to be there Okay, all this comes down to socializing more and if you're just in class just to try and get by or like I was in My senior year of high school. I was basically trying to take a nap in every single class and get out of there as quickly as possible Okay, don't do that. Okay, when you sit down talk to the people around you Let's say you have if you're in high school and you have like I don't know six different classes that you're taking Okay, you have six different classes. They're gonna be about four different people sitting around you Okay, some of them might suck some of them might be cool talk to all of them Okay, if you have four people around you that you can be friends with that you can shoot the shit with that you can Build up some sort of rapport or connection with become friends with possibly That's four in each class four times six. That's 24 Okay, so you have 24 new friends that just by being in class you can be in there and probably more if you do work You know from these 24 friends. They're gonna be in different groups of people different people You know the way they I saw it in high school was that they would hang out at lunch or recess together In different groups and so each of these people is gonna be in different ones You kind of have an in with each of these different groups Okay, and if you do this in every single class you build up a connection report with them try talking with them at lunch Or try talking with them at recess doesn't have to be long just a quick conversation or something like that ask them How they're doing talk about the assignments for a little bit Maybe ask them what they're doing later and expand upon it more This is gonna bring you more friends gonna get making more popular just literally by going to class The third thing is be good at something Okay, if you're in the school and you're kind of a nobody you're just sitting there doing doing nothing Okay, try and be somebody it's as easy as joining a club like I said or it's as easy as being on a sports team Or it's as easy as oh, he's the guy who does track and field or something like that You know be good at something okay You don't have to be great, but you just be doing something in your everyday life if you're doing nothing You're not really getting after school doing activities and stuff like that It's gonna be a lot harder for you to make friends, you know when I was Captain of the soccer team although it didn't get me many girls It got me a lot of people that were on the soccer team that kind of looked up to me that you know Wanted to be as good as I was or you know wanted to hang out with me sometimes and actually when I was a freshman One of the things it did was I was actually really good at soccer So I was a starter on the varsity soccer team as a freshman and that got me kind of an in with these older guys that I would never have been able to have access to so at dances and stuff or you know When there was in a school event or something I would see them there And we would talk we would hang out and they would come up to me and that made me look pretty good You know people are trying to like see who you are They're trying to get a quick snapshot of you and you just don't have anything going for you Well, that's gonna make you a lot less attractive to women women kind of want to go for a guy That's got something going on for them You know whether they're the starting quarterback or maybe they're the head of the science team You know at least that's something it might sound kind of nerdy But the captain of my science team actually at my school was one of the most popular guys So just being something helps step number four is don't talk shit about other people Okay, be positive towards others if you're nothing but positive and nice to everybody in your school all the time You will be popular very quickly. Okay, that's the thing about people in high school is because they're so nervous when they hear Somebody talking shit about another person they start to talk shit about them as well And so that brings you know, although it might seem cool in the short term And that's what a lot of this stuff is is people doing things that are gonna help them in the short term But in the long term they're actually gonna hurt them socially if you're that kind of guy who's doing that Then it's gonna be a lot harder for you to make friends and it's gonna be a lot harder for you to be Accepted within groups because they know that you're saying bad things about them So I would just be positive and nice to everybody I know this is gonna take me to my to the second part of my video which is talking dealing with these sorts of issues There's people in high school man that they talk a lot of shit and they're really negative because they're scared and insecure When you're in high school, you're still trying to figure things out You're still trying to figure out. Hey if I do this is that gonna make them mad or if I do this Is this gonna make people like me and you're experimenting you're doing things And so everyone doesn't really know what they're doing and so it's kind of like the blind leading the blind Okay, what you need to do is you need to bait base yourself up principles that have worked historically and are working historically You know today and that's being positive with other people being nice being kind of them actually taking care to learn their name Actually taking care to learn their name and a little bit about them If you know somebody's name and a little bit about them for most of the people in your school Which for a lot of people as possible my school had like 2,000 kids in it so there was about 600 kids in my grade and You know it was possible to learn about maybe about a hundred and fifty of them I could know a little bit about them and their name and I could have brief conversations with them That was enough to get me an in and pretty much every single group there now. What's gonna happen? It's when you get it in with each of these different groups. There's gonna be girls in those groups There's gonna be girls that are looking at you some of them might like you some of them might not like you Okay, you have to see which girls are kind of warm to you which girls are coming up and talking to you the most and they're Spending a lot of time around you or conveniently running into you and shit like that. Okay? That's what people do in high school, okay, and once you're in this position. Don't be the little bitch that like It says hey my friend really likes you or you know Give you you know tell your friend to tell this other girl that you like them Nah, man Just just talk to her a lot more and spend a lot more time with her and see if she's open to doing other things with you You don't have to make it all formal. You don't have to turn it into a date Just treat it all casual, you know and that's really the way you go in high school If you make it seem like a not a big deal It's gonna not seem like a big deal to her if you spent maybe you got some yogurt after school or a coffee or something like that Or maybe she joined you to to watch one of your Maybe you guys are playing in the park or something like that after school. You're just hanging out You know, there's plenty of options that you can do and for a lot of these situations just by inviting them to Stuff and trying to get them to come out Eventually some girls will come and the truth is a lot of people are nervous people are looking for an excuse to not Do anything in high school. So if it doesn't work out, don't sweat it man There's gonna be plenty of other opportunities out there and you never know they'll probably come around at some point So in in high school a lot of times people are gonna do the thing that they think is the easiest rather than what's the best thing for them You have to be better than that you have to be the guy that if I do these things over time They're eventually gonna reap rewards. I'll give you an example about a guy who executed this perfectly So there was a guy at my school named Tom brittle Tom if you're watching this, I'm totally shocked, but you're my example for this So Tom brittle was probably one of the most popular guys that I knew at my school And he was popular because literally he would just give value to pretty much everyone around him Like if there was even me who like wasn't cool at all he if he saw me in the hallway He would stop you like hey Lloyd, how's it going like like how's your day? Is everything going all right? And I remember there was one time in class where you know I forgot something for my project and he just gave me his like and he lost points on his grade because of that You know, but he was willing to do those things for other people and because he was so altruistic because he was so kind and caring He never spoke badly about anyone He was the most popular guy in the school by far and he wasn't even a good-looking guy He was I think he was overweight at that time. He's a good-looking guy now But he was a little overweight He wasn't someone that you thought would be like just everyone wanted every girl wanted to get with and the reason Why they were those because he was the most liked person in the school and the way he got that way Which is by being positive and nice and kind to everyone. He was really personable too So if you do these things over time and you put yourselves in positions where you can do them You join some clubs. You're doing some activities. You're talking to the people in your class You're you're you're going up and asking how people are doing at lunch Recess you're participating in events and you're really trying to make an effort with people Eventually it will reap rewards over time and you will notice that people you're standing in the school is going to go up It's very tough to jump groups in a in a school But just realize that people are more nervous about being rejected than they are about rejecting you Okay, they're just looking to see what other people are doing So if you encounter people that are being insecure, maybe you might get rejected by certain people Okay, don't sweat it too much. They're just trying to figure things out just like you are okay So stick to these principles and I guarantee you you're gonna be getting a lot of girls in high school And once you do get those girls don't be a little wuss about it Make sure you try and invite her out to things don't go through a friend to try and ask her and you know sit back and forth on text messages I think you guys use a lot of snapchat So I would recommend you could get the snapchat before you get the phone number or something like that and You know see which girls are paying attention to you see which girls are coming around and hanging around you see Which girls are paying attention to your social media posts. That's the other thing too is a lot of people they stress so much about Like oh, I need to look cool. So I need to have less less I need to be following less people than are following me So that because they're so scared about putting more effort into other people and getting less back They don't put the effort in to begin with and that's a recipe for not being cool not being popular and ultimately not getting girls in The first place remember you have to be better than these other people Everyone in high school is insecure and if you stay insecure too You're gonna get just what everybody else gets which usually in high school people get nothing You know when I was in high school. I didn't get laid a lot of my friends didn't get laid in high school I was not a cool person, you know, obviously later on you know Times have changed but in this scenario The real a lot of the reason why I wasn't getting the results is because I was too scared to go out and go out and push Myself and accomplish them and look man once you give more value to other people at the beginning You're gonna be giving more than you're getting but as time goes on you do this consistently You're gonna be getting more than you give so that's what my recommendation for you guys If you want to get girls in in high school do those sorts of things and you'll be successful