 Let's review 12 rules for life and antidote to chaos by Jordan B. Peterson Henry Adams once said chaos often breeds life when order breeds habit This is a complex relationship that chaos and order have together just like vice and virtue law and order and the doubt Summing this book up. It is intellectually downplayed and edited to the normal masses Since Jordan is a psychological and intellectual Charismatic genius he cites the Bible as well as Disney characters to help the reader relate with order and chaos Helping the reader to deal with the uncertainty of the known Jordan's fine print is the truth versus the ideological Breaking everything down to get to the truth Lying to yourself or when leaders are manipulating and using deception to convince the zombie masses Jordan in real life is very charismatic Talkative he flows when he talks. He's very genuine and he wants to offer help He's capable of direct advice which can trigger low-frequency zombies times. He's philosophical or intellectual DB research is the Gulag out in Russia Mao communism and these are great proponents to his reasonings Why feminism and socialism are not okay, although you do need he emphasizes a social contract to have order Not just chaos Consider the chaos and order a dance or a balance of yin and yang Jordan appeals to young men in real life as well as in this book You can see Jordan Pearson crying and explaining his care for what's currently developing in culture makes him very likeable Here's a small clip of him on a radio show The the fact that suicide is the biggest killer of young men under the age of 45 in this country It goes on in that interview to say at this point to my astonishment Peterson begins to weep Yeah, well, it says see now did it to me again? Look last night, you know, I was at this Talk I gave and about a thousand people came in about 500 of them stayed afterwards and most of them were young man You know and just one of them after the other comes up to me and they shake my hand and they say look I've been listening to what you've been saying for six months and it's changed my life It's like I was depressed. I was addicted to drugs. My relationships weren't working out. I was hopeless I didn't have any goal. I started cleaning up my room and telling the truth and working hard on myself And it's really working and I just want to thank you for helping me and I thank God It's so it's so sad that so many of these men, you know, they've not had an encouraging bloody word It's real encouraging word in their entire life It just takes a little bit of of encouragement and care so that they're willing to set themselves straight to some degree and start trying It's just a catastrophe that that's that's so rare in their lives Very fast where sometimes it doesn't make sense or he's jumping to conclusions I put him in the realms of Sam Harris, Gad Sad or Naseem Taleb Whereas in terms of Activision and his truthfulness and his willing to fight such as James DeMore, Mike Cernovich or Dave Ruhman for free speech He makes it a point to be very careful what he says since there are many people to attacking him from all different angles trying to repress his views And to slander him. He never apologizes, which you can learn from social justice. Warriors always lie by Vox Day In a sense, he's like Milo yet He's more likeable and he understands the game that they're playing He has a little bit of sneaky satire that it's hard to pick up He really started getting famous when I guess the Canadian government started to push these gender pronouns on Him to use and he fought back and says I'm not doing that. So he's a rebel He gets in trouble for talking about the masculine and feminine dropping light grenades of truth bombs The alt-right as well as the man is fear typically like him since he's somewhat of a warrior But he has to deal with the backlash the migtail tend to be bitter But okay with him since he uses these comments, but he did apologize. Is there a concrete example of something where You you said you said something and I'm not thinking of anything in particular I'm being entirely genuine here. It is there an instance Where where you feel you said something that appeared to be true to you at the time and knowing what you know Yes, I think I was a little I think I was a little dismissive of the men going their own way Because I think I called them pathetic weasels Which and I had my reasons for that my reasons were roughly speaking that who are the men going their own way Well, they're a group of people mostly on the net who have had who've been burned in their relationships Or who conceptualize themselves as having been burned in their relationships And they believe that the legal structure in particular in Western countries is so tilted against men particularly in family dispute situations That and divorce settlement that it's safer for men not to establish permanent relationships with women not to cohabit with them ever And they're a large movement now how large they are. I don't know but they're large enough and they have What I would regard as an undue influence over Relatively bitter and resentful young men who haven't had great success in the dating Market and who are looking for a rationale to write off all women because they they're so hurt by their Continual rejection and that is not good for those young men And so the reason that I Disparaged the men going their own way was because I had seen the pernicious effect These are often older guys the pernicious effect of their World weary philosophy on young men now these guys think that they're just warning them and they are warning them But they're not just warning them now the reason I regret calling them pathetic weasels is because they also have a point I Do believe that the court systems are staggeringly anti-male absurdly horribly anti-male and I've seen my own clients some of them who are really really decent hard-working family-oriented people demolished by the court systems and and So the men going their own way have a point and So I'm sorry that I called them pathetic weasels, but I but I outlined my reasons and so yes I do regret that I have to be careful because I do have a satirical dark satirical sense of humor and I can utter epithets let's say for the sake of punctuating a point well simultaneously forgetting that a hundred and fifty thousand people will listen to it so So I regret that Once you acquire these truths He makes it a point to avoid meaninglessness and nihilism since religion is somewhat not being hammered to people's brains As in back of the day we have more access to information I will be reviewing the maps of meaning in his other book at a later date and a point before I go through the 12 rules is he expresses as being with a capital B and what that is is from the from the philosopher Heidegger, it's a reality conceived objectively and in totality of the human experience So the being is really the truth or to be not to be fake or to To be broken down to the truth I would consider this a book of truth or pathway to the truth for yourself that you can use in your own life Rule number one stand up straight with your shoulders back This was very surprising to see that this intellectual was going to talk about lobsters of all things So this is the lobster chapter. I would translate it to more of like Tupac Keep your head up. So his example in nature is lobsters and what lobsters do is they're mating rituals There's a dominance somewhat of a hierarchy in order to mate with females What this mainly concerns is the neurochemicals that are spit out when a lobster wins or loses How the lobsters behave so they can get aggressive they will fight So the biggest lobster almost always wins or gets eaten So the lobster that loses there are chemicals that are produced for loser lobsters The big lobsters the ones with high status and say social proof win It's a dominance parade to get what you want So the butthurt lobster gets low serotonin which keeps it unhappy and for what Jordan Peterson Says this can snowball to bad luck bitterness and that low status people don't live a good life And by being kept weak there's anxiety and it's what these evolution of psychologist It's somewhat of a wacky logic that they come to these conclusions But he's just using these as an example is I see it as no one will ever love a beta male. That is why there's game He has a dark sense of humor a sad tormenting But this is a good example of in life. You want to be somewhat proud being treated badly Affects your hormones affects your life. You're not gonna live a very quality life People do size up each other just a normal human behavior and in order to never really have this Loneness in life. You got to speak your mind Rule number two treat yourself like someone you're responsible for helping This is just another way of saying a more sophisticated way of saying doing it to others as you would have them do unto you How do you want to be treated? I see this as don't be evil to other people There is a part in this chapter where he's saying women shame men to be self-conscious Do this resentment that men feel in rejection that they're not made potential it could ruin their self-esteem And it's a way of getting men to do what they want it exposed flaws flaws have been exposed People can die by death people attack people with big eos or that are if you're arrogant or if people are just looking out for themselves That this is something to look out for other people not to be so self-absorbed This is more like first world problems. All this is to strengthen the individual at the end of the day and not really Sacrifice yourself. This reminds me of iron rands virtue is selfishness and what Jordan Peterson gets blamed for is People will land blast him and blame him that he's helping out the alt-right He's just helping out other people how the media and bad people treat him is Something that you can learn from this statement is to treat people and help people. Don't be a nice guy Don't victimize yourself be somewhat of a service to others You still have to be selfish but in order to help people it creates respect Just having a deep respect for people rule 3 make friends with people who want the best for you very somewhat self-explanatory You want to be around people where you can learn from or transform themselves into the positive being and he does point out That the highest virtue is a desire to help and I don't believe that's a very strong virtue You could end up being like Catching the rye. There's better virtues in that Jordan does point out that helping people there might be an issue behind that When someone is helping you are they doing it for their own good? Are they doing it to actually help something that's actually real? He calls it blind ambition I would call it blind empty ambition all this is to protect yourself from to quote Jordan Pearson Use your judgment and protect yourself from to uncritical compassion and pity rule 4 Compare yourself to who you were yesterday not to who someone else is today very self-explanatory Be an individual don't compare yourself to others You're never gonna be the top person at every moment the problem with this is people that are stuck in their own head Especially with people living in cities. They're gravitating to cities because that's where the jobs are especially males They're not able to go outside and be able to nature They might be scared of a ladybug at night, so you never know so this is what's kind of happening with men There's a hierarchy of course and hierarchies are not necessary that bad people can get attached to the status quo or To or to always want to be in the top dog You're gonna lose it's just a part of the game and now there's especially young people are not developing any sense of self with the Digital arena how many followers you have how many subscribers you have it doesn't really matter as long as you feel self-convincing You have experiences in your life. This is it's gonna be a problem more with people getting almost addicted to social media and Instagram But you can get caught up into lies and delusion You could rig yourself into being time trying to be that top performer with a million Subscribers that you will do anything to keep that status when your self-development self-growth can happen through other ways by reading or doing Right to passes taking up challenges and a big point that Pearson Think about other people is that religion has kind of gone down in the Western world and without that you're gonna have more people Dropping into nihilism and meaninglessness for instance I say that man is a spiritual animal and If you're just intellectual this can happen with many of these intellectuals then they will most likely dip into this Atheist nihilistic meaningless Mindset and lifestyle then he goes on to say this Trinity it's arrogance deceit and resentment I put that into the realms of the dark triad almost that was Machiavellism Psychopathy and narcissism and these are blinders much like vices or more of a zombie culture of Idiocracy to have live almost an aimless life and what you aim at determines what you see and it's important not to have this Short-term mentality where you want to quick fix the short success or always looking for just for the shortcut Nothing a substance or hard work to understand and build for compound interest You got to use your eyes and have good vision bad vision is good vision So you get to look into your own personal darkness and have awareness of beliefs of what you believe in are you acting out on them? Are you? Rehearsing your behavior. Are you paying attention to your own behavior? Are you being irrational childish? Are you making yourself stupid? By doing dumb shit or just doing mindless stuff in the city go on do some challenges go out and do shit Rule 5 do not let your children do anything that makes you dislike them. This is a complex chapter I will give my best. I do not have kids So there are gonna be other people that are able to give better advice as well as to review it So I'm just warning you beforehand kids do provoke and it is the responsibility of the parents to say no to kids I know that's easier said than done and no can be a powerful world There's freedom and discipline and there are boundaries that have to be enforced There is an issue with single mothers rising this behavior is being rewarded and we shouldn't really be rewarding bad behavior It's just the wise thing to do We should never be overprotective of our kids that people are gravitating toward cities It's gonna use an example playgrounds are becoming soft You can get lawsuits for a kid hurting themselves on the playground. So if you notice they're very pat well padded There's nothing too dangerous You have to go into say a parkour gym or out deep in the forest where you got to take responsibility for your Own self this being overprotective and I think they call it the helicopter parent Don't be weak in your words be strong. I did say that he uses Disney examples I don't like the use of some of the Disney examples because they're cartoons. They're good for stories However, it just really weird to me that he did that sleeping booty was lonely rejected and suffered depression So the parents of sleeping booty weren't good parents and it was obvious that sleeping booty couldn't really do shit for herself She was just kind of lost. That's the point just being a lost soul I do like some of the words he uses called this is a use discipline techniques glares Verbals a thumb clock flick of the index finger. So he's obviously more of that psychological I'm in charge. He understands all the psychology techniques because with the territory of to being an actual clinical Psychologists there are attention seekers on Instagram That's gonna hit people hard because it's like an aimless area and here are three rules for parenthood limit the rules Use minimum necessary force parents should come in pairs So that pretty much means no to single motherhood and I'm glad he points this out That this is a huge issue that is going on in America, especially this area of California where I live You're gonna see in the next five 10 15 years They're gonna see a lot of females that are not married They're trying to wait till late 20th to marry and that's just not gonna fly in a a culture You're gonna have a backlog of unhappy unmarried women I did do my best for this chapter But it is something that for older people people with Kids to understand or when you have kids it's good to look at this chapter and review Rule six set your house in perfect order before you criticize the world I put this as you don't think your shit don't stink It is always important just to look at yourself. See how I can improve or lead by example Not just blame everything around you act like a complete victim You don't want to get caught up into evil nihilism random pleasures or ignorance There is no utopia of blissful ignorance. There's always nature's gonna find a way his main proponent for this chapter I think is because of the social justice warriors attacking the hell out of him increasing his notoriety That's how I found out about him is the whole gender pronoun scandal There's outrage in the world and the social activists these social justice warriors use the bully victim tactic on people Completely irrational when they don't even have their shit together themselves So go outside don't watch any tv no fake news read books It is too easy to fall into this victim complex and it can be hard to get out So I do think leading my example and waking up being more awake than sleeping elephant I think will set you on a better path. You don't want to get caught up into resentment Or become a monster that you hate that you hate something so much that you become the monster itself Almost being a politician you have no game playing yourself. So clean your room, which I should do too At least my car's clean. Don't blame god. Listen to earthly wisdom. There are people in the past They have written down stories for others to learn and keep your soul alive rule seven pursue what is meaningful Not what is expedient the main point of this chapter is suffering is inevitable Don't be distracted by the quick fix especially in world where speed is king google You can get knowledge from google at the click of a button with technology on hyperdrive with the moors law Instant gratification is a huge issue that it's good to have a delayed pursuit or delayed gratification Not just instant gratification. We have the instagram likes and attention inflating the egos of instagram chicks Then you have guys with instant gratification of porn. This is not a meaningful life Go for meaning and what's purposeful. You have to work Don't pursue equality and this pisses off the social justice wars officially with feminism just railing on equality For bullshit things. You have to let go. Don't turn to evil into this angry witch or pathetic douchebag Despite the envy and hate go for meaning and merit Self-actualization and the best that you can do don't tear down people with the rules for radicals And culture is becoming heavily narcissistic and this is blatantly odd that there's unlimited essential gratification There's a number of ways to get this fixed. Don't get caught up into the winter loss like the dow There's no grasp in it. So you never lose. That is a very good concept of eastern philosophy Have some discipline because freedom requires restraint You don't want to be a cynic that can't escape from its own reality There's gonna be suffering all these religions and in other words suffering is inevitable Don't think short term go for the long game the long tail. Be patient. Don't avoid responsibility There's meaning in life at least wake up and don't be a zombie rule eight tell the truth or at least don't lie the risks that That accrue to you For speaking the truth are so much more minimal that than the risks that accrue to you from Deceiving yourself and other people that they're not even in the same universe and and I actually understand that because I've studied how deception and deceit and twisted language corrupt societies into murderous and genocidal entities. I've studied that for 40 years and Decades ago I decided that I was going to do my best to say To speak the truth as clearly as I could formulate it and then to let whatever happened happened That's a kind of faith. Hey, you know, I mean the idea of religious faith is not A particularly popular idea among intellectuals in the modern world But that's partly because they don't really understand what it means. So so here's a here's an here's an example of faith She'd say well If you speak the truth imagine that the universe is constituted in a fundamentally positive way I mean, perhaps it is and perhaps it isn't we don't know but imagine for a moment that it is And imagine that the only way that you could get access to that positive element is by telling the truth And so you can decide that you're going to Run your life like that and instead of using your language to manipulate people and to get what you want You can use your language just to represent what you believe to be true And to listen to others while you're doing it and then to watch and see what happens And it's obvious he's really talking about politicians bureaucrats. For instance politicians lie to get things done. That's normal. That's okay However, bureaucrats can lie manipulate and deceive the world around them to keep people weak and into a trap I still have to read these books the gulag and what's going on in Mao's china and anything to do with communism that bureaucrats aren't really worth listening to They're really just manipulating the world and people get caught up in this willful blindness The bureaucrats can have this easy rationalizations that you have to be able to pick up There is no utopia lies can wreak havoc jealousy You can lie to yourself eventually and there's so much fake news around that Why even pay attention to the news everything's about books maybe youtube certain things don't get caught up in the churnalism Go outside go to travel to other countries There's fake news and there's also fake history And the big point that jordan puts out there is that these laws and rules that these dictators and bureaucrats put is You were putting up with them. You let them put up that rule to rule over you So don't let these rules convince you of anything don't even care about them But don't let them tell you what to do in other words Take your freedom or go for freedom if you have too many rules around you You're really going to end up living a lie in this utopia that is being promised to you that doesn't exist And these utopias were caused by intellectuals, which is someone i consider jordan peterson to be but he is just a different animal And these jedi mind tricks that they use not the intellectuals like jordan peterson But it's like a rational mind trick that they're able to spread these mean viruses Feminist viruses or social justice world viruses equality viruses and people's brains that scoos them up in order to fight corruption Just get rid of the rules your rules don't apply to me rule nine assume that the person you are listening to Might know something you don't listen go talk to your patient molly and Have empathy quit watching tv and commercials go outside with humans city focus from masculine hipsters Be chill be super chilling like the sleeping elephant and tolerate the conflict Take your Cuban cigar and chill like Freud and listen listen to the patient on the couch Don't evaluate or judge just let it flow and notice how zombies are reactive be an active listener This is a simple chapter rule 10 be precise in your speech I admire the title of this chapter the precision the articulation Be careful what you say be exact truthful and use hard logic in certain cases Just be blunt sometimes, especially if they can handle it and in order to have chaos that does not go crazy You need to have simple laws or simple orderly Ways of saying things. What does it mean broken down to? What is it really? It's somewhat like inframing What is really going on and to have the precision of truth or seeking truth is Something to be admired and in a noisy world find anyone who cares about you and who's blunt with you Truthful you should be able to handle this at some point not to have thick skin But to listen also to understand the other variable of the unknown the mystery if we cannot be precise on something Maybe we'll search through what is in the darkness also be aware of the destructive power of sins and emission Say there's an emission of guilt mission of the truth people that can spit the game or with a precise Razor cut verbiage are to be respected and something to it's a virtue refusing to specify Means you're trying to manipulate or there might be something to hide There might be another motive not just someone's sliding away on modus operandi And here's a good quote courageous and truthful words will render your reality simple pristine Well-defined and habitable. This is why the media hates jordan peterson and this is one of the reasons I support this guy. He's got that good vibe charismatic caring vibe about him And here's another quote. It's the last paragraph and he always talks about the being So here it is confront the chaos of being take aim against the sea of troubles Specify your destination and chart your course Amid to what you want tell those around you who you are Narrow and gaze attentively and move forward forthrightly Go forth go for it and he ends up with be precise in your speech. He's a badass Rule 11 do not bother children when they are skateboarding. This is my favorite chapter from the book I read this twice and pretty much this means danger versus mastery The feminine is safety security and being aware of dangers around you Whereas I would say the masculine would be more assertive and risky playful merit And at the end of the day competence not just good enough You don't want to be caught up into socialism where you really get no merit No one can really rise above. They're just taken down. It's like a religion of envy and for skateboarding There's another thing too is parkour. You can admire these people that do these playful things these risky behaviors But you're not really taking risks. You're going for mastery and competence It develops a hierarchy as what we've seen in other chapters is and his youtube videos Is that boys are suffering that they're not able to even get close to competence They're put into a safe space being blamed for not being competent While being tortured in this safe space and how can you gain any status in a hierarchy when they don't let you It's a safe space You should see this as a game not just as a safe space There are too many rules and it's good to have a little bit of chaos a little edginess to you What's not seen is best unseen who cares and he does talk about the patriarchy and how this is a tear down method of Say free market versus inequality domination and exploitation There is a science and game of power being displayed that this is almost a natural order We want a little bit of hierarchy There's always going to be a sufferer or a winner and loser And he does use an example of male shit testing where there is a social way A little bit hazing for new recruits at the safe factory. This is just a test to see if you'll fly with us It's there's a little bit of banter you can get away with it's not feminized to be fight club At the end of the day boys are always going to be less agreeable than girls It's a part of the masculine spirits not the feminine So radicals should really stop trying to get boys to be agreeable with equality Let a man get status points for once Especially if he has no game and this is going to be a problem that he mentions in the chapter is The whole marriage issues going on with females not marrying and guys doing their own thing That with hypergamy, which he doesn't use the word is a huge issue is eventually going to the economics For males are obviously going to prove it can't get any worse It's going to change the dynamic in the future and another story that he has in this book is called the tampon king It's the guy Aruna Chalam Murunganthanam It's pronouncing his name wrong But he created some type of napkin just like tampons because they call them the tampon king of india And the point is these products and inventions that men build help out culture a culture that always oppresses It's just natural all cultures oppress and it's never being appreciated Is patriarchy the pathway to happiness? He goes on to talk about Marxism and his opinions and it's never going to work. There is no utopia all this in defense of the hierarchy And at least I live in united states and not sweden too much protection Devastates the developing soul test the limits and maybe should become a free climber And this is the best quote from this chapter and this is the best quote from the book I believe it's the last of this chapter and if you think tough men are dangerous Wait until you see what weak men are capable of I mean, we're gonna see this happen and develop these next 20 years or so it's 2018 and let's see what happens rule number 12 pet a cat when you encounter one on the street This was a very confusing chapter. I'm going to reread this. I'm gonna give you my first opinions on this for dogs They're able to be disciplined. They're very easy going and they remind you of somewhat of a guy Whereas cats are a little slick are a little hard to understand There's someone like a black swan and for him to say pet a cat when you encounter one is to laugh at the absurdity Absurdity of life absurdity of the cat and why is it scary? Why is it acting the way it is also? There's a little bit of mystery to cats a little mystique They're not social and they're not hierarchical They cannot be trained such as a dog and as he says it they don't do tricks They are friendly on their own terms the main point I think he's trying to say is Sometimes he wants to be evil to the cat and startle it and scare it because he knows he's gonna get that weird reaction from the cat But if you just let something come to you and you be somewhat kind and you just lower down Try to put the cat you're getting something different be inviting I think that's the main thing is don't be arrogant and be inviting to What's around you to listen and I think this is a funny chapter I think he's just trying to deliver a message Jordan has a cat named ginger. What he puts us in this in the it's written in the book She is low in the big five personality trait of neuroticism Which is the index of anxiety fear and emotional pain and whereas some cats They don't have this His cat does not have the neuroticism such as what james demore got fired for that I think is the the message he is he's delivering and he's not really saying it because he's careful with his words Certain points in certain times in life You're going to be presented with small opportunities that you shouldn't turn bad toward it or give it a stink eye If you let these ideas come through you're going to be rewarded and everybody else around you will be too This concludes my review of 12 rules for life. It's a very interesting book You see another side of jordan peterson in this story format as his opinions that were somewhat edited and toned down So they wanted to keep this intellectual What but toned down such as he uses instances of disney and other examples that are more understanding for say the public Since this is a published book. I do recommend this book as well as i'm going to check out his other book maps of meaning It's going to cost me like $50, but i'll still do a review of it at some point and I would check out his youtube videos I don't I have not seen many of his videos It's all over the internet about what's happened with him and this guy's a great guy You could see that in the way he acts and is also in the videos that I shown during this video This guy's a great guy. You cited freedom of speech in that. Why should your right to freedom of speech? trump a trans person's right not to be offended Because in order to be able to think you have to risk being offensive I mean look at the conversation we're having right now You know like you're certainly willing to risk offending me in the pursuit of truth Why should you have the right to do that? It's been rather uncomfortable Well, I'm ha gotcha and he means well. He seeks the truth. He wants to do the right thing He may not be Say as aware of things because he's such an intellectual He's so deep into the psychology that he's too connected to his own brain But he's very smart and he seeks the truth and he knows he's being lied to and he's got this dark humor Very snappy humor a few people are smarter than this guy almost he's got that humor I'm smart, but I'm also going to listen to you. It's a most definitely good read Thanks for listening to this review in the minute we have left if you could pass on one piece of life advice And this really is a book of life advice to our viewers. What would it be? Stop saying things that make you weak What does that mean? Well, if you pay attention to what you say you'll you'll know that sometimes you feel like you're standing on a rock That you're in a solid place and I suppose that you're speaking from your heart And other times you're saying things just to look good and just to Um To buttress your particular status at the time and that makes you feel weak you sell yourself out And if you pay attention to what you say you can tell when you're making yourself stronger And you can tell when you're making yourself weaker and unless you want to be weaker Then I would say it's best to Say those things that make you strong and you can learn to do that and it's really useful So I would recommend practicing that because it's good for you and good for everyone else too and so There's a there's a reason people obsessively watch your youtube videos professor. Thank you very much for joining us. Congrats on the book